How To Have Car Sex Comfortably – 5 Positions & 8 Tricks

Maybe your living situation makes it hard to get frisky with your partner in your own bed, or maybe you just can't hold out until you're home. Either way, plenty of couples end up having sex in a car — including the 77 readers below who shared how they have great car sex.

Car sex tends to show up in a few familiar situations:

• Teens or 20-somethings still living under their parents' roof
• People carrying on affairs
• Long-term couples chasing a little extra thrill by revisiting their younger selves

Maybe you never got around to car sex as a teenager the way movies make it look so common, but every once in a while, sneaking off somewhere private to fog up the windows like a scene out of Titanic can hit the spot — even when there's no real need for it.

There's no price tag on car sex, which explains why so many people first hook up this way instead of springing for a hotel room or risking their parents catching them. When your schedule barely leaves you a spare moment and there are kids screaming at home, the back seat might be all you've got. Plus, there's that unmistakable rush that comes from knowing you could get caught.

That naughtiness is exactly what keeps car sex popular decade after decade. It might explain why one study found that 59.9% of participants had already had sex in a car [1]. More than half had done it at least once, and for 14% of respondents, a car was where they lost their virginity!

Before you follow their lead, though, it helps to know the ground rules and a handful of tips for making car sex actually good.

Is Sex in a Car Against the Law?

Technically, having sex in a car isn't illegal on its own. Couples who get arrested are usually charged with public indecency, meaning they were exposed in a public place during car sex. That can mean fines, an arrest, and plenty of embarrassment — and you can kiss finishing goodbye. So use your head when you're getting it on in a car.

Stay fully clothed during car sex and you technically won't break any laws, but realistically, having sex in a car usually means removing or shifting at least some of your clothing.

That's exactly why seclusion matters so much. Pick a spot nowhere near places children might be — schools, daycares, anywhere like that. Get caught exposing yourself near minors and you risk a sex-offender label that follows you for life.

Laws on car sex differ from state to state, and even city ordinances can diverge from state law. Look into your local rules ahead of time so you know what penalty you'd be risking before you go for it.

Staying Discreet While Having Sex in a Car

Even if you enjoy a bit of risk, parking in plain sight during daylight isn't the move. Put some thought into where you go for car sex. Wait for nightfall and head to a park, a parking structure, an abandoned lot, or a quiet neighborhood.

Parking lot vs. parking garage – Look for locations that are a bit off the beaten path, somewhere people or police are unlikely to stumble across your rocking car. Open parking lots can be risky for this reason, but the right parking garage can work well (just kill the engine first so you don't risk carbon monoxide exposure!).

A vacant housing development can be a solid car-sex spot. For near-guaranteed privacy, pull into a church lot during service — you'll have plenty of cars around you, but nobody's leaving for an hour. Park behind something that blocks the view, like a tree or dumpster.

Night works best – Having car sex after dark lowers your odds of getting caught, though that's not always realistic. Spots with hills, trees, or fences blocking the sightline give you the best shot at getting away with it. Tinted windows help even more.

Let the rain help you out – Weather can actually work in your favor here. A rainy day makes it much harder for anyone to see into your car.

Check out potential car-sex spots ahead of time so you know how visible or busy they tend to be. Visit at different hours to find your window — a lot that's packed after work might be totally empty during the day.

Quick is smart – The shorter your car-sex session, the lower your odds of getting caught. That's exactly why cars are made for a quickie.

Part of what makes car sex appealing in the first place is the fear — or secret hope — that someone might catch you in the act. There's even a whole subculture built around watching people have car sex. It's called "dogging," typically happening at night with a small crowd gathered to watch couples go at it in their cars.

That said, the more people around and the more exposed you are, the higher your odds of getting busted. Want more spots beyond just the car itself? Check out this guide on the best places to have sex.

