23 Kinky Sex Ideas: Freaky Tips To Heat Up Your Sex Life

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1. Communication Comes First

The single most important factor in getting kinkier with your partner is understanding just how much communication matters…

"I dunno, Sean, that sounds boring!"

Maybe so, but without real communication, you'll never fully grasp what your partner actually wants, and they'll be left guessing at what you enjoy, too.

Want to dig deeper? Check out our guide on sexual communication here.

Great communication also means agreeing on a safe word before trying anything with real risk involved. More on safe words.

2. Some Things Just Won't Click, And That's Fine

This page is packed with kinky ideas, tips, and games, but not every single one will land for you or your partner.

And that's completely okay!

The goal is figuring out what actually works for you and building on it. If rough sex turns out to be your thing, run with it.

If bringing other people into your sex life doesn't appeal to you at all, skip it entirely!

I wish I didn't need to say this, but I get plenty of emails from people asking how to force themselves to enjoy something they simply don't. You might wrestle with that too, but here's the reality.

Sex isn't like doing your taxes. You only ever need to have the sex you actually want.

3. Ease In Slowly

If you're trying out a new kinky idea you found here, or anywhere else on Love Curi, start gently with the mildest version first.

So if getting spanked by your partner intrigues you, have him try his hand or a hairbrush before dropping hundreds of dollars on whips, paddles, and floggers.

Alright, let's dive into the first kinky idea you can try with your partner…

4. Blindfolds

"Blindfolds? Come on, Sean, that's the most obvious idea on this whole list!"

Fair enough, I know most of you have probably already tried this one, but stick with me…

I won't walk you through how to actually blindfold your partner — that part's simple, just grab a towel, eye mask, or a proper blindfold. What really matters is what you do once he's blindfolded.

With that in mind, here are a few kinky moves to try while he's blindfolded.

Hot & Cold

Once your partner's blindfolded, tease him with contrasting hot and cold sensations…

• Trail an ice cube across his nipples, penis, balls, and lips.
• Take some warm chocolate sauce into your mouth and start a blow job (just make sure it's not hot enough to burn him). Here are 31 blow job techniques you can use to light his fire.
• Try a blow job with ice water or chilled champagne in your mouth instead. Here are another 19 powerful blow job tips guaranteed to make him moan.

Question Game

Next, play a simple Q&A game where his answers earn him rewards or punishments. Check out suggested punishments and rewards further down this article.

Lead Him Somewhere New

You can also guide your blindfolded partner somewhere new entirely. That might be as tame as another room in the house, or if you want more of an edge, the basement, garage, or even outside if public play appeals to you.

Blindfolding your partner also tends to take pressure off you. If you often feel like you need to "perform" for your partner or get self-conscious during sex, putting him in a blindfold can ease that pressure considerably.

5. Restraints

Restraints open up nearly endless kinky possibilities. Here are some of my favorite ways to use them to spice things up.

Using your own body on his – This is the simplest option since it requires zero equipment. Pin his hands above his head, behind his back, or to his side using just your hands. Your own body weight can also restrain him if you lie fully on top.

Handcuffs, rope, ties & bondage gear – The more obvious restraint route involves handcuffs, rope, or specialty bondage equipment. Here are a few examples to spark further ideas:

• Handcuff him behind his back.
• Tie both his wrists to the bedposts, along with his ankles.
• Tie his ankles to a spreader bar to leave him feeling exposed.
• Zip him into a straitjacket to make it clear who's in charge.
• Hogtie him for maximum humiliation.
• Restrain his penis entirely with a chastity device.

Typically, the submissive partner gets restrained, though that's not a hard rule. Not sure which of you should be tied up? Take this quiz to discover if you're more dominant or submissive.

6. Spanking

First things first: some people find spanking incredibly hot and arousing, while others simply don't enjoy it. You can genuinely bring your man to tears of pleasure mixed with pain at the same time. It really comes down to personal taste, so I'd still encourage you to experiment with it at least once.

Here are a few ways to try it…

During sex

If your partner's on top or in any position where his backside is within reach, try spanking him. An open palm works fine, and you can lightly grab or rub the area afterward if you like. The key is experimenting and paying attention to what he responds to best.

If you're playing a kinky game together and he fails a task or gets caught doing something forbidden, spanking makes a fitting punishment. Have him get on all fours, stand with his hands against the wall, or lean over a table.

