8 Great Sex Tips For Giving Him Unbelievable Pleasure!

Great sex takes effort. It's a blast, sure, but it doesn't happen by accident. That's why I've pulled together this collection of solid sex tips you can use on your man to spice up your sex life and start experimenting with kinkier sex. Naturally, you might be tempted to run through every single tip on this site every time you're together, but here's the funny part: if your sex life isn't broken, there's nothing that needs fixing. Treat these more as a toolkit for exploring new sexual desires and kinks instead.

Related: This complete list of kinks and fetishes is a solid starting point for exploration.

So don't toss out the tried-and-true sex positions, foreplay moves, and blow job tips that already work great for you two.

Just layer these tips on top.

Now, onto some fresh, fun sex tips!

1. Leave Them On

An easy-to-execute tip that pays off big: have sex without undressing fully. Sex tends to get boxed into the bedroom with both partners naked — fun, sure, but also predictable. Keeping clothes on adds a shot of novelty.

Related: 15 fantastic spots to have sex.

So next time you're both lounging on the couch, try rubbing his crotch through his pants and then giving him a blow job with everything still on except his pants pulled down just enough.

Or try slipping into a dress before a night out for drinks with your man. When you get him home, pull him close and undo his trousers, push your panties aside, and let him take you right there. It doesn't have to happen in the bedroom — the kitchen counter or basically anywhere else in your place works just as well.

One perk of clothed sex: it teaches your man that sex can happen fast — practically anywhere, anytime!

2. Slow It Way Down

Slow Motion might be the easiest tip on this whole list to execute. All you're doing is taking everything you'd normally do and dragging it out. Aim for roughly 30% of your usual pace.

So if you typically go down on him with brisk licking and sucking, dial that speed way back. It'll drive him up the wall.

Part of the magic: he'll be silently hoping you speed up, maybe even begging for it. When you finally do pick up the pace, he'll appreciate it that much more.

Side note: This works on a similar principle to edging him toward orgasm.

The same trick applies during actual intercourse too, especially riding on top in Cowgirl. Just move at a crawl. Keep it up for 2-10 minutes before shifting into your usual rhythm, and he'll practically lose his mind and finish fast.

Related: How to get a guy off quickly.

Remember you can apply this slow-motion trick to nearly any sexual act — regular sex, kissing, hand jobs, massages, or a blow job.

He might ask what you're up to once he notices the slowdown. Simple answer: tell him you're trying something new.

More: Check out our full guide to slow sex.

3. Turn Up the Volume

Dirty talk in the middle of sex is a genuinely effective tip to use on your man. Here's the reasoning...

It tells him exactly how well he's performing. It's also a serious ego boost. Men generally want to feel like the king of the bedroom, capable of driving you wild.

Feeding that ego is just one payoff of talking dirty to him.

So what should you actually say?

You might assume you need a whole vocabulary of lines memorized.

That helps, sure, and you can browse 64 dirty talk examples or 81 wild things to say during sex.

But it's honestly not required. At minimum, just get louder than usual — more moaning, groaning, and yelling than you'd typically let out. Of course, you can also whisper filthy things into his ear instead. For a complete walkthrough on talking dirty to turn him on, build tension, and keep him craving you, check out Wild Dirty Talk.

4. Intimacy Move – Wash Him

Washing your man isn't exactly a "sex tip" so much as a way to deepen intimacy between you two. It signals that you value him beyond just the physical act.

So how does "washing your man" actually work? It's simple.

Next time you know he's not rushing off anywhere, follow him into the shower. He almost certainly won't object! Tell him you want to join him in there. Expect a huge grin.

Obviously, check the water temperature before you step in!

Once you're both under the water, start washing him. Lather up some soap and run it slowly over his body — really wash him. If things escalate into sex, that's fine, but remember sex isn't the point here. The point is showing him you like taking care of him.

Related: How to have amazing shower sex.

Afterward, he might assume he owes you one in return. Sure, that's great if it happens! But washing him shouldn't be framed as a debt he needs to repay. Ideally, you see it as something you simply enjoy doing.

5. Switch Up Your Pace

If you and your man default to quickies before bed, or you always end up in marathon sex sessions, a genuinely simple tip is to vary how long you spend having sex.

