107 Dirty Text Messages To Send Your Guy + How To Do It Right

Dirty text messages are a great way to talk dirty to your man even when he's not around. So what kinds of naughty texts should you actually send to keep him thinking about you? Click here to jump straight to the list of dirty text messages.

There are several good reasons to send dirty texts:

• To keep him thinking about you when you can't physically be together
• To build sexual tension. More on that here
• To arouse him. Find out how to make a guy horny
• To tease him (get tips)

This way, you're never far from his mind. By the time you're finally together, he'll be dying to tear your clothes off and get to it. Think of dirty texting as just another foreplay tool — one that can get you worked up too.

Related: Understanding Your Sexual Response Cycle To Get Aroused (+11 Techniques)

Dirty Text Messages To Keep Him Thinking About You

I've personally found the most effective use of dirty texts is simply keeping him thinking about you. Here's an example to send:

"I was thinking about you last night as I was falling asleep."

Messages like this aren't super direct, similar to some of the dirty talking phrases I've covered before. Notice they don't even need to be sexual — the goal is getting him curious and wondering about you, while telling him something he genuinely wants to hear.

One important thing to remember: short messages that don't demand a reply often work better. It's a subtle signal of confidence.

Dirty Text Messages To Build Sexual Tension

Texting is a perfect tool for building sexual tension. What you send can be quite sexual, but the physical distance between you means there's a natural barrier to anything actually happening (and barriers are exactly what build tension). Try sending something like this — some of these are wilder than others:

"If I didn't have to go to college/work today, I would come over & blow your mind ;)"

What's great about this one is its ambiguity. It could mean an amazing blow job… or something else entirely. Being vague like this keeps him guessing, which is exactly the point!

Messages like these build serious anticipation. By the time you're finally alone together, he'll be practically panting. You'll find plenty more ways to build tension through dirty talk in the Dirty Talking Guide.

Dirty Text Messages To Arouse Him

Keeping him thinking about you and building tension are the subtler approaches. A more direct route is texting purely to turn him on. Try this:

"I want you on top of me now."

Messages like this land better once you've been seeing each other for a while — otherwise it might come across as too forward.

Try: 103 submissive phrases to text your man.

Dirty Text Messages To Tease Him

Be a little careful when texting to tease him. You don't want to come across as mean, or he might get the wrong idea. Here are some solid examples to try:

"How come I'm always horny when you're not around. Grrr!"

"If you were here right now, I would give you the blowjob of your life!"

The Big List of 107 Dirty Sex Messages to Send Your Man

These messages are split into three tiers. "X" messages are the mildest, and there aren't too many of them since similar examples show up throughout Love Curi. For instance, check out how to flirt with a guy over text.

XX messages are steamier without committing you to anything yet. XXX messages are the raunchiest tier and signal you're serious about having sex with this guy.

8 Dirty Text Messages

These messages only hint at being dirty. They might read as flirty, or could even fly over the head of someone distracted, but they work well if you're testing the waters. If he catches your drift, he can fire back with his own or escalate things further.

1. I bought something for us to use together.
2. Let's play a game [segue into dirty questions, couples quiz, giving commands, etc.]. Get ideas for flirty text games.
3. It's been so hard to concentrate at work/school today.
4. I'm bored. Tell me what I should do to entertain myself?
5. You should see how I look in my new dress [make it dirtier by suggesting lingerie, underwear, etc.].
6. It's not that I can't stop thinking about you. Oh wait, that's exactly it.
7. Can I stop by for lunch?
8. Let's share secrets.

XX Dirty Text Messages

There's no denying you're in a sexy mood once you're using these, and they're much less likely to be misread. That said, you're not breaking out the most explicit language yet.

