21 Steamy Ways To Spice Up Blow Jobs Tonight

Get ready to learn how to spice up a blow job and give your man a whole new range of sensations. This guide walks you through 21 distinct ways to shake up your oral routine and keep him coming back for more.

1. Try a Bondage Blow Job

Bondage is a fantastic way to add excitement to oral sex because it involves his entire body, not just his penis. You've got options here too — tie him up before you start, or begin going down on him and pause partway through to restrain him. Under-the-bed restraints are ideal for this.

Learn: Light bondage techniques and ideas.

Either way, he'll be stuck reacting without being able to move, no matter how badly he wants to.

Curious to explore further? Check out our BDSM guide.

2. Add a Blindfold

Blindfolds work so well because losing sight sharpens every other sense. Your partner will be hyper-aware of your every touch.

If you're already picturing this combined with bondage to really spice up giving head, you're thinking along the right lines. He won't have any choice but to lie back and take it in.

Still, we suggest testing a blindfold and bondage separately first before combining them — together, they can be more intense than expected.

Plenty of the other ideas on this list pair nicely with a blindfold, too.

3. Play a Guessing Game

With your partner blindfolded, introduce a new blow job technique, object, or texture mid-session and have him guess what you're using. Pick the reward if he guesses correctly — or the BDSM punishment if he gets it wrong.

4. Catch Him Off Guard in the Shower

A surprise blow job is hard to beat. You can pull this off almost anywhere — road head in the car, the living room, even a dark alley — but shower sex works especially well since he's already getting clean. And if swallowing isn't your thing, there's a convenient drain to handle the cleanup.

Learn: how to swallow cum and enjoy it.

5. Introduce a Bit of Pain Right Before He Finishes

This trick to spice up your blow job depends on being tuned in to your partner's body. Watch for signs he's about to finish — quicker breathing, tensed muscles — and time a little pain accordingly.

Go easy at first unless you're certain he's into pain. So what can you actually do?

• Lightly pinch him on the butt, penis, thighs, or another body part
• Spank or paddle him – learn how to spank your husband
• Swat his penis
• Tug on his balls
• Drag your teeth along his shaft – just be careful to avoid hurting him with your teeth
• Pull his pubic hair

The goal is a jolt of surprise, not a traumatic experience. You want a blow job that's exciting, not one he'll be wary of afterward!

6. Bring in Role Play

Sometimes what spices things up isn't the technique itself but the scenario surrounding it. Role play changes the entire atmosphere, provided you're willing to lean into a little fantasy.

Certain scenarios work especially well for oral sex — think a boss getting serviced under a desk, or a teacher-student dynamic where he's learning how to give a better blow job. We're confident you can dream up more. If not, browse this list of 40+ role play ideas.

Go as far as you want with it — new outfit, a wig, even a different voice. On that note, changing your voice while he's blindfolded can convince him he's receiving fellatio from someone else entirely. That's a serious way to spice up a blow job!

7. Get Vocal

Enthusiasm goes a long way during oral sex. Even with your mouth occupied, take a moment to switch to giving your man a hand job — a perfect opportunity for some dirty talk.

Dirty talk is one of the easiest ways to spice up nearly any sexy activity. Not sure what to say? Browse these dirty talk examples for inspiration.

Moaning works just as well, and you can do it with your mouth full too — he might even enjoy feeling the vibration against his penis.

8. Bring in Vibration

Standard blow job advice suggests running a vibrator along his shaft while your mouth moves up and down. But if you really want to spice things up, try pressing the vibrator against your cheek instead (if that's too much sensation, opt for a toy with deeper vibrations).

Your partner might also enjoy a vibrating cock ring around the base of his penis during oral sex. You could also press a vibe against his balls or perineum, aka the taint.

9. Bring Toys Into the Mix

Oral sex is mostly about your mouth, but that doesn't mean toys are off-limits — plenty of toys designed for penises can join in the fun.

One idea: alternate between a masturbator or stroker and your mouth, switching as quickly as you can so he stays continuously stimulated.

More: How to use sex toys for intense orgasms.

10. Try Snowballing

If you've heard of snowballing, you already know it registers as a bit extreme for some people. It involves your partner ejaculating into your mouth.

