14 Amazing Sex Tips To Spice Up Your Love Life

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Nothing kills a relationship quicker than boredom.

It's far too easy to fall into a rut with your man. Much like work, studying, hitting the gym, or even eating, sex is vital to a good relationship — yet it can still turn routine and dull. Once that sets in, you and your man will start hunting elsewhere for your thrills.

Don't let that happen to your relationship!

While Love Curi will teach you everything you need to keep things sizzling, these 14 sex tips are a great head start on banishing boredom from your relationship and sex life. Here goes:

1. Master Some New Sex Positions

This is the simplest — and one of the most effective — ways to keep things interesting. It's exactly why I built the Sex Positions section of the Love Curi, packed with pictures and detailed breakdowns of over 100 different sex positions.

If your man isn't eager to experiment with new sex positions, you'll have to be the one who takes the lead.

Choose a couple of positions (just 1 or 2) from the sex positions section and file them away for the next time you're in bed with your man. There's no need to announce that you want to try them. Instead, simply move into the position and gently guide him along.

If you've never taken charge in bed before, this might feel a little nerve-wracking at first. But your man will love it. Trust me.

You're best off starting with the easier positions — the ones that don't demand much flexibility and are simple to move into.

2. Explore His Fantasies (And Yours, Too!)

Everybody has sexual fantasies. Everybody!

The trouble is that a lot of people assume their fantasies are weird or a little 'out there'. So they hold back from telling their man out of fear, potential embarrassment, or worry that he'll think they're strange.

Here's the thing — your man is thinking the exact same way!

Which means there may be fantasies or turn-ons you never actually get to live out in reality.

What a shame 🙁

What if you could explore them with someone you truly cared about?

Without any judgment or embarrassment?

In the weeks ahead, I'll walk through tactics and strategies that make sharing your fantasies with your man both easy and fun.

For now, keep these 5 pointers in mind whenever you open up about your fantasies with him.

Begin with the tamest ones first. Then work your way up to the wilder stuff once you're both at ease.
Stay open and welcoming toward his, even the ones you'd never actually try. In other words, don't be judgmental.
Don't push it. If he's not ready to open up, forcing the issue will only make him clam up even further.
Lean on positive reinforcement. When you reward your man for opening up, he'll be more inclined to do it again. Rewarding him is easy — it can be as simple as saying 'cool, I'm kind of into that too'.
Keep it strictly between the two of you.

We've pulled together a list of freaky things to do with your man that makes a great jumping-off point for sharing fantasies…or for dreaming up brand-new ones.

3. Try Being Dominant, Or Exploring Your Submissive Side

In most relationships, one partner tends to be a touch more dominant in bed while the other leans slightly more submissive.

Not in the strict D/S sense of the word, but in the sense that one person is keener to try new things, switch positions, or initiate sex.

A great way to shake things up is to flip your usual role the next time you're in bed with your man.

So if he's normally the one who wants to change position, beat him to the punch and make the change yourself. (and be sure to try some new sex positions while you're at it!)
Maybe he's usually the one who starts things. Why not be the aggressor for once?
Or perhaps you tend to kick off foreplay. Try holding back until he does.

Swapping roles might feel a little awkward at first. But don't worry — your man will be pleasantly surprised! You'll find this dirty talking tutorial video is a great primer on becoming more dominant through talking dirty in a way that builds sexual tension, turns him on and keeps him attracted to you. Enjoy!

4. Pinch His Ass

This is easily the most ridiculous-sounding sex tip you'll ever hear from me. But it genuinely works.

The next time you're saying goodbye to your man, lean in for a kiss and quickly grab his bum. Pinch it, smack it, or just take a handful.

Keep it quick, and don't say a word about it.

And if he asks why you did it, don't explain yourself.

Just give him a smile.

For him it's a bit puzzling, but it's also a clear signal that you're into him and have a naughty side.
Caveat: Don't pull this every single day or even every week. Save it for roughly once a month so it stays fun and flirty.

5. Bring In Sex Toys

Sex toys are wonderful, especially when you're after a little extra spice. There's honestly a sex toy for everything. For him, for her. For his penis, for your clitoris.

Working sex toys into foreplay is perfect for getting each other hot and bothered before sex. They're also great as a substitute for sex, and during sex as well.

But as with every tip you'll read here, my advice is the same: lean on sex toys exclusively and things will inevitably start to turn boring and routine.
Think of sex toys as a spice, not the main course.

In the coming weeks, I'll be adding a whole section on which sex toys work best and how to use them.

6. Hop In The Shower With Him!

This simple sex tip is a lot like pinching his ass. It only stays effective if you use it sparingly.

