7 Orgasm Tease And Denial Games For Wilder, Bigger Finishes

Has your sex life turned into the same routine of undressing, having sex, and finishing with zero variety? Tease and denial games crank up sexual tension, leaving you feeling powerful and him (or you) begging for release. Here's how to deny orgasm after working him into a total frenzy!

Does teasing and denial sound a little silly to you? Maybe the appeal just isn't obvious yet. There's definitely something satisfying about instant gratification, but teasing has its own rewards. For one, it builds serious sexual tension. When your man teases you relentlessly without letting you finish, you won't be able to think of anything else until you finally get to orgasm.

That same tension is part of why sex with someone new feels so electric, especially after a long wait. Or think about how incredible it feels reuniting with your man after time apart — every touch registers as more intense, and the orgasm that eventually follows is next level.

We're also fans of teasing and orgasm denial because of how creative you can get with it. From the props you can bring in (more on that shortly) to the activities that pair well with teasing, you've got endless room to build a scene so hot he'll be putty in your hands.

Teasing Your Man: The Basics

We won't rehash every detail of teasing your man here since we've already covered it in depth elsewhere — go ahead and check it out. But here's the quick version if you're eager to start teasing and denying him (or having him do the same to you) right away.

• Dress to impress and show him exactly what he's missing, without letting him touch. Take it further by stripping in front of him (need pointers? Read our advice). Slow and deliberate wins here — work in a lap dance and he'll lose his mind.
• Snap a photo and send it while you're both at work, fire off a steamy text, leave a sultry voicemail, or even squeeze in some phone sex during his lunch break.
• Give him an "accidental" flash — skip the panties on your way to dinner, or let a nip slip as you step out of the shower.
• Masturbate in front of him. He'll be desperate to touch, and that's exactly where you say no.
• Brush against him as you pass by, let your hand linger dangerously close to his crotch while cuddling, or lean in so your breasts graze him. Trust us, he'll notice.
• Kick off a quick makeout session or oral sex, then stop before it's finished. Get his engine revving without letting him take off.

Props That Work Well For Tease And Denial

These items pair especially well with orgasm denial and the teasing that precedes it. Use this as a starting point, or come up with your own twist.

• Blindfolds ramp up anticipation beautifully. Your partner has no idea where, when, or with what you'll touch him next. If you've never tried one before, ease into it during regular sex first to get comfortable. It sounds simple, but blindfolds genuinely transform the experience.
• Nothing teases quite like a vibrator. If your man is the one running the show, he can bring you right to the edge with your favorite toy and pull back just before you tip over.
• A remote-controlled vibrator is technically still a vibrator, but it earns its own mention because it's uniquely effective for keeping someone hovering right at the brink of orgasm.
• Chastity devices might feel a little (or very) old-school, but they're practically built for tease and denial. Cock cages work for men, while women can choose from modern chastity belts that look more like dildo harnesses than the old-fashioned versions.
• Bondage gear is another great denial tool. Cuffs and other restraints keep your partner from taking matters into his own hands (bondage tips), which brings us to our next point.

How Orgasm Denial Connects To BDSM

If you suspect teasing and denial fit naturally into BDSM (more on that here), you'd be right! Power exchange runs through both BDSM and teasing games alike. Withholding your man's orgasm puts all the power in your hands.

Related: 6 Wild BDSM Games to Keep Things Hot

Or maybe you're the one who likes handing over control in the bedroom. Read more about being submissive — in that case, your man decides whether you get to orgasm. Whichever direction you go, start with these BDSM basics.

Quick note: safety always matters when tying someone up or engaging in erotic pain play. Learn more about BDSM safety.

Understanding Denial Itself

At its simplest, orgasm denial just means withholding orgasm from your partner or yourself. Not much more explanation needed there.

Some people take it a step further and aim for ruined orgasms instead. A ruined orgasm happens when the orgasm itself gets physically undercut. For men, that typically means stimulating almost to the point of no return, then abruptly cutting off all stimulation. He may still climax, but it won't feel the same.

Related: Ruined Orgasm – What It Is, How To Give One & Why Guys Like Them

Another approach involves pinching the head of his penis to dull the intensity of his orgasm.

Tease And Denial Games To Try

These orgasm denial games are great for stretching out the teasing and doling out fitting consequences. Some let your man earn his orgasm, while others are far less forgiving. And several of these will get you off in the process too!

1. Coin Flip

Will luck be on your side? A simple coin toss decides whether your partner (or you) gets to finish. Bad luck means a whole night of teasing that ends in denial. Good luck means you get your orgasm after all.