1. What's it called when you love sucking on things? An oral fixation? Yea, I've got that.
2. I'm just thinking about the last time we were together. It felt so good.
3. I wanna know the dirtiest fantasy you've ever had. I'll tell you mine.
4. Guess what I'm going to do the next time I see you.
5. Send a picture of two lingerie options from your closet or a lingerie store, asking him to pick one.
6. What's the greatest memory you have of us having sex? (You can also describe your own).
7. Sometimes I see you, and it's like I'm out of control. I just want to jump your bones.
8. I've been planning what I'll do to you in bed all week. I am going to blow your mind.
9. I bet I can make your squirm/moan/pant.
10. I slept so well after I got home. We should do that more often.
11. Do you think I should go commando tonight?
12. Something will be different about my body when you see me next. It's up to you to find it.
13. Name a body part, and I'll send a picture of it.
14. I've been interested in rough [or gentle, sensual, etc.] sex for as long as I can remember.
15. Let's install a mirror in the bedroom.
16. Sometimes just your kisses turn me on.
17. You're such an animal in bed. I absolutely love it!
18. Do you think I make too much noise in bed? Next time we can try a ball gag.
19. [Send an audio recording of you masturbating] Guess what I am doing in this clip?
20. If you guess what I'm doing now, I'll send you a picture of it.
21. I just want to spend all night with your body next to mine.
22. You're so skilled that you could teach lessons in sex!
23. You scream for ice cream; I scream for ____ (fill in the blank).
24. Do you know the most sensitive part of my body?
25. If you FaceTime me right now, you'll like what you see!
26. I found something that reminds me of us. You wanna see? [When he agrees, send him a porn clip or GIF]
27. Should we try roleplay in bed?
28. I can't believe how our bodies fit together.
29. Let's make a dirty movie tonight.
30. Have you ever wanted to have sex in public?
31. [Send him a link to Love Curi]. What should we try next?
32. Is your tongue made of magic? Otherwise, I don't know how you do that.
33. [Take a nude photo with your genitals and breasts blacked out]. I'll show you the whole thing if you guess the number I'm thinking! It's between 1 and 10.
34. [Send a picture of the local adult video/bookstore or section]. Guess what I bought!
35. I miss you in bed… and in me.
36. We should buy me a toy that I can use when we can't be together.
37. I can't figure out whether I like you best on top of me, beneath me, or next to me. What do you think?
38. I found this new site called the Love Curi, and I've got so many naughty ideas! [Send a link to a specific page if you'd like]
39. Let's explore each other's erogenous zones. There are so many!
40. I know you've already had dinner, but what about dessert?
41. I just got out of the shower. I haven't even had time to get dressed first!
42. I don't care if you rip my clothes to shreds when you undress me. In fact, I'd prefer it that way.
43. What I need right now: sleep, food, and sex. Except I don't care about the first two.
44. Wanna know what I'm doing today? [When he answers "Yes"] You.
45. Is it bad if I've already masturbated today and it's not even noon?

XXX Dirty Text Messages

These are the raunchiest on the list! No playing coy here. You want him, and he'll know it.

If you send these to a guy, he may assume you're ready to have sex with him. You absolutely retain full bodily and sexual autonomy regardless, but it's worth knowing how guys might interpret one of these.

