14 Steamy Lesbian Sex Positions For Better Orgasms

These 15 lesbian sex positions will help you and your girl have some of the most passionate, intense sex of your life — whether you’re giving oral, using your fingers, working with a strap on, or tribbing your partner.

Let’s dive in!

1. Scissoring

Scissoring (sometimes called bumping) is one of our favorite lesbian sex positions since it can blend so many different types of stimulation for you and your partner.

To start making love in the Scissoring sex position, sit facing each other on a bed. Interlock your legs as shown in the illustration above, resting your hands behind you for balance if needed. From here, you can:

• Embrace and kiss each other. After all, women are more likely to orgasm if a sexual encounter includes deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse [1].
• Depending on your body shape, grind your vulvas together, aka tribbing or tribadism.
• Mutually masturbate each other.

2. Thigh Tide

If humping a pillow to get off is your thing, you’ll love intercourse in the Thigh Tide position.

To set up the Thigh Tide position (also called the “knee move”), have your partner lie on her back with one leg straight while raising the other knee upward, as shown in the demonstration of this lesbian sex position above. Then straddle her raised thigh and sit down onto her lap.

• From here, start grinding yourself against her thigh/quads.
• If anal play appeals to you, she can start fingering you anally or even use a dildo on you
• Swap roles/positions!

3. 69

69ing ranks among our favorite lesbian sex positions since you and your partner get to climax simultaneously!

The simplest way to 69 with your girlfriend is to have her lie on her back while you climb on top facing the opposite direction, as shown in the illustration above. That puts your mouth directly over her vulva while her mouth is right over yours. From there…

• Start eating her pussy while she performs oral sex on you at the same time.
• Use your hands to grab and massage her thighs and bum.
• For a more comfortable variation, try lying on your sides together while performing oral sex.

4. Cowgirl (With A Strap On)

How lesbians have sex can mirror hetero or gay couples once a strap on enters the picture. Of course, using one isn’t mandatory, even though it’s a common stereotype that lesbians always do. In fact, one study found that “[o]ral sex, vaginal penetration with fingers, and mutual masturbation were the most commonly reported sexual practices between women,” so strap on use is far from a requirement or even the norm [2].

That said, a strap on can add plenty of fun! Grab yours and experiment with the Cowgirl position.

Once she’s wearing the strap on, she lies on her back. Straddle her while facing her and lower yourself onto her lap so the strap on can penetrate you.

• While on her back, she can start thrusting up into you.
• Or she can stay still while you grind on her, stimulating your clit. Experiment with thrusting and grinding until you find a combination that clicks.
• Lean forward until you’re lying against her for more intimate sex, or lean backward and support yourself on your hands (many women find leaning back helps stimulate your G Spot).
• Don’t forget to swap roles/positions 🙂

5. Face Sitting

If you’re into being dominant during sex or being submissive, Face Sitting is a lesbian sex technique worth trying.

Start with your partner lying on her back. Get down on your knees, straddle her, and lower your vagina onto her mouth and face. You can face toward her body in this position or in the opposite direction (as shown in the illustration above) — both work fine.

Then lower yourself down onto her face…

You might wonder whether you’re meant to rest your full weight on your partner’s face or hover using your own muscles. The honest answer is…

It depends.

Some people genuinely want to feel their partner’s entire weight — regardless of size — pressing down on their face, and they’re happy to tap a thigh whenever they need air.

That’s not universal, though, so it’s worth asking beforehand. If your partner tells you they want your full weight, give it to them without overthinking it.

• She can then work through her favorite cunnilingus techniques on you. In this position, she can grab your thighs or hips to pull you harder onto her mouth, or push you off when she needs a breather.
• An especially kinky move is rubbing and grinding your vulva up and down her face to really take control. She can keep her hands on your hips or thighs to help guide your motion as you grind on her face.
• To really lean into the dominance, try saying some of these 162 dominant things to your submissive while you ride her face.
• Last reminder on this one: like with every lesbian sex tip and position here, don’t forget to swap roles!

6. Doggy Style (With A Strap On)

Doggy Style as a lesbian intercourse position calls for using a strap on.

Your partner gets down on her hands and knees. You then penetrate her from behind while wearing the strap on.

• You can thrust in and out, or let her push back against you to set the pace.
• If you’re having anal sex in the Doggy Style position, you can increase her pleasure by reaching around and using these masturbation techniques.
• I strongly recommend that you prepare properly before having anal sex, no matter the position.

7. Deep Impact

We suggest trying out a range of G Spot sex positions until you find your favorite, but the Deep Impact position is a top pick of ours.

As shown in the demonstration above, your partner lies on her back with her ankles resting on your shoulders. Kneel down and start pegging her with a strap on while holding her legs for leverage.

You can adjust the angle and depth of penetration by leaning forward over her or leaning back.

• If your partner enjoys deeper penetration that reaches her A Spot aka the deep spot, lean over her. Slipping a pillow under her butt/hips adds even more depth.
• For shallower penetration, lean back slightly — this makes it easier to target her G Spot.
• If either of you has a foot fetish, you’ll appreciate the Launch Pad position, since it puts her feet right within reach of your mouth.

8. Lap Dance

The Lap Dance tends to work even better for lesbian sex than for heterosexual sex.

Sit down on a comfortable armchair or couch, and have your wife or girlfriend settle onto your lap (14 couch sex positions to try).

• Wearing a strap on opens up penetrative sex here.
• She can raise her feet onto your thighs (as shown in the illustration above) or rest them on the floor to change the depth or angle of penetration.
• Without a strap on, you can reach around and start fingering your girl instead.
• If she’s into using sex toys during sex, bring some into play.

