How To Eat Pussy Like A God: 34 Cunnilingus Tips That'll Leave Her Craving More

I'm about to show you how to eat pussy so well that your partner starts speaking in tongues.

Once you put these techniques to work, your girl will be shouting, moaning, and begging for more. Don't be surprised if she seems a little addicted.

The problem is, most of what's out there on eating pussy well is junk. That's why this guide is built to make becoming a cunnilingus master as simple as possible.

Here's the truth: there are really only two techniques that matter — the Pancake and the Vortex — and nothing else comes close to their power and intensity. I'll still walk you through other techniques so your repertoire never runs dry, but these two are the foundation.

Here's how this guide breaks down.

1. Her Anatomy – A little dry, but genuinely essential!
2. The Build Up – 7 steps to teasing her into wanting more, aka pussy eating foreplay
3. Pancake & Vortex – The only two techniques you'll ever need to make her shake and cry out with pleasure.
4. 14 More Powerful Pussy Eating Techniques – These will keep her endlessly grateful and make sure you never run dry on ideas.
5. 11 Dangerous Mistakes Most Men Make – Steer clear of these common blunders guys make when going down on her if you want her hooked on you.

Don't jump straight to the Pancake and the Vortex. Building her anticipation first will make the eventual orgasms far more intense.

That way, by the time you're finally licking, sucking, and caressing her with your mouth, she'll feel the way an addict feels finally getting their fix. And for what it's worth, women genuinely love having their pussy eaten.

Before we get into how to properly build up to eating her out, you first need a solid grasp of her anatomy…

1. Her Anatomy

The diagram below highlights the key external structures of her vulva.

Clitoral Hood – Near the top of her vulva sits the clitoral hood, a small flap of skin covering her clitoris. It shields the highly sensitive clitoris from harm and is functionally similar to a foreskin [1]. Both structures share the anatomical term "prepuce" [2].

Clitoris – This is arguably the single most important part of her vulva when you're going down on her. It's a small nerve-dense nub, and it's where most of your attention should go. As the diagram shows, it sits right beneath the clitoral hood, or prepuce [3, 4].

That said, the clitoris runs much deeper than what's visible — the full structure measures 9 to 11 centimeters [6]. It also has crura, or "legs," extending along either side of the vaginal canal [7], though these stay hidden beneath the surface. Part of the clitoral shaft is buried there too [8, 9, 10], so think of your tongue as stroking that shaft indirectly.

Labia Majora & Labia Minora – These are the folds of skin running along the outer edges of her vulva, shown in the diagram. The labia majora are noticeably larger than the labia minora. Sensitivity here varies a lot by individual — some women love having their labia licked, while others feel nothing much from it.

Urethral Opening – This is simply where she urinates from, so it won't need much of your attention during oral.

Vagina – Alongside the clitoris, the vagina is another highly sensitive area that responds well to tongue, lips, fingers, or penis. Since it's internal, technically you're not "eating" her vagina at all.

Anus – Loaded with nerve endings, the anus can also be a source of real pleasure if she's open to anilingus. More on that in the guide on how to have anal sex.

Now onto the internal anatomy that matters…

G Spot – Her G Spot sits on the front (anterior) wall of the vagina [11, 12, 13], roughly 2-3 inches (5-7.5 cm) in. It's essentially where her clitoris can be reached internally [14]. With fingers, feel for a patch surrounded by small "gutters" with faint ridges [15 p 82-83]. As covered in the guide to making her squirt, the G-spot won't feel good to touch unless she's already quite aroused.

Go hunting for it before she's warmed up, and you're likely to come up empty.

Find out more about locating her G Spot here. Note: this particular guide was originally written for a female audience, but it applies just as well to men.

A Spot – As shown in the diagram, the A-Spot sits deeper still, on the front wall near the cervix. Stimulating it can trigger intensely powerful vaginal orgasms. Fingers alone tend to fall short here, so a dildo may be a better tool. It's also known as the deep spot, the AFE zone, or the "epicenter."

Learn: How to find the A Spot & stimulate it

Vagina – The vaginal canal is sensitive along its whole length, encompassing both the A Spot and the G Spot.

