Sucking Cock Like A Pornstar: 29 Powerful Techniques To Master

There's a real gap between giving your man plain oral sex and truly sucking his cock. Oral sex tends to be a warm, sensual experience for him, while sucking his dick is rawer, hungrier, and far less restrained…and that hungrier energy is exactly what this guide is built around, showing you how to go down on him with wild, uninhibited enthusiasm.

This page is Chapter 5 of the Blow Job Guide, and it walks you through everything you need to know to suck cock in a way that leaves your man convinced you must have been a pornstar in a former life.

If you'd rather build up to it with gentler techniques first, start with Chapter 1, which gives you the full overview of a great blow job, then move on to Chapter 2 to learn the fundamentals of cock sucking. Once you've got that down, check out Chapter 3 for 55 mind-blowing cock sucking techniques, and Chapter 4 picks the tutorial back up with tips for finishing him off properly.

Now, let's dive into this stage of the tutorial and cover how to suck dick in a way that leaves your man completely breathless.

Rule #1 – Seize The Initiative

The first rule of sucking cock like a pornstar is being willing to take charge and start blowing him without waiting to be asked. There are several reasons this works so well.

You know that feeling when your man can't keep his hands off you, like he simply "has to have you"? Being wanted by someone who's lost control around you is irresistibly hot. He gets that exact same rush of being desired the moment you take the lead and start sucking him off out of nowhere. Use that to your advantage.

Related: 9 Ways to Initiate Sex

There's also the power and pleasure a lot of women find in going down on their man. One study found that over 30% of women enjoy the sense of power that comes with sucking cock [1], while another study reported that 28% of women find giving oral sex to be genuinely pleasurable in itself [2]. If you already get a charge out of that power and pleasure, that's yet another reason to make the first move.

Here are a few ways you can take charge and initiate sucking your man's cock:

BJ Surprise – Say you're both parked on the couch watching TV. When he's not expecting anything, snuggle up next to him and start rubbing his crotch through his pants to get him hard, then pull his pants down and go down on him.

Road Head – Next time he's driving you home after dark, try the same move. Massage his testicles through his trousers, then unzip him and give him some road head. Just be careful you're not breaking any local laws! This works just as well if you're both in the backseat of a friend's car 😉

Morning Wood – If you wake up before your man on a lazy Sunday, surprise him with a wake-up blow job. Discover more ways to have fun morning sex.

Planning a little ahead of time helps a lot if you want to wake him up this way. Above all, consider sleeping naked together (learn the benefits of sleeping naked), since it removes a big obstacle. Otherwise you risk waking him while wrestling off his pajamas or briefs and blowing the surprise.

Once his pants are off, quietly make your way down to his groin, then simply take him into your mouth and suck him the way you normally would.

One tip for a morning blow job: go softer and slower than usual. That way he wakes up gradually…or he might even finish before he's fully conscious, giving him a completely new kind of experience.

Note: it's worth discussing a morning blow job with your man beforehand rather than just surprising him. Otherwise he might be startled when he wakes up to it, which could cause an accidental injury, or he might simply be one of the rare guys who'd prefer not to be woken this way.

Rule #2 – Raw, Animalistic Enthusiasm

The next key to sucking his cock in a way that truly blows him away is bringing an almost insatiable, animal-like level of enthusiasm to it.

Most men rank this kind of enthusiasm as the single most important thing you can bring to the bedroom [3].

One Redditor described being told that the "main factor" behind the quality of her blow jobs was simply that she enjoyed giving them [4]. Other commenters agreed that this kind of enthusiasm is "at least 50% of what makes a blowjob good."

I go deeper into why enthusiasm is such a vital ingredient of a satisfying blow job in Chapter 1 here, but to drive the point home, try picturing this scenario…

Your man hasn't seen you in almost a week, and you're waiting for him at your place. The second he opens the door and spots you, he rushes over and pulls you into his arms, kissing you harder than he ever has before.

He doesn't stop there — he scoops you up, carries you to the bedroom, rips your clothes off, and takes you completely. You don't want him to stop for a second, and honestly, even if you tried, you probably couldn't, because he's running purely on instinct now. There's no room for a single rational thought in his head — just testosterone and lust.

