The Bent Spoon Sex Position

Sofa Spooning Sex PositionDown Stroke Sex Position

The Bent Spoon sex position blends Spooning with a few other moves. It's not among the most mainstream positions out there, but it's a solid pick when you want to shake things up with your guy. Keep the variety going by checking out over 100 different positions.

To try it, have your man lie flat on his back first. Then climb on top of him, also on your back, so you're both looking the same direction — the setup is pretty close to the Full Nelson sex position. Let him slide inside you. From there, spread your arms out to brace yourself while he spreads his legs for his own balance. Once you've both found your footing, draw your knees toward your chest and rest your feet on top of his knees for added stability.

What The Girl Does In The Bent Spoon Position

While in the Bent Spoon with your guy, most of your effort goes into bracing with your arms and keeping your knees drawn in close. The tighter you pull your legs toward your chest, the shallower he'll go. That shallower feel might actually work in your favor if your partner is on the larger side. Play around with how far you pull your legs in until you land on the sweet spot. Arching your back during the Bent Spoon also opens things up for deeper penetration.

If you can stay balanced using just one arm, use the free hand to stroke your clit and surrounding area.

What The Guy Does In The Bent Spoon Position

For the guy's part in the Bent Spoon, he should bend his knees and plant his feet firmly to stay balanced and thrust with more ease. He can also wrap his arms around you to hold you steady, freeing up your own arms to keep your legs tucked close to your body. This positioning also puts him right where he needs to be to play with your breasts.

Long, drawn-out strokes will make him slip right out, so short, quick thrusts work much better here.

Things To Consider When Performing The Bent Spoon Position

After chatting with plenty of students who've tried the Bent Spoon with their partner, here's some of the feedback they shared:

• For some pairs, penetration is so minimal it barely counts as a position — either he keeps sliding out, or you just don't feel much.
• A lot of couples who tried the Bent Spoon during anal sex actually liked it more than the vaginal version.
• Even though you're the one on top in the Bent Spoon, your man can still call the shots by placing a hand on your neck or tugging gently on your hair.
• If you outweigh your partner, he might struggle with the discomfort of having you on top of him.

Similar Positions

Spooning

A better bet if you're worried about putting too much weight on him.

Teaspooning

Stay pressed against his chest, only this time you're both kneeling.

Rear Entry

Nearly the same body alignment, but you're face-down instead.

Acrobat

Shift some weight off your guy and onto your own knees.

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Sean's Thoughts On The Bent Spoon Sex Position

From what I've seen, the Bent Spoon works well for women who crave heavy G-Spot stimulation over deep thrusting. Personally, it's never been one of my favorites, though.

June 15, 2023