43 Scorching Sext Messages To Keep Things Sizzling

Texting your man something sexy can be a seriously powerful move when you get it right. BUT, there's a surprisingly thin line separating cringeworthy from genuinely hot, naughty, and dirty. This guide walks you through 42 different sexy, naughty messages you can fire off to make him hornier than he thought possible (jump straight to the example messages here). It'll also cover the timing — when to send these and how sexting keeps you on his mind.

I've also thrown in the essential rules for sexting your man toward the end of this guide.

Note: This is Chapter 5 of the Dirty Talking Guide. Check out Chapter 1 and Chapter 2 for the basics of talking dirty to your man, plus more than 100 dirty-talk examples. Chapter 3 offers 91 different dirty lines to build sexual tension, turn him on, and lead to great sex. Chapter 4 rounds up 69 dirty, sexy questions to keep things interesting and fun. Chapter 6 shows you how to have amazing phone sex with him.

Sexy Texts For A New Relationship

When you're just starting to date someone, ease into sexting rather than diving in headfirst. Go too hard too fast and you risk making him uncomfortable or coming off as fixated on sex. Plus, brand-new relationships usually already have plenty of natural sexual tension and excitement built in.

Start with milder texts like the ones below, then work your way up to the steamier messages further down the page (jump ahead to the more explicit sexting examples here)...

1. I couldn't stop noticing you in that shirt/jeans/top/briefs last night x
2. Skirt or tight jeans — which do you think would look better on me?
3. Did I ever mention what I call my boobs?
4. I had the craziest dream last night...and you were right in the middle of it!
5. I can't get you out of my head, seriously.
6. I'm so pumped for our date tonight. Play your cards right and you're going to love what I have planned later.
7. I know it's only been one night, but I think I'm already addicted to your dick.
8. My fuck-me heels are coming out for our date tonight.
9. What's on your schedule later? Mind if I swing by to blow you? – Learn 19 powerful blow job techniques here.
10. Tonight I want to kiss my way down slowly from your lips...the only question is how far down I'll go.

Sexy Texts To Reignite A Long-Term Relationship

Married or in a long relationship and craving more heat, passion, and excitement? Sending your man a dirty sext is a great way to bring that spark back. Try these on for size:

1. I hate sitting here at work when I could be home doing filthy things to you instead.
2. Why can't I just be curled up in bed with you instead of studying/working... 🙁
3. I've got a surprise waiting for you tonight...I think you're going to love it!
4. If you could only pick three items of clothing (or fewer) for me to wear tonight, what would you choose?
5. I spent the last hour lying in bed thinking about you...guess what I was up to!
6. I stumbled onto this fun sex site online...it gave me some seriously good ideas for later!
7. When did you last jerk it?
8. I just came up with a new position I'm dying to try with you.
9. Random question — would it bother you if I told you I kissed a girl while we were together?
10. I found some sex positions we need to try, what do you think? (Then send a few positions and pictures from this Sex Positions Guide)
11. Quick hand job or a long, drawn-out session tonight — which do you want more? – Learn how to give a mind-blowing hand job here.
12. I miss your hands all over me, tearing my clothes off, having your way with me. (great for long-distance couples).
13. I think we're ready to try anal. – Read the in-depth anal sex guide here.
14. Does picturing me with another girl turn you on a little...or a lot? x
15. Tonight you've got a choice: anal or oral. Which is it going to be?
16. Guess the color of my bra correctly, and you get a blow job tonight!

Texts For Uncontrollable Lust

Want him ripping your clothes off the second he sees you? These filthy, nasty messages will get the job done. They're especially effective if it's been a few weeks apart and you're about to reunite. Send them in the hours and days leading up to seeing him, and by the time he does, he'll be consumed with wanting you.

1. Tonight I'm going to bite you, slap you, choke you, and turn you into my personal sex slave. – Get 7 rough sex ideas here to make him scream with pleasure.
2. I'm draining every last drop out of you later.
3. I've been sharpening my nails because I want to mark you as mine.
4. You're going to be screaming my name tonight.
5. Tonight's theme is pleasure mixed with pain. – Here's 9 intensely kinky sex ideas to use on your man.
6. I want to hear you breathing right in my ear when I make you cum.
7. You don't get to cum tonight until I give the okay.
8. You won't be able to move by the time I'm done with you tonight.
9. Your cock is going to be pulsing with pure pleasure tonight.