Working Out the Logistics of Car Sex

Choose the Right Vehicle

The car you're in matters a lot. At minimum, look for reclining seats that can slide back up front. A bigger vehicle like an SUV or van with removable back seats opens up way more options.

Cars aren't the friendliest environment for sex, thanks to tight quarters and hard surfaces everywhere you turn. The front seats are especially rough between the steering wheel and gearshift. You might get so uncomfortable that reaching orgasm becomes a struggle 🙁

Push the steering wheel up as high as it'll go to make things more comfortable.

Obviously, a car can't compete with a bed for space — you're limited both side to side and up and down. A position that's easy for a smaller couple might be nearly impossible for a guy over six feet tall. The same goes for body size: leaner partners generally have an easier time maneuvering than those carrying more weight.

None of this makes car sex impossible, though. It just takes a bit more creativity to make it both comfortable and hot if either of you is on the larger side.

Keep Cleanup Simple

Think ahead about protecting your car and keeping it clean afterward. Hard surfaces like plastic, metal, and glass wipe down easily, but fabric upholstery is a different story.

If your seats have removable covers, take them off and wash them later. Sitting on a towel afterward heads off any leakage issues and is a smart car-sex habit. A condom also helps contain the mess from ejaculate, as long as you tie it off and dispose of it properly.

Something like the Liberator Throe — a multi-layer blanket built for sex — can protect your seats too. Upholstery cleaners with built-in scrub brushes also make wipe-down a lot faster.

Practicing Safer Sex

If condoms are part of your routine, keep one on hand before you head out for car sex. A spare is smart too, in case something goes wrong with the first.

What to Wear

Then there's the question of clothing. What you wear can make car sex either much easier or a lot more of a hassle.

For her – A loose skirt or short dress you can push up quickly works great. Skipping underwear entirely is the simplest route, though a loose thong or pair of panties can work too — just leave enough slack to pull the fabric aside without stretching it tight, which can be painful for him. A top that pulls down or up easily also keeps your chest accessible.

For him – Go for clothing that's easy to get out of the way. Loose basketball shorts he can pull up through a leg opening, sweatpants he can push down, or pants with a fly all work. A button fly tends to be more comfortable than a zipper here, though sweats or shorts avoid that risk entirely. And yes, going commando is the way to go.

5 Great Car Sex Positions

Here are a handful of our favorite ways to have sex in a car.

#1 Cowgirl

Regardless of whether your partner's in the driver's seat or the back, cowgirl is about the easiest position to pull off in a car. The front passenger seat tends to work best — slide it away from the dash or recline it flat for more room to move.

One perk here is that you don't even need to undress. If you're in a skirt or dress you can hike up over your hips, you can simply straddle your partner for some solid car sex. Get more detail on how to perform the Cowgirl position.

#2 Missionary

Missionary is a tougher ask inside a car. It works better in the back seat, and roomier older cars make it easier. Push the front seats forward as much as you can to open up space.

He likely won't be able to rest both legs, or even both knees, on the seat. Instead, he can plant one knee on the floor and one on the seat. Another trick worth trying: bend your knees or hook a leg over the seatback to find an angle that works.

Kneeling also leaves his hands free if he wants to stimulate you manually. It's awkward, sure, but that's just car sex. Learn more about how to perform Missionary position with your man.

#3 Back Seat Driver

If your bodies line up right, you can ride him while he sits in the car — this is the Back Seat Driver position. He takes a seat in the back, and you climb on top facing away from him. One trick worth trying during Back Seat Driver: experiment with your legs both inside and outside of his thighs until you land on what feels best.

You're steering this one, since you're controlling the pace — bounce, grind, whatever feels good. He can just relax and enjoy it, or grip your hips to guide your movement. It's also a great angle for him to reach your clit.

Your breasts stay easily within reach, and you get to set the depth and speed. One fun trick: adjust your mirrors, inside and out, so you can watch what's happening and amp up the moment.

Back Seat Driver also puts you both in a great spot to notice if someone's approaching.

