How To Kiss – 22 Passionate Kissing Techniques That'll Drive Him Wild

In this guide, I'm walking you through 22 distinct kissing tips and techniques you can use on your partner. Consider this the ultimate resource for kissing someone with real passion and intensity, showing them exactly how much you care. Get it right, and he'll definitely return the favor with interest! You'll find a huge variety of techniques, tips and tactics packed into this piece. Don't try to cram them all in at once. You're much better off picking one or two per encounter with your man. That way you'll always have something fresh in your back pocket for ages to come!

And if you want to level up beyond kissing, these 23 sex techniques will get you there 😉

1. Sit Back And Let Him Lead

Nervous about what to actually do while kissing your man? Unsure what your lips, tongue, mouth and hands should be doing?

Relax!

He's likely every bit as nervous as you are. The easiest fix for those jitters is to simply let him take charge. Sit back, relax, and enjoy while he kisses you. It's also a subtly submissive move you might find you actually like.

If it feels like he's carried the whole thing for a bit too long, just mirror what he's doing back to him. If he was massaging your lips with his, do the same to him. If he was licking, sucking and kissing your neck, return the favor. Simple as that!

2. Pin Him Against A Wall

Wrapping each other up while kissing is undeniably hot… but there's a move that ramps up the intensity even further. Next time you're kissing him somewhere with a wall nearby (your bedroom, say), try backing him up against it and leaning your weight into him to keep him pinned.

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It's a bold, commanding move that'll turn him on considerably — especially if it's out of character for you. So if you're in the mood to be more assertive than usual, push him into the wall and go from there.

More: How to be dominant in the bedroom

3. Initiate While He's Lying Down

You know that great feeling when your guy leans in to kiss you first? It's hot to feel him take the lead. What people often overlook, though, is that he enjoys it just as much when you're the one starting things. The tricky part is that making the first move can feel awkward when he's got a height advantage on you.

More: How to initiate sex smoothly

Luckily, there's an easy workaround. Next time you're lying together, position yourself on top of his chest. From there, sliding into a position facing him, on top, comes naturally. Then all that's left is leaning down to kiss him.

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4. Work His Neck

Hopefully this one's already a habit. His neck is packed with nerve endings and offers plenty of surface area to explore. Next time you're mid-kiss, just drift your lips toward it. It's really not complicated…

Purse your lips gently and suck on a small patch of skin for a second or two. Shift slightly and repeat on a nearby spot. Mix in some light licking between the sucking too. It's one of my go-to foreplay techniques.

Want to add a kinky sex technique to your neck-kissing? Apply a bit more pressure while sucking to leave a hickey. Or try a very gentle bite, holding the skin lightly between your teeth. You'll feel his breathing pick up when you do!

His neck is just one stop on the map of his many erogenous zones.

5. The Comforting Forehead Kiss

There's something deeply soothing about a kiss on the forehead, whether you're giving or receiving it. It's probably not your move of choice when you want maximum heat, but if he's exhausted or down, it can be exactly right.

It's admittedly awkward to pull off standing up, but works beautifully if he's seated or lying down.

6. Play With His Ear

His ear — especially the lobe — is remarkably sensitive, sometimes even more than his lips. A great way to intensify a kiss is to gently toy with his earlobe using your fingers while your mouths are busy elsewhere.

Rather than reaching straight for his ear out of nowhere, it flows more naturally if you first cup his neck in your hands and slide your fingers up toward his lobe.

Yum.

You'll find it feels far more natural to focus on one ear at a time rather than both together.

While your mouth's up near his ear, it's the perfect opportunity to whisper something dirty. These 64 dirty talking examples will give you plenty of material.

7. Kiss His Ear And Then Some

Building on tip #6 is a great next move — kiss his ear. And I don't just mean the lobe. I mean his whole ear. Kissing and gently working the outer edge between your lips is easy enough, but there's something even hotter you can try…

Lick his ear, particularly the inner section. Keep your tongue nice and moist. What makes licking and kissing the inner ear so hot is that he'll hear every bit of it — your breathing, your kissing, your licking, all up close. Give it a shot; he'll be into it.

These 81 dirty things you can whisper in his ear are ideal for getting his pulse racing.

8. Suck His Earlobe

I don't want his ear to dominate this whole guide, so this is the last mention. As I said, his earlobe is intensely sensitive, and he'll notice when you give it real attention.

A soft, gentle suck is an easy way to stimulate it. As you pull away, lightly squeeze it between your lips so it slides through slowly. Another rough sex technique is doing the same thing but with your teeth instead — just keep the pressure very light.

Don't be shocked if he starts trembling with pleasure when you try this!

More: 15 Tips & techniques to pleasure your man

9. The Hello Kiss

Greeting him with a kiss is one of the more obvious flirty things you can do. There are countless ways to deliver a hello kiss, but my go-to is a quick peck on the lips while pulling him into a hug.

Another option is softly pinching his lower lip between yours and pulling away slowly as you go. Yum!

