9 Sex Pillow & Wedge Positions To Try

Bringing a sex wedge (or pillow) into the bedroom is a simple way to dramatically boost pleasure, especially if you have a vulva or vagina. Feel free to jump straight to the 9 best sex wedge positions, but…

I'd suggest reading this whole pillow and sex wedge guide start to finish.

Why?

Because understanding what actually happens when you place a pillow under your hips or back during sex (or under your partner's) matters. In simple terms…

A sex pillow or wedge shifts your angle of penetration. Done right, this can lead to more:

• Clitoral stimulation
• G Spot stimulation
• Deeper penetration

So if you want to help your girl have powerful orgasms, or you have a vulva/vagina and want to orgasm more easily during sex, give a pillow or custom sex wedge a shot.

I recommend three types of sex pillows and wedges:

1. Firm pillow – The cheapest, simplest, and most discreet choice is a regular, extra-firm bed pillow — memory foam works well — that holds its shape under your hips, lower back, or butt. Stack several to reach your desired height.
2. Sex wedge – A foam wedge built specifically for sex, a bit larger than a standard pillow. It's extra firm and holds its shape during use.
3. Sex ramp – Shaped like a sex wedge but noticeably larger. The extra surface area supports your whole upper body while shifting the penetration angle. You can combine a ramp and wedge for even more options.

All three usually come with a removable, washable cover. Some ramps and wedges include attachment points for restraints, letting you explore bondage. Others have built-in pockets for vibrators or for using a dildo.

9 Wedge Pillow Sex Positions

Yes, there are 9 distinct sex wedge positions ahead. However…

Some of these may work better for you than others. Why?

It usually comes down to personal preference, your and your partner's height, and even your mood at the time.

My advice:

Don't try to force every wedge pillow position to work for you. Focus on whichever ones feel good for you and your partner, and skip the rest. Here we go…

1. Jockey Position With A Pillow/Sex Wedge

The Jockey sex position works great for regular sex or anal sex.

The receiving partner starts lying face-down on the bed or floor, placing the sex wedge under their hips, as shown above.

Then the penetrating partner straddles them from behind and enters them.

Also check out: Straddle sex position.

The penetrating partner can adjust the penetration angle by:

• Leaning forward or backward
• Shifting their knees forward or backward on the floor

Jockey with a sex wedge is great for receiving partners who enjoy feeling submissive during sex. Likewise, if you're the penetrating partner who likes to dominate your partner during sex, you'll love this pairing too.

Rear Entry makes for an enjoyable Jockey variation. You could also try Prone Bone, or twist your body for a spin on Flatiron.

2. Missionary With A Pillow

The best-known, most popular pillow-assisted position is Missionary.

The receiving partner lies on their back and slides the sex wedge under their hips, as shown above. The penetrating partner then gets on top, facing them as usual during Missionary. Some slight adjustment may be needed to accommodate the receiver's raised hips.

From there, just have sex as normal while enjoying the new angle. Variations of this wedge pillow position include the Coital Alignment Technique, G Spot position, and the Hang Loose position. Missionary with a wedge pillow is also great if eye contact during sex appeals to you.

3. Butterfly With A Sex Wedge

The Legs on Shoulder position paired with a sex pillow can be ideal for G Spot stimulation and may make squirting easier.

As shown above, the penetrating partner kneels on the bed.

The receiving partner lies on their back, legs resting against their partner's chest, feet both on one of their shoulders.

If you're a foot fetishist, this position is perfect for sucking on their toes.

The receiving partner has a sex wedge or pillow under their butt or hips, pushing them upward.

Thanks to the angle, the receiving partner is now well-positioned for G Spot stimulation. However…

If the receiving partner isn't happy with the penetration angle, they can:

• Ask the penetrating partner to lean forward or backward to adjust the angle or pressure on their G Spot.
• Instruct the penetrating partner to lower their body to change the angle.
• Ask for deeper or shallower penetration.

