81 Sexy Things To Say During Sex To Keep The Heat Up

The gap between saying the right thing and the wrong thing in bed is smaller than you'd think. Don't stress, though. I'm going to walk you through nailing it every single time, no matter the scenario. Whether it's regular sex, anal sex, a blow job, or a hand job, you'll learn exactly what to say to your partner and precisely when to say it.

First, I'll cover some general principles for dirty talk during sex, then move into 81 specific lines you can use depending on what's happening. You can skip straight to the 81 things you can say during sex by clicking here, or explore even more dirty talk phrases in the Dirty Talking Guide.

That said…

I'd suggest reading this page start to finish, since the general advice up top builds a foundation that'll make you far more confident using the dirty lines further down.

Let's get into it!

What To Say Before Sex

Talking in bed comes much more naturally if you've already gotten the momentum going beforehand. That can start well before you're even in the same room. Send a sexy text or photo (sexting tips to turn him on). Let him know he's on your mind, or how badly you want him. It's a near-guaranteed way to get you both worked up, and he'll either race home from work or be counting down the minutes until you walk through the door.

Once you're finally together, kissing, touching, and undressing takes over, but don't save all your words for once the clothes are off; speak up during this part too instead of only talking during sex! If he looks or smells amazing, say so. Let your hands roam over his body. Feel his muscles tense under your fingers? Mention it. Men don't get nearly enough compliments, even though they crave them, and he'll soak up the confidence boost. If there's any lingering doubt, just tell him plainly that you want him, right there, in that moment. He won't be able to hold back from giving you exactly what you're after!

Things To Say During Sex To Keep The Heat On

Clothes are gone. Hands are wandering, mouths are moving lower. Penetration is either underway or about to happen. But does the silence feel a bit much? Should you be talking during sex? Absolutely, and here are some solid ideas.

1. Tell Him How It Feels

Is it hitting the spot, or do you need a little adjustment? Speak up either way. If he's doing something great, hearing that only helps. There's no reason to sit through sex that isn't working for you, so a little direction goes a long way. Don't hesitate to ask for harder, softer, or slightly to the left. He can't read your mind, after all.

Talking also keeps you two connected, the same way eye contact can be the deciding factor between just fucking and truly making love.

2. Check In With Him

You don't want sex to feel like an interrogation, but this approach is both sexy and useful in practice. A well-timed "Does that feel good?" or "Do you like it?" is incredibly hot, especially when the only response he can manage is a whimper. And if he needs more pressure, some anal attention, or even a short break, this gives him the opening to say so. Sex shouldn't turn into guesswork, and not knowing what your partner wants can easily fuel sexual anxiety.

Side note: if you'd like to ask your man questions to get to know him better, try these 206 fun, flirty and revealing questions.

3. Cheer Him On

These phrases keep your man's stamina and enthusiasm up throughout sex. Like sharing how something feels, encouragement works as positive reinforcement. It can matter a lot, especially since women often need sustained clitoral stimulation delivered a specific way. What does encouragement sound like? A bit of direction, much like these lines:

1. Fuck me!
2. Right there.
3. Don't stop doing that.
4. Keep going.
5. More, please.

You can also give him a heads-up when orgasm is approaching. That tells him exactly what to keep doing to push you over the edge, and it sounds incredibly hot in the moment.

Also, if he's got a praise kink, this is the perfect moment to lean into it.

4. Talk About Wanting Him

You might've already told him how badly you wanted him before undressing, but that thread doesn't have to end there if you're wondering what else to say during sex. Tell him how long you've been waiting, how you were thinking about him earlier (and maybe acted on it), or how thrilled you are to finally be together. Keep it romantic by focusing on connection rather than the act itself, or lean fully into raw desire; either works.

5. Share Your Fantasies

Fantasies often stay hidden and can even feel like a source of embarrassment, especially the ones you'd rather keep private (fantasies). Instead, try opening up to your partner about them. It's a natural way to fill any silence if you're stuck on what to say. Tell him what runs through your mind during masturbation or sex. It can heighten the mood and feel genuinely freeing.

You've probably already got something in mind, but here are a few openers to get started.

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2. Wouldn't it be so hot if we ___? I think about it constantly.
3. I've been so bad; I keep thinking about ___.

Keep the momentum going. If he's into it, he might build on your fantasy or share one of his own. Everyone has them, after all.