Learn: How to flirt with a guy like a pro

10. Don't Skip The French Kiss

No guide to kissing would be complete without French kissing — it's the ultimate way to show him real passion. Instead of plunging your tongue in and spinning it around like a washing machine, it's far more seductive to slow things down and tease him a little as you go.

Learn: 18 ways to be more seductive

Start by extending your tongue just slightly and using it to softly stroke and caress his lips. He should catch on and mirror you. Once his mouth opens and his tongue meets yours, you can begin massaging it gently.

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Switch between a few seconds of tongue-on-tongue massaging and lip massaging, then let him take a turn doing the same to you, weaving in regular kisses throughout. That's the whole technique!

11. Kiss In The Cold And Wind

Kissing in the same spots every time gets stale fast, especially if it's always private and predictable. That's why kissing him outdoors when it's cold and windy is worth trying. It feels unexpected, yet somehow deeply cozy and warm at the same time.

There's not much more to explain — just try it yourself.

Interestingly, the same logic applies to sex. With that in mind, here are 48 exciting places to have sex.

12. Lock Eyes Before You Kiss

Most of these tips focus on the physical side — what to do with your lips, tongue, teeth and hands. That matters a lot, but the emotional layer matters just as much.

One powerful way to show him love and care is to hold deep eye contact for a few seconds before leaning in.

This isn't something to force whenever the mood strikes — you need to wait for the right moment. You'll know it when it comes.

Use it sparingly, too. The less often you do it, the more powerful it becomes — he'll crave it more the rarer it is.

13. The Cheek Kiss

Sure, kissing him on the cheek isn't the steamiest move on this list, but it's a nice addition to your repertoire — especially as a smooth transition from his lips to his neck or ears.

It's about as simple as it gets.

14. Give Him Quick Pecks

Similar to the cheek kiss is peppering him with quick little "pecks," each lasting barely a second. It's a great segue into giving him a blow job — just start with pecks along his neck and work your way down his chest and stomach until you land where you're headed.

15. Kiss Him When You're Happy

Kissing him in a happy moment isn't necessarily the most powerful move for making him fall in love with you. It's more about deepening intimacy during a fun, lighthearted moment.

Maybe you're joking around or cracking up over something together. When it feels right, lean in for a quick kiss. Don't force it or overdo it — keep it natural. If the moment feels off, just wait for a better one.

16. Kiss Him From Behind

There's something sexy, even a little submissive, about leaning back to kiss him when he's holding you from behind. He can guide you by resting a hand on your neck. Like the other tips here, this works best when it happens organically rather than on cue. It also pairs nicely with having sex from behind.

17. Gently Scratch His Scalp

People often ask me, "What am I supposed to do with my hands while kissing him?" The simplest answer is just wrapping them around him. But that gets old fast. A more passionate option is massaging and lightly scratching his scalp, especially toward the back of his head.

It's another highly sensitive erogenous zone that loves being rubbed, caressed, massaged and scratched. Try it next time you're kissing — he'll love it.

18. Return The Favor (Let Him Scratch Yours)

A scalp massage feels incredible for him, so make sure he gives you the same treatment! If he doesn't think to do it himself, you could ask outright, but that can feel clunky. A smoother approach is doing it to him first, then guiding his hand to your scalp afterward. The back of your head is the most sensitive spot. Most guys pick up the technique instinctively from there.

Let him know he's nailing it by moaning or sighing while he works your scalp.

19. Kiss With Full Passion

Hopefully you're enjoying this collection of tips. A common mistake people make with these lists — or any new things to try in bed — is treating them like rigid instructions to follow in order.

That's not remotely hot. It'll make him feel like he's kissing a robot! A better approach is picking one or two tips and then just following your instincts from there. That's what real passionate kissing looks like — losing yourselves in the moment instead of mentally checking off a list.

This applies just as much when you're having sensual sex.

So treat each of these techniques as a loose guide rather than a rulebook. Do that, and kissing him with real passion will start to feel effortless and natural.

20. Kiss With Tenderness

When he's tired, in a low mood, or just not feeling it, a super-intense kiss probably won't land well — it might actually turn him off. A gentler approach that communicates care works much better in those moments.

Side note: Learn the 9 worst things that turn men off.

Tender kissing is easy — softly press your lips against his, add a cheek kiss, and layer in some touching or a hug.

21. Caress Him As You Kiss

Massaging his scalp or holding him close isn't the only thing your hands can do while you kiss. Let them roam — his chest, back, arms, shoulders, and don't forget his butt! This works well anywhere private.

But it's even better when you're both undressed in bed together.

Related: Keep this technique handy when you're cuddling your man.

22. Kiss Somewhere Crowded

Kissing him in a crowded public spot isn't for everyone, but it's worth trying at least once. I don't mean a bar or club — think somewhere out in the open, like a street or shopping center.

Some people don't realize they actually enjoy the idea of being seen kissing their partner until they try it. You might be one of them!

This applies to having sex outside too — just keep it within the law!

Where To Go From Here

Hopefully you enjoyed this deep dive into kissing your man with real passion and intensity. But mastering his kiss is just the beginning. From here, start layering in other techniques for when things heat up even more.

February 10, 2022