40 Wild & Freaky Things To Try With Your Boyfriend

Maybe vanilla sex is your comfort zone, but how wild does your sex life actually get? Below are 40 kinky and sexy ideas to try with your man, whether you're looking to spice things up in bed or just want to show him a wilder side of yourself!

As always with our sex advice, get your partner's enthusiastic, freely-given consent before trying anything!

Before jumping into all the freaky ideas you can try on your partner, a quick heads-up:

It can be amazing – A lot of these wild ideas can lead to some of the hottest, dirtiest sex you've ever had, particularly if you and your partner communicate openly and know each other well (our Love Curi guide to sexual communication can help if you need pointers).

That said…

It can also feel off – A few of these ideas are riskier bets, so you really do need to discuss them ahead of time to make sure you're both on board…

Trust your gut – Rely on good judgment. If you suspect your boyfriend could react badly or feel disrespected, hold off on trying any of these until you've talked it through.

With that covered, let's get into the dirty details of what you can try with your boyfriend!

1. Blow Job While Restrained

Giving your man oral while he's tied up ranks among the freakiest moves you can pull in the bedroom.

Begin by tying him down. There's no shortage of ways to restrain your partner:

• Have him lie face-up on the bed and bind his wrists and ankles in a spread-eagle position.
• You could also tie him up while kneeling. This posture is a bit more submissive and gives less away about what's coming. The downside is you'll need to kneel too in order to reach him.
• Restraining him standing is another route, and it leaves his penis fully accessible to your mouth. Try cuffing his wrists behind his back.
• A blindfold ramps up the intensity even further.
• Try out these 55 intense blow job techniques to really blow his mind.

We've also put together a thorough bondage guide for beginners that's worth checking out if you want to take this further.

2. Finishing With Deep Throat

If deep throating isn't already part of your regular routine, your man will be thrilled if you bring it out occasionally. Try deep throating him right as he's about to finish — it feels incredible for him!

No need to stress: deep throating lets cum slide right down your throat, avoiding much of the taste or texture that lingers if you try to spit instead.

Bonus: Easy tips for swallowing his cum.

3. Snowballing

Looking for something even wilder than deep throating? Give snowballing a shot.

This kinky move involves catching your partner's cum in your mouth, then kissing him so you can pass it into his mouth with your tongue.

Fair warning: not everyone's into this, so it might not land well.

4. Nipple Play

Women are usually pretty used to partners playing with their breasts and nipples, but men often miss out on this.

That's unfortunate, since male nipples can be surprisingly sensitive. If you already know this about your guy and want to ramp things up or catch him off guard, try pinching, squeezing, and toying with his nipples as he orgasms.

If a gentle pinch doesn't do much for him, consider nipple clamps.

Related: 15 Intense Techniques for Nipple Orgasms

5. Anal Fingering

Another freaky move to try on your guy is fingering his anus. Besides being an inherently kinky act for most, anal play can stimulate the male G-Spot, unlocking new sensations and stronger orgasms for him.

You can reach around and finger his anus while giving him head, or even during penetrative sex (this can work in Missionary). That said, plenty of guys aren't comfortable with this, so talk it over before diving in.

6. Spanking

Add a bit of spanking into foreplay or sex to gauge his reaction, or just give him a playful smack around the house the way he might do to you.

Start light with gentle spanks and work your way up to something more intense.

If spanking your husband feels unfamiliar territory, don't sweat it. We've written a full guide to impact play (spanking included) to get you started!

7. Swallow, Then Lick Your Lips

After swallowing your man's cum, run your tongue over your lips like you're savoring the moment.

He'll find it freaky — and seriously hot!

8. Negotiating Orgasms

This might not top the list for wildness, but it's a blast!

Tell your guy he doesn't get to finish until you've come — maybe more than once!

Choose a number that's realistic if you're feeling generous, or one that's a stretch if you're not. Then lie back and let him get to work.

Go further: These 9 orgasm denial games will help you dig deeper into this idea.