6. Bring Up Something You've Done Together

Was there a time you had sex with others nearby? Maybe you got a little tipsy and tried something kinkier than usual. Or perhaps you've had sex in a car with the risk of getting caught. Somewhere in your shared history is a memory hot enough to bring up mid-sex, especially tailored to what turns your man on specifically. Don't be shy about jogging his memory.

If it was a particularly memorable encounter, he probably hasn't forgotten, but you might jog loose a detail that's slipped his mind. You could even try recreating the moment together if the mood strikes.

7. Words Aren't Required

When people ask what to say during sex, they often fixate too much on finding the perfect phrase. And forcing something sexy out when you're not already feeling it (tips for feeling sexy) can feel awkward. It can feel just as strange if talking dirty, or talking at all during sex, isn't something you're used to. But remember, words aren't mandatory. A simple moan works fine (how to moan), or just moaning his name. He won't mind if your sentence trails off mid-moan. Honestly, it's a thrill to make your partner moan so hard they lose the ability to form full sentences too!

Your tone of voice also shapes the heat and can help you feel less self-conscious. Try whispering near his ear or dropping your voice slightly. Plenty of men naturally lower their voice during sex too, and you'll quickly understand why.

Tips For Talking During Sex

Want to sidestep the most common mistakes people make talking during sex? Keep reading.

• Some people lean too hard into sounding "pornographic." Remember, porn is scripted, and lines lifted straight from it tend to sound fake coming from you. Sure, it might feel good to hear, but does he actually have the biggest penis on the planet? Unlikely!
• Baby talk is hit or miss. Some people find it arousing, others find it a total turn-off. Get a read on where your man stands before trying it out.
• Keep it short. There's no need to narrate an entire story. A few words or a short sentence usually does the trick. Sometimes "Wow!" says everything. Simple exclamations like "Oh God" or "Yes!" work great too.
• Say "thank you." It's polite, sure, but it's also surprisingly sexy. That kind of politeness fits naturally into power dynamics when you're the submissive one and he's dominant. Add a little begging, and you're set (these 103 submissive and bratty things to say to your dom will help). Here are 162 dominant phrases to use on your sub.
• Don't be afraid to laugh. Sex can get silly or awkward, and taking it too seriously all the time means missing out on half the fun.

22 Hot, Sexy, Intense & Powerful Things To Say During Sex

Now that the general groundwork is covered, here are specific examples to try.

Narrate What's Happening And Why You're Loving It

Simply describing the moment and telling him you like it is one of the simplest, most effective forms of dirty talk. It also happens to boost his confidence in a way that feels genuine rather than corny. So if he's hitting exactly the right spot, tell him (learn how to find your G Spot). If he's giving you long, deep strokes, describe exactly how good it feels.

Here are 13 lines that let him know exactly how it feels for you:

1. I love the feel of your dick in my hand.
2. It's so hot feeling you get hard in my hand.
3. I love that first slide inside me. I want that feeling again and again.
4. Baby, you're getting me so wet. (Discover how to get wet quickly and easily)
5. You're about to make me cum. (Learn how to cum every time during sex and masturbation)
6. I feel so helpless when you pin me down.
7. (When switching positions) You're going so deep like this.
8. Right there, you're hitting my G Spot. (8 G Spot sex positions)
9. I'm getting so close.
10. I can feel you throbbing.
11. This feels incredible.
12. You're stretching me out so good.
13. It feels so good I could cry.

Give Him Encouragement

Encouraging him works a lot like the previous category of narrating what's happening. The difference is you're actively steering him toward exactly what you want, using dirty talk as guidance. A few examples:

1. Keep fucking me exactly like that.
2. Pull my hair.
3. I love it when you take control like this. (Learn how to be submissive for your man and how to dominate your man)
4. Oh god, that feels amazing on my clit.
5. Go deeper.
6. I want you to cum inside me/on my face/in my mouth/in my ass.
7. Fuck me as hard as you possibly can. (16 hard & rough sex tips)
8. God, you feel incredible when you're on top. (Learn how to perform the woman on top sex position)
9. Making you cum turns me on so much.

9 Things To Say During Anal Sex

What you say during anal sex overlaps a lot with regular sex talk. Here are 9 examples:

1. I love it when you fuck my ass.
2. You feel so good in my ass.
3. Don't stop fucking my ass.
4. I love being your anal slut. (Discover more on how to be a slut)
5. I want you to cum inside me.
6. Harder.
7. I'm right there.
8. You make me feel so slutty.
9. Just like that.

