Sex From Behind: 11 Positions for Deep, G-Spot-Hitting Penetration

Tired of nothing but Missionary? What comes next? Sex doesn't have to mean staring directly into your partner's eyes the whole time — though that's certainly great too. Any position where your partner takes you from behind lets you tap into a more primal side of sex. It also frees up his hands, which is fantastic if being dominated is your thing!

Why Try Sex From Behind?

Doggie style gets a lot of praise for delivering better G-spot stimulation than missionary, thanks to the angle involved. If your partner doesn't quite have the length or girth to fill you fully in other positions, sex from behind could be exactly what you need!

Related: How To Find Your G Spot Easily & Quickly

On top of that, if you can balance on one hand, your other hand is free to reach between your legs and stimulate your clitoris (check out some great clit stimulation techniques here), whether with your fingers or a vibrator (tips for using one here).

Go-To Positions for Rear-Entry Sex

1. Leapfrog Position

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One rear-entry variation is Leapfrog, where your shoulders and chest dip down toward the bed, easing the strain on your arms and shoulders. Your partner can then transition into Jockey by leaning forward with his arms planted on either side of your body.

This setup lets him thrust long and slow, giving you the chance to feel every bit of him. If he shifts his knees forward toward your ribs and grips your hips, he gains great leverage for riding you from behind. Leapfrog is pictured above, with Jockey shown below.

2. Jockey Position

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Looking for a different option? Lie face down. Your partner then positions himself on top of you, as pictured above. You can also tuck a sex wedge pillow beneath your hips to raise them slightly and shift the penetration angle.

Reach back and wrap your arms around his head for a closer connection.

3. Teaspooning Position

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4. Burning Man Position

Not every rear-entry position requires a bed. Lean over the edge of the bed, the back of a sofa, a dresser, or even a table, similar to the Burning Man position. In a pinch, your partner could even take you from behind against the hood of a car — no need to remove your top! The added risk of being spotted (if you're somewhere public) makes an already thrilling position even more exciting… just stay on the right side of the law!

Burning Man can be tricky without something the right height to lean against, or if there's a big height gap between you two. If you do manage the position, it can put pressure on your hips and stomach — try slipping a pillow between yourself and whatever surface you're using.

This can also press against your lower stomach, pushing your G-spot closer to the vaginal wall for extra stimulation.

5. Bodyguard Position

The Bodyguard sex position is the go-to standing rear-entry position. It looks simple, but it does require the right conditions to work smoothly — namely, not too big a height gap between you two. Standing on something can help offset a height difference, and the same trick applies to the next couple of rear-entry positions as well.

6. Pump Position

For this rear-entry position, squat over a sofa or chair — make sure it's sturdy! — while your partner stands behind and enters you. Brace your backside against him while he holds your hips steady, or lean forward for extra support.

It works for both anal and vaginal sex. The downside is that you'll need both hands occupied for stability, leaving little room to stimulate yourself simultaneously.

Learn more about the Pump sex position.

7. Stairway to Heaven

Have access to a staircase? Here's another rear-entry option! Kneel on the stairs with your hands resting a few steps above your knees. Your partner kneels behind you, knees positioned outside yours. You can both lean forward if you like, and grip the banister for added stability.

Get tips for the Stairway to Heaven position.

8. Spooning Position

In this well-loved position, you lie on your side while your partner lies behind you, entering vaginally or anally. Since both of you are fully supported, it's a comfortable, low-risk option. Spooning is about as relaxed as rear-entry sex gets.

Another perk: either of you can easily reach down to stimulate breasts or clitoris.

9. Pretzel Position

This one puts a literal twist on spooning. Lying on your side, your partner kneels behind your thighs and slides one knee between your legs. Bend your top leg to open up space while pushing your bottom leg further back between his. Twist your upper body to face upward as your partner leans over you.

Few rear-entry positions feel as intimate as the Pretzel.

10. Brute Position

The Brute position might sound a little unusual at first, but stick with us. Lie down with your legs spread and knees drawn toward your chest. Your partner kneels between your legs, facing away from you. He'll hold your calves with his hands, leaving your own hands completely free to stimulate wherever you'd like.

He'll need to scoot in close to penetrate you from above while facing away, which means his backside ends up resting against yours or the backs of your thighs. This position isn't ideal for partners with a shorter penis.