From there, it's simply a matter of handing out his punishment (pun very much intended). Learn how to use punishments and rewards during sex.

A fun way to really assert control while spanking him is having him count each strike out loud.

Tools

If spanking really appeals to you, plenty of tools deliver a similar blend of pain and pleasure depending on the exact sensation you're after:

• Whips
• Floggers
• Paddle
• Crop
• Slappers
• Canes

One Big Warning

Spanking leaves marks and causes minor damage to the skin and tissue of the backside, as long as you're not too forceful. But striking his kidneys or spine risks serious injury. Don't do that. Stick strictly to his rear.

7. Make Oral Sex Crazy Kinky

A blow job or going down on your partner might not sound like the wildest kinky idea, but it absolutely can be. Here's how…

Hands on Head

When your partner goes down on you, you can rest your hands behind your own head and let him work, or use your hands to guide him instead.

Start by simply resting them in his hair or on top of his head.

Once he hits on something that feels amazing, slowly rub and massage his scalp. If he does something less enjoyable, stop the massaging. It's an easy, wordless way to give feedback while he performs cunnilingus (advice here). Of course, speaking up verbally still helps too.

Another perk of keeping your hands on his head while he licks you is that you can simply pull him closer whenever you want more pressure.

Naturally, your partner can borrow these exact tips when you're giving him a blow job.

Eye Contact

Holding eye contact while he performs cunnilingus, or while you give him a blow job, instantly deepens the intimacy.

"But this is a guide about kinky sex," you're probably thinking…

Don't worry, there's a genuinely kinky way to use eye contact during a blow job or while he's going down on you…

Lock eyes with him right at the moment of orgasm. It's remarkably powerful.

Want more tips on using eye contact during oral sex? Check out Chapter 3 of the Blow Job Guide.

Where You Do It

Another simple way to spice up a blow job or cunnilingus session is choosing an unusual location. A few ideas:

• In a car (just avoid breaking any laws!)
• Somewhere with a breathtaking view, like a mountaintop, cliff, or beach.
• In an empty room during a party.

The Finish

A blow job can be totally ordinary right up until the finish, but nailing that final moment makes it much hotter. A few kinky ways to finish:

• Into your hand, then pour it into your mouth.
• Directly into your mouth, swallowing while holding his gaze.
• On his choice of your face, neck, breasts, ass, back, or wherever he's most drawn to.

69

The 69 position couldn't be simpler to execute, yet it's endlessly fun! Rather than repeat myself, check out the full 69 position guide here to learn every variation worth trying.

You'll find tons more on giving your partner the best blow job of his life in the very detailed Blow Job Guide.

8. Punishments & Rewards

One of the simplest ways to add kink to your sex life is introducing rewards and punishments.

Before diving into how these work, there's one crucial thing to understand about using rewards and punishments in bed…

This is about fun, not control. Use rewards and punishments to control your partner, and he'll grow resentful. Use them purely to spice things up, though, and you're in for a great time.

Here are some ideas you can use as rewards and punishments in your sex life…

• She orgasms first. If not, he gets a spanking.
• No orgasms allowed for a week. Breaking the rule means cleaning the house.
• At least 10 minutes of penetration before he finishes. Otherwise, he owes her oral.
• She has to wake him up with a blow job. If she doesn't, she owes him one while he watches TV instead.
• "69 Race" – Whoever climaxes first during 69 loses and has to bring the winner breakfast in bed.

You can also set up a straightforward reward-and-punishment system, as difficult as you'd like. Here are some sample rewards and punishments…

Rewards

• 10 seconds of oral sex
• 20-second hand job
• 15 seconds of sex
• 60 seconds of passionate kissing
• 30 seconds of massaging his balls

Punishments

• Spanking
• Tickling
• Face slapping
• Pinching
• Grabbing his balls

9. Rough Him Up

Kinky sex can stay entirely cerebral through dirty talk or reward-and-punishment games, but there's also a physical, almost primal side worth exploring...I mean getting rough with your partner.

Here's how:

Use Your Nails

The simplest way to get more physical is using your nails.

• In positions like Missionary or Coital Alignment Technique, you can easily scratch his back, shoulders, and arms. Reaching lower to grab his ass works too.
• You can go light or intense — my advice is to start light and gauge his reaction from there.
• Scratch up and down his back freely, or focus your nails on a single spot.

Use Your Mouth & Teeth

Next, try gently using your teeth. Emphasis on "gently" — the goal isn't real pain.