Cervix – Highly sensitive, though reactions vary wildly — some women enjoy cervical stimulation during sex or masturbation, while for others even light pressure there is genuinely painful. Cervical discomfort can also spike around her period if she experiences cramps [16].

Related: How to deal with pain during sex.

Anus & Rectum – The rectum sits just inside the anus. Some women enjoy anal stimulation and fingering, others don't — talk to her and find out together. The anal sex guide is a good companion resource. One key reminder: the anus produces no natural lubrication of its own, so lube is a must. Discover more about lube.

When you're actually going down on her, most of your attention stays on the external anatomy just covered.

2. The Build Up – 7 Steps To Teasing Her Into Wanting More

Teasing drives her wild — and works just as well on men. More on that here. This kind of foreplay also boosts her odds of orgasm — by roughly 50% with just 15 to 20 extra minutes [17]!

Here's a step-by-step approach to building anticipation:

1. Begin With A Slow Descent – Start kissing at her mouth and work your way down toward her breasts. Continue kissing as you make your way to her waist and hips. Once you reach her panties, place a hand on each leg and gently spread them apart. The especially sensitive areas that heighten arousal are called erogenous zones — and some of them might surprise you.

2. Through Her Panties – Hold off on removing them just yet. Instead, kiss her vulva through the fabric, applying light pressure with your lips. You can also run your tongue softly along the fabric, from the base up toward the clit.

3. Move Lower – After a few minutes kissing through her panties, shift your kisses lower along her inner thigh — you can even go as far as the inside of her knee, though sensitivity fades the farther you get from her vagina. Kiss down one leg, back up, then switch to the other.

If she enjoys more intensity, try gently pinching the skin of her inner thigh between your lips or teeth — but be careful not to overdo it, as too much force can genuinely hurt her. A hickey somewhere only she'll notice is also an option.

While switching legs, linger a little longer kissing her through her panties. Don't be shocked if she starts asking you to go down on her at this point — if she does, keep the pace slow to draw out the anticipation.

4. The Mons – Before removing her panties, work your way up above her clit to place soft kisses on her mons, the area just above the clitoris.

5. Remove Them – If her panties are still on, grip them gently at the hips and slide them off slowly.

6. Get Close – Start lightly kissing and licking all around her vulva and clit, barely making contact as you move around, keeping the teasing going.

7. The Main Event – Now you're ready to move into the Pancake and Vortex.

3. Pancake & Vortex

These two techniques are remarkably simple to execute, and as mentioned, they'll produce the most intense orgasms you can deliver when going down on her. They are:

1. The Pancake
2. The Vortex.

The Pancake

The Pancake couldn't be simpler.

Stick your tongue out and let it hang loosely over your chin. Flatten and widen it, like the shape of a pancake, as shown below:

Hold your tongue in this relaxed, wide, flat position throughout the technique.

To do the Pancake, position the base of your tongue at the bottom of her vulva. With your tongue thoroughly wet with saliva, slowly move your entire head upward — from the base of her vagina up until your tongue's tip passes over her clit.

DON'T move your tongue on its own. Keep it flat, wide, and relaxed. Your head does all the work — as it moves up, your tongue simply comes along for the ride.

That's the starting position.

Once you reach the top, pull away completely, then return to the bottom to start again.

Here's roughly what it looks like at the top…

Keeping your tongue flat, wide, and relaxed lets you cover as much surface area of her vulva as possible, maximizing the sensation for her.

That covers the basics of the Pancake…

A few important notes, though…

What should my tongue actually be doing as my head moves up?

Nothing much — stay relaxed, flat, and wide. Don't curl it, don't flick it, don't shape it. Relaxed, flat, wide — that's the whole instruction.

How much pressure should I use?

To start, forget about using your tongue muscles for pressure during the Pancake — your only job there is keeping it loose, flat, and wide…

I know I keep repeating this, but it really matters.

Your head and neck are what provide the pressure instead. This has two benefits: your tongue won't tire out as quickly, letting you go longer, and you can still apply significant pressure when it's called for.

So how much pressure is right…

Start with as little as possible. More force doesn't translate to more intense orgasms. Use minimal pressure for the first few minutes and watch how she responds. You should be barely making contact at first.

If light pressure alone gets her there, stick with it.