11. High Chair Position

Got a significant height difference between you and your partner? High Chair might be your answer! All you need is a backless stool (or you can sit backward on a regular chair) roughly at the height of your partner's hips. Arch your back and hips so your butt angles toward him — this position actually works best for vaginal sex when your backside hangs slightly off the edge!

Support yourself by placing your hands between your thighs or on a surface in front of you.

What You Can Do While Being Taken From Behind

We've mostly covered what to do in various rear-entry positions. Since you're facing away from your partner, you're free to stimulate yourself — hands or a favorite toy — as long as your breasts and clitoris are accessible. Try placing a pillow or similar object in front of you to grind against for extra sensation.

Keep your back arched downward, not upward, as your partner enters you. Try pulling your stomach in toward the floor!

You can also move your hips to help drive the thrusting. And this is a great moment to lean into some dirty talk.

Read More: How To Talk Dirty To A Guy- With 73 Phrases

Many women love rear-entry positions specifically because they allow them to lean into a submissive role. Check out this guide to being submissive for a few ideas.

Not every woman enjoys these positions equally [1]. If that's you, speak up! Open communication is the key to better sex all around.

Shower Sex

This isn't so much a specific rear-entry position as it is a setting where those positions shine. During shower sex, you'll typically stand while your partner penetrates from behind.

If your shower is inside a bathtub, you might rest a foot on the tub's edge (steer clear of the faucet or fixtures, which can snap off). Depending on your tub's size, kneeling similar to Teaspooning may also be possible.

Safety matters most here. Make sure you've got something on the floor to prevent slipping, and consider handlebars or a shower seat for extra stability and comfort. If lube is needed, go with a silicone-based formula, since water-based versions rinse away too easily [2, 3]. Also keep in mind that spilled lube on a shower floor creates a serious slip hazard [4], so exercise caution!

Prioritize Safety

Confirm that any furniture you're leaning on can actually bear your full body weight, and avoid attempting any shower sex positions from behind that put you at risk of slipping. A faucet is never a safe support for your weight, let alone the combined weight of both partners.

Installing suction-cup handles and footrests in your shower is another way to make standing sex safer.

Kick Things Up a Notch

Sex from behind works well for essentially every couple, regardless of orientation — there really aren't many people who don't enjoy it! Beyond giving your partner a great view, this position keeps his hands free for all sorts of playful additions. If you're both into impact play, for instance, he can spank you or use a paddle or flogger to leave a nice red mark.

Discover why erotic spanking is the best!

No tools are even necessary — biting your shoulder or dragging fingernails down your back works just as well. It's also an easy position for him to grab your hair or wrap a hand around your neck for more intensity, just be sure to establish a safe word beforehand if you're planning to go that intense.

In some ways, being taken from behind is similar to wearing a blindfold, since you can't quite predict what's coming next. If he eases into it slowly, the building anticipation can heighten arousal and even intensify your orgasm.

Use a free hand to rub your clit toward orgasm — more masturbation techniques here. Positions like doggy style and similar variations also give him room to massage your back or try something more intense, like dripping hot wax onto your skin. If you're flexible enough, he could even bind your hands to the headboard in this position — just be sure to talk it through together beforehand.

Making Sex From Behind Work For You

Any of these positions may need some fine-tuning to feel just right for you and your partner. Adapting them to your own preferences is really the secret to great rear-entry sex.

For instance, deep penetration can be tricky if you have a curvier backside and your partner is on the smaller side or has a rounder midsection. A big height gap can also make syncing up more difficult.

If lifting your hips off the bed is a struggle, try lowering your shoulders instead, or slide a pillow or two beneath your hips. Some brands even sell memory foam pillows designed specifically for sex! There are also doggy-style slings and straps available to help hold your body in place and give your partner better leverage for thrusting.

Some people assume doggy style feels less intimate since you can't face your partner or kiss them head-on. There are real limitations to rear-entry sex, sure, but that doesn't mean it has to feel emotionally distant — there are a few ways to boost the intimacy.

If you're on your hands and knees, try turning your head to make eye contact with your partner. Or position yourselves in front of a mirror so you can see each other's faces.