• Give him a hickey by kissing his neck, or anywhere else on his body.
• Depending on position, gently bite and suck various parts of his body, steering clear of his penis and balls, which are far too sensitive for this.
• Try holding him tightly and gently biting him right as he starts to climax.

Use your strength

Your mouth and hands are just one piece of the puzzle. Physically overpowering your partner adds another layer of kink entirely. A few ideas:

• In the Cowgirl Position, try pinning his hands above his head.
• When switching positions, physically move his body with real force so he feels your strength.
• Place your hand(s) on his neck and lightly choke him. Learn how to choke your partner.

Some Notes On Roughing Him Up

There's a right way and a wrong way to get rough with your partner.

The right approach is doing whatever feels natural to you. If you're naturally submissive and being rough isn't your style, don't force it. It'll feel unnatural and awkward, killing the mood entirely.

The right approach also involves talking to your partner and getting real feedback on what he likes and dislikes (while sharing your own preferences, too!). Maybe he loves being scratched, maybe he hates it. You won't know without asking.

10. Hair Pulling

Pulling his hair, or having him pull yours, technically falls under "roughing him up" covered above, but it deserves its own spotlight for the intense pleasure it can create.

Keep in mind, though…

Hair pulling can feel pleasurable, kinky, and erotic, or just plain painful, depending entirely on technique. Let's start with the right way to pull hair…

The Right Way

1. The most pleasurable part of the scalp sits toward the back, opposite the face.
2. Start with four fingers at the back of his neck, just below the hairline. Slowly push them upward, lightly scratching his scalp with your nails as you go.
3. Once you reach the top of his head, grab a firm handful of hair with gentle force. You're not trying to yank it out, but be firm enough that he actually feels it.
4. Pull slowly downward, letting his hair gradually slide out of your grip.
5. Repeat as much as you like, switching hands or using both for variety.

Tip: The easiest way to get a feel for this is practicing on yourself first, figuring out what feels good, then trying it on your partner.

Some Notes on Hair Pulling

• Pulling hair anywhere else on the head usually feels painful rather than pleasurable.
• If he's got thin hair or a shaved head, focus on lightly scratching the back of his scalp instead.
• As with everything on this list, ask for feedback afterward to learn what he loved most.

11. Wrestling

Wrestling might sound silly, but it's a genuinely great lead-in to kinky sex. Think of it as playful fighting mixed with flirting.

There's something deeply hot about using all your strength to pin your partner down, desperately trying to make him submit, only for him to flip things around, overpower you, and take what he wants.

The easiest way to start is once you're already in bed together. Tickle him if he says something silly, and he'll naturally try to stop you. That's your opening to start play-fighting. Kiss him at the same time so he understands exactly what's on your mind. Here are a few wrestling moves to try…

• Try pinning him on his back while straddling him.
• Try pinning his arms above his head.
• Try (gently) twisting his arm behind his back.

Once you've had success in bed, take it elsewhere around the house, or even outside.

Remember, the whole point is having fun while getting physical together. Both of you should be laughing and enjoying it. Take it too seriously, and the fun disappears.

12. Degradation & Humiliation

Degradation and humiliation can be genuinely kinky IF (and it's a significant if) you both enjoy this style of play and respect each other's limits.

So what exactly falls under degradation and humiliation?

Here are a few examples:

• Being spat on.
• Being slapped.
• Having your hair grabbed (with real force) and led around by your partner.
• Being confined in a small space, like a cage.
• Being made to eat from a bowl on the floor.
• Being verbally disrespected.
• Being made to wear a collar and/or leash.
• Being "forced" to remain naked.
• Being called something derogatory — slut, bitch, bimbo, slave, and similar terms.
• Being "forced" into embarrassing situations in public.

Here's another 129 BDSM humiliation and erotic degradation ideas to keep things fresh.

Some Notes on Degradation & Humiliation

My advice is to discuss these ideas with your partner BEFORE trying any of them. If either of you dislikes the concept and gets blindsided by spitting or slapping, the experience will be miserable.

If you want to dip a toe into humiliation or degradation, start with dirty talk and build from there, provided you're both enjoying it.

Using a safe word is essential in case things get too intense and you need to stop.

13. Pleasure From Pain aka Sadism & Masochism

Degradation and humiliation might do nothing for you, but pain could still be your thing.

Do you get a thrill from the sting of your partner slapping your ass? You might be a bit of a masochist.

