How To Sit On A Guy's Face: Confidence Tips For Intense Orgasms

This guide covers how to sit on a guy's face, how to make it incredibly kinky, and how to pull it off with total confidence. And if you're a guy who loves having your partner ride your face, we've got tips for you too! Ask plenty of men about their secret fantasy, and face sitting often tops the list (it's also a hugely popular porn category!). Many want a partner to settle onto their face and use it purely for her own pleasure, in a selfish, carnal way. We're conditioned to believe sex should be about giving and selflessness, which explains why plenty of women hesitate here.

But riding your man's face can feel amazing, both physically and mentally. Once the mechanics click, it might quickly become a favorite. Keep reading to master exactly how to ride someone's face!

We've also put together face sitting tips specifically for guys, which you can skip to here.

What's So Great About Face Sitting?

In case the appeal isn't obvious yet, here's why plenty of women love it. He goes down on you, which already feels great — and unlike 69, where your attention splits because you're also pleasuring him, this position puts the entire focus on you.

It can feel powerfully in-control, which meshes beautifully with roleplay. If you're typically the one catering to him, flipping the script by sitting on his face is a natural way to switch things up.

Plenty of men genuinely find being "used" this way appealing, sometimes to the point of a full fetish — so why not take advantage? A healthy sex life means both partners get to explore their most intense sexual fantasies.

Of course, you might have entirely your own reasons for loving this. No judgment here!

But Won't I Squish Him?

One thing that stops plenty of women from enjoying face sitting is the fear of somehow squashing or suffocating him. Here's the truth: this simply doesn't happen. Even a curvier woman paired with a smaller guy isn't going to crush him.

Find whatever position feels comfortable for you both — he can always signal if he needs a breather or can't breathe. Some guys actually enjoy that momentary breathlessness.

The same logic applies to riding him during regular sex, by the way. You are absolutely not going to break him. He'll love watching you take charge. Learn more about confidently being on top of your man during sex.

Is There Special Hygiene for Face Sitting?

There's no strict hygiene checklist required before sitting on a guy's face. Instead, think about what makes you personally feel comfortable during face riding — showering beforehand or shaving your vulva and anal area are both optional extras.

Full guide: How to smoothly shave your vulva and anal area.

Since face riding involves a fair amount of grinding, keeping your anus reasonably clean is worth it — though "squeaky clean" isn't required.

Interestingly, several readers on our site mentioned genuinely enjoying a woman's natural musk or the scent of her sweat and anus during face sitting. For them, it's part of what makes the experience hot! This might surprise some women, but it's worth keeping in your back pocket.

Most women focus on their own hygiene, but a man's grooming matters too. Plenty of women dislike the "beard burn" from stubble while riding a man's face — asking him to shave clean, or wait until his beard softens with length, can make a real difference.

How to Get Him to Agree

Wanting to try face sitting is one thing — bringing it up is another. Before learning the actual technique, getting his enthusiastic yes matters. A few approaches work here.

• If he already goes down on you regularly, simply suggesting a position switch is easy.
• If he's hinted he wants this, you can playfully push him onto the bed (or direct him into position) and settle onto his face yourself.
• He might already be eager to go down on you, even without prior experience with face sitting. Discover how simple it is to get him to go down on you — a little encouragement through hygiene habits, or trading sexual favors, can help too.

Or you could just come out and ask, "Can I sit on your face?" Plenty of guys will say yes without hesitation. He might respond with confusion, or ask what face sitting even is — giving you the perfect opening to explain the appeal, for both of you.

Talking about sex openly is genuinely hard for some people, and that's completely normal. But you still deserve a sex life built around what you actually want and need. Proper sexual communication can get you there while deepening your connection with him.

If performance anxiety or body image worries are holding you back, check out our helpful post about getting rid of sexual anxiety.

How to Sit on a Guy's Face Comfortably

You're both on board, so now for the actual mechanics of getting into position.

1. Have him lie flat on his back first.
2. Get into a rough 69 position setup, knees on either side of his head while staying upright.
3. Lower your vulva, vagina, or anus toward his face by bending your knees and dropping your hips.
4. Tired legs? Rest your hands on the bed or his stomach for support.
5. He can grip your legs to give feedback — pulling you closer for more pressure, or easing you back if he wants less.
6. Facing the opposite direction works too — grab a wall or headboard in front of you for balance if available.

Voila!

He licks. You grind. Everybody wins!

This isn't exactly an elaborate sex position (Read: 31 Crazy Sex Positions You Won't Believe), but finding the exact style that clicks for you two does take a little trial and error.

Alternative Face Sitting Positions

Squatting – Some prefer squatting over kneeling, though it puts more strain on your leg muscles.

Hand Job/Blow Job – Facing his body while queening him opens the door to giving your man an amazing hand job or blow job at the same time.

Dominate Him – Flexible enough? Wrapping your legs around his head takes the dominance factor even further.

Related: 10 Ways to Dominate Your Man

Standing & Kneeling – Not technically "sitting," but standing while he kneels behind you can be a lot of fun. Grab the back of his head and guide it into your vulva or between your cheeks — leaning forward and spreading your legs helps if reaching your clitoris proves tricky for him.

Extra Pillows – Struggling to nail down a comfortable position? A position pillow might help — taller than a standard pillow and made from firm, shape-holding memory foam. These come in especially handy without a headboard, or with one that's awkward to lean against. Look for one tall enough to lean forward on while riding his face; the exact height matters less since it'll compress somewhat under your weight anyway.

Speaking of pillows: Worth experimenting with these 9 sex pillow positions.

