12 Sex Positions Built For Bigger Bodies

Below you'll find 12 sex positions suited to overweight people, complete with illustrations showing exactly how to perform each one. Whether you, your partner, or both of you are carrying extra weight, hot, intense, passionate sex is still fully within reach using these plus-size sex positions.

While you're welcome to jump straight to the list of 12 plus-size sex positions, I want to first touch on body confidence, since many readers dealing with weight concerns have reached out to me about this. If your body confidence is already solid, feel free to skip ahead.

Also, make sure both you and your partner give enthusiastic consent before any sexual activity.

Body Confidence When Getting Naked & Having Sex

If you're on the heavier side, you'll likely find you can still physically manage plenty of different positions, but the real challenge often comes from feelings like:

• Nervousness
• Anxiety
• Lack of confidence
• Feeling judged
• Other negative emotions

Here's the truth if you're overweight or heavier than you'd prefer to be…

Nearly everyone feels this way – You're far from alone in feeling unconfident about your body. Most people carry at least some nervousness or anxiety about their body and weight, even those with what's considered a "normal" or average shape.

Your partner worries more about their own body than yours – It's easy to forget that most people are far more preoccupied with their own body insecurities than with judging yours, and as already mentioned…

Everyone carries body insecurities to some extent. You're not unique in that. So it's likely that…

Your partner is so focused on their own body and what you might think of it that they're paying far less attention to your body than you assume.

That said, keep in mind that carrying excess weight can contribute to sexual dysfunction, including erectile difficulties [1].

Plenty of people with "ideal" bodies also struggle with confidence – Many people hit the gym, diet constantly, pursue cosmetic surgery, and obsess over their appearance because:

They lack body confidence themselves and worry about others' perceptions. So don't assume these people feel especially secure.

Confidence grows with experience – If this is your first time having sex, or your first time with someone new, feeling nervous or a little insecure about your body is completely normal.

As you gain more experience, your focus naturally shifts toward pleasure, and body confidence concerns tend to fade. It's a lot like riding a bike or learning to drive…

You might feel nervous starting out, but experience eventually shifts your focus to the activity itself (pleasuring your male partner or pleasuring your female partner), rather than how you look doing it.

Confidence-boosting tips for TONIGHT – Here are several things you can do right now to feel more confident about your body during sex.

• Switch off the lights beforehand.
• Keep 1-3 simple sex positions from the list below in mind, so you're never without an option.
• Have a drink or two (not too much) to settle your nerves in advance. A small amount of cannabis can help too, where it's legal.
• Focus more attention on foreplay and other techniques like giving a good blow job or eating pussy like a god so your partner has plenty else to remember.

With body confidence covered, let's get into some genuinely pleasurable sex positions for bigger bodies…

1. Washing Machine

The Washing Machine position works best with an actual washing machine running on a fast spin cycle, though it adapts easily to any waist-height table or piece of furniture.

The receiving partner stands facing the washing machine, leaning over it, while their partner enters from behind. The machine's vibrations add a lot of extra stimulation for the receiver, especially at the clitoris. This position also works nicely for anal sex.

Related: Prepare for clean, enjoyable anal sex with these tips.

When the partner leaning over the washing machine is overweight – If the receiving partner is a fat person or has a larger booty, achieving adequate penetration can be tricky. A few options can help:

• The receiving partner can reach back, grab their own cheeks, and spread them.
• The receiving partner can straddle a corner of the machine, which eases penetration and may press the clitoris against the vibrating surface.

When the partner penetrating from behind is overweight – If the penetrating partner carries extra weight, their stomach might get in the way. As with several of these positions, lifting the belly out of the way with their hands can help.

Alternatively, pulling the shoulders back, squeezing the glutes, and extending the back can flatten the stomach.

If intercourse in this position doesn't feel especially fun, switch to oral instead, using these 85 powerful cunnilingus techniques or some of these 55 blow job techniques.

Please note: The Washing Machine position can be awkward if either partner isn't tall enough to comfortably lean over the machine.

2. Spread Legs

The Spread Legs position demands considerable flexibility from the receiving partner and is wonderful for anyone who enjoys feeling submissive during sex.

As shown above, the receiving partner lies on their back, raises their legs, and spreads them apart. The penetrating partner takes the same stance they'd use for Missionary style sex.

When the partner on their back with legs spread carries extra weight – As the receiving partner, you'll find Spread Legs works great since it makes deep penetration easier.

