73 Dirty Talk Phrases That'll Drive Your Man Wild

Silent sex is nobody's favorite. It kills the mood and quietly drags your sex life into a rut.

That's exactly why this Dirty Talking Guide exists — to teach you how to talk dirty to your man in a way that builds real sexual tension, keeps him hooked on you, and most importantly, leads to genuinely great sex.

Want to skip straight to the phrases? Click here. Otherwise, keep reading to learn exactly how to start talking dirty for maximum impact.

You're currently on the first chapter of the Dirty Talking Guide… Below, you'll find 73 dirty talk phrases ready to use. Jump straight to them here, or keep reading to understand the why and how behind dirty talk in your relationship.

Why Bother Learning To Talk Dirty At All?

Before you learn how, it helps to understand why dirty talk matters in the first place.

Plenty of women assume dirty talk phrases like these belong strictly in the bedroom. They definitely make sex better — but their impact reaches far beyond that.

Builds Sexual Tension – The single biggest benefit of talking dirty to your guy is the surge in sexual tension it creates. That tension is the foundation of a passionate, satisfying relationship with someone you're genuinely drawn to.

I get emails from students describing the same frustrating pattern all the time — you might even recognize it in your own relationship. You're in a long-term relationship or marriage. You love your man, but somewhere along the way, he's turned into more of a friend and roommate than someone who genuinely turns you on.

Instead of tearing each other's clothes off, you're both struggling to get aroused and get in the mood for sex. Maybe you've already tried a few online "hacks" to reignite things, with no luck.

Sexual tension is the real fix.

It's that magnetic pull that keeps you thinking about each other, craving closeness, and getting fully turned on just being in the same room.

Talking dirty to your boyfriend or husband is hands-down the best way to build that tension. You'll find phrases built specifically for this here.

More Intense Sex – Dirty talk can take your entire sex life up a notch. You can shout filthy, explicit phrases while you're both in the middle of it, or experimenting with BDSM. "Fuck me harder," "I want to taste your cum," "I love your cock!"

But…

You can also lean on gentler, sensual phrasing for a softer kind of intense. Whispering "Don't stop, I love it" or "You feel incredible" hits differently, but works just as well. More phrases for intense sex here.

Keeps Him Thinking About You – Building tension is one clear payoff of the phrases in this guide. Another: keeping you constantly on his mind.

Nothing's worse than your man traveling for work, stationed overseas, or working alongside an overly friendly female colleague. The right dirty talk keeps him thinking of you nonstop — fantasizing about your next moment together, eagerly waiting for your next call or text. Example phrases for keeping him thinking of you here.

Put all three together — tension, intensity, and staying on his mind — and it's clear how much talking dirty can genuinely elevate a relationship.

How To Talk Dirty To Your Man — A Step-By-Step Approach

Now that you understand the why, let's cover the how.

1. Wade In From The Shallow End – Jump straight into extremely explicit territory out of nowhere, and you risk catching him off guard, especially if it's completely out of character for you.

It's smarter to ease in gradually, starting mild and working your way up to more intense material.

2. Start In The Bedroom – Dirty talk feels most natural introduced in the bedroom, or whenever you're alone together — there's far less pressure that way.

Once you're comfortable talking dirty in private, branch out elsewhere. Few things beat watching his reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in a crowded bar!

3. Match His Preferences – Nearly every guy loves dirty talk, but figuring out exactly what kind he responds to matters enormously. Some men prefer it subtle and understated; others want it explicit and raw.

So your man might melt when you whisper something simple like "I can't wait to get you home," while at church. Or he might prefer something far bolder, like "I can't wait to get home so I can drop to my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth."

Or maybe he's got a praise kink instead.

The only way to know is to experiment — try these 43 sexts, these 107 extra-dirty messages, these 64 dirty talk examples, these 91 filthy things to say, or throw him a few naughty questions like these 69 sexy ones.

4. Match Your Own Preferences Too – Obviously the goal is turning him on, but don't lose sight of your own enjoyment — plenty of women forget this part entirely.

If explicit language feels uncomfortable, or dirty texting isn't your thing, you're under no obligation to force it. The goal is making dirty talk work for YOU.

That said, my advice is to give it an honest try before deciding it's not for you.

Feeling a little shy or nervous the first few times is completely natural. As you keep going and watch his reaction, your confidence will build fast.

5. Don't Force It – Everything here is guidance, not a rigid formula guaranteed to work every time, in every situation. Anyone claiming a foolproof "magic formula" for dirty talk is lying to you.

So if a particular phrase or approach falls flat a few times, DROP IT. Move on to something else. Through trial and error, you'll build up your own personal library of phrases and tactics that keep your man completely hooked.

Some women find explicit, "out there" dirty talk works best for them; others do better with subtlety. Some thrive at phone sex; others get better results over text. The key is finding what actually works for you.

6. The Biggest Dirty Talking Myth – Here's a trap a lot of women fall into — don't let it be you. Many assume the best dirty talk is loud, explicit, and aggressive.

As you work through this guide and try some of the phrases below, you'll quickly notice that subtlety often lands with far more impact than aggression or explicitness ever could.

