32 Rimming Tips To Give Your Partner Mind-Blowing Anilingus

We reached out to 32 anilingus enthusiasts for their favorite rim job tips and techniques….

The kind that'll leave your partner weak with pleasure. Skip straight to rim job technique #1, or keep reading for the full picture on giving amazing anilingus.

Here's the thing…

Anilingus is one of those sex acts that gets misjudged and dismissed before most people ever actually try it. That's a genuine shame, because it's incredibly fun and satisfying when done well (much like anal sex is for plenty of men). Follow this guide to learn everything worth knowing about giving your partner truly satisfying anilingus.

You'll hear it called analingus, rimming, or tossing the salad — different names, same act: oral sex in and around the anus.

It delivers a sensation anal masturbation simply can't replicate. Check out these anal masturbation tips.

Bonus: oral sex naturally avoids any pregnancy risk. And no need to worry either way — it's unlikely to get pregnant from anal sex in general.

Keeping Anilingus Safe & Clean

Before actually performing analingus on your man, safety and cleanliness matter enormously. That means making sure your man is:

Disease-free: Get tested regularly for STIs together, so neither of you risks passing something along unknowingly.

Clean: Few things kill the mood faster than discovering things aren't clean back there. Have him check himself beforehand so he's fully clean before you even attempt a rim job (more rim job tips). It also helps if he's hair-free back there, so nothing gets accidentally trapped during a bowel movement.

Find out more info about anal play safety.

If you're pregnant, it's worth checking with your doctor about rimming and any associated risks. Read this advice for anal sex if you're pregnant.

With the important (if slightly dull) logistics out of the way, let's get to actually giving him anilingus.

If your partner wants to feel extra prepared, he can run through the steps in this guide to preparing for anal.

Anilingus Techniques

There's a lot you can do to bring your man serious pleasure with anilingus (potentially even anal orgasm!):

Up, Down & All Around: By far the simplest rim job technique to start with. Use plenty of saliva, keep your tongue loose and relaxed, and lick his anus up and down, or trace circles around and over it with your tongue.

Throughout this technique, your tongue stays on the outside of his body, against his anus. Focus mostly on the anus itself, with some attention to the surrounding area too.

Pokin' In: After a few minutes of Up, Down & All Around, you can graduate to something more advanced — Pokin' In. Stiffen your tongue slightly and use it to attempt light penetration. You'll typically only manage about half an inch at most, which also means your tongue stays perfectly clean throughout.

For deeper penetration with something other than your tongue, try a butt plug or strap-on sex.

Kiss, Kiss: After a few minutes of tongue work, your tongue is bound to tire out. Give it a rest by switching to your lips instead. Keep things wet with plenty of saliva, since dry kisses feel far less satisfying.

Toothy Fruity: Using teeth during anilingus isn't always a great idea — but done correctly, it feels fantastic. The key rule: no biting, since the goal is pleasure, not pain. Instead, drag your teeth slowly and gently across his anus. It's another great option when your tongue needs a break, provided you stay very gentle.

Check out ways to avoid pain during anal sex.

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32 Reader-Submitted Rimming Tips

When we asked readers to share their personal favorite rimming tips and techniques, they had plenty to say!

