Locating Your G Spot: A Fast, Simple Guide

This guide covers exactly how to locate your G Spot, and men will get plenty out of it too. I'll also break down the straightforward reason some women struggle to find it at all.

So if you've had trouble tracking yours down, read through the whole thing — you'll learn how to find it and exactly why it was giving you trouble in the first place.

Where Exactly Is The G Spot?

Looking at the diagram above, you'll see it sits roughly 2-3 inches (5-7.5cm) inside the vagina, along the anterior wall (the side closest to your belly) [1].

When you touch it, it feels distinctly different from the surrounding vaginal tissue, similar to the roof of your mouth but softer. Expect a slightly ridged texture that's still very soft to the touch.

To locate it with your fingers, slide your palm flat down your stomach until you reach your vagina. Insert one or two fingers 2-3 inches deep, then curl them upward toward your belly. You should feel your G Spot right at your fingertips. This diagram should help:

I Still Can't Find It — Help!

The G Spot sits in the same general location for every woman, yet plenty struggle badly to locate it. Some genuinely wonder if they were born without one.

No need to worry. First, let's cover why it's eluding you, then how to actually find it.

Why You Can't Find It (Hint: Not Your Fault)

The most common reason women can't find their G Spot is simple: arousal is required first. Without it, you'll struggle to locate it or feel much pleasure from it at all. A gynecologist pressing on that same area during a routine exam won't feel like much, because you're not aroused. But get turned on first, and a partner's touch there can feel incredible.

Even scientific literature backs this up — here's a direct quote from Elsevier's dictionary [2]:

The G-spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable; physicians, of course, do not sexually arouse their patients and, therefore, do not typically find the woman's G-spot.

But Why, Exactly?

Why Arousal Matters – Just above the G Spot sits the urethral sponge, home to the Skene's gland, which fills with fluid as arousal builds [4]. As it swells further, the G Spot becomes more sensitive and physically more prominent inside the vagina.

The Skene's gland is marked in light purple below. As arousal increases, it fills with fluid, making the G Spot more sensitive and easier to locate.

Without arousal, the G Spot stays unswollen and far less sensitive, making it genuinely harder to find. So if you're struggling, get thoroughly turned on first if you're solo, and if you're with a partner, build in plenty of foreplay beforehand. Enough arousal makes locating it much easier.

Still Can't Find It? (Hint: Still Not Your Fault)

So you've followed the advice above, tried a few masturbation techniques to get properly aroused, and it's still eluding you. Here's why:

Skene's gland size varies quite a bit from woman to woman. A smaller gland means the G Spot never gets especially sensitive or prominent, even at peak arousal, making a G Spot orgasm nearly impossible for some. Research backs this up too — some women have been found to lack a Skene's gland entirely [3], meaning theirs simply can't swell or become sensitive.

Don't stress, though — plenty of women without an easily located G Spot still have incredible sex lives through other paths to orgasm. These clitoral stimulation techniques, general masturbation advice, more masturbation techniques, and these fingering techniques more than cover the bases.

Found It — Now What?

Once you've successfully located your G Spot, it's time to actually enjoy it. First, a quick rundown of the best solo stimulation techniques (full details here), then the best sex positions for G Spot stimulation.

G Spot Self-Pleasure

Once located, a great technique is a variation on the diagram at the top of this guide — rub and massage your G Spot with one hand while stimulating your clitoris with the other, shown in the diagram below. Perfect for doubling up on pleasure.

There are also three distinct G Spot massage techniques covered in more depth in the squirting guide.

Getting The Most Out Of G Spot Stimulation — Angle & Depth

During sex (or with a dildo), you'll naturally want to maximize G Spot contact. It all comes down to entry angle and depth. This first diagram shows the depth and angle that typically works best for hitting your G Spot.

If that angle isn't providing enough pressure, a more extreme angle like the one below might work better. Same principle applies with a dildo. Tips on using a dildo for maximum pleasure here.

Sex Positions For G Spot Stimulation

Now that you know how to locate and stimulate your G Spot, let's cover positions built to maximize it during sex. Rather than working through all 119 sex positions, here are the top 4.

Quick reminder: since your G Spot sits only 2-3 inches deep, shallower penetration usually works best. Some partners may even feel like they're constantly on the verge of slipping out while targeting it.

G Spot

Named because it's essentially a position built entirely around targeting the G Spot precisely. Focus on your body angle and depth, experimenting with how high you raise your hips. Check out the full G Spot position guide for more.

Crab

The Crab position works great for G Spot stimulation, especially if you enjoy being on top. More on the Crab position here.

Rear Entry

Rear Entry is great when you want your partner doing most of the work, though hitting the G Spot correctly takes a specific approach.

Rather than straightforward thrusting, a grinding motion works better. As your partner grinds forward and up, the head of the penis strokes across the G Spot, provided the angle isn't too deep. Too far forward and it'll slip out. As always, communicate clearly about exactly where your G Spot is so your partner can adjust their stroke.

Teaspooning

Teaspooning is wonderful if you love being held close with your partner's arms wrapped around you during sex, and it's also great for G Spot stimulation.

Of course, plenty of other positions work too. Doggy style is a favorite for many, and some find being restrained with knees toward the chest does the trick as well.

Curious about bondage? Learn what BDSM is and how it can benefit your sex life.

Don't Mix Up Your G Spot And A Spot

Many women don't realize there's another highly sensitive area deeper inside — the A Spot, also called the anterior fornix erogenous zone [6]. It sits on the same anterior wall as your G Spot, just deeper. This can cause confusion when you're trying to locate your G Spot. Its location is shown in the diagram below.

Stimulating the A Spot feels amazing too, just distinctly different from the G Spot. Fingers can usually reach it fine, using the same techniques described above, though some may need a dildo or similar toy to reach comfortably. Tips on using a dildo for powerful orgasms here.

So if shallow stimulation (2-3 inches) around your G Spot doesn't do much for you but deeper stimulation does, your A Spot is likely the more sensitive of the two. Wikipedia has more solid info on the A Spot [5].

Why Do I Feel Like I Need To Pee When My G Spot Is Stimulated?

Once you've located your G Spot, you might notice a "need to pee" sensation every time it's stimulated [7]. That's completely normal and even expected. It happens because your bladder sits right next to your G Spot, as shown in the illustration above. Pressing on the G Spot with fingers, a toy, or a penis also puts some pressure on the bladder, hence the sensation. Peeing beforehand is the simplest fix.

Additionally, as covered in the guide to making yourself squirt, squirting fluid travels through the same tube urine does [8], originating from the Skene's gland. Because it shares that pathway, squirting during G Spot stimulation can genuinely feel like peeing.

Learn: Why between 6% and 69.23% of women can squirt.

Discover: What squirting actually feels like – according to 119 women.

Now that you know how to find your G Spot, you'll probably want to get the most pleasure out of it. This guide on fingering yourself will help, along with this one and this one on using a dildo. The squirting guide covers everything you and a partner need to know about female ejaculation during sex, and he can learn how to help you orgasm here.

February 15, 2018