9. Anal Exploration

We already touched on fingering his backside above, but there's more you can do down there. Here are three more ideas:

• Rimming – also called eating ass or anilingus (48 tips on eating ass)
• Prostate massage – use a butt plug, a finger, or another anal toy to stimulate the prostate
• Strap-on play, aka pegging, which lets you feel dominant while giving him prostate pleasure

10. Watching Porn Together

For some couples, watching porn together barely registers as freaky.

For others, it's a genuine boundary-pusher.

Beyond being arousing, porn can spark new ideas to try in bed. You could even mimic what's on screen while you watch!

Just make sure you pick something you both actually enjoy.

11. Tease and Denial

Tease and denial games can be a blast for both partners! The goal is to work your man up with sexy words and actions.

Then you withhold the payoff of orgasm — maybe by stopping stimulation entirely, tying his hands down, or locking him in a cock cage!

Check out 7 tease and denial games for more inspiration!

12. Sex Toys

The beauty of using sex toys together is you can crank up the intensity with more unusual or extreme options. Beyond the prostate toys, nipple clamps, and strap-ons already mentioned, there are also cock rings, dual stimulators, collars, and floggers worth exploring.

There's even electrostimulation gear if you're feeling adventurous.

While some toys serve one specific purpose, others are far more flexible. For instance, your partner might love it when you trail a vibrator over his nipples, cock, or balls. Using a vibrator on someone who's tied up — even post-orgasm, when it's almost too much — can be a fun and kinky thing to try.

For women: How to use a vibrator for intense orgasms.

13. Crossdressing

A less common but freaky idea is having your guy crossdress. This could be as simple as putting him in your panties (or women's underwear sized for him). Or...

You could go all out with a full costume, makeup, and wig.

Unless he's already into this, it might feel a bit mortifying for him — which is exactly what makes it fun for you! If this turns you on, you might also enjoy sissification.

14. Sucking Toes

Toe-sucking is one of those freaky acts you've probably heard whispers about. For some reason, it feels amazing to certain people. It can scratch the itch of a foot fetish or fit neatly into power-play scenes.

15. Golden Showers

Everything else on this list pales next to this one, making it the pick if you want a truly no-limits bedroom experience!

In case you're unfamiliar, a golden shower is when one partner urinates on the other. Since it gets messy, a waterproof sheet or sex blanket comes in handy. The shower or tub is an easy setting since cleanup is minimal.

Related: Try these 12 hot sex positions in the shower.

16. Reading Erotica Together

Not into porn? Or maybe you've seen it all and it's lost its edge. Either way, reading sexy stories to each other is a hot alternative! Here are a few ways to start.

• Take turns reading the same story aloud and talk about what you enjoyed.
• Pull passages from different stories and read them to each other.
• Write your own stories and share them out loud.

Feeling shy? Start by reading silently to yourselves and chatting about it afterward, or trade stories without reading them aloud at all.

Looking for steamy stories to read about people having incredible sex? Check out these 31 true sex stories that will turn you on.

17. Phone Sex

Phone sex hits so many marks at once. It's masturbation, dirty talk, storytelling, and a mix of exhibitionism and voyeurism. With no visuals, your imagination has to do the heavy lifting. Still, hearing your partner's voice feels remarkably intimate.

Try describing what you're doing to yourself, what you'd do to your partner (or want done to you) if you were together (our dirty talk guide can help), or share other sexual fantasies and memories.

Read more: How to Have Phone Sex

The best part of phone sex is you don't have to stick to the truth. Instead of admitting you're in an old t-shirt, you could describe lacy lingerie or a location you're nowhere near.

18. Sexting

Phone sex isn't always convenient, but sexting works pretty much anytime. Sending a racy message — maybe with a steamy photo attached — is a great way to surprise your boyfriend. It'll feel especially freaky to him if it's not something you usually do!

Start things off with some of these sexy text messages.

19. Role Play

Among freaky ideas, role play might sound mild at first glance. But it can get seriously intense depending on how far you take it. Stick with classics like teacher and student, or dive into more niche fantasies.