The next time your man jumps in the shower, slip in after him a minute later. From there, you've got a choice of what to do:

You could do nothing more than wash him. It's surprisingly sexy!
You could give him a blowjob. Slide a towel under your knees if you go this route, otherwise they'll get very sore.
You could have sex. Though be warned, shampoo and water tend to wash away your natural lubrication in a hurry 🙁

7. Build The Anticipation

One big reason sex turns dull and boring is that there's no build-up, no anticipation, and no tension leading up to it with your man. It's just routine (for most couples, either every morning or every evening).

To break the monotony, try building anticipation toward something he won't see coming. If you're away on vacation with friends, text your man and let him know how much you miss him (and how horny you are).

Spell out exactly what you plan to do with him once you're back. In detail…

This isn't just a vacation move, either — you can do it the moment you head out for work or school.
Caveat: Like the other sex tips, use this one sparingly, or it'll lose its magic pretty quickly.

8. Dress Up For Him

Dressing up for your man is a simple 'sex' tip. In a way, it ties back to the last one, 'Build The Anticipation'.

When I say "dress up for him", I don't necessarily mean throwing on a costume or wearing something super slutty.

I mean wearing something provocative. Something that makes him look twice. Something that reminds him exactly why he's so into you.

That might be a dress a bit shorter than usual, a low-cut top, or anything that plays up your best features.

9. Watch Porn Together

Hear me out! I completely get it if you hate pornography and want to skip this tip entirely.

There's a stereotype that men love porn and women hate it. It's not really accurate.

Here's a more accurate way to frame the stereotype:

Most women dislike 'conventional' pornography.

What counts as conventional porn? The kind that's degrading to women, where the men treat them like dirt and cum on their faces at the end.

Search a little, though, and you'll come across female-focused porn that's nothing like that at all.

If watching porn with your man still doesn't appeal, please don't feel obligated in the slightest. There are plenty of other sex tips scattered throughout the Love Curi.

10. Ask For Directions

Asking for directions when you really want to sexually satisfy your man — whether you're giving him a blowjob, a handjob, or having sex — is a genuinely smart move if you want to improve fast.

But don't ask him outright.

Don't say:
Is this okay?
I'm not really sure what I'm doing, but I hope you like it.

A better way to 'ask for directions' is to offer him a choice or drop a suggestive statement.

Are you more of a handjob guy or a blowjob guy?

I bet you're the kind of guy who loves having his balls played with…
You strike me as the type who likes being on top and in control…
I can tell you're into doggystyle sex…

Some women find this a breeze, while others find it a bit trickier. But once you start 'asking for directions', you'll quickly uncover what your man enjoys most. And he'll be far more likely to return the favor!

11. Talk Dirty

Talking dirty to your man can be seriously powerful. That's why there's an entire section of the Love Curi dedicated to it, not to mention the potent dirty talking tutorial video I made to bring you up to speed fast. You can watch it here.

Rather than rehash everything that's already in the talking dirty section, you should really just go explore it for yourself.

For anyone unfamiliar with just how powerful dirty talk can be: plenty of women love it because it keeps their man constantly turned on and thinking about them even when they're apart.

12. Learn To Give A Killer Blowjob

Good luck finding a guy who doesn't love a blowjob. That's exactly why I put together an entire instructional video on giving your man an incredible one. I hope you'll check it out here.

13. Keep Expanding Your Sex Repertoire

If you've been with the same guy for a long while, you may have noticed things getting pretty routine in the bedroom.

Some couples are perfectly happy with a routine, but you might be finding that the same 5 'moves' your man relies on are starting to wear thin.

And if you're starting to feel that way, odds are your man feels the same about your 'moves' too.

That's why I built The Love Curi — to hand you a nearly endless database of things you can do in and out of the bedroom to keep your man satisfied.

So I'd really encourage you to actually put the things I'm teaching you here into practice.

14. Steer Clear Of Routine & Boredom

Routine is the ultimate relationship killer. It's the reason so many couples have less sex after they get married — they settle into a routine.

Now, the Love Curi isn't a relationship site, but understand this: boredom will wreck not only your sex life but your relationship too. It's one of the leading reasons couples slowly drift apart and end up cheating on each other.

So if you're serious about keeping both your sex life and your relationship fun, varied, and satisfying, then please make good use of the resources here at the Love Curi.

Here's what you'll find:

The Blog – Constantly updated with the freshest, most interesting content on keeping your man satisfied.
The Best Sex Positions – More than 100 different sex positions, complete with pictures.
How To Give Great Blowjobs – The Blowjob Bible is the best resource you can find on giving your man great oral sex.
How To Talk Dirty – Detailed guidance on exactly what to say to turn your man on.
The Best Sex Tips – Beginner, intermediate, and advanced sex tips.