Sexting Ideas To Keep Him Thinking Of You

When you can't spend as much time together as you'd like, it gets frustrating fast. Luckily, the right sext keeps you on his mind constantly, even from a distance. As a bonus, these also leave him desperate to see you sooner.

1. I came so hard last night just thinking about you. Too bad my hands don't compare to the real thing. – These 10 masturbation techniques (with diagrams) will leave you breathless.
2. I had such a vivid dream about you last night, I've been replaying it in my head all day.
3. I'm so worked up just thinking about seeing you later.
4. I miss your arms wrapped around me x
5. You crossed my mind in the shower this morning! Try these 12 shower sex positions.
6. I miss you taking control of me.
7. Something about you standing right over me while we kiss makes me unbelievably wet.

Turning Dirty Texts Into A Full Story

By now you can probably tell that short, filthy texts are perfect for a quick hit of horniness and excitement. But you don't have to stop at one-liners — sending him a longer, sexier message, even a full story, keeps him completely hooked.

Picture painting him a vivid scene of exactly how you're going to give him an incredible blow job later. Speaking of which, if a blow job is on the agenda, use these oral sex tips to give him a mind-shattering orgasm.

Building a story into a sext is easier than it sounds. Just describe what you plan to do to him later and stretch it out for as long as you like. You can go fully explicit if that's his thing, or take a subtler route and let his imagination fill in the gaps. Below are two examples of longer, intense stories you could send. Break them into separate texts, or send the whole thing as one — your call.

1. I'm going to trace my lips slowly over yours, massaging them gently. Then I'll kiss you...starting at your lips...down to your neck...down to your chest...down to your cock. But I won't take it straight into my mouth. I'm going to keep kissing it until you're begging me for more.
2. You're mine. And I'm going to mark my territory. I'm going to bite you. Your neck, your chest, your legs, your ass — all of it covered in bruises from my teeth. And your back? That's getting marked too. I've sharpened my nails just so I can tear it up. There's a lot of pleasure and pain headed your way tonight, boy.

4 Sexting Mistakes That Kill The Mood

Mistake #1: Overdoing It – After reading through all these example sexts, you're probably itching to start sending them. Great, but there's a catch. If you flood him with these messages and skip regular texting altogether, they'll quickly lose their impact. The real magic of a sexy text is as a spice added to your relationship, not the entire meal.

Sending them sparingly keeps him guessing — he'll never know when the next dirty sext is coming.

Mistake #2: Bad Timing – Every sext example in this guide, along with the 73 phrases for talking dirty to your man here and the 64 dirty talking examples here, will have him practically drooling for you, but...they're not a fit for every moment or every stage of your relationship.

Match your sexting to the situation. If he's stressed about work and you're having a heart-to-heart, this probably isn't the moment for, "I want to feel your cum dripping down my throat tonight!" Something gentler works better here, like, "I want to give you a big cuddle right now."

It might sound obvious once it's spelled out, but you'd be surprised how often people miss this and send the wrong message at the wrong moment.

Mistake #3: Skipping Feedback – One thing that genuinely bums me out is hearing from women who can't figure out why their sexy texts are turning their man OFF instead of on.

My answer is always the same: ask him directly what works and what doesn't. Find out what turns him on, sure, but also what falls flat or actively puts him off.

You might discover your man actually PREFERS subtler, more restrained sexting over the intense, explicit stuff you'll find elsewhere on the Bad Girl's Bible. The same principle applies to blow jobs (check out the Blow Job Guide here) or trying new positions together (learn over 100 different positions in the Sex Positions Guide here).

Mistake #4: Sexting Too Early – This last one trips up plenty of women. If you start sexting a guy before you're actually in a committed relationship, he may assume all you're after is sex.

That's completely fine if sex really is all you want right now. But if you're hoping for something more serious, my sexting advice is to wait until the relationship is more established first.

These 43 sexy texts should give you a solid starting point. Over time, start improvising your own based on what you and your man both genuinely enjoy.

January 21, 2020