Your partner can also lower his body to rest more fully against yours. From there, he can wrap his arms around you, kiss your neck, and whisper in your ear — all wonderfully intimate touches.

For a lot of men, these positions feel intense enough to bring on orgasm faster. If you'd like to draw things out, suggest slower, shallower thrusts from your partner. This can also ease any cervical discomfort if deeper thrusting in these positions tends to bruise you.

Oral Sex From Behind

We've mostly covered positions built around vaginal sex, but there are a few rear-entry options worth trying beyond that too.

Let's start with oral.

Performing oral on a man from behind is pretty much impossible given our anatomy! But as a woman, you can absolutely receive oral from behind. Kneel or stand bent over, spreading your legs slightly to make things easier. Your partner then kneels, sits, or stands behind you at the right height to go down on you.

Oral doesn't have to stop at the clitoris and vagina, either. We've covered rimming before — also called analingus [5] — which is essentially receiving oral attention from behind, just further back. Since everyone has an anus, this one works both ways!

Not everyone's comfortable giving a rim job, but if you are, you can learn more about rimming.

Dental dams — small plastic squares — can help lower STI risk during cunnilingus and analingus [6, 7, 8]. A dab of lube between the dam and your partner's anus keeps it in place and makes things more comfortable [9]. These make cleanup simpler too and might help you feel more at ease giving or receiving. In a pinch, plastic wrap works [10], or you can even cut open a condom to fashion a DIY dental dam [11, 12, 13].

A good oral session in either spot is a fantastic way to build up to being taken from behind.

Transitioning Into Anal Sex

Since your partner is already positioned behind you, moving into anal sex is a natural next step. Any vaginal rear-entry position translates just as well to anal (find 19 anal sex positions here). Ease into anal by having your partner stimulate your anus with fingers, tongue, or a toy first. You could even experience double penetration by combining a toy in one opening with his penis in the other.

The same core advice applies to all anal sex: since the anus doesn't self-lubricate the way the vagina does, keep plenty of lubricant on hand. A thicker gel lasts longer, while silicone-based lubes tend to be thinner but resist rinsing away with water. An oil-based lube is another option and doubles nicely as a massage product before things get more intense. More on great anal sex here.

Pegging

So far we've focused on men taking the lead from behind, but women can just as easily do the entering! When a woman anally penetrates her male partner using a strap-on, it's called pegging [14]. Learn more in our guide to pegging your man.

Here are three key things worth knowing about pegging:

1. It doesn't make him gay. He might be receiving from behind, but his partner is still a woman — even though it's common for people to feel some confusion or anxiety around the topic [15].
2. It stimulates the prostate, a gland located inside the anus [16], which can feel amazing. Bonus: prostate massage may even support long-term prostate health [17].
3. The anus produces no natural lubrication, so bring your own.

For men, prostate stimulation can trigger a distinct type of orgasm, separate from ejaculation [18].

Plenty of women describe feeling especially empowered when they get to take the lead with a strap-on. It's not for everyone, but it's worth a conversation and a try with your partner!

Psst — you can also use your hands or toys to give a prostate massage.

Of course, sex from behind doesn't have to involve anal at all. It's plenty satisfying with vaginal penetration alone, whether in doggy style or Leapfrog. Between the two of you, you'll find more than enough variation that Missionary won't even be missed!

Resources

This Elite Daily piece explores why guys love sex from behind.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ # 1 – What if we have a significant height difference?

Height mismatch is one of the biggest hurdles with rear-entry sex. That's exactly why we highlighted positions that make use of various furniture and settings to help close that gap. If a position looks appealing but doesn't quite click, try adjusting it. Here are a few ideas.

Have one partner stand, sit, or kneel on furniture while the other stands behind. Just be sure it's rated to hold your weight — no one wants a painful accident! Tools like a sex swing can also support your weight and lift you off the ground for easier rear-entry positioning. Slings and harnesses are available too, giving your partner something secure to hold onto while keeping you in place. Look for "doggie straps" at your favorite adult retailer.

If using a sex swing appeals to you, check out more ways to be sexually adventurous.

Try having both partners kneel rather than stand, or swap squatting and kneeling to see what fits.

For rear-entry positions, tucking memory foam pillows beneath your body can also help adjust your height.

August 26, 2019