#4 69

Depending on your height, your partner's height, and how much room your back seat has, mutual oral might be doable. Whoever's on top should bend their knees and arms to take up less space rather than lying flat. More tips on the 69 position.

#5 Doggy Style

If your car's roof height allows, doggy style (check out this guide) can work well, especially with your partner leaning over you from behind. This angle is great because he can reach your breasts, and either of you can work your clit. Find more intense clitoral stimulation techniques here.

Play around and you'll discover other positions that work too! This list of 100-plus sex positions can point you toward more ideas.

Going Down In the Car

Giving him oral might be the simplest form of car sex there is. You can technically do it while he's driving (assuming it's legal where you are), though a moving-vehicle blow job carries real risk, so tread carefully. That doesn't rule out oral sex in the car entirely — just park first. Here are a few ideas for going down on him in the car:

Play dominatrix: strap him into the passenger seat with the seatbelt, and tie his wrists to the headrest with a necktie, belt, bra, or whatever's on hand. Blindfold him or slip on some sunglasses at night. Once he's properly restrained, he's yours to enjoy.  

Flip the script and have him go down on you instead. This works especially well if your car has a sunroof — have him sit in the passenger seat while you stand over him, legs on either side of his hips. Your top half pokes out through the sunroof while your lower half is perfectly positioned for him. A skirt or dress with no underwear works best here.  

If you're determined to try something while the car's moving (not something we'd recommend), a safer version is unzipping him to expose his cock, then giving him a slow [hand job](/blog/how-to-give-a-hand-job). Keep him aroused without losing his focus on the road. Once you've arrived or he spots a place to pull over, switch to oral while the car's parked.  

Want a deeper dive on this? Check out our full guide to giving a blow job in a car, also known as road head, for more car-sex ideas centered on oral.

Take a look at more positions for oral sex as well — several can be adapted to fit inside a car. You'll also find more great oral sex techniques in this instructional video.

Going down on her is a bit trickier to pull off in a car than giving head, but that shouldn't mean she misses out! Try sitting on the edge of the seat with the door open, or lean back against the trunk while he kneels on the ground. Sitting on the hood or trunk, leaning back with legs spread, works too.

A Car Sex Idea That Breaks the Mold

If you're brainstorming how to have sex in your car, remember the vehicle itself can be a prop even when you're not inside it. A truck bed, for instance, becomes an instant sex spot once you toss a few blankets in.

An air mattress or futon adds even more comfort. On a warm night, you could have sex in the truck bed and then just doze off there afterward.

The trunk or hood of a suitably tall vehicle can also work as a place for you to sit facing your partner. Wrap your legs around him while he stands, or let him lift your legs against his chest for deeper penetration. This angle also makes it easier for him to go down on you than it would be inside the car.

If one of you sits sideways in the car with the door open, the other can kneel outside and go down on them that way.