These tips can boost the pleasure further:

• Have your partner grab your legs and push them back. Talk to your partner about exactly how much pressure to apply so you can find your ideal angle. This position also makes it simple for your partner to stimulate your G Spot during sex.
• Try sliding a pillow or cushion under your hips or lower back to dial in the perfect angle.

When the partner on top carries extra weight – As the penetrating partner:

• Place your hands on your partner's thighs, calves, or ankles to adjust the angle.
• Heavier partners should be careful not to put too much pressure on their partner's legs, which can cause pain or injury, especially to the lower back.

3. Face Sitting aka Queening

Sitting on your partner's face, also called face riding or queening, can be an especially intense position for larger bodies, particularly if you're a BBW who enjoys being dominant during sex. Partners with a penis can enjoy sitting on their partner's face too.

To set up, one partner lies on their back while the other straddles their face and lowers themselves down. The partner underneath then performs oral sex.

When the partner on top, receiving oral, is heavier – If you're on top and carrying extra weight, you have plenty of ways to keep it intense:

• Face them so you can look down and hold eye contact, or straddle facing the rest of their body instead, which suits the 69 position nicely.
• If facing them, try grabbing their hair to guide their head where you want it — extra fun if you're feeling dominant.
• Instead of letting your partner do all the oral work, try grinding against their face yourself. This works best with a vulva; it's tougher to manage with a penis.
• If your partner enjoys the idea of being smothered by you, this position allows for that too. Just agree on a safe word or gesture beforehand so your partner can signal when it's too much (a tap on your thigh works well).

When the partner lying on their back, giving oral, is overweight – As the bottom partner giving oral, your weight doesn't matter here. Some tips to spice things up:

• Use our Blow Job Guide or our guide on fingering a vagina to fully satisfy your partner.
• If you're both into it, eat their ass.
• Place your hands on your partner's thighs to pull them down further or push them off, and tap them if you need a break.

4. Cowgirl

The Cowgirl position is one of the most popular choices for larger bodies for good reason…

It feels fantastic for both partners.

As shown above, the penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner straddles them, sitting down onto their penis, resting weight partly on the lap and partly on the knees.

In Cowgirl, one partner can handle all the movement, but it's more enjoyable when both stay active.

When the partner on top is larger – As the receiving partner, there's no special accommodation needed for your size while riding your partner in Cowgirl.

Learn: How to be on top and ride your partner with confidence.

Still, there are ways to boost your pleasure and achieve stronger orgasms.

• Experiment with different angles to find what feels best. Try leaning back with your hands behind you for support, then leaning forward the same way, until you land on your ideal position.
• Moving upward⬆️ and downward⬇️ feels great for your partner.
• Alternatively, move forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner's penis for more clitoral stimulation.
• Resting nearly all your weight on their lap while grinding forward and backward adds extra pressure to your clit for more intense stimulation.
• Facing away from your partner (i.e. Reverse Cowgirl) is sometimes easier than facing them (Cowgirl), and it also shifts the penetration angle.
• Cowgirl can be tricky if you're plus size and your partner has a smaller penis — penis sleeves may help ease penetration.
• Widen your knees if your thighs are blocking penetration.

When the partner on their back is larger – Try these techniques in Cowgirl if you're the penetrating partner carrying extra weight…

• Slide a pillow or cushion under your hips. This lifts your hips and penis upward, pulls your stomach slightly out of the way, and can add an inch or two of extra depth.
• Try the Vulcan V (shown in the two illustrations below) to help stimulate your partner's clitoris during Cowgirl.

This tip helps everyone but can be especially useful while learning to ride a man as a bigger partner.

In the first illustration above, you'll see the proper arm and hand position for the Vulcan V as the penetrating partner.

Below, you can see the exact hand and finger shape for the Vulcan V. The receiving partner then grinds against your hand and knuckles — bend your knuckles slightly if your partner's vulva makes direct clitoral contact difficult.

Bigger guys can also use this move to press down on their stomach, making their penis more accessible. If that's an issue and makes Cowgirl difficult, cock rings or penis pumps might help.

The first time you try the Vulcan V with your partner, get their feedback to learn what they do and don't enjoy about it.

5. Jockey Position

The Jockey sex position is wonderful for receiving partners who want to relax and let their partner handle most of the effort. Bigger women may also feel more at ease since this pose conceals the stomach, and it can also be easier on the joints for the penetrating partner.

The receiving partner simply lies on their stomach with legs together, as shown above. The penetrating partner then straddles them on their knees, facing the same direction.