Keep in mind sexual role play doesn't need to happen at home. Why not "meet" as strangers at a hotel bar and slide over your room key before heading up for some hotel sex?

Some couples even enjoy role-playing forced sex or kidnapping scenarios, which might feel like too much for some people. But it's there for those craving something wilder!

Explore: The world of "forced" sex and consensual non-consent can be surprisingly hot.

20. Femdom

If taking charge appeals to you, you'll probably enjoy being the dominant partner in bed. A lot of ideas on this list slot naturally into femdom play. But there's a whole world of freaky ideas beyond that! We've got 30+ femdom ideas here you can combine with these dominant phrases to say to your partner.

Remember, domination doesn't have to mean extreme or sadistic play. Love Curi's guide to gentle femdom and intro to sensual domination both focus on the caring, loving side of taking control!

21. Body Modification

From tattoos to branding to piercings, body modification is undeniably a freaky avenue to explore with your partner. It can signal ownership or just add something a little embarrassing to your partner's body.

Some couples go the DIY route as part of their BDSM or kink lifestyle, though hiring a pro helps ensure safety.

Not every modification is permanent, either. Piercings close up over time. You could also shave, style, or trim your partner's hair (on the head, body, or pubic area) to make a statement.

22. Ruined Orgasms

Few things beat a powerful orgasm, which is exactly why ruining one can be such a deliciously nasty move.

There are two main routes to a ruined orgasm: cutting off pleasurable stimulation the instant your partner climaxes, or introducing painful stimulation at that exact moment. Some people pinch or slap the penis for this effect.

Related: Slapping during sex 101.

Ruining an orgasm is perfect if you've got a sadistic streak. Tie your partner up first, and he won't be able to stop you!

More: How to give ruined orgasms.

23. Urethral Sounding

This kinky, jaw-dropping practice involves inserting a thin rod — usually glass or metal — into the urethra. Yes, up the penis! Some men are genuinely into this sensation, and some partners are happy to explore it together.

24. Car Sex

For plenty of people, car sex is a youthful rite of passage. For others, it's a kinky thrill no matter their age! It's also practical if you lack privacy elsewhere and don't want to book a hotel.

It can also crank up the heat if you're into outdoor sex or public settings. The thrill of possibly getting caught is irresistible for some. There's even dogging, an especially wild scene where couples have sex in or around their cars while others watch.

These car sex tips and positions can boost your chances of a good time behind the wheel.

25. Erotic Art

If you'd rather skip the messier stuff, sex art is a memorable freaky activity to try with your guy, especially since you'll walk away with a physical keepsake.

Kits are available with canvas, non-toxic paint, and a drop cloth. Coat the canvas — or your bodies — in paint, then get grinding and rolling to create a completely unique piece you can display anywhere without anyone knowing its origin!

Plus, you'll both need a shower afterward, which sets you up nicely for some steamy shower sex.

26. Cuckold Role Play

Cuckolding describes a man getting turned on by his girlfriend or wife sleeping with someone else. Sometimes he watches and even masturbates during it. Other times, his partner simply tells him about her experiences or fantasies afterward.

Cuckolding is one of those freaky concepts most people wouldn't actually act out. Still, you can experience a version of it through role play. An example of cuckold roleplay would be...

Telling your partner you've been with someone else, so now you need condoms for safety. Or use a dildo and pretend it belongs to another man, especially useful if you're on the phone, texting, or on video together.

Flip the script, and you're exploring cuckqueaning instead.

Related: Guide to cuckqueaning.

27. Custom Sex Toys

You may have come across Clone-A-Willy, a company offering a fun, dirty project for couples. Their signature kit lets you cast a mold of your partner's penis to create a matching dildo.

They also sell a pussy-cloning kit that produces a masturbator shaped like your vulva!

You can use these toys solo when your partner's away — or together for a pseudo-threesome vibe.

28. Face Sitting

Face sitting is one of those freaky moves worth trying at least once. You get oral pleasure and full control at the same time.

While it's natural to worry about accidentally hurting your partner, that's rarely an issue. In fact, giving up control is exactly what draws some people to being underneath during face sitting!