The penetrating partner has options too in Legs on Shoulders:

• Grab the receiving partner's hips or thighs and pull them close with each thrust for rougher sex.
• Lean forward and play with the receiving partner's breasts and nipples.

Alternative: The Butterfly sex position closely resembles Legs on Shoulder. The only difference: as the receiving partner, one ankle rests on each of your partner's shoulders.

4. Pussy Eating With A Sex Pillow

Figuring out how to give oral without straining your neck can be tricky for a lot of people. That's where a sex wedge comes to the rescue!

Set up like in the illustration above. As the receiving partner, lie on your back with your hips, lower back, or butt resting on the wedge. Next…

Your partner gets on hands and knees and performs oral as usual, or alternatively lies on their stomach.

Big benefit: This setup makes it far easier for your partner to eat you out without bending their neck back so much.

A sex wedge can improve other oral positions too, including eating your partner's ass.

5. Cowgirl With A Sex Ramp & Wedge Pillow

Adding a sex pillow to the Cowgirl position can make for more intimate sex.

As shown above, if you're the penetrating partner, lie on your back. Place the sex ramp underneath your back, shoulders, and head for support, and the sex wedge underneath your knees.

If you're the receiving partner, you'll be riding your man in this pillow-assisted position, just like regular Cowgirl.

6. Jugghead With A Sex Ramp

In the Jugghead position, the penetrating partner lies on their back with a sex wedge or pillow beneath their knees. It's simple and quite similar to Cowgirl when you think about it — though there's one clear difference with this wedge pillow variation…

For penetrating partners, lying back with knees raised and bent helps ease pressure on the lower back.

So if you deal with back pain or a weak lower back, a sex pillow in the Jugghead position is worth trying.

7. Easy 69 With A Sex Wedge

A sex pillow or ramp makes the 69 position easier to manage.

If you have a vulva, start lying on your back with the sex pillow or wedge under your hips or lower back, positioned to help curl your lower body, as shown above.

Then, if you're on top, get into the standard 69 position on hands and knees. You'll notice that thanks to the sex pillow, it's much easier to perform oral on your partner's vulva while they return the favor or use their best blow job techniques.

Related: 27 orgasmic blow job tips to make your man explode!

8. Anvil With A Sex Ramp/Pillow

The Anvil position on a sex ramp calls for real strength and flexibility, but it's a lot of fun too! As the receiver, ease into Anvil slowly and carefully to avoid injury:

• Start by lying on your back with the sex ramp supporting your back.
• Raise your legs upward and pull them back toward you.
• Rest your ankles on your partner's shoulders as they lean over you.

As the penetrating partner, lean over your partner while penetrating them, hands supporting you on the floor, as shown above. Move into this position with care so you don't hurt your partner.

Start by carrying all your weight through your hands. Talk to your partner, and as they get more comfortable bearing your weight, gradually lean more onto their legs.

The Anvil wedge pillow position can be a great way to please your man or satisfy your female partner, though it's not for everybody.

9. Doggy Style With A Sex Ramp

Doggy Style with a sex ramp is a lot of fun. See how it's done in the drawing below.

First, set your sex ramp on the bed. The receiving partner gets on all fours, leaning over the ramp, hips resting on its highest point, body supported along the longest side, as shown in the drawing.

The kneeling partner then penetrates from behind as usual.

Doggy Style with a sex ramp works especially well if you're older or don't have the stamina to hold yourself up on hands and knees for long stretches.

Related: 8 sex tips and 9 sex positions for seniors.

Now you know how to bring a wedge pillow into your sex life, plus plenty of position ideas to try. Ultimately, you can modify almost any sex position with a sex cushion, pillow, wedge, or ramp to shift the angle and make things more enjoyable.

Final note: No sex ramp or pillow on hand? Your fallback is stacking regular pillows or several sex wedges together, though this won't feel nearly as stable as a purpose-built sex pillow.

December 2, 2024