Or maybe you love watching your partner's face wince when you slap or pinch him? That could point to a sadistic streak.

There's no shortage of ways to inflict a little (or a lot of) pain on a partner if sadism appeals to you, and you can flip these roles just as easily if masochism is more your speed. A few kinky examples:

• Spanking (covered above).
• Pinching.
• Slapping.
• Punching.
• Electric shocks.
• Squeezing sensitive areas.
• Using nipple clamps.
• "Forcing" your partner into stress positions. These 17 bondage positions work perfectly for this.
• Making your partner wear a gag for extended periods.

Some Notes on Sadism & Masochism

Just like with degradation and humiliation, a few ground rules keep this enjoyable for both of you.

Communication tops the list, along with giving each other honest feedback and applying it to future sessions, especially early on as you're both learning.

That also means agreeing on a clear safe word in case things escalate too far, along with a way to signal stop (like dropping a ball) if a gag is involved.

Finally, start slow and gradually build the intensity of your sadism and masochism play until you reach a level that satisfies both of you without risking a genuine accident.

The BDSM how to has plenty more detail on sadism and masochism.

14. Use Your Words: Talking Dirty The Right Way

Talking dirty is an incredibly flexible, powerful way to add kink and excitement to sex. While the Dirty Talking Guide covers everything from technique to hundreds of example lines for every scenario, here's how to use it specifically to add kink.

Intensify The Experience

During sex itself, you don't need many words, but as he nears climax, start moaning and layering in a few phrases to intensify things. A few examples:

• "Yes" "Yeah" "Yes baby"
• "Mmmmmmmmm" "Ooooooooooo"
• "I'm going to cum." "You're going to make me cum."
• "Just like that, just like that"

Looking for more dirty things to say, literally hundreds of them? You'll find them in the Dirty Talking Guide.

Amp Him Up

Another great way to talk dirty is building sexual tension and getting him worked up before you even get started. A few examples:

• Whisper this in his ear while you're out together: "How long until we go home? I'm too horny to be out in public. I need you inside me."
• Before heading to his place one evening, send a message like this: "Can't wait to see you later! It's been hard to concentrate at work. All I've been thinking about is making you cum in my mouth later. Can't wait x"
• As you leave for work, kiss him goodbye and whisper, "I can't wait to get back so I can give you a little oral action." He'll be thinking about you all day.

That's just a taste; find more powerful ideas for sexting your partner here.

15. Involve Other People (Swinging & More)

One idea that isn't for everyone is bringing other people into your sex life. There are several routes here…

Threesomes – Threesomes rank among the most popular male fantasies, and plenty of women find the idea appealing too. Still, it's worth remembering the gap between fantasy and reality.

Fantasy involves incredible sex with two other people at once, while reality can stir up far more emotion than expected, jealousy, fear, and insecurity among them.

So if a threesome is on the table with your partner, think through those potential emotions AND talk it over beforehand. Also, make sure to use some great threesome positions.

Swinging – Swinging can include threesomes, but it's really more of a non-monogamous lifestyle, where sex happens outside the primary relationship in various forms, whether a one-night stand, an ongoing arrangement, or a shared visit to a sex club.

In other words, swingers stay romantically committed to each other while sleeping with other people.

For some couples, this feels hot, wild, and genuinely bonding, while for others it spells disaster. As with everything intimate, strong communication is essential to making swinging work.

Voyeurism – Voyeurism offers another way to bring others into your sex life. You might enjoy watching your partner with someone else, or being watched yourself. Just make sure everyone involved consents and no laws get broken.

More Ideas – This barely scratches the surface of what's possible when other people enter the picture. A few starting points for further research:

• Cuckolding/being a cuckqueen
• Polyamory
• Open relationships
• Sex clubs

16. Public Play

Public play means doing anything arousing while out in public, and it doesn't need to be extreme at all. Think simple things like:

• Wearing a skirt with no underwear.
• Wearing a sex toy, like a butt plug.
• Going braless under your top.

Of course, you can push further into fingering (learn how to finger yourself in this post), a hand job (hand job tips here), dry humping, or full-on sex if the milder ideas aren't kinky enough for you.

Public play doesn't have to happen out on the street, either. It also covers things like:

• Making a homemade sex tape or streaming yourself live for others.
• Posting photos of yourself online for others to see.

You probably already know this, but it bears repeating:

Above all else with public play, make sure you're not breaking the law.