Full Guide: How to sit on a guy's face.

29. Mirrors

Walk into a bedroom with mirrors covering the ceiling, and you instantly know that person's into something freaky!

You don't need a full renovation, though. A cheap floor-length mirror propped against a wall near your bed often does the job. If the height's right, a tabletop mirror on your dresser might work too.

Just watch out for knocking it over!

In-depth: How to have great mirror sex.

30. Threesomes or Group Sex

This freaky idea isn't for everyone, but if bringing another person — or people — into your bedroom sounds hot to you, it's a chance to create a wild memory none of you will forget.

We've even got advice on how to have a threesome that's hot and jealousy-free.

31. Wax Play

Wax play might sound extreme, but it's actually tamer than most people assume.

Candles made specifically for BDSM wax play melt at low temperatures, so there's little risk of hurting your partner while creating fun wax patterns on their skin.

You can also hold the candle further away to give the wax extra time to cool before it lands.

32. Pet Names

Giving your boyfriend a pet name is usually a sweet gesture. But it can also turn sexy if you go with something naughty or reserve the name for sex only. You could even give his penis its own nickname.

33. Filming It

Why not capture the dirty stuff you get up to together on camera? Knowing you're being recorded adds a real thrill, even if you never watch the footage back. Plus, setting the scene and choosing props can be its own kind of fun for creative types!

34. Exhibitionism

Exhibitionism means being watched during a sexual moment. Not everyone wants strangers involved, but it can be a hot dynamic with just your partner!

Start by "letting" your partner catch you touching yourself in the shower or bedroom. Or be more direct and invite them to watch you masturbate solo. You could also give him a lap dance or perform a striptease for him. Either way, you'll have his complete attention!

Or flip it and have your lover perform for you if you're more into watching than being watched.

35. Remote-Controlled Play

Who hasn't fantasized about controlling a toy tucked into their partner's underwear — or having it done to them? Plenty of remote-controlled toys make this a reality.

Handing over control in real life isn't quite as smooth as in the movies, though. Before trying it in public or away from home, test it out beforehand to learn its limits — how far apart you can be, how the app or remote works (many require pairing with your phone), and whether clothing or positioning might interfere.

Keep your expectations grounded — maybe pick a toy you'll enjoy in other settings too — and you'll have fun with this classic idea. And if public play isn't your thing, remote-controlled toys work just as well at home in complete privacy.

36. Choking

Among nasty ideas, choking ranks near the top! It does carry real risk, so it's fine if you'd rather skip it. But you can check our guide to choking during sex to see if it's something you'd want to explore.

37. Try A New Venue

If you're feeling bold, step outside your comfort zone into a space built for it. Consider:

• Checking out a BDSM dungeon
• Booking a professional dominatrix to top your partner — and teach you a thing or two!
• Taking a class through a local sex shop, educator, or kink group
• Attending a burlesque show, BDSM demo, or fetish event where you can watch plenty of wild things before heading home to devour each other

Double-check any dress codes or entry policies beforehand!

38. Piercings

Getting pierced doesn't automatically make it dirty. But it can definitely turn sexy if you're talking about clitoral piercings or nipple piercings.

If you go for it, book with an experienced piercer and stick to the aftercare instructions, even if that means holding off on nipple or clitoral play until you're fully healed. Following the rules now saves bigger headaches later.

39. Under The Table

If your partner's seated eating or working, surprise him by sliding under the table, unzipping his pants, and going down on him. You don't strictly need a table for this, but it does add pressure for him to try to stay focused on whatever he's doing.

Note – Tempting as it might be to try this during a call, getting caught could bring real professional or legal fallout tied to harassment concerns.

40. Tech-Enabled Sex

Our final idea works especially well for long-distance couples or anytime you're apart.

Modern tech lets you control your partner's sex toy from any distance using a phone app.

Still craving more ideas? Browse this massive list of kinks and fetishes for inspiration.

That's a whole lot of freaky ideas to try — or at least bring up with your boyfriend. What are you waiting for? Go unleash your wild side!

March 24, 2023