There's something incredibly hot about that kind of unfiltered passion. Now flip it around: when you're the one acting purely on lust, attacking his cock with that same animalistic hunger, you can create an experience that blows past anything he ever imagined. Even without a single new position or trick, that energy alone can turn a flat sex life into an electric one.

Keep in mind that if you seem unsure of yourself or constantly fish for reassurance while sucking him off, it can kill the heat for him. Luckily, dirty talk is a great way to gauge his reaction without breaking the mood, which brings us to…

Rule #3 – Talk Filthy To Him

Another way to make the whole experience feel unforgettable for your man is talking dirty while you suck him off. The Dirty Talking Guide covers exactly what to say and how to say it in depth, but here are a few pointers specifically for talking dirty while going down on him…

Tell Him What's Coming – Even before you're together, you can start building anticipation by getting into his head. If you're texting or calling, hint that you've got something planned for later — but stay vague enough that he keeps guessing.

If you're messaging him (get other ideas for sexy text messages), try something like, "I've got a little surprise waiting for you later!" or "I've had you on my mind — and my lips — all day, can't wait to see you!" or even "Clear your evening. I need to see you."

Tell Him How Turned On You Are – This works great both beforehand and once you're together. Calling works, but texting is usually easier. Try lines like, "Ugh, I can't wait for this day to be over, I'm way too worked up to be sitting at this desk," or "All I can think about right now is wrapping my lips around your cock."

Tell Him How Much You're Enjoying It – Once you've built anticipation and have him practically begging for your mouth on him, it's time to use dirty talk to make the blow job itself hotter. Let him know how much you're loving it and how turned on sucking him is making you. A few examples:

"I love feeling your cock in my mouth!"
"I want to feel you explode and cum all over my face."
"Having your dick in my mouth is making me so f**king wet!"
"I want to feel you throb in my mouth right when you cum!"
"I want to be on my knees for you every single day."

If you're not confident in your technique yet, showing that kind of enthusiasm through dirty talk can turn an okay blow job into a genuinely hot one.

You can whisper these lines in his ear right before you start, or drop them in partway through. There's more on dirty talk phrasing in Chapter 2 and Chapter 3 of the Dirty Talking Guide.

Use Dirty Talk To Check In – If you've already been through Chapter 4 of the Blow Job Guide, you've covered the basics and know how important communication is here. Some couples avoid talking about sex openly because it feels awkward.

Dirty talk can actually make that feedback loop easier.

How?

Just ask whether he likes what you're doing or wants more. You can even offer him a choice between two techniques and let his answer guide you toward what he prefers.

Putting Your Head In His Hands

One powerful way to raise the intensity is letting your man take control by holding your head, while your own hands stay at your sides or even bound behind your back. Learn more kinky sex ideas here and some BDSM ideas here.

Once he's calling the shots, he can control both the pace and the depth. That's fantastic if you enjoy handing over full control, but less fun if you have a sensitive gag reflex — unless, of course, you don't mind the possibility of gagging hard partway through.

Some people describe this as skull-fucking or face-fucking when your man is fully in charge and using your mouth, especially if he's aggressive about it, but it's really just another form of submission — a way of handing him the power.

One Redditor put it this way: she loves face fucking because "that feeling of your throat being entirely filled up with a hard cock and not gagging is absolutely amazing [5]."

If handing over control turns you on, and you trust your man enough to know he won't push too fast or too deep, then guiding your head into his hands and letting him take charge can be genuinely thrilling for both of you.

Related: Discover How to Be More Submissive to Your Man

That said, don't dive in blind. If you like this idea but feel nervous about having your hands restrained and giving up control entirely, hold a small bell in your hand instead. Think of it as a stand-in for a safe word, which obviously won't work with his cock in your mouth.

Ring the bell whenever you need him to stop or ease off. It's essential that you talk this through with him beforehand.

Alternatively, he could tie your wrists loosely with thread, something you could snap free of easily if you needed to.

Even if you're eager to try this, proceed carefully. Let him know if you want to build up to it gradually across a few sessions, or save it for the very end of the session.

One Redditor warns that you "should NOT do this until you feel you have begun to master the basics of deepthroating, because your muscles will NOT have gotten used to the action and you WILL bruise your throat [6]."

