How to Have Incredible Sex Outside

If you've ever had sex outdoors, it's probably a memorable experience — adventurous, thrilling, and worlds apart from the usual bedroom routine. It's a bit like dining at a restaurant instead of cooking at home: sometimes it's just fun to step outside your normal routine and try something different, and outdoor sex delivers exactly that.

A playful streak is a key ingredient in a satisfying sex life. Doing something you technically shouldn't — like having sex outdoors — often makes the whole experience more thrilling. That's precisely why it deserves a spot on your sexual bucket list.

You don't need to reinvent anything drastic to have sex outside. Simply changing your location makes a huge difference on its own, though you can also turn it into a game if you'd like.

If you or your partner feel a little self-conscious, try setting the mood first, maybe with a romantic picnic. Pick a spot known for its secluded corners, then pack food along with some beer or wine to help everyone relax.

Warning: Stay Within the Law

Part of what makes outdoor sex so exciting is the thrill of doing something you're not really supposed to, mixed with the fear of getting caught. But it's worth understanding the real consequences before diving in.

Before your next outdoor adventure, take this seriously: public sex in the U.S. is classified as a misdemeanor, carrying potential penalties of up to a year in jail and fines reaching $1,000, depending on the state. Getting caught having sex outdoors likely means violating one or more laws, and specifics vary widely by location.

The most common charge involves exposing private parts — genitals and breasts included. Getting caught bare could mean an indecent exposure charge.

Some states also prosecute "lewd acts" in public. So even fully clothed sex could technically result in a lewd conduct charge.

And if you're charged with indecent exposure or a lewd act, additional charges could pile on depending on your state. Some states criminalize adultery (when either partner is married to someone else), and others still criminalize sex between unmarried people.

The takeaway: choose your outdoor location wisely. Pick somewhere no one's likely to spot you — if nobody sees you, there's nothing to charge you with. For example, if car sex is the plan, opt for a secluded spot at night rather than a crowded lot in daylight.

And just to be clear, oral sex and manual stimulation both count as "sex" under these laws, not just intercourse.

Choosing Your Location

Different settings each bring their own mood and their own perks. Try one, try them all! And if this list doesn't cover enough ground, check out this article featuring even more sexy places to get down and dirty.

Deserted beach: Few things feel more romantic than sex on an empty beach. During the day, you get the sun's warmth against your skin along with the sound of waves rolling in.

Look for a secluded cove, or wait for a moonlit night and turn it into a romantic evening stroll first.

Think through your position choice too. Missionary with his bare backside in the air might tip someone off. Sitting astride him with a towel wrapped around you both keeps things much more discreet.

The woods: If you and your partner already love camping and the outdoors, having sex in your favorite forest spot is a natural extension of that.

A tree can even come in handy — lean your back against the trunk facing him, wrap one leg around his waist, and let him brace against the tree for balance.

Be thoughtful about exactly where you choose in the wilderness. Discretion still matters. Having sex in your tent at a busy campsite means no one may see you, but they'll almost certainly hear you — so skip the sound effects and save dirty talk for later.

The top of a hill: After a solid five-mile hike together, a little reward feels earned.

Wait until you've reached the summit, then scout a private spot rather than stopping mid-trail. A trail that looks empty now could easily produce a jogger out of nowhere — or worse, a park ranger. Talk about awkward.

Under the stars: Find a spot with a clear view of the night sky, away from city lights. The bed of a pickup truck works beautifully here. Just being outside under the stars can already get your pulse racing.

The roof: Thanks to countless movies, we all know a candlelit rooftop dinner sets an incredible mood. Once you're both feeling it, rooftop sex is a natural next step. Tip: a flat rooftop works far better than a sloped one.

The hood of your car: Car sex is one thing — try having sex on top of the car instead. Doggy style works especially well here: lean over the hood while he enters from behind.

In the rain: Don't let a little rain deter you. A spring or summer shower might actually make the whole experience even better.

Any secluded spot: Wherever you choose outdoors, the experience will feel entirely different from anything indoors. Fresh scents like grass or sea air heighten your senses, and a light breeze against bare skin feels wonderful. Warm sunlight naturally relaxes your body, inviting slow, unhurried lovemaking.

Come Prepared

Outdoor sex demands some preparation. Sand in unwanted places is genuinely unpleasant, so a large towel or blanket is essential for beach sex.

The woods bring their own hazard — poison ivy. Learn to identify it beforehand if you're not already sure, so your more sensitive areas stay safe. Hint: leaves grouped in threes are the telltale sign.

Considering a sex swing? Rigging one to a sturdy tree branch is a great way to avoid lying directly on the ground outdoors. If you go this route, check out these sex swing positions for inspiration.

Planning rooftop sex? Bring a padded mat, like a yoga mat — most rooftops are covered in gravel.

Weighing the Pros and Cons

Outdoor sex absolutely deserves a spot on your list of experiences to try, but it comes with tradeoffs worth considering.

Pros:

• You'll walk away with a hot, unforgettable memory with your partner. Public kink tends to stick with you!
• The thrill of doing something a little forbidden, with the chance of getting caught, adds real heat.
• Reminiscing about your outdoor escapade later can spark yet another exciting encounter.

Cons:

• It's rarely as comfortable as your own bed.
• You might end up with a leg cramp, a bruise, or an unfortunate run-in with poison ivy.
• Getting spotted by someone you know would be more embarrassing than fun.
• Essentials like condoms, lube, or blankets might not be within reach.

Outdoor sex won't necessarily become your go-to, but it's worth trying at least once. At minimum, it'll give you and your partner a story worth remembering.

November 17, 2020