You can achieve the same effect with a single die or an app — odd numbers mean "yes," even numbers mean "no." Or repurpose a classic game like Yahtzee: land five-of-a-kind within three rolls, and he earns his release.

2. Task Master

If leaving things to chance isn't your style, assign a task instead. One popular version hands your partner 10 pennies, one per finger, which he has to hold against his body while standing as you do something devious, like performing oral sex. Drop a penny, and his orgasm gets denied — for now, anyway.

Complete the task successfully, though, and he earns his own reward.

This task is easy to customize. A few alternatives:

• Reading aloud from a book without pausing or stumbling
• Reciting a poem, a recipe, prime numbers, or the alphabet
• Holding something fragile
• Counting spankings (Read: All About Erotic Spanking), thrusts, or similar
• Maintaining eye contact while one or both of you masturbates

Get as creative as you want here. Any task demanding concentration and physical stillness works well.

Success earns him the payoff of orgasm. Failure means nothing at all — and you can escalate with an additional punishment if you're feeling extra devious.

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3. Red Light, Green Light

The classic playground game translates surprisingly well to tease and denial. One partner controls the signal — green means stimulation continues, red means it stops immediately.

He's only allowed to finish during a green light, or he's in trouble! If the game ends before he manages to get off at all, he'll just have to wait until next time.

4. Getting You Off First

This one only rewards your partner if he successfully gets you off first. Pick your preferred method (fingers, a toy, thrusting, oral, whatever works), and let him get to work. If he brings you to orgasm within a set window, he earns his own release too. Want more denial built in? Add a coin toss to determine his odds even after he succeeds.

And if he strikes out completely? No orgasm tonight — and none tomorrow either.

5. Time's Up

Set a timer, most likely on your phone, and tell your man he can finish if he manages it before time runs out. Raise the difficulty by dictating how he has to get there — his non-dominant hand, an unusual object like a feather, no hands at all, or purely through anal stimulation.

6. Stroking Games

Most of us know the classic movie drinking games, where a specific line or catchphrase triggers a shot. Swap those shots for sexual acts, like manual or oral stimulation, but with a twist: set a time limit on the act, whether it's a fixed duration or tied to when the movie or show wraps up.

A spicier variation involves porn instead — rather than watching for specific cues, mirror whatever's happening on screen in real time. Don't get too comfortable, though, since you'll need to switch things up whenever the action does (and that's usually often). Miss the chance to orgasm alongside the actor(s), and you're out of luck.

7. Scrabble Tiles

Grab a bag of Scrabble tiles and settle in for the whole night. Here's how it works.

Every time he gets you off, he earns a tile. Once he can spell a word worth 20 points, he's finally allowed to orgasm. But if he can't form a word, or fails to notice when he already could (no hints allowed!), he's denied despite all that teasing.

Reset the game daily if you're feeling especially devious, or let him bank tiles over a longer stretch if multiple orgasms aren't realistic for you or time is tight — that gives him an easier path, though it might mean waiting a while before he finally gets his turn.

More Questions About Tease And Denial, Answered

Q: How long should a tease and denial session run?

A: It really depends on the specific game. Timed challenges deliver shorter bursts of stimulation, while you could realistically tease your man on and off for hours if you've got the time. As the Scrabble game shows, this can even stretch across days or weeks if you're feeling particularly wicked!

The key is keeping him engaged without letting boredom set in — that's the line you'll need to walk carefully.

Q: How does edging factor into all this?

Edging means bringing someone close to orgasm and pulling back repeatedly before finally letting go. The eventual release is intense! Tease and denial games might not always deliver an immediate payoff, but the underlying concept is the same.

Learn more about edging.

Q: Are there tools that can help?

A: Definitely! Sites like Edge Me Please (http://edgemeplease.com) let you build custom edging sessions, which you can turn into an orgasm denial game for yourself or your partner.

Q: Can this work without a partner?

A: Here at Love Curi, we're always in favor of getting comfortable with masturbation, and tease and denial adapts easily into a solo activity. It's admittedly simpler with a partner, but tools like Edge Me Please, self bondage, and a simple coin toss can get you plenty worked up on your own. Just remember, if the timer runs out first or the coin doesn't land in your favor, there's no orgasm for you tonight!

Mastering tease and denial takes finding the right balance, but once you do, you're both in for an unforgettable time. He might even start begging you for more denial games!

November 10, 2020