1. I was so loud when I was thinking about you and masturbating. I hope no one overheard!
2. I can't help but touch myself when I think about you.
3. I don't think I'll be able to wait long enough to take all my clothes off the next time we fuck.
4. I can't wait until you're stripping me from my clothes, undoing every button, strap, and zipper, and doing whatever you want with my body.
5. Come over.
6. Every time I fantasize about us having sex, I imagine you tying me up and having your way with me.
7. Send a nude photo/selfie.
8. I want to suck your cock better than anyone has before.
9. Do you want to cum on my face/breasts/stomach the next time I see you?
10. I'll be wearing anything you want and doing anything you want me to when you get home/come over.
11. I want to see everywhere your cock will fit in my body.
12. You're going to fuck me up against the wall next time we have sex.
13. I dare you to rub the back of my throat with your cock.
14. Here are my favorite ways to pleasure you [list them in as much detail as you desire].
15. Nothing feels better than when you cum inside of me.
16. Let's try titty fucking tonight. (Learn more about this).
17. I love when I'm ass up on the bed, and you're balls deep in me.
18. I bet you can fuck me better than I fuck myself with my sex toy.
19. What kind of dirty talk do you like? I want to make your cock rock hard.
20. I love the way my pussy tastes on your fingers.. and cock.
21. Soon I'm going to give you a surprise blowjob. You better be ready. (Get blowjob tips)
22. I need you to spank me, Daddy. It makes my pussy so wet.
23. My favorite sex position is when you ride me doggy style, and I have to bury my face in the pillows to keep from screaming so loud the whole block will hear.
24. I can't believe your thick cock even fits inside me.
25. I wonder what you think about when I'm fucking you, my tits are bouncing in your face, and I cum on your hard dick.
26. Sometimes I think about cum dripping from your cock onto my body. I trace patterns in it on my skin.
27. God, my pussy is so wet. I can't wait until you get back and make me cum.
28. I just want to use your body: your tongue against my clit as I grind on your face, your hands inside my pussy and rubbing my G-spot, and your dick buried inside me as I ride you to heaven.
29. I know you want to fuck my ass. How about tonight?
30. I've been wearing a butt plug all day in preparation for tonight.
31. Sometimes I'm at work and I'm so damned horny that I squeeze my thighs together over and over until I can go home and jerk off. I wonder if anyone ever notices.
32. It was so sexy when you were explaining/fixing/teaching something. My panties were soaked when I took them off.
33. I'm using that new toy you bought me right now.
34. Sometimes I can see your nipples through your t-shirt, and I imagine flicking my tongue against them.
35. I've been working on my blowjob skills. Can I test them on you?
36. I've been naughty with my workload/school today. Do you think I deserve to be punished?
37. I wish you could feel how I feel when we have sex.
38. Can I practice my lap dance skills on you?
39. I feel so amazing when I ride you. I hope it's good for you, too.
40. I know you're at work, but you need to go to the bathroom and masturbate and think of me.
41. I'll pay you twice your salary if you come home and fuck me silly.
42. You don't have to masturbate tonight. I'll play with your dick for you.
43. I stopped by the grocery store on my way home and picked up something you can eat off my body.
44. I'm dropping to my knees as soon as you walk in, so you better be prepared to brace yourself.
45. I just figured out the perfect safe word. Guess we have to try it out now.
46. 8 o'clock. My bed. What you wear doesn't matter.
47. Save some energy for me tonight.
48. Tonight, I'll do all the work in bed.
49. When you get here, you can put your duffel on the floor and your cock in my pussy.
50. If you get here in 20 minutes, I'll do that thing you always ask about.
51. Ready when you are [send a photo of you in bed]
52. Sometimes I realize I've been stroking my phone like it's your dick.
53. I've made a mess in my panties and you have to clean it up — with your tongue.
54. The last guy who fucked me was so bad that I had to think about you the whole time.

Looking for something a little more tame instead? Check out these sexy text messages. Not quite ready even for that? Ease into a flirty text message first.

6 Dirty Text Message Tips

1) Just because we've focused on texting doesn't mean these ideas won't work over email or a private Facebook chat or IM too.

2) You might be eager to fire off every kind of dirty text right away, but my advice is to test the waters with milder messages first and gauge his reaction. Once it's clear he's into it, escalate to raunchier territory. Starting with something way out there risks freaking him out.

Go deeper: 13 hot sexting tips to drive him wild!

3) Variety keeps things interesting. Even in an established sexual relationship, you don't need to send dirty texts every single time — honestly, it can get repetitive. Mix in flirtier or more romantic messages to keep his attention fresh.

Read More: 47 Love Text Messages + When To Send Them

Along the same lines, don't be too predictable. Sure, you might text him on your lunch break or right after work, but switch it up with good morning texts or a random message from the grocery line.

4) Stay true to yourself when texting him something dirty. Being dirty doesn't mean abandoning your own voice — swap "cock" for "penis" or "pussy" for "vagina" if that's more natural for you. And if blunt sexual talk isn't your style, super explicit texts might not be your thing, and that's fine.

Crude language isn't a requirement for something to feel dirty. A little euphemism or innuendo does the job just as well, or you can simply trail off mid-thought. Leaving something to his imagination often works in your favor.

On the flip side, if you're usually more reserved or polite, sending something unexpectedly raunchy could be exactly the surprise that gets him going.

5) Keep in mind that sending — or even taking — photos carries some risk. If your device or cloud storage gets compromised, images meant only for your partner could end up seen by someone else.

And if a relationship ends badly, there's a chance those photos get shared without your consent. Sticking to photos that exclude your face or any identifying marks or body modifications adds a layer of protection. If you're genuinely worried, it may be safest to skip this kind of photo altogether.

6) Be mindful of timing when texting him. Sending something steamy while you know he's out with friends can be fun, but not so much if he's got his screen projected during a work meeting. Some people also just don't love being interrupted at certain times. Learn his preferences so your messages always land well.

He can also lean on his phone's Do Not Disturb mode or turn off notifications when he needs to stay focused. Many messaging apps also offer a private or hidden conversation feature, keeping your dirty texts for his eyes only.

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Ignore these guidelines, and you risk him tuning your texts out entirely.

Once you've got the hang of dirty texting, you can bring it into your current relationship, a new fling, or really any flirtation you want to heat up.

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