17. Roleplaying

Ever fantasized about being with a firefighter? Or getting disciplined by a headmaster? Maybe playing the sexy secretary for a powerful boss?

That's the entire appeal of roleplaying — you get to act out fantasies while staying fully in control, which is about as kinky as it gets. Here are a few classic roleplay ideas to spark inspiration.

• Getting blackmailed.
• Being "forced" into sex.
• Repaying a debt through sexual favors.
• Playing a porn star, stripper, or call girl.
• Being a masseuse determined to finish the job by any means necessary.
• Having your innocence corrupted by someone more experienced, or being the one doing the corrupting.
• Strangers meeting at a bar.
• A swim instructor who gets a little too handsy, leading to sex in the water…just make sure it's a private pool.
• Pretending to be someone famous, or pretending to be with someone famous.
• Playing a bored housewife or househusband.
• You or your partner in a position of authority: firefighter, cop, doctor, delivery driver, crooked lawyer, professor, coach, slave owner, and so on.
• You or your partner in a submissive role: criminal, student, intern, slave, and similar.

These are just examples meant to spark your imagination. You'll have your own specific fantasies worth acting out, so make sure to prioritize YOUR fantasies over these suggestions.

Finally, understand that pretending to be a stripper while your partner plays the customer might feel a little awkward and staged at first. That's true of any roleplay scenario, and it's completely fine, as long as you can both laugh at the silliness and simply enjoy yourselves.

18. Unleashing The Animal

Unleashing the animal means having passionate, primal sex where you're fully lost in the moment with your partner. That includes:

• Not thinking about tomorrow's chores.
• Not stressing over work, finances, or something someone said last week.
• Giving your partner complete, undivided attention, and getting his in return.
• Simply letting him take you with everything he's got, while you whisper things you never imagined saying out loud.

In other words, dropping every inhibition and staying fully present.

This all sounds effortless and incredibly hot, but genuinely unleashing that intense, wild passion is actually difficult and often unpredictable in practice.

Here are a few ways to make it easier.

Remove The Obstacles

The biggest factor in unleashing the animal is clearing away whatever's standing in the way. Things like:

• Stress from caring for family (Solution: consider hiring a nanny for a few hours weekly if you have kids).
• Stress from overworking (Solution: cut back where you can, or carve out one day a week free of major work stress).
• Low energy (Solution: start exercising and eating better).
• His low sex drive (Solution: encourage him to talk to a doctor about possible hormone replacement therapy).

According to a pair of sex researchers, sex drive responds both to things that spark desire (accelerators) and obstacles like those above (brakes) [1, 2]. Everyone carries their own unique brakes and accelerators.

Build Sexual Tension

Next, focus on building sexual tension with your partner — that crackling energy between the two of you.

Rather than repeat myself, check out the sexual tension guide here for strategies to build it to intense levels.

New Locations & Situations

Ever notice how sex on vacation feels effortless and way more fun? That's the power of a new location or situation with your partner.

Stepping outside your everyday routine makes it easier to access more passionate sex. It practically works as a reset button for your sex life.

A Drink Or A Smoke

Some people find that a drink or two helps them loosen up and let go. Others get the same effect from marijuana (just confirm it's legal where you are first).

That said, overdoing alcohol or marijuana can easily backfire.

Related: 22 fun couples drinking games.

19. Compliment His Adventurousness

As mentioned at the start of this guide, good communication is key to making sure you're both enjoying yourselves and getting what you want from sex.

That said, directly asking for what you want can feel awkward, or worse, cause your partner to clam up defensively (yes, plenty of men carry sensitive egos here!). That can derail your efforts to try new things together.

So if guys can get sensitive and awkward discussing sex, what's the fix? How do you actually open him up?

One great trick is complimenting his adventurousness.

Try sending a message after a fun night together, something like, "Last night was amazing. I love how adventurous you are in the bedroom!"

Send this message even if he wasn't especially adventurous that particular night.

Boosting a man's ego with a message like that has a surprisingly powerful effect. Most guys want to live up to your praise, and they'll genuinely grow more adventurous over time.

And if he's already adventurous, keep complimenting him anyway to reinforce that trait. Texting isn't the only channel here either — compliment him in person, too.

Bottom line: praising his adventurousness and kinkiness is a great way to keep him eager to explore new things with you.

20. A More Indirect Approach

If talking about sex with your partner feels tricky, or he clams up whenever you suggest something new, a more indirect route might work better.