Flip The Script: Take Control & Dominate Him

Naturally, the power dynamic can run the other way too 😉

It might feel like sucking cock automatically puts you in a submissive role, but that's not the case at all. You can be the one steering things and dominating your man — this goes well beyond simply taking the initiative, which we covered earlier. And…

There's no shortage of ways to seize control and dominate him:

Bondage – Just as he can tie your hands, you can restrain him too. There's more than one way to approach it, but I'd suggest starting mild and working up to more intense bondage as you go. A few ideas:

• Have him sit on his hands while you go down on him.
• Tie his wrists behind his back, or use handcuffs.
• Bind him by his wrists and ankles to the bed frame.

If you're securing his wrists or ankles to the bed, avoid any material that could cut off circulation.

Get more ideas about tying up in our guide to light bondage.

Tease Him – A fun, fairly gentle way to dominate him while sucking his cock is to tease and tantalize him before and during. I touch on this in Chapter 2, and go into more depth in the tease and denial guide.

Here are a few ways to build the tease beforehand:

• Describe, in detail, exactly what you've got planned for him later, so his imagination starts running. More tips on talking dirty.
• Get handsy with him in public to start the slow burn.

And here's how to tease him mid-blow-job:

• Pause. Right in the middle, stop entirely and shift to something less intense but still intimate, like cuddling, until he asks you to keep going. He'll only be able to think about getting your mouth back on him.
• As he nears climax, back off and edge him with something gentler, like kissing his shaft or balls instead of sucking. I go deeper into edging in Chapter 4, on finishing him off hard.

Make Him Beg – This can be a blast, or it can feel a bit awkward, depending on you and your man's personal taste. Feel free to skip it entirely if it's not your thing.

If you enjoy having power over him, and he's into it too, this can be genuinely fun for both of you.

A few ways to have him beg for a blow job if you like the idea:

• Make him say "please" before he gets one.
• Next time you're on your knees getting ready, have him ask, "please suck my cock."
• Mid-blow-job, pause and tell him you won't continue until he says, "Please don't stop. I'm begging you to continue."

These are just starting points — feel free to invent your own version of making him beg.

Make Him Promise – Extracting a promise from your man during a blow job is another satisfying way to flex the power you hold in the moment. It works a lot like making him beg.

When you sense he's close, slow down so he doesn't finish, then have him promise you something, like:

"I'm not going to let you cum until you promise to go down on me every night this week."
"If I let you finish on my face, you have to promise me a 30-minute massage tomorrow night."
"Before I let you cum, I need you to promise me something: Promise me that you'll…"

One important thing to remember when doing this:

Keep the promise small and playful.

If you try to use it to manipulate him, or make the promise something huge, it'll kill the vibe fast. Keep it light and fun.

You'll find more ways to dominate your man in the femdom ideas guide and this article on how to dominate your man in bed.

Deep Throating Him

I won't go into much detail on deep throating here, since Chapter 7 is entirely devoted to it.

I'll just say that if your gag reflex isn't too sensitive and you trust the man you're with, it's worth trying at least once. Deep throating gives him a whole different set of sensations that can make you feel like a sexual goddess in his eyes.

Get Sloppy – Taking your man deep into your mouth and throat naturally triggers your gag reflex. That can make you gag, but it also produces a lot of extra saliva.

That excess saliva can make the whole thing feel messier than usual as it spills out…

But plenty of guys find that messiness incredibly hot. One Redditor put it this way: "Messy blowjobs are awesome[…]Ugh, my dick would nearly explode from how hard it was during the session [7]."

That extra saliva also works as a natural lubricant, making everything feel far more intense. You can even use some of it on your hands to massage his balls or make fingering his ass smoother.

Some guys like gagging – A lot of women avoid deep throating because they're worried gagging will seem unattractive.

Here's the funny part…

Plenty of guys are actually turned on by hearing their partner gag. It has the opposite effect from what you'd expect.

So experiment a little and see how your guy reacts (or just ask him directly).

And if gagging isn't something you enjoy, there's no obligation to include it.

For a full step-by-step walkthrough, check out the deep throating guide (Chapter 7).