Rather than spitting or swallowing, you kiss him and pass his cum back into his mouth. It's definitely not for everyone, but if you're both open to experimenting, it can be a fun twist.

11. Extract a Promise

Right before he finishes, get him to promise you something. Nothing too extreme, obviously — maybe a small gift, cleaning out the garage, or a sexual favor down the line.

Enjoy having that kind of leverage? Try taking charge in the bedroom!

12. Pick a New Finishing Spot

Most blow jobs wrap up one of two ways: spitting or swallowing. If swallowing isn't for you, a tissue works fine too.

But why not switch things up with something a little sexier? Let him finish on your body — breasts and ass are both popular choices. Finishing on your neck earns the nickname "pearl necklace," and plenty of people are into it.

Read More: Are Pearl Necklaces a Sex Myth or Reality?

13. Play With Texture

Ever tried Pop Rocks or popping candy during oral sex? It's worth experimenting with if you want to shake things up. There's even oral sex candy made specifically for this. Rolling small candies like Nerds across your tongue while going down on him is another option.

You might not think of it as "texture," but lube adds a slick element that helps if your mouth tends to get dry. Flavored lube also comes in handy if the natural taste of fellatio isn't your favorite. A few other ideas:

• Champagne
• Honey/maple syrup

Skip anything chocolate-based — it turns messy fast.

14. Experiment With Sensation

Beyond texture, plenty of sensations can add spice to a blow job. An ice cube or a cold sip of water can jolt your partner in all the right ways. Minty gum, mouthwash, or candy can produce a similar shiver.

On the flip side, a warm drink of coffee or tea works too. Going down on him right after eating a hot pepper will definitely turn up the heat — literally. Just be careful not to overdo it, since it's easy to make things too intense.

Don't forget you can switch between hot and cold for extra contrast.

15. Give His Balls Some Attention

Rather than finishing entirely with your mouth on his penis, try licking or sucking his balls while your hand finishes the job.

Related: 9 Foolproof Testicle Massage Tips

16. Slow It Way Down

If you usually rush toward the finish, try the opposite instead. Slowing down gives you both time to savor every movement and reaction. Since you're steering the pace, you also get to enjoy teasing him — and you might discover you love edging your partner.

Pairing this with bondage forces him to stay patient, too.

Psst, if a slower pace appeals to you, this guide to slow sex is worth a read.

17. Try a "Blow Out"

With his shaft in your mouth, seal your lips around it and blow gently until your cheeks puff out. Then slowly draw the air back in.

Repeat a few times while gauging his reaction. Speed the process up, and it creates a "lapping" sensation as your cheeks press and release against his penis.

18. Squeeze for Effect

Holding the base of his penis gives you control over speed and depth — useful while you're still mastering how to deep throat your man. You don't have to hold gently, either. Add a squeeze at the base, and if pain is his thing, you can squeeze quite a bit harder.

This works especially well right as he's finishing.

19. Create Extra Friction

Even seasoned pros overlook this one. With your mouth around his shaft, wrap your thumb and index finger around your own lips, then squeeze them together.

This adds a tightness he's likely to love.

20. The "Prayer" Technique

Want to use two hands instead of one? Apply a generous amount of lube between your palms and hold them together in front of your mouth as if praying.

Let his penis slide between your hands and into your mouth, creating a longer channel that combines hands and mouth.

Note that this particular technique works best on a longer penis rather than a smaller one.

Related: Tips for Small Penis Sex

21. Ban All Noise

Hearing your partner moan and pant is usually great, but sometimes the total absence of those sounds is even hotter — especially useful if you're looking for fresh ways to spice up a blow job.

Simply forbid any noise. The moment he makes a sound, stop what you're doing. He'll have to work harder than ever to keep himself under control.

You can try a similar variation banning movement entirely — essentially mental bondage. Reward him only if he manages to pass the test!

One Final Thought

Whether we're talking blow jobs or anything else, spicing up your sex life comes down to experimentation. Not every idea will land, and that's fine. What matters most is treating oral sex as a priority — your partner is bound to appreciate the effort!

Now that you've got a stack of new ideas for spicing up your blow jobs, you're probably eager to try a few. Who wouldn't be? And if you want to make sure you get yours too, send him over to this guide to eating pussy.

November 25, 2021