One option is leaving a sex-related book somewhere he'll find it naturally. If he brings it up, ask his thoughts, or whether anything in it appeals to him. You could also read it together and discuss what sounds fun.

21. Watch Porn Together

Another approach is simply asking if he'd like to watch some porn together to spot ideas worth trying.

Plenty of guys will love this idea, while others might feel a bit hesitant.

If your partner seems unsure, the key to comfortable viewing is taking charge and choosing what to watch yourself. Hesitating, or insisting he pick, can get awkward fast. Choosing confidently, without much back-and-forth, keeps things smooth and enjoyable for you both.

Of course, if he's eager to show off his favorites, let him take the lead instead.

As you browse together, chat with him about what you're seeing, asking things like:

• That position looks interesting. Want to try it?
• I love how submissive she is in this scene. I wonder what it'd feel like to submit to you?
• Maybe I should wear something like that next time we have sex — what do you think?

22. Safe Words!

I've mentioned this already, but it deserves repeating.

Safe words are essential whenever you're trying any kinky activity carrying real risk of hurting yourself or your partner. Rather than repeat myself further, check out this section on using a safe word correctly.

23. Even Kinkier Sex

This guide only scratches the surface of what's possible when it comes to hotter, more enjoyable, freakier sex.

There's still plenty more to explore, which is why we built the Kinky Sex List, plus these 40 sexy and freaky things to do with your guy.

You'll also find plenty of ideas for more intense, satisfying sex in my private and discreet Love Curi newsletter.

How to Be Kinkier

By now you've got plenty of concrete examples. But if you're still curious how to become kinkier overall or bring kink into the bedroom generally, here are a few more thoughts.

Kinky media – Expose yourself to kinky content across different media. Books, porn, podcasts, and other sources can all teach you new kinks worth trying, or ways to make your existing favorites even kinkier!

Open up – Don't hold back from sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner. While a partner absolutely isn't required for plenty of kinky activities, you risk growing dissatisfied or resentful if you never get the chance to try something you genuinely want.

Sure, your partner might not love every kink you bring to the table, but you may discover they've got their own wish list, too!

In fact…

Sex researcher Justin Lehmiller has found that plenty of kinky fantasies are remarkably common. BDSM, for instance, showed up as a fantasy for over 90% of both men and women, and more than two-thirds of both genders have fantasized about taboo sex [3]. And when he asked participants about sharing these fantasies with partners, only 15% reported a negative reaction!

Related: The 10 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

Build the ideal safe space for you to explore kink – As mentioned above, a partner isn't a prerequisite for learning to embrace kink. You can try self-bondage, spank or paddle yourself, wear blindfolds or ball gags, work your own nipples, or dress up in kinky costumes, just to name a few. Just keep safety front of mind throughout.

Don't be afraid to push your boundaries – In BDSM, boundaries typically go by limits, split into hard limits you'll never cross and soft limits you can push against and potentially move past. If a particular kink sounds unappealing, ask yourself why. And if you're ready to push a boundary, ease toward it gradually, giving yourself time to grow comfortable before going further.

Create space & time – Give yourself and your partner room to share your own kinky fantasies and figure out exactly what "kinky" means to each of you. Set aside time to discuss your feelings before, during, and after trying something new (remember, communication matters across every type of sex). Share worries, hopes, and any useful information that might improve the experience.

Hint: plenty of guides on Love Curi double as great conversation starters and include the safety information needed to feel relaxed enough to actually get kinky!

Building a safe space for kink also means giving both of you time to process what you're feeling afterward, which can get complicated or uncomfortable. One of you might respond more negatively than the other, or you might discover a fantasy you thought you wanted just didn't land in reality.

Avoid obsession – Finally, try not to fixate on constantly chasing kinky sex. It's easy to assume kinky automatically beats vanilla. But unless kink is truly essential for you to enjoy sex or reach orgasm, both have their place. Focus too heavily on chasing new kinks, and your sex life risks becoming purely goal-driven, or your partner might start feeling inadequate. Just like ice cream, vanilla still has plenty going for it!

Conclusion: The Road To Kinkier Sex

Hopefully all these kinky ideas, tips, and games have shown you what kinky sex really means and helped set you and your partner up for more intense, satisfying sex. Got a kinky idea of your own to share with the Love Curi community? Drop it in the comments below or send it my way in an email.

June 27, 2023