The receiving partner can squeeze their legs tightly together in an act called syntribation, which many find boosts pleasure.

When the partner lying on their stomach is plus size – As a BBW, there's one trick that makes penetration easier and deeper…

Slide some cushions or pillows under your hips to push your butt upward, making deeper penetration easier for your partner.

When the partner on top is plus size – As the penetrating partner carrying extra weight, try keeping your upper body somewhat upright in this position, or even lean back if that's comfortable.

Doing so helps flatten your stomach and eases penetration. Leaning fully over your partner may cause your belly to get in the way.

That said…

If your partner enjoys feeling your body pressed against theirs, leaning forward and resting some weight on them works too — just know it'll make deeper penetration a bit harder.

6. Doggy Style

Doggy Style is a timeless sex position that generally suits all body shapes, sizes, and weights. It's also a great position for having anal sex.

The receiving partner gets down on all fours, hands and knees on the bed. The penetrating partner kneels and penetrates them from behind, as shown above.

When the partner on all fours is obese – As the receiving partner, try hinging or "folding" more at the hips. Lowering onto your elbows (or resting your chest on the bed) achieves this, making it look and feel like your butt is pushed into the air.

This exposes your vagina and ass more, making it easier for your partner to penetrate you more deeply. That said, you don't have to do this if it's uncomfortable.

Lying on a wedge or sex pillow might make this plus-size position more comfortable while also easing penetration.

More: List of 9 best sex wedge pillow positions.

When the partner penetrating from behind is obese – As the penetrating partner with a larger belly, penetration can get tricky if your stomach is in the way.

• Try pulling your shoulders back, leaning backward, and stretching upward to flatten your stomach.
• Grab your belly with your hands and lift it out of the way.
• Place your hands on the sides of the receiving partner's butt and spread their cheeks for deeper penetration.

7. Corner Doggy Style

Corner Doggy Style resembles regular Doggy Style, with the penetrating partner behind the receiver, facing their back. It's also great for having anal sex.

The receiving partner straddles the corner of a bed, one leg on either side, as shown above. Depending on bed height, they can either kneel on the floor or stand. Resting your weight on your stomach or chest by lying on the bed is easiest, though resting on your elbows or hands works too.

When the partner lying over the bed is fat – As the receiving partner, hinge or "fold" at the hips as much as possible, similar to the previous position.

This means arching your lower back and pushing your butt into the air, exposing your ass and vagina to your partner and easing penetration.

When the partner penetrating from behind is fat – As the penetrating partner carrying extra weight, leaning over the receiving partner may make your belly feel like it's in the way.

Counter this by leaning backward, pulling your shoulders back, and stretching upward to flatten your belly.

Squeezing your glutes and pushing your hips forward also helps flatten the belly.

• You can also pull your belly upward with your hands.
• Spreading your partner's butt with your hands can ease penetration.

8. Turtle

The Turtle sex position is a form of Doggy Style where the receiving partner works to push their butt skyward, exposing their privates and easing penetration.

To set up the Turtle, the receiving partner starts on all fours, then lowers their chest right down onto the bed and, where possible, arches their back while pushing their butt into the air.

Optionally, they can wrap their arms behind their thighs, as shown, and gently pull their chest toward their knees, exposing the vagina and butt even further.

The penetrating partner kneels as they would during regular Doggy Style. A significant height difference can make this plus-size position a bit tricky, and pillows or other props may be needed to align your heights.

When the partner with their arms wrapped behind their thighs is chubby – As the receiving partner in this position, listen to your body and ease into it slowly, especially as you wrap your arms behind your thighs and draw your upper body toward your knees.

A nice bonus of this position is the possible ability to masturbate yourself while being penetrated, if there's enough space between your thighs and stomach.

When the partner penetrating from behind is chubby – We've already covered the penetrating partner's options in earlier positions:

• Flatten your stomach by pulling your shoulders back, leaning backward, and "elongating" your upper body.
• Put your hands under your belly and physically lift it out of the way.
• Spread your partner's butt open to ease penetration.

9. Sideways Turtle

The Sideways Turtle offers a pleasurable option for larger bodies, closely resembling the regular Turtle position just covered.

The receiving partner assumes the same Turtle shape, legs together and drawn toward the chest, but lying on their side this time. The penetrating partner stays on their knees.

When the partner lying on their side is overweight – As the receiving partner on the heavier side, experiment with how tightly you hold your thighs together.