For example: at a party with your man, leaning in and softly murmuring, "If these people weren't here, I'd do terrible things to you," then flashing a cheeky grin and continuing the conversation like nothing happened — that's shockingly powerful. It'll completely throw him. He'll spend the rest of the night wondering exactly what you meant, what's coming after the party, and yes, he'll be thoroughly turned on too.

And you barely said anything explicit at all. Keep that in mind as you practice, and you'll end up with one very happy, completely hooked man.

Dirty Talk Phrases To Get You Started

Before diving into the rest of the Dirty Talking Guide, here are some phrases to try on your man tonight.

They're organized into three groups: building sexual tension, intensifying sex, and keeping him thinking about you.

Dirty Talk Phrases For Building Sexual Tension

1. If we weren't at this party surrounded by people, I'd be all over you right now.
2. What would you say if I asked you to go down on me this second?
3. Might sound greedy, but I need your cock so badly right now. – Pick up powerful blow job techniques in the Blow Job Guide.
4. I'm draining your balls completely tonight.
5. I wish I had better self-control around you, but seeing you makes me want to rip your clothes off and fuck you senseless.
6. I need you inside me.
7. No one's ever fucked me the way you do.
8. Even when you're grumpy, I still want you.
9. You're getting marked as mine tonight.
10. Once we're home, I'm going to make you cum harder than ever.
11. Knowing you could completely overpower me makes me insanely turned on. – Learn more rough sex tips here.
12. What would you rather I wear tonight — a thong, panties, or nothing at all?
13. Would you discipline me if I started acting bratty? What is brat BDSM?
14. Tonight, I'm going to break you. – Discover how to dominate your man.
15. If these people weren't here, I'd already be on my knees with your cock in my mouth.
16. I can barely focus — all I can think about is you grabbing me and taking control.
17. I've got a sexy surprise waiting for you later… x (works great as a text/DM) – Learn 43 more sext messages plus 13 sexting tips.
18. I wish we could just stay in bed all day and fuck. – Perfect for when he's heading out, to keep tension high.
19. I love it when you wear tight clothes.
20. Guess what color my panties are right now.
21. We need to meet up after work — this need is driving me crazy.
22. I just want to wrap myself around your cock.
23. You look unbelievably hot in the morning.
24. I wore these panties just for you today.
25. I feel so turned on and helpless when you take control of me. – 103 submissive phrases to say to your partner.
26. Tonight's going to be a lot of fun 😉 (great as a text)
27. Play your cards right, and there's some fun coming your way.
28. Stop looking at me like that — you're making me wet.
29. Tonight, we're doing things my way. Don't worry, you'll enjoy it.
30. Tonight I'm going to make you scream.
31. Such a shame we're not in bed right now, because all I can picture is your body against mine.

Dirty Talk Phrases For Intense Sex

1. I just want to be your little fuck toy…
2. I want your cock in my mouth. – Chapter 2 of the Blow Job Guide has even more oral sex tips.
3. I love it when you fuck me like I'm yours to use.
4. Fuck me like you mean it.
5. I don't want to be able to feel my face or hands once you're done with me.
6. I want to taste you when you cum.
7. Making you cum hard is all I care about right now.
8. Taste me.
9. I don't want to walk right tomorrow, so fuck me harder.
10. Degrade me. (129 kinky degradation ideas and phrases)
11. Use me however you want.
12. Don't stop.
13. Fuck me like I belong to you.
14. You're going to make me cum.
15. I love your dick.
16. Fuck my pussy.
17. Fill me up.
18. I want your cum.
19. I want to fall asleep with you still inside me.
20. Grab my breasts, squeeze my nipples.
21. I've been so bad — I need to be punished.
22. You're not leaving until I have your cum in my mouth.
23. Deeper! (then pull him in with your arms and legs)
24. I want to hear you scream my name when you cum.
25. You like fucking me like this?
26. Pull my hair. Slap me.
27. Please fuck me harder, daddy.
28. Make me yours completely.
29. Cum for me.

Dirty Talk Phrases To Keep Him Thinking About You

NOTE: Most of these land best as text messages.

1. I feel so small wrapped in your arms… I miss that feeling so much.
2. Sometimes my knees actually go weak when you kiss me.
3. Just thinking about you gets me so wet.
4. I miss your cock.
5. If we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would you pick?
6. I thought about you while touching myself last night. – Learn powerful masturbation techniques here and here.
7. Still a little sore from last night 🙂
8. I think you're the only guy who can make me both angry and turned on at once.
9. The hottest part of last night was feeling you cum inside me.
10. I can still taste you.
11. I want to be your lady in public and your freak behind closed doors.
12. I never imagined I'd meet someone who turns me on this intensely.
13. I'm supposed to be working, but all I can think about is you taking control of me.

Now that you've finished the first chapter of the Dirty Talking Guide and picked up plenty of phrases, you're probably ready to learn exactly what to say — and how to say it — to build tension, turn him on, and stay on his mind. That's exactly what Chapter Two covers, packed with examples so you can nail it. Start reading it here.

January 20, 2020