77 People Explain How To Have Incredible Car Sex

1. I really enjoy being surrounded by nature whether it´s a forest or desert.
2. Make sure there’s plenty of room and pillows/blankets.
3. Synchronization and taking time is better.
4. We have a pickup truck. When we are on the road, we can have a quick in the back if it has a canopy/topper.
5. Work up the sexual tension A LOT before you get to the car. i. e. as soon as you walk into the party, start building it. so much that he just wants to attack you sexually in the car.
6. Don’t forget to set the cruise control.
7. Going to a less populated place means freedom of noise-making.
8. Find somewhere you can park. Don’t tell him why. Then, when you’re nearly at the place start getting him hard. When you get to the spot, tell him you couldn’t wait to get home you want him now and sit on his dick and ride him.
9. Put yourself between the front seats while keeping your bottom in the back of the car. This makes doggy style super easy to do especially if you’re taller. If it’s colder outside, leave the car running and roll down the window a crack to help with the steam and keep you both warm. If you’re feeling ambitious, push down the back seats to create more room in the back of the car for missionary-style sex.
10. Do it in a truck with a bench seat.
11. Bring a wireless wand massager (or your favorite vibrator)! Related: How to use a vibrator.
12. Have it in the back seat, lean the front seat forward make sure you can still reach it. You can ride him sitting on his lap, either gripping the seats or leaning back against the seat.
13. If you’re a bit of an exhibitionist make sure it’s at a party where your friends will notice you’re gone.
14. Try refrain from putting the hazard lights on, trust me!
15. While he’s driving, start by slowly caressing/massaging his inner thigh and tease his cock by passing your hand over it a few times as you continue massaging. Believe me, he will begin to get hard. As he does. Then lean over and gently place your mouth over the head of his cock (pants are on) and use the heat of your mouth to blow through his pants. Do that a few times up & down his cock. At this point, he will pull over anywhere and the rest is your oyster. An intense buildup will make any type of sex in the car amazing.
16. Get knee pads.
17. What REALLY makes car sex hot for me is people watching me get plowed or suck dick. They usually will whip out their dicks and start jerking off or if I’m REALLY lucky open the door and join in!
18. Take a blanket for behind your shoulders. Use a truck with a fold-up back seat with the woman lying back on a seat and the guy kneeling on floor. The angle is amazing!
19. You’ll get sweaty, so make sure you have a towel.
20. Crank those tunes! Have a long playlist ready. And a water bottle. He’s gonna need it.
21. Keep the dirty talk hot.
22. Don’t be stressing too much otherwise, it won’t be enjoyable.
23. Beware of parking lot security cameras.
24. Have tinted windows! Go in a parking garage.
25. Well, it was actually in a horse lorry (a combination RV and horse trailer) on the hay and it was so beautiful and natural.
26. Give amazing head first but make him wait to cum. Then sit on him facing him and both of you enjoy the climax together.
27. Use tailgate of truck.
28. Position with your feet on the seat instead of your knees, and alternate bouncing and grinding.
29. If you have a sunroof, USE IT! If you’re riding him, it makes it easier.
30. Go balls to the Wall with hood sex.
31. Put the e-brake on and lock all the doors.
32. Open the passenger side doors, sit in the front passenger seat facing out and have your man sand outside and fuck you. Trucks are the right height for this.
33. Crack the windows a little to avoid fogging up so you don’t draw to much attention.
34. During the night is better than day because it’s easier to hide. Open a back door for legs/feet if needed. Be careful not to wedge your head between the side of the door and the seat, it will restrict breathing/hurt. It will be awkward! Just laugh it off. You can also bend over a seat with your bum/legs outside of the car and partner fully out of the car behind you.
35. Take a towel, baby wipes, spare underwear, condoms – essential if planned. If unplanned, use underwear to clean up and don’t put them back on.
36. My partner and I used to have our regular secret spot, sometimes we would plan to go but I would get really excited if I realized that he was taking me there at random times…like just before the cinema or on the way home from dinner. Several times he switched it up with sex toys!
37. Wearing a skirt without underwear so you can turn him on by putting his hand to your private parts and show him how wet you are while he is driving. Whisper some things in his ear. He will stop at a parking place as soon as he can. You can sit on his lap, he will only need to take his trousers down, or you can crawl/walk via outside to the backseat and lay down on the couch.
38. There has to be a lot of buildups. I mean you both have to be seriously worked up to make it work. I’ve noticed from the few times that I’ve tried and then quit that if you’re not seriously both of you ready to tear each other’s clothes off, it just won’t work.
39. First, tell him to find an empty park or an abandoned parking lot it’s better when it’s raining). Start kissing his neck, kiss & suck on his ears, play with him, suck his dick, and talk dirty to him (tell him all the things u want to do to him & all the things u want him to do to u).
40. Being picked up like a hooker is naughty.
41. Tease him first with masturbating before he picks you up.
42. Watch the seat belt buckles.
43. Give oral sex in the front and deep penetration in the back seat!
44. For women – wear crotchless panties.
45. Use lubrication.
46. Don’t press the horn.
47. Do it in an American vintage car. Be creative. Cumming is not the most important thing. You can use car sex to build up the tension until you’re at home or finish off with masturbation.
48. Have a mid-size to full car or SUV so you have plenty of legroom.
49. Always let her take control.
50. Do it during colder weather.
51. It becomes too slippery if you’re dripping sweat, so open the window or turn on the AC.
52. Touching constantly is important.
53. Don’t get carpet burn on your back.
54. Anything to prop your feet up on to remove the small space limits, do it. I personally cross my ankles and balance myself on the center console and let him hit it from the back while masturbating.
55. I love an anal quickie on the side of the road.
56. You can make use of the dash, headrest, oh-shit handles and even the seatbelt.
57. Watch your head at all times. I got a concussion from it.
58. Don’t do it in a city park. We got caught by the police.
59. Do not use your knees when straddling him, instead put your feet on the edges of the seat, and hold onto the seat, this gives you leverage and better support and no wounded knees.
60. Leather Seats=Leather Burn. Cover them if you can.
61. Use a windshield shade screen if concerned about privacy.
62. If you have an armrest that lifts up, stay in the front. If not, get in the back. Have your legs on the ceiling of the car while you’re in the passenger seat on your back, his right knee should be on the middle seat, and his left knee on the floor if he’s tall enough. You can also put your foot on the window to make yourself spread more and be tighter.
63. We have to eat all the cum so that it does not spill the car.
64. Use the headrests to put your feet up.
65. Be careful with your foot. You can break a window.
66. Fuck his brain and his body.
67. Get one of those inflatable car mattresses.
68. Avoid wearing heels or take off your shoes if you can.
69. Stretches are important for flexibility.
70. Tell your partner if you get a cramp. Don’t try to sit through it.
71. Make sure it’s a limousine, haha.
72. I keep one leg on the steering wheel and the other on the seat.
73. You have to make sure both parties are completely comfortable before engaging in the act, otherwise, the annoyances take away from the pleasure.
74. Watch the plastic seat hinges that can scar up your knees.
75. I also stop to masturbate alone when driving.
76. Avoid bucket seats!!
77. Bring wine.