If you're not picking up much of a response — faster breathing, moaning, gripping the sheets, tensing up as she nears climax — gradually increase the pressure until you notice a shift. Even then, your target should always be the least pressure that still gets her off.

How fast should I move?

Similar logic applies here…

Go as slow as you can manage.

Watch her reaction and adjust. If slow isn't landing, speed up. Some women can climax from a single 15-second pass from bottom to top, while others need a pace closer to a dog lapping up water.

For both speed and pressure, the goal is reading her body and adjusting on the fly. Ask her directly for feedback too — don't hesitate.

Or, try a few different techniques deliberately and have her rate each one.

Should I change anything as she nears orgasm?

There are two schools of thought here — one for beginners and intermediate folks, one for the more experienced…

Rock-Steady Pace (beginner – intermediate) – Most women respond well to a completely consistent rhythm right as they're about to climax. Keep the pressure and speed exactly the same. Changing things up now can throw off her orgasm entirely.

The Agonizing Slow-Down (advanced) – Once you've gone down on her successfully many times and have a feel for her body, try this technique instead.

Here's the method…

As she gets close, slow down just slightly so the final stretch before orgasm stretches out longer than usual. This lets her linger in that intensely pleasurable pre-orgasm state.

The closer she gets, the more you slow down. This extends that peak sensation right before climax, and typically results in a much stronger orgasm.

Warning: If you're not yet familiar with how her body responds, hold off on this technique — trying it too early can leave her frustrated instead of satisfied.

What about right after she orgasms?

Like men, most women go through a refractory period after clitoral orgasm, where the clitoris and vulva become extremely — sometimes painfully — sensitive.

So what's the move during that window?

Simple — leave it alone for a few minutes.

Redirect your attention elsewhere: kiss around her vagina, return to her inner thighs, do anything except touch her clit or vulva directly. Returning to foreplay, or just lying next to her while she recovers, both work well.

After a minute or two, if she's ready to continue, test her sensitivity by kissing lower on her vagina and watching for a reaction. Flinching means wait longer. A positive response means you can work your way back up toward her clit.

Any flinch on the way up means it's still too soon.

The Vortex

The Vortex is just as simple as the Pancake and remarkably effective at making her eyes roll back.

Form a small "O" with your lips, slightly larger than her clit, as shown in the illustration.

Coat your lips in saliva and position that "O" directly over her clit and the surrounding area.

Then start sucking gently.

This draws her clit into your mouth and creates an intensely pleasurable sensation for her.

That's the core move, but there are several variations worth exploring, always tuned to her reactions.

Steady Vortex – The simplest version keeps constant suction going. For some women, that's all it takes to reach climax.

Rhythmic Vortex – Here you alternate sucking and releasing, pulling her clit in and out of your mouth in a rhythm. The pace is up to you…

Go slow, or match the tempo of a song. Watch her body and talk to her to find her sweet spot.

Hard Pull, Slow Release – Apply a burst of strong suction, then release it gradually. Repeat.

Licking Vortex (my personal favorite) – Once her clit is drawn into your mouth, hold it there and use your tongue to massage it. As before, mix up your speed and pressure to figure out her preferences.

How big should my "O" be?

The real answer…

Whatever feels best to her.

If a tight "O" that barely takes in her clit works for her, use that. If a wider one that draws in her labia and vulva along with her clit feels better, go with that instead.

As always, watch her body for feedback, but also talk it through with her to zero in on what gives her the strongest orgasms.

Is it ever okay to use my teeth on her clit?

Absolutely not. The clitoris is one of the most sensitive spots on her entire body, and teeth are highly likely to cause pain there. Even if she specifically requests it, tread carefully — I'd recommend avoiding teeth entirely.

And that's it — the only two pussy eating techniques you'll ever really need to give her mind-blowing orgasms and become the best she's had…

But…

4. 14 More Powerful Pussy Eating Techniques

There's a whole set of other cunnilingus techniques worth knowing, even if none quite match the power of the Pancake and Vortex…

So if you find yourself falling into a rut or going through the motions when going down on her, try a few of these…

1. Under Pressure

This one focuses on applying extra pressure to the area just below her clitoris during the Pancake.

As you work your way up her vulva and approach her clit, increase the pressure slightly so the base of your tongue pushes just beneath it.