You can also slide a pillow under your hips to raise them and adjust the penetration angle.

When the partner penetrating from behind is bigger – Sex in the Sideways Turtle plays out much like the regular Turtle already covered.

You'll stay on your knees throughout. And…

• You can stay upright, using your hands to grip your partner's hips and pull yourself deeper.
• You can lean over your partner, resting weight on them or bracing your arms on the bed instead. This can make deep penetration a bit harder.

10. Reverse Cowgirl

The Reverse Cowgirl position is pretty much what it sounds like — similar to Cowgirl, with the penetrating partner lying on their back, but here the receiving partner faces the opposite direction while sitting on their lap. Reverse Cowgirl might suit heavier partners better if regular Cowgirl riding feels awkward to learn.

Here are some ideas for getting the most from Reverse Cowgirl…

When the partner on top is overweight – As the receiving partner on top, there's a lot you can do to make things more exciting…

• If your partner loves your bum, put on a show — bounce it up and down or even try twerking as you ride them.
• Play with different motions as you ride: upward⬆️ and downward⬇️, or forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner's penis, or a mix of both.
• Experiment with leaning forward, resting on your arms, then leaning backward with arms placed behind you for balance, to find your most satisfying angle.
• Try these 14 masturbation techniques on yourself while riding your partner for extra clitoral pleasure.

When the partner lying on their back is overweight – As the penetrating partner, you have a couple of options in Reverse Cowgirl…

• Slide a pillow or cushion under your hips to raise them, allowing deeper penetration.
• Grab your partner's hips to help guide them forward➡️ and backward⬅️, or set the pace and steer them into an angle you enjoy.

11. Betty Rocker

The Betty Rocker position resembles Reverse Cowgirl. The penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner straddles them on their knees, facing away, leaning forward and resting on their elbows.

When the partner on top is carrying extra weight – If you're on top during this Reverse-Cowgirl-like pose, there are a few kinky things you can try to spice it up…

• If your partner is into butts, give them a show — bounce your butt up and down, or try twerking if you're able.
• Grab their wrists and place them on your hips or butt, guiding their hands to show them what you want — massaging, grabbing, pinching, or even spanking you during sex.
• Adjust your body position until you land on the most pleasurable penetration angle — lean forward, backward, or to the side.
• As mentioned throughout this piece, try moving upward⬆️ and downward⬇️ or forward➡️ and backward⬅️ on your partner's penis, focusing on whatever motion feels best.
• For extra stimulation, try using a vibrator on your clit during sex.

When the partner lying on their back is carrying extra weight – If you're a fan of butts, penetrating your partner in Betty Rocker gives you a prime view. Try these ideas to boost pleasure for both of you…

• Sliding pillows or cushions under your hips lifts them and helps flatten your stomach.
• The easiest move is grabbing their butt or hips to control the pace — go fast and intense or slow things down.
• If your partner enjoys anal play, try fingering them anally.
• If double penetration appeals to them, use a dildo anally.
• Some erotic spanking can work if you're both into it — just discuss safe words before any BDSM play.
• Keep your legs together or spread apart, whichever you prefer.

12. The Pretzel

The Pretzel position resembles the Sideways Turtle plus-size position mentioned above, with a few differences.

To get into Pretzel, the receiving partner lies on their side and brings the knee of their top leg as close to their chest as possible, keeping the bottom leg straight. This "opens up" the receiving partner, making sex considerably easier.

The penetrating partner then straddles the receiving partner's bottom leg and enters them.

When the partner on top is heavier – This position can be a bit tricky if you're the penetrating partner carrying extra weight. Here are some ideas to spice up sex and simplify Pretzel:

• Flatten your belly by leaning back, squeezing your glutes, and elongating your spine to ease penetration.
• Try anal sex in this position.
• If you and your partner enjoy BDSM and have agreed on a safe word, this position is perfect for “choking” them during sex.

When the partner lying on their side is heavier – Pretzel is fantastic if you're plus size. Penetration comes easily for your partner, and you can let them handle all the effort!

Some tips to make it even better:

• Play with your top knee — bring it closer to your chest or back toward your other leg to find your ideal angle.
• You don't need to do much in this position, but you can boost your pleasure by masturbating during sex or wearing a butt plug while being penetrated vaginally.
• If it appeals to you, try talking dirty to your partner during sex.

While these 12 sex positions for larger bodies will set you on the path to having good sex, you can also explore another 13 crazy sex positions for the next time you get intimate with your partner.

December 19, 2023