1. Lick the taint while lightly keeping one finger over the rectum and the other hand fondling a butt cheek or balls.
2. I gently but firmly lick it from the bottom to the top with my tongue wide a couple of times. When it loosens up a bit, I start to circle around with soft tongue, then lick it up and down. When it gets even looser I pull the cheeks apart, harden my tongue up and bury it deeper and deeper.
3. Having them on their back and grabbing their ankles and me spreading their cheeks and sliding my tongue deep in their hole over and over
4. I like to start out by very lightly licking around it and rubbing his thighs and stomach with my nails. Then flatten out my tongue and lick from top to bottom then circles and I also like to kiss it. Once he gets really turned on I like to put the tip of my tongue inside and try to suck it as hard as I can
5. Tracing circles with my tongue, while gently spreading her cheeks. Putting my thumb in her pussy stimulating her G spot, while gently rubbing her clit with my middle and index finger. Then putting increasing pressure on her anus with my tongue until it relaxes and begins to open. I then insert my tongue like if I'm fucking her, stretching her. When I need to breathe, I lightly bite and suck her cheeks and thighs. Then, I continue tongue fucking her. And if she wants, I will ass fuck her.
6. In 69 position with my head elevated on a pillow. Long slow strokes with a flat tongue from her perineum over her asshole, slowly through her ass cheeks to her back drives women wild. Back and forth. I usually ask the woman to just jack me off or play with my nuts at this point. With one woman, as I was eating her ass as I just described, she nearly bit my penis in half while orgasming from eating her ass and fingering her vagina. Often as they are well worked over, I will slide her down into reverse cowgirl and have her ride me vigorously while I have my thumb all the way up in their ass, stimulating it while they ride my penis to multiple orgasms.
7. After she has showered, I lick for a while then penetrate with my tongue. I put lube in my mouth and push it in her ass to finish with my dick.
8. Slow light licking of the rim, then very slight pressure of the thumb in a circular motion. Then, more pressure of the tongue. And then slowly jab your tongue in the anus and then in circles.
9. I slowly put my tongue into the asshole, and lick up and down and start sucking with fast circular tongue movements.
10. I always end with a kiss and make my way back the way I came – before progressing on to a blow job.
11. I like to lick it like it's an ice cream a few times then start going around in small circles and then sucking it so hard but stopping b4 I make them cum and start pushing a finger in and carrying on with both.
12. Get the guy to pull his legs up toward his stomach, then you wrap your arms around his thighs, spread his cheeks so you can get in there really good, and just go to town. (Only if he's recently showered)
13. You just have to learn to read your partner's signals, what he likes and doesn't. Then, just enjoy seeing your man quiver with pleasure.
14. Get edible lube, which makes everything easier. Relax and give yourself time.
15. Getting my whole face in the crack of her/his arse and making sure my whole mouth takes in her/his opening. Then sucking, licking and pushing my tongue as far as I can inside.
16. Slowly lapping it, licking in circles, then slightly tongue fucking his hole, but not enough to stick my tongue all the way inside. But I have his ass cheeks spread apart and bob my head back and forth so that my tongue won't get sore so fast. And one of my hands will be jacking him off while I'm doing it. I'll lick around his balls and stuff, too.
17. I only do it with my current partner because I can see how much he enjoys it. I use the same techniques with my tongue like giving head with one exception. I will thrust my tongue in his asshole repeatedly then eventually start tonguing and fingering his prostate simultaneously.
18. Catching them off guard while they are relaxing is the best way, especially after the shower when they are very relaxed.
19. Have them lay on their front and slowly start kissing and licking all around their ass. Keeping lube nearby helps to keep your actions smooth. Grabbing their ass and slowly pulling the cheeks apart and lick all around. Just one finger gently glided up the ass will send them begging for more.
20. I like to be kneeling on the floor while my partner is on the bed.
21. I'll spread the cheeks with my hands for better access and start slowing licking, only in an upwards direction for a bit, then swirl my tongue around like a figure of 8.
22. First, it has to be clean so a shower or bath is a good start. The position is important. I usually find at least 1 pillow under the hip raises the pucker to an easier location- thighs spread, feet flat can also help.
23. Don't just try to mimic a penis with your tongue. If you're a passionate kisser (soft, hard, internal and external lip licking, pecking, and shallow to deep tongue kissing), you already know what to do. I literally "make out" with my wife's anus exactly – and as passionately – as if it's her mouth.
24. He'll probably want to touch his own dick while you're eating him.
25. Your hand may massage his balls or perineum while doing so. In the beginning, he'll probably be tense but relaxation will soon follow, especially if you know how to locate his prostate.
26. I lick, circle, kiss, and blow soft air on the area.
27. I have a toy called a "tongue dinger" that fits over my tongue and vibrates. When I am licking and sucking around my man's ass, this thing makes him shake and totally lose control.
28. I don't "eat" ass. I purely tease it with my breath, blowing on it.
29. My partner lying on the bed, arms restrained and legs restrained up and out so his ass is up in the air a bit, pillows under his back. I use my hand to separate his ass cheeks a bit and I lick and tease his anus with my tongue trying to penetrate it with my tongue. I lube his cock and balls and start playing with those whilst I continue to press my mouth and tongue in his ass. I then finish it off by inserting a finger massaging his prostate gland and give him a blow job until he cums
30. I do a figure eight from the base of his balls to his ass while going slow and sticking a finger in his ass and jerking his cock.
31. Once they are breathing heavy, and their body quivers a bit, I use a little lube to rim their anus.
32. Sometimes we will use a strap-on dildo to finish her off.

Got your own secret for tossing salad? Let us know in the comments!

More Anilingus Techniques Worth Trying

Two more techniques worth adding to your repertoire — these don't technically qualify as rim job moves since they skip the mouth entirely, but they round out the overall experience nicely.

The Gentle Scratch: While your tongue is working his anus, gently drag your nails across his ass cheeks in slow, soft strokes. On its own it's fairly minor stimulation, but paired with your tongue technique, it adds a nice extra layer of sensation.

Use Your Finger: Mirroring your tongue's movements with a finger is another great way to give your tongue a break (learn how to finger an anus). It also has an advantage tongues don't: more strength, meaning you can insert it and use it to stimulate his prostate (tips for prostate massage here) or other spots inside.

Related: How to Eat Ass Like a Pro

Feel ready for more? Consider pegging (learn how to peg your partner with these 17 pegging positions), or push further with anal training.

Anilingus Positions

A handful of positions make performing analingus on your man especially comfortable for you. They're built around naturally spreading his cheeks for easy access, without leaving you feeling smothered!

Psst, some anal sex positions double perfectly for rimming!

Like A Doggy: This closely resembles doggystyle. Just have your man get on his hands and knees on the bed. For even easier access, have him rest his chest down while staying on his knees, pushing his butt into the air — the most comfortable option for him.

Grab Them Ankles: Some guys find this position a little awkward, but done right it's very enjoyable. Have your man stand and bend over to grab his ankles, bending his knees slightly for comfort if needed.

Grab Them Ankles (Lying Down): A close variation of the standard Grab Them Ankles — your man simply lies on his back while grabbing his ankles instead. This makes it easy to give him a handjob while tossing his salad at the same time.

A Word Of Caution Before You Try This On Him

Now that you've read through this guide on giving your man anilingus, one thing is worth keeping in mind before you actually try it….

Some guys simply don't enjoy it — a few genuinely dislike it. So it's worth talking it over with your man first, rather than surprising him with it out of nowhere.

July 12, 2021