Related: This same principle works for spicing up a blow job too.

So if quickies are your usual, start drawing things out instead. Begin with kissing, then transition into extended foreplay.

Undress him slowly. Grind against him before either of you is fully naked. Go down on him for a while. Let him return the favor (powerful pussy eating tips). Kiss down his entire body. Massage his balls without touching his cock. Whisper dirty things in his ear. Rub his penis against the outside of your vagina and make him wait to enter until he's practically pleading.

If long sessions are already your norm, flip the script and go for shorter, faster encounters instead.

Next time he walks in from work, grab him, kiss him, and start grinding. If you're already in bed, tell him you're exhausted but turned on, then climb on top and ride him. If you're out at a party and feeling sexually adventurous, pull him into the bathroom and go for it.

Like every tip in this guide to being great in bed, you don't need to constantly flip between long sessions and quickies. Even once a month is enough to keep things fresh.

Side note: Nothing wrong with a good quickie, either. We've got a whole guide to satisfying quickies.

6. Grinding

Not talking about the hookup app here — I mean literally grinding on your man! Funny thing: learning how to satisfy your man and prioritizing his pleasure is genuinely healthy for your relationship. But it can also be powerful to flip the script and focus entirely on your own pleasure and orgasm for a change. Plenty of guys will tell you that watching you get off matters a lot to them too.

A great way to make this about your pleasure, without worrying much about his, is grinding on his leg while he's seated or lying in bed. If he tries to redirect things toward himself, just tell him, "Not yet baby, give me a minute". Being vocal about how good it feels helps too — don't hold back on the moaning.

The best technique: straddle his leg with one leg on either side so you get maximum clitoral stimulation.

Once you're done, tell him how amazing it felt, then go right back to whatever you were doing before.

Grinding on him this way accomplishes a few things:

• It gets you off.
• It proves to him that he's triggering a genuinely strong response in you. He can also pick up other ways to turn you on.
• Plenty of guys get off on being "used" by their partner this way.
• It's just plain fun!

7. The Ultimate Porn Adventure

Struggling to think of fresh ideas to try in bed?

Already on the Love Curi newsletter and burned through every tip?

Worked through every position on the list and still craving more?

No worries!

A genuinely hot tip for keeping things spicy: watch porn together. Head to any porn site's homepage and you'll find a massive menu of genres, categories, fetishes, and kinks. Pick a video you and your man can watch together.

Then afterward... try recreating it.

Obviously, videos featuring couples will be far easier to reenact than group scenes — unless you've got a dildo (or another partner!) handy.

Learn: Getting the most pleasure out of a dildo.

The best approach: alternate who picks the video so you both get to enjoy the experience. A veto system also helps — either of you can nix a video at any point, no explanation needed.

8. The Slow Build – A Genuinely Great Sex Tip

Everything on this page will seriously level up your sex life and leave your man grinning.

But there's one catch...

A lot of women reading through the Love Curi site and newsletter skip right past "The Slow Build." This is everything you do before actually starting a blow job, hand job, or even a foot job. Sure, he'll appreciate any sexual act you throw his way, but if it always happens out of nowhere, it eventually gets predictable and dull.

That's because there's no anticipation or sexual tension — you've skipped straight to the main event.

So next time you're getting intimate, think about how to stretch out the buildup, so that by the time you're actually pleasing him, he's genuinely grateful for it.

Wondering what actually belongs in a slow build? Here's a starting list.

• Touch: Touch him somewhere intimate. Brush his inner thigh, "accidentally" graze his crotch, even just hug him close.
• The Slow Kiss: Slow your kisses down to roughly a third of your normal speed for an instantly more sensual feel. Hard to explain why it works — just try it.
• Kiss His Body: Instead of focusing on lips, cheeks, and neck, kiss other parts of him — chest, shoulders, back, even his legs.
• Before You're Together: Before you even see him, send some dirty text messages or end a phone call on something filthy. These 43 sexy text ideas can help too.

As with every tip on Love Curi, save "The Slow Build" for occasional use to keep things spicy. Don't turn it into a routine you run through every single time.

February 8, 2022