Once you're positioned there, slow your movement without letting up on the pressure.

As you continue upward, she'll feel the texture of your tongue against the underside of her clit, adding a whole new sensation to your technique.

2. Bring Her To The Brink And Back

Edging is a powerful way to intensify her eventual orgasm. It's not limited to oral sex either — you can use it during anal, penetrative sex, or basically any activity that can bring her to climax.

Here, though, we'll focus on edging during oral.

Start by going down on her normally…

As she nears climax, ease off and slow down so she doesn't actually finish.

Spend anywhere from twenty seconds to two minutes on something else enjoyable that won't push her over the edge, like:

• Kissing all around her vagina.
• Kissing up and down her inner thighs.
• Turning your attention to her breasts.

Once she's settled down a bit, go back to oral, but at a slightly slower pace than before. Build her up again until she's close, then…

Stop.

Once more, shift to other enjoyable but non-climactic activities until she's calmed down again.

Resume oral at an even slower pace, this time carrying her all the way through to orgasm.

Done right, edging like this tends to produce one of the most powerful orgasms she's ever had.

And as mentioned, edging works for pretty much any orgasm-inducing activity 😉

Keep in mind that some women naturally have a harder time reaching orgasm no matter how skilled the technique. If that's true for your partner, edging might just leave you both frustrated — not unlike struggling to get and stay hard.

Related: How to Get Hard and Maintain Your Erection

3. Bring Your Fingers Into It

Adding your fingers while going down on her opens up a lot of possibilities — simultaneous internal and external stimulation, extra variety, more sensation overall. There are many ways to incorporate fingers, some straightforward and others a bit more awkward to coordinate.

4. Lick Her Clit While Fingering Her G Spot

Combining clit stimulation — whether through licking or the Under Pressure technique — with fingering her G Spot is a great way to layer in your hands. Research has found that oral sex, manual stimulation, and deep kissing are the three activities most strongly linked to female orgasm [18]. In other words, oral skill might matter more than penis size or stamina in bed.

You can also press down externally on her mons pubis with your free hand to stimulate the G-spot from outside. Some women enjoy rubbing here too.

5. Suck Her Clit While Reaching The Base Of Her Vagina

Alternatively, suck her clit as shown earlier while massaging as deep into the base of her vagina as you can reach.

Sensitivity there varies — for some women it's not particularly responsive, while for others the deeper region is quite sensitive. Your fingers might not reach far enough, in which case a dildo or penis-shaped vibrator can substitute.

6. Combine Clit Licking, G Spot Fingering, and Anal Play

If it feels natural for you, use your other hand to stimulate her anus while your mouth stays focused on her clit.

There are several ways to incorporate anal play:

• Simply rubbing the outside without any penetration.
• Light, rhythmic pressure right at the opening.
• In-and-out penetration.
• Holding a finger (or fingers) inside.

Note: The easiest angle is draping your arm over her leg and reaching around from behind.

Warning: If your hand touches her anus, don't let it touch her vagina afterward without washing — doing so risks introducing an infection.

Get more tips for anal fingering.

7. Keep Experimenting

These are just some starting ideas for incorporating your fingers — there's a lot more to explore. You don't even need to use them simultaneously with oral. You can pause going down on her to finger her instead, then return to oral when you're ready.

You'll find 20+ additional ideas in the guide to fingering your girl.

Speaking of hands…

8. Add Some Power Play

Bringing a bit of power dynamics into oral sex can be incredibly hot. Two approaches:

Restrain Her Arms – If she's into being restrained during intimacy, tying her arms above her head before going down on her can be a lot of fun for both of you. It strips away some of her control. Check out this guide for restraining your partner during sex for more.

Let Her Set The Pressure – On the flip side, she might love being the one in charge.

She can take control by resting her hands on your head while you go down on her, guiding your position, pace, and pressure.

She might even get rough — pulling your hair or grinding against your face.

This also gives her an easy way to push your head back if her clit becomes too sensitive post-orgasm.

9. Let Her Get Involved

Going down on her can be a joint effort, especially if she has trouble reaching orgasm.

If she's struggling to climax while you're going down on her, she can add her own stimulation with her hands. Point her toward techniques from the Masturbation Guide or this article on fingering herself.