Let Him Tap Out When You're Face Sitting

Obviously, he can't keep this going forever, especially if your orgasm takes a while to arrive — nothing wrong with that. Give him an easy way to signal for a break, like a simple tap on your leg.

From there, you can scoot back toward his chest or just pause entirely — whatever works for you.

Do You Need to Cum?

If he needs a rest, your legs are tired, or you've simply had enough, switching to something else entirely is completely fine. Orgasm isn't a requirement for face sitting to feel successful — plenty of guys enjoy a blow job without needing to finish every time. If making him finish during oral is the goal, though, use these 55 blow job techniques.

A small clitoral vibrator can help fill the gap if he's more focused on your vagina than your clit. The anatomy breakdown in this guide on how to finger yourself covers what we mean here. Learn how to use a vibrator.

Depending on your positioning, his fingers can join in too to help you finish. But again — orgasm isn't mandatory for a genuinely good time.

Advanced Face Sitting Tips

If he needs a rest, your legs are tired, or you've simply had enough, switching to something else entirely is completely fine. Orgasm isn't a requirement for face sitting to feel successful — plenty of guys enjoy a blow job without needing to finish every time. If making him finish during oral is the goal, though, use these 19 tips.

A small clitoral vibrator can help fill the gap if he's more focused on your vagina than your clit. The anatomy breakdown here covers what we mean.

Depending on your positioning, his fingers can join in too to help you finish. But again — orgasm isn't mandatory for a genuinely good time.

Let Him Tap Out When You're Face Sitting

Obviously, he can't keep this going forever, especially if your orgasm takes a while to arrive — nothing wrong with that. Give him an easy way to let you know if he needs a breather, like a simple tap on your leg.

From there, you can scoot back toward his chest or just pause entirely — whatever works for you.

How to Dominate Your Man While Sitting On His Face

Part of what makes face sitting so appealing is the built-in power dynamic favoring the woman. If dominating your man in bed is your thing, this position is a natural fit! A few ideas to try:

• Refuse to get up from his face until he makes you cum.
• Pinch his nipples.
• Slap his penis.
• Pin his arms down with your knees.
• Tie him to the bed or cuff him before settling onto his face — under-the-bed restraints work particularly well since he'll end up in a spread-eagle position.
• Make him "clean" your vulva or anus with his tongue on command.
• Use face sitting itself as either a reward, if he loves it, or something to withhold as punishment.
• Make him beg for the privilege of your sitting on his face.
• Try a few more femdom sex positions too.

Pick just one or two of these to try per session — attempting all of them at once can turn overwhelming fast, and it might not even be feasible.

How Does Queening Relate to Face Sitting?

Some enthusiasts love face sitting enough to invest in furniture built specifically for it. This piece typically resembles a chair or even a throne, hence the term "queening" — but with a hole or slice cut into the seat. He lies or sits face-up beneath it while you settle or squat over the opening above. Then the oral fun begins.

Not everyone can justify pricey sex furniture, or has room for it. That said, a DIY version using regular furniture or sex pillows can get you close enough. And if a chance to try genuine queening furniture at a public play space ever comes up, it's worth taking!

Face Sitting Tips for Men

First off, convincing a woman to sit on your face doesn't have to be a hard sell! Plenty of women secretly hope their partner is into the idea, worried he'll think he's suffocating them (when that's exactly the appeal)!

So speak up. Say, "I want you to ride my face." Tell her how much you love it when she does, and you'll likely find yourself in that position far more often.

As a guy, lying back while she takes the lead might feel unfamiliar — but face sitting hands you exactly that opportunity. So what's your role?

Eat Her Pussy – Mostly, this means doing oral to the best of your ability. Keep in mind you may be approaching her clitoris from an "upside-down" angle, so adjust your mouth positioning accordingly.

Since she'll likely be grinding and humping on her own, perfect technique matters less than genuine enthusiasm here. She'll probably love hearing your muffled moans too.

Breathing Issues – Breathing can get genuinely tricky if she's especially enthusiastic or has a fuller build. Tap out for a breather whenever needed — otherwise, holding her hands or wrapping yours around her thighs works well, depending on how restrained you are.

Don't forget your nose and chin can pitch in too. If she's into it, licking her cheeks and anus is fair game as well! Our Analingus Guide covers plenty more on this.

Face Sitting As A Man – What about flipping the roles? Less common, but entirely doable. Kneeling or squatting over your girlfriend in a similar setup can let her suck your cock or stimulate your balls, and your anus is fair game for her attention too — via tongue or fingers to stimulate your prostate. Returning the favor by shaving beforehand is a nice touch.

Done right, face sitting delivers for both partners!

Frequently Asked Questions About Face Sitting

FAQ #1 – What do you do with your hands during face sitting?

As the woman, you can reach down to hold his hands or pin his arms or legs. Leaning forward against a headboard or wall works too if you're facing away from him, or resting a hand on the bed, chest, stomach, or hips works if you're facing him.

The partner underneath has far less freedom of movement, though grabbing her hands or legs is usually still an option.

Giving each other ongoing feedback is really the key to figuring out what clicks for both of you.

FAQ #2 – What if he can't breathe?

Work out a signal beforehand so he can flag when he genuinely needs a breather. Otherwise, you'll likely spend the whole time distracted, worrying about his breathing. Tapping out, or dropping a held object, both work well since he can't exactly speak while you're seated on his face.

FAQ #3 – Can you be too big to face sit?

Plenty of women worry about genuinely hurting or suffocating their partner, even those who are only slightly curvy! Rest assured, hurting him is unlikely, especially with a clear signal in place for when he needs a break. Society tends to shame women outside a thin ideal, but there's zero need for that here — for a lot of men, the "struggle" of face sitting is actually part of what makes it hot!

November 2, 2020