The Complete Guide To The 69 Position

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The 69 sex position ranks among the most recognized in the world and sits high on our list of the best sex positions. The reason it works so well is simple: both partners receive plenty of oral attention at the same time. It isn't a penetrative position like the Pretzel position, but it absolutely belongs in your repertoire. Browse the full range of options in the Love Curi sex positions guide here.

Getting into it works like this: have your man lie flat on his back, looking up at the ceiling. You then position yourself on your hands and knees over him, lining your vagina up above his face while your mouth hovers over his penis.

In this arrangement your head ends up right beside his cock and testicles, while his head sits at your vagina. From here you start giving your man a blowjob and work his balls with your hands and mouth at the same time. He, in turn, goes down on you with cunnilingus. Pleasuring each other simultaneously like this can feel both deeply satisfying and intimate for the two of you. More intimate sex tips.

What You Do In The 69 Position

Once you're in the 69 position, your part is essentially to give your man a blowjob just as you usually would. To turn it into a truly great one, lean on some of these bj tips and oral sex techniques to spice up a blow job. And don't neglect his balls. Should your mouth start to feel sore or worn out partway through, there's no harm in switching to giving him a handjob for a while.

Since you're positioned on top, you'll notice the 69 lends itself nicely to taking a dominant role over him.

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His Role In The 69 Position

His task during the 69 is to perform cunnilingus on you (point him toward these tips to eat pussy). If he's not particularly skilled at it yet, he may need a little direction from you. Treating it like you're his instructor can feel awkward, so an easier route is simply to be more vocal whenever he hits the right spot — say something like, "Right there!" or "That feels amazing!" as he licks you in a way that feels good. A nice bonus is that this naturally opens the door to some dirty talking as well.

He can bring his fingers into play too while the two of you are 69ing.

Tips To Keep In Mind When Trying The 69 Sex Position

Plenty of students have given the 69 a go with their partner and rave about it afterward. Here's some of the best advice and pointers I've picked up from them:

• The 69 makes an excellent addition to foreplay with your man.
• Lying on your side isn't your only option during the 69. You can just as easily lie on your back while your man holds himself over you on his hands and knees, or he can lie back while you take the top spot.
• While sucking your man's dick, try wrapping one hand around the base to stop it from sliding too far into your throat.
• Craving more intense stimulation from him? Have him wrap his arms around your waist and draw you down onto him.
• If the thought of kissing him right after going down on him doesn't appeal, keep some mints or gum within reach to mask any lingering tastes.
• When you sense a climax building, slip his penis out of your mouth first. Jaws tend to clench during orgasm. This is exactly why you don't want his cock in your mouth when you come!
• If your man tends to ejaculate quickly, consider letting him eat you out for a while before you begin the blowjob. That way you both get plenty of enjoyment and you're not left wanting.

Positions Along The Same Lines

Face Off Position

He takes a seat while you stay on your feet, bent forward in front of him.

Golden Gate Position

Flip around and arch your back over your man.

Thigh Pillow

Essentially a 69 turned on its side.

This one has spawned a whole list of similar oral sex positions.

Sean's Take On The 69 Position

Most people — men and women alike — get a lot out of the 69, right alongside the rest of our 119 sex positions with illustrations. One fun little twist I'm fond of is what I call 'The Race To 69'. It's really just a straightforward sex game: each of you tries to make the other orgasm first, and whoever holds out longest wins. It's a bit goofy, but it's fantastic for mixing things up and keeping sex playful.

March 8, 2021