She can also spread her own labia out of the way as you lick her.

She might even call the shots directly — more pressure, less pressure, faster, slower, or somewhere else entirely.

10. Play Around With Tongue Movement

Earlier in this guide, I mentioned there's no need to actively move or flick your tongue when going down on her.

That's mostly true…

But…

There's no harm testing it out and watching her response. Many women find inconsistent flicking more irritating than pleasurable.

That said, a portion of women genuinely enjoy it, sometimes as a way to finish…

And it's one more way to break up the routine. Options include:

• Curling your tongue to penetrate her slightly.
• Swirling your tongue around her clit.
• Flicking up and down or side to side.
• Reversing the Pancake — start at the top of her clit and move down.
• Holding sustained, still pressure against her.

11. Find Her Preferred Side

Figure out which side of her clit responds best to stimulation.

• Left or right?
• Top or bottom?
• Somewhere in between?

Her clitoris has crura, or "legs," that extend beneath the surface and to either side of the vaginal opening [19]. That anatomy might explain why one side often feels more sensitive than the other.

12. More Wetness Helps

This is less a specific technique and more general advice, whether you're going down on her or learning how to finger a girl. More wetness generally means better sensation for her.

Not water, to be clear.

Saliva is what I mean. If producing enough is a struggle, lube is a great substitute — flavored versions can even make things more enjoyable for you too.

13. Cool It Down

Need a short break from oral? Pull back and form that same "O" shape you use for the Vortex.

Then blow gently on her wet skin for a cooling sensation.

This also works well during her refractory period, when her clit and vulva may be too sensitive for direct contact.

14. Move To Her Ass

Following pussy eating with some attention to her ass, if she's open to anilingus, can be a great addition.

Warning: Once your mouth has been near her ass, don't bring it back to her vagina. Even with good hygiene, there's a risk of trace fecal matter transferring and causing irritation or infection.

There's a full breakdown of techniques in this Ass Eating Guide. It was written with women in mind for eating a guy's ass, but nearly everything in it translates directly to eating your girl's ass too.

Get more tips in this post about rimming.

And remember — once you've licked her anus, don't go back to vaginal stimulation with the same mouth.

5. 11 Dangerous Mistakes Most Men Make

There are a handful of common pitfalls that can undercut how much pleasure you're able to give her when going down on her. Knowing them — and avoiding them — will make a real difference.

1. Skip the alphabet – Tracing letters with your tongue on her clit or pussy sounds clever but rarely lands well. Most women don't enjoy it.

The problem is consistency — you might briefly hit a spot she likes, but you won't linger there long enough. Speaking of consistency…

2. Stay consistent – Being erratic is a fast way to frustrate her and make orgasm harder to reach. The same goes for guys receiving an inconsistent hand job or blow job — random strokes with no rhythm are frustrating.

In short, keep your rhythm, speed, and pressure steady, especially as she's approaching climax.

3. Actually listen for feedback – Weak lovers don't bother checking in. Pay attention to how her body reacts, and ask her directly what she enjoys most.

The more feedback you gather over time, the bigger your mental toolkit of techniques becomes — and the more likely she'll see you as her best lover yet.

Watch for cues: moaning or breathlessness usually means you're doing well. Closed eyes, muscle tension, or faster breathing often signal she's nearing orgasm — keep your current pace steady.

That said, some women enjoy oral without ever reaching climax through it. Understanding cunnilingus well means recognizing that orgasm isn't guaranteed or even always the goal — and you should never pressure or rush her toward it.

4. Skip the food play – Licking whipped cream or similar off your partner's body elsewhere can be fun and sexy. But applying it near her vulva is asking for trouble.

Food particles can work their way into the vagina and trigger irritation or a yeast infection (learn more about yeast infections), or worse. Keep cream, chocolate sauce, and other edibles away from her vagina entirely.

5. Don't copy porn – Trying to mimic what you've seen in porn — whether during sex, fingering, or oral — is generally a mistake. Porn is staged for the camera, nothing more.

The people making it aren't concerned with the performers' actual pleasure, which makes it a poor source for learning real technique.

6. Ease up on intensity – The clitoris is extremely sensitive, so heavy force generally isn't necessary. Some women do like firm pressure, but that's far from universal.

