5 Hot Sex Moves That Will Drive Him Wild For You

I'm about to teach you 5 hot sex moves designed to keep your relationship exciting, fun, and pleasurable for both you and your man.

Why should you bother picking up these hot sex tips, techniques, and moves? It's actually straightforward... While keeping a stable, loving relationship with your man matters a lot, letting things go stale is the last thing you want. The simplest (and most enjoyable) way to keep your sex life interesting is to spend a little time picking up some kinky and freaky moves to try on your boyfriend.

So rather than spending more time explaining WHY you should level up your bedroom skills, let's dive into the good stuff and learn some fresh hot sex moves!

1. The Big Tease

When you're picking up new hot sex moves, it's tempting to focus purely on the physical things you can do to your man. In other words, you might be wondering which sex position, blow job trick, or massage technique to try on him. But if that's your only focus, you're missing out on an equally crucial piece of the puzzle...

The Mental Side – Getting your man turned on has just as much to do with mental stimulation as physical touch. So don't assume physical moves alone will cut it — you need to work his mind too. There are plenty of great ways to pull this off.

Dirty Talk – Talking dirty is an obvious way to turn your man on and get him aroused before things get physical.

More: 91 things to say to a guy to turn him on.

But avoid the trap of only talking dirty once you're already in bed or right before sex starts...

A smarter approach is to weave dirty talk throughout your whole day, building sexual tension and keeping him anticipating what's coming later. The great thing about this style of dirty talk is you don't need to go full explicit to tease him about what's ahead. No need to worry about scaring him off.

Here are 3 example dirty texts to give you a feel for what I mean:

• "I don't know what's gotten into me today, but I can't wait to get home and take care of you ;)"
• "If I didn't have work/the gym/plans with friends, I'd be home right now to give you something special"
• "Can't wait to see you later, I've got something planned!"

Go deeper: 64 wild dirty talk examples to make him addicted to you.

Notice none of these examples are especially graphic? But they still make it crystal clear that sex with him is on your mind. Sending vague, flirty texts like these throughout the day is a great way of teasing him and ramping up sexual tension. This is precisely the mental game I mentioned earlier if you're serious about getting him worked up and craving you.

Use these: 43 sexting examples.

Texting isn't your only option, though — you can talk dirty to him in person too. If you're somewhere you can't say it out loud (like in public), lean in and whisper something naughty in his ear, then keep chatting like nothing happened. It'll drive him wild with anticipation.

The buildup and tension you create this way is exactly what makes teasing such an effective hot sex move. By the time you actually get to sex, he'll be practically buzzing with anticipation!

Your Look – This one should be obvious, yet plenty of people still get it wrong. How you present yourself plays a huge role in teasing and arousing your man. There's a handful of factors worth paying attention to around looking hot and sexy.

Read: 7 tease & denial sex games.

2. Don't Forget To Take Charge!

This next hot sex move is a total departure from the last one. Rather than subtly building him up, you're going to be far more assertive and step into a dominant role! This is especially effective if your man usually initiates sex or if you're typically the submissive one in bed.

Here are a few ways to seize control. Some of these might feel tougher to pull off than others... but they're worth the effort.

Grab His Hand & Push Him Down – Next time you're flirting with your man or things start heating up, try being the one who takes it further before he gets the chance!

This is genuinely one of the hottest moves you can pull. The simplest way to do it is grab his hand and lead him to the bedroom or elsewhere (48 great places to have sex). Once you're there, take it a step further...

Push him onto the bed and start kissing him.

Nothing wild about this yet, but it's a strong start. More importantly, it shows you exactly how easy taking charge can be. You'll also notice how much he enjoys it. Once this feels comfortable, it's time to escalate 🙂

Try: 12 female dominant sex positions to use on your man.

Tie Him Up – Ready to push things further? Try breaking out your favorite bondage techniques and tying him up. You don't need advanced knot skills — even a simple long-sleeved T-shirt will do the job.

Before diving in, though, it's smart to talk it over with your man so he knows what's coming. The last thing you want is to catch him off guard and turn him off the idea entirely.

Try something like:

"I'm thinking about trying something kinky tonight, you in?"

If saying it out loud feels a little nerve-wracking (tips for easing sexual anxiety), send it as a text instead.

Before you actually tie him up, you might want to prep by securing stockings, rope, or cuffs to the bed ahead of time so you're not fumbling in the moment. Then just lead him to the bedroom, push him down, and secure his hands above his head.