Is Car Sex Really Worth It?

The urge to fool around behind the wheel can be intense, but weigh that against the risk of an actual crash. And getting arrested right after leaving the ER isn't exactly a great follow-up.

Getting caught is a genuine downside of car sex — police really do watch for it. Still, there's something undeniably exciting about the possibility of being caught and getting away with it anyway.

So if the risk isn't worth it for you and your partner, what other options are there?

Plenty.

Booking an hourly motel is one option if privacy is what you need. A full night's rate might be worth it if hourly rentals aren't available near you. Or maybe a friend would loan you their bed for a while.

Camping is another route to privacy — just reserve a legitimate spot so you're not breaking any rules.

A car will never be the most romantic setting for sex, but it'll do in a pinch. And if you're looking to spark some old excitement back into your relationship, it might be exactly the move.

Done thoughtfully, car sex can be genuinely satisfying whether it's a fetish or simply a necessity — though it's not risk-free. Get careless and you could end up in handcuffs, or just struggling to find a workable position. Plan ahead, lean on the positions covered above (or your own twist on them), and you might land on car sex you won't soon forget.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ #1 – What are the best positions for car sex?

It really comes down to where you're positioned in the car, the vehicle type, and your body types. Riding him tends to work whether he's up front or in back, while lying-down positions generally need a back seat or bench-seat setup.

My advice: experiment and find what clicks for you.

FAQ #2 – Can I get arrested for having sex in a car?

It's possible. Rules vary by location, but getting caught could mean an arrest or a citation for public exposure. That said, officers sometimes just issue a warning or tell you to move along instead.

August 23, 2021