Prostate Stimulation

I've already covered stimulating your man's prostate while sucking his cock briefly in the blow job techniques section, and in much more depth in the guide for milking your man's prostate, so I won't repeat that here.

I'll just note that some men find prostate stimulation absolutely electric, and combining it with oral sex is something most men will never get to experience. Being the one who gives him that puts you in an incredibly powerful position.

Become A Human Cock Ring!

Cock rings are a hugely popular toy for men, and for good reason — one of the best things about them is the new set of sensations they create during orgasm, helping keep things exciting. I go into more detail in my Cock Ring Guide.

Here's what you can try…

Use your own hand to create a makeshift "cock ring" as he climaxes, giving him access to those same sensations.

Here's how:

Right as you sense he's about to cum, wrap your thumb and index finger firmly around the base of his cock, like a ring, and squeeze as he starts ejaculating. Don't go too light with the pressure, but be careful not to squeeze so hard that it stops him from finishing.

Just to be clear: you're squeezing and holding your grip steady around the base, not stroking him. Keep your hand still in that one spot.

Finding the right amount of pressure takes some trial and error, so check in with him and get feedback as you go.

You can also play around with using more or fewer fingers.

The Human Ball Stretcher Trick

Similar to the cock ring trick, you can form a loose ring with your thumb and index finger around the top of his testicles while sucking him off.

As he climaxes, gently and slowly pull downward on his balls, without squeezing.

For some men, this makes their orgasm dramatically more intense.

Others aren't into it at all.

As always, talk to your man and get his honest feedback so you know whether this is a technique worth keeping in the rotation, or whether you're better off sticking to these testicle massage techniques, instead.

Finishing Him Off

If you've worked through every technique in this guide, this is the moment it's all been building toward. Finish him off well, and you can give him an orgasm so intense it could practically wipe his memory [8], leaving him bragging about how you suck dick like an absolute professional.

During a regular blow job, you'd probably just spit, swallow, or finish him by hand as covered in Chapter 4, on finishing your man off in style. But when you're really going all out sucking his cock, you're performing for him — you're his own personal pornstar.

Not sure whether to spit or swallow? Discover the pros and cons of each. Keep an eye on what he's been eating and drinking — if his diet changes the taste of his cum, you might want to skip swallowing the next time, even if it's normally your go-to [9].

Related: Spitting can also work to satisfy a spit kink.

With that in mind, here are a few extra ideas to try when he climaxes, to turn the finish into a piece of performance art.

Swallowing With Attitude – As mentioned, you can simply swallow when he ejaculates. But to ramp up the intensity, swallow like you've been dying of thirst and desperately need his cum. The instant he explodes in your mouth, swallow while continuing to suck for more. Seeing how badly you seem to want it can seriously heighten his orgasm.

Show & Swallow – Another way to intensify the finish is to open your mouth and show him his own cum before swallowing it in front of him.

Licking Your Lips – For something simpler but still hot, let him finish in your open mouth, swallow, then lick your lips and ask, "When do I get more?"

Facial Plus – Letting him finish on your face can already be incredibly hot for both of you, but you can take it further by collecting it off your face with your fingers afterward and licking them clean.

Direct the Facial – Right as he's about to cum, take him in your hand, pull him out of your mouth, and aim him toward your face for the finish.

Rubbing It In – Another erotic way to end things is letting him finish on your breasts or stomach, then rubbing and massaging it into your skin as a show for him. You can even use it as makeshift lube for masturbating afterward. Check out the Masturbation Guide for tips on incredible solo orgasms.

Snowballing – Snowballing can be either the wildest experience of his life or something that makes him gag, depending on the guy. To do it, hold his cum in your mouth after he finishes, then kiss and make out with him, sharing it back and forth between your mouths.

If the taste of his cum isn't your favorite, you might want to skip swallowing altogether. One Reddit post on blow jobs suggests having him finish deeper in your mouth so you can swallow immediately and minimize how much you actually taste it [10].

Now that you've got the tools to suck dick like a pro, you might want to check out some awesome oral sex positions in Chapter 6 to help you spice up a blow job. You can also learn how to finish your man off in style to give him the most powerful orgasm of his life. Chapter 4 will show you how.

July 28, 2020