9. Missionary (With A Strapon)

The Missionary position makes for a deeply intimate lesbian sex position, and all it requires is a strap on.

For this one, your partner lies on her back while you get on top facing her, then begin penetrating her. There’s plenty of room to spice up Missionary for lesbian sex…

• If your partner prefers feeling you thrust, focus on that in-and-out motion. Talk to each other first about the type of penetration you both like best.
• You can also grind against her using the Coital Alignment Technique, staying deep inside her while rubbing against her clit. One study found that while 36.6% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, another 36% said that even though it isn’t required, their orgasms feel better with clitoral stimulation during intercourse [3]. In other words, clitoral stimulation matters a lot for giving your partner great, pleasurable sex!
• Slide a few pillows under your partner’s hips or butt to raise them. For a lot of women, this completely changes the angle of penetration and can feel amazing. This pillow trick is one of those lesbian sex ideas that works across multiple positions.
• If bondage or BDSM is your thing, try tying her wrists, ankles, or both to the bed. As with any BDSM play, make sure you’ve agreed on a safe word beforehand.
• Whisper some of these 91 dirty things during sex in her ear, and check out 81 sexy things to say during sex for even more ideas.

There are also plenty of Missionary variations worth exploring, like the Deckchair position, Drill position, Sandwich position, and the Spread Legs position.

10. Spooning

I probably should have placed Spooning higher on this list of lesbian sex positions. It’s a beautifully intimate option for penetrative sex, non-penetrative sex, and even cuddling.

Both of you lie on your sides facing the same direction. As the “big spoon,” you’re positioned behind your partner, facing her back, which makes her the “little spoon” in front of you.

• As the big spoon, wrap your arms around her and pull her in close, intertwining your legs with hers if you like.
• Still as the big spoon, try sliding your hand slowly down her side, over her hips, toward her vulva. From there, pleasure her clitoris and labia with your fingers, or use these 25 techniques to make her orgasm.
• Wearing a strap on as the big spoon opens up anal sex or regular vaginal sex.

There are also lots of variations and similar positions to Spooning, like the Sofa Spooning position, Teaspooning position, and Bent Spoon position. Even the Pearly Gates position is fairly similar, though the little spoon ends up on top.

11. Pretzel

The Pretzel sex position works for woman-on-woman sex whether you want penetrative sex (strap on) or non-penetrative sex (tribbing or grinding).

Have your partner lie on her side, bringing the knee of her top leg toward her chest while keeping her bottom leg straight, as shown in the demonstration above. Kneel and straddle her bottom leg facing her, letting her rest her top leg over yours as you make love.

• Straddling her bottom leg from on top makes it easy to grind against it. If her leg feels too small, place a pillow over it and grind against that instead.
• From on top, push your pelvis forward to start tribbing (rubbing your vaginas together) with your girlfriend. Depending on body shape and mobility, tribbing may not work in this position for everyone — sometimes the partner lying on her side needs to raise her top knee very close to her chest to make it possible.
• Strap on sex is also an option in the Pretzel position.

12. Jockey (With A Strap On)

If having sex from behind is your thing, try the Jocky position while pegging your partner with a strap on.

Have your partner lie on her stomach while you kneel on top of her, facing her back, as shown in the illustration above. Many women find they can have vaginal orgasms in the Jockey position. Here are some tips to get there…

• Start with a simple in-and-out thrusting motion and gauge her reaction.
• Experiment with different penetration angles.
• Try staying deep inside her and grinding your body forward and backward instead, stimulating multiple areas of her vagina at once.
• Your partner, lying on her stomach, can put a pillow or sex wedge under her hips to change the angle of penetration, effectively “pushing” them upward.

Related: 17 Pleasurable Pegging Positions.

13. Cunnilingus For The Queen

The Cunnilingus For The Queen position offers a wonderfully simple way to pleasure your lesbian partner orally.

Have her sit on the edge of a comfortable armchair, sofa, or bed, as shown in the illustration above. Kneel down in front of her. Start with a little foreplay — kissing, caressing, and sensually massaging her through her pants before removing them.

Then it’s time to give her the best oral sex of her life…

• Our go-to techniques for cunnilingus are the Pancake and Vortex.
• Grab her thighs and pull her body into your face as you go down on her.
• A fun femdom idea you can try while going down on your partner is cuffing her hands behind her back or tying her arms to the chair.

14. Standing Embrace

I originally left the Standing Embrace out of this lesbian sex guide, but changed my mind since it’s perfect for spontaneous quickie sex.

It’s incredibly simple to do…

Both of you stand facing the same direction. Whoever’s in back wraps her arms around her partner, embracing, caressing, and pleasuring her.

• Holding your partner from behind, slowly slide one hand down her stomach and into her pants.
• Take it further by fingering her and making your girlfriend squirt in this position.
• Standing behind your partner also puts you in a great spot to give her a nipple orgasm through playing with her nipples.
• From behind, you can rest one hand gently on her neck while kissing her, or if you want to be kinky, try lightly choking her (be sure she’s given you enthusiastic consent beforehand).
• Anal sex with a strap on also works well in the Standing Embrace position.

15. Mutual Masturbation

Masturbating your partner while she masturbates you is known as mutual masturbation. It can happen across multiple sex positions, so it’s less a position of its own and more of a lesbian sex technique.

You can do it on a couch, in bed, in the shower — pretty much anywhere. So don’t stress too much about the position and focus instead on technique. Try working through these guides together to learn what gets you both off while mutually masturbating each other.

• How to get wet for sex quickly
• How to orgasm every time you have sex
• Tips for using a vibrator to intensify your orgasms
• Tips for using a dildo that will maximize you pleasure
• 8 techniques for fingering yourself to orgasm

September 26, 2023