If she's especially sensitive to direct contact, try licking through her panties or labia instead.

7. Don't try to mimic penetrative sex – Notice that most of the techniques here center on her clitoris and vulva. While plenty of women enjoy vaginal sex, your tongue simply can't replicate deep penetration.

And even where it could reach further, tongue-in-vagina stimulation typically isn't what does the most for most women.

Licking around the entrance is fine, and you might even enjoy the taste there, but circle back to her clitoris before too long.

Of course, some women genuinely enjoy tongue insertion during oral, so it's worth asking. You'll never really master this if you're afraid to talk about it.

Related: Use Sexual Communication for Complete Sexual Fulfillment

8. Use your hands – Bringing your hands into the mix while going down on her is entirely fine. As mentioned earlier, it also gives your mouth a break and adds variety — the spice of life, as they say. A few ways to use them:

• Alternate between tongue-only, hands-only, and back to tongue-only stimulation.
• Combine tongue and fingers simultaneously.
• Rely mostly on your hands, then finish her off with just your tongue as she nears climax — or the reverse.

9. Don't rush it, but don't skip quickies either – Taking your time builds real anticipation, as covered earlier.

That means by the time you finally go down on her, she's primed and ready, and it's hard to go wrong.

On the flip side, a quick, sneaky moment at a party — slipping away together before rejoining the group — can be its own kind of hot.

The key is variety. Doing the same thing every time gets stale for both of you.

And if you treat oral as a rushed formality on the way to "the real thing," you're missing the point — and she'll notice. Attitude matters just as much as technique.

10. Ask for input – Ideally, you'll be able to watch and listen to her body as you experiment, learning what lands and what doesn't.

Sometimes a technique from this guide just won't click for her, and that's not a reflection of anything wrong — it just means you need more time learning her specific preferences.

If she's unsure what she likes, try a few different approaches and have her rate them.

That said…

This method doesn't always give clear answers.

Some women are quieter than others and don't react much even mid-orgasm, making it genuinely hard to tell how she's feeling.

The only real fix is asking her directly afterward — what she liked, what she didn't, and what she'd want done differently next time.

That feedback loop is really the only path to getting better at this.

11. Don't make orgasm the sole objective – When a woman goes down on you, it feels amazing, right? The same holds true for her.

But…

Women frequently find it harder to reach orgasm with a partner than they do alone. Self-consciousness plays a role during intimacy, and solo masturbation is often simply easier for orgasm.

So don't fixate entirely on making her climax during oral…

Avoid promising her an orgasm outright, especially if you haven't gotten her there before.

That way, she can simply enjoy the pleasure without pressure, even if climax doesn't happen.

AND…

She won't feel like she has to fake it if she doesn't get there.

Is your partner struggling with orgasm generally? Read this together.

What If None Of These Techniques Are Working?

If nothing here seems to be landing with your girl, the likely culprit is skipping Steps 1 & 2 of the Bad Boys Bible — not a lack of oral skill on your part. Without removing the Brakes on her sexuality and building up the Accelerators, she'll struggle to relax, let go, and enjoy being gone down on, no matter your technique.

The other possibility: she simply doesn't enjoy oral sex specifically. She may feel too self-conscious for any amount of Step 1 work (removing the Brakes) to fully change that.

Either way, there are plenty of other effective techniques for bringing your girl to orgasm if cunnilingus isn't her thing.

Resources

This guide on the 31 best sex tips for pleasuring your girl is well worth a read.

Check out the Wikipedia entries for the A-spot (AFE ZONE) and the G-spot.

YouTuber Stevie shares pussy eating tips in this video as part of her Lesbian Sex Ed series. Also check out our guide on how lesbians have great sex for more.

Bustle has two pieces where women describe what oral sex feels like and what goes through their minds, offering even more perspective.

One woman shares the story of the best oral sex she ever had and what her partner did right before going down on her.

The Bottom Line

Learning how to eat pussy well isn't as hard as it seems. But if you want her to genuinely enjoy it — and beg for more — pay attention to Step 1 – Removing the Brakes to her Sex Drive and Step 2 – Amplifying the Accelerators to her Sex Drive. Without those, everything covered here will land with far less impact when you finally lick, kiss, and suck her pussy.

September 19, 2018