Feel free to add a blindfold too, if you're both up for it.

Note: Plenty of students tell me blindfolding takes the pressure off — their man stops worrying about being watched or judged.

From here, you've got tons of options: ride him in the Cowgirl position, give him a hand job, tease him a little by "punishing him" with tickling, or whisper steamy stories in his ear.

Just be sure he's given enthusiastic consent before any tying up or teasing begins.

Give Him Orders – Telling your man exactly what to do is another great way to dominate mentally rather than physically. Just like tying him up, it's worth discussing beforehand so he's not blindsided or thrown off by it.

Check out my femdom dirty talk guide (with 162 dominant lines for your submissive).

The best approach is starting small — command him to do simple things first. Ask him to grab you a glass of wine or close the window. Gauge how he responds. If he goes along willingly, feel free to escalate to bigger asks. A few examples:

• "Go get me a snack."
• "Take off all your clothes. Let's see you naked!"
• "Get down here and go down on me. You don't stop until I come."
• "These are just a few examples of what you might say to him. Use them as inspiration to craft your own that feel hot, sexy, and fun for the two of you."

Learn more about seizing control and embracing your dominant side in our detailed Femdom Guide.

3. Positions, Positions, Positions

Perhaps the simplest hot sex moves I can teach you are sex positions. I've put together detailed position guides covering everything from:

• 28 best sex positions for anal sex
• 10 blow job positions to supercharge your oral sex,
• 18 threesome positions
• 7 best positions for female orgasm
• 12 best shower sex positions

I also want to highlight 3 positions worth adding to your rotation that you might not have tried yet.

Anvil position – If your man enjoys taking the dominant role, he'll love the Anvil. It's fairly simple to pull off, particularly if you're flexible. Just lie on your back and raise your legs into the air.

Your man enters you from his knees, leaning forward and pushing your legs back. In this setup, he typically straightens his legs and rests a good amount of his weight against your legs, which creates that pinned-down, dominated sensation — perfect if that's what you're after!

Fast Fuck sex position – The Fast Fuck is another sizzling move worth trying, especially if you enjoy being on top. The best part is your man still does most of the heavy lifting! Getting into position just means squatting over him.

You simply hover a few inches above his groin while he thrusts up into you.

Washing Machine sex position – With the Washing Machine, you both begin standing, then you lean forward over a table or similar surface while your man enters from behind. If you're into rough sex, he can grab your hands for extra leverage and force.

You might also want to place a towel or cushion between your hips and the table so you don't end up with bruises.

4. Just Ask Him... Here's Why

Everyone has their own unique preferences. Some enjoy it hard and fast, some prefer slow sex, some go for sensual sex, and some like mixing it up. You could spend months of trial and error figuring out what your man likes. Or you could take the shortcut... just ask him.

This one isn't quite a hot sex move like the rest — it's something even more powerful.

You might be thinking, "Duh, obviously," but stick with me here...

Sure, you can ask about his preferred positions or whether he likes being dominant or submissive. That's all useful, but it doesn't compare to uncovering his deeper sexual desires. Learning about — and acting on — his true fetishes and kinks and sexual fantasies will satisfy him far more. Unfortunately, getting a guy to open up about this stuff isn't always easy. Here's a 3-step approach that dramatically improves your odds.

1. Start by showing him you won't judge. A good way to do this is sharing a story where you didn't judge a friend for admitting something surprising.
2. He also needs to trust that you won't broadcast his secrets to everyone. Sharing a story about how frustrated you get when people betray confidences can subtly signal that his secrets are safe with you.
3. Finally, use what I call the "Go First" approach. Open up about one of your own kinks or fetishes first. This shows him you're on the same page. Once you've shared, gently probe about his fantasies and kinks. A great indirect approach is guessing: "I bet you'd love having a threesome" or "I have a feeling you'd enjoy totally taking control of me in bed" both work well as gentle, indirect prompts.

Asking him point-blank might make him clam up. If he seems awkward or uncomfortable, switch topics for now and circle back to it later.

5. The Surprise Blow Job

This final move is seriously hot, plus incredibly easy and simple to execute. All you're doing is catching your man off guard with your best blow job techniques.

Maybe you're both watching TV, chatting in bed, or he just walked in from work. Any of these moments is perfect for surprising him with a blow job, or even deep-throating him. No need to drag him into the bedroom — just go for it right where you are (unless, of course, others are around!).

July 4, 2025