14 Things To Say While Moaning

Of course, words aren't even necessary. Moaning alone can carry the whole moment. Here's some specific guidance on moaning during sex.

Faking It Kills The Mood – If sex isn't actually doing it for you, don't force a fake moan. It'll read as even more obvious than half-hearted, forced dirty talk. Save it for when you're genuinely enjoying yourself.

Subtle Works Too – You don't need to be loud. Breathing more deeply and intensely is often enough on its own — the sharp inhale as he enters you, breath quickening as you near orgasm, or simply syncing your breathing or moaning to his thrusts can be more than enough to send him over the edge.

Move In Close To His Ear – The nearer your mouth gets to his ear while moaning, the louder it registers.

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From there, it's mostly about letting your body do what feels instinctive. These examples might look ridiculous on paper, but try them out loud to find what feels natural to you.

1. Aaaahhhhhh
2. Oooohhhhhh
3. Mmmmmmmmmm
4. Uuuuuhhhhh
5. Eeeehhhhhh

Feels strange practicing this cold, right?

Luckily, your breathing does most of the heavy lifting once you're actually turned on and moaning during sex. Feel free to weave in words like these too.

1. God
2. Fuck
3. Jesus
4. Baby
5. I love you
6. I love this
7. Daddy
8. Yes.
9. Yeah

11 Things To Say During Orgasm

There's no rulebook for what to say while climaxing. You can just keep going with whatever you were already saying during sex. That said, a few lines are especially fitting right as you cum or in the moments leading up to it:

1. I'm going to cum.
2. I'm cumming.
3. You're about to make me orgasm. (Having trouble reaching orgasm? Learn why you can't orgasm and what the solution is)
4. I can't hold back.
5. Fuck.
6. I'm cumming so hard.
7. I'm going to squirt (Learn how to squirt when masturbating and during sex)
8. I can't stop cumming (great for a second, third, or fourth orgasm)
9. God.
10. Jesus.
11. Yes.

It's also worth remembering how hot it is when your partner completely loses composure, makes an unusual face, or blurts out something that would sound strange outside of sex. He finds it just as arousing when you lose control, cry out, or make a similarly unfiltered face while orgasming.

10 Things To Say During A Blow Job

Talking during a blow job has obvious logistical limits, given where his penis usually is. While he's in your mouth, moaning is really your main option for communicating enjoyment. But during the moments you come up for air, a few specific lines can really amp things up:

1. I can't wait to taste you.
2. I get so turned on giving you oral sex.
3. I'm going to swallow every bit of you. (Learn how to swallow with confidence)
4. I want every last drop.
5. You taste incredible. (This is what cum tastes like)
6. I love going down on you.
7. I want you in my mouth more often.
8. This is getting me so wet.
9. I need this again soon (after he finishes).
10. I can't wait to fuck you after this.

8 Things To Say During A Hand Job

What you say during a hand job tracks closely with what you'd say during oral, minus the obvious obstacle of a full mouth.

1. I love feeling you harden in my hands. (5 tips to make any man rock hard)
2. I'm going to slow way down right before you finish. (Read: The ultimate guide to slow sex)
3. I want to feel you finish in my hands/on my breasts/on my face (wherever you'd like).
4. Tell me how good this feels.
5. You feel amazing.
6. I love feeling you throb as you finish.
7. You're loving this, aren't you?
8. I can't wait to watch you finish.

At the end of the day, there's no single correct script for what to say during sex. If you're only comfortable keeping things romantic, that's perfectly fine. But plenty of people get off on being called a slut mid-scene, or might enjoy a word like "cunt" during sex specifically that they'd never use otherwise.

Dirty talk can also go too far sometimes, so if your man says something that catches you off guard in a bad way, don't panic. Just tell him afterward what you'd rather not hear, and stay open about your own preferences too. In fact, having that conversation about what to say during sex can become its own kind of foreplay.

Most people genuinely love hearing their partner's voice during sex, so keep that in mind if nerves are holding you back. He'll likely appreciate the effort, and talking during sex keeps you both grounded and connected. It might even encourage him to get louder himself, and that's always a win!

June 10, 2021