12 Femdom Sex Positions To Bring Out Your Inner Dominatrix

Today you'll discover (and picture) 12 female-led sex positions spanning everything from soft, playful control to hardcore domination that edges into full dominatrix territory!

Once we've covered these 12 positions for taking charge, I'll walk you through some finer points of using them to dominate your partner during sex.

Let's kick things off with a position guaranteed to make you feel deliciously powerful.

1. Face Sitting Position

Face sitting is arguably the most commanding position here. Your partner is pinned flat on their back, unable to move, and required to please you orally.

Raising and lowering yourself over their mouth lets you control exactly how much pressure and stimulation they give you.

Even better…

You can settle your full weight onto their face if you want to really own the moment. Just be sure they can still breathe!

Extra femdom credit for grabbing their hair or the back of their head and guiding their mouth into your vagina and clit. You can also grind against their face instead of staying still.

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2. Reverse Face Sitting

Same setup as above, just facing the other way.

There's plenty of room to crank up the intensity here. You can:

• Lean forward and rest your hands on their hips for balance.
• Reach back and squeeze their nipples if you're in a sadistic mood.
• For a more sensual style of control while seated on their face, reach down and give him a hand job or massage his testicles. If your partner is female, you can finger her instead. And naturally, you can get much rougher with their genitals if you're both into BDSM.

3. Fast Fuck

The Fast Fuck position puts you squarely in charge as you hover directly over your partner, looking straight down at them. How much weight you press down determines both the pace and depth of their strokes.

For an extra dose of female domination, pin their shoulders down with your hands, or if you're drawn to something edgier like choking during sex, this position is built for it.

4. Sybian

The Sybian sex position calls for a padded stool. Your partner will be balancing somewhat precariously on it, which limits how much they can move.

That leaves you firmly in control while you ride.

Rest your hands on your partner's chest for stability and start grinding.

Note: Your man's lower back will get a workout here. Bouncing may hurt him, so grinding is the safer bet.

5. Amazon

This one looks a bit unusual but is straightforward to pull off. For the Amazon sex position, your partner lies on their back and draws their knees toward their chest. The tighter and closer they can hold their knees together, the smoother this position will be for you.

Rest your hands on their knees for balance and lean in to heighten their sense of submission.

Go deeper: Your partner may want to check out our step-by-step guide on how to be submissive.

6. Cowgirl

A go-to female-dominant position. If you're just beginning to explore taking control, Cowgirl is the place to start.

Have your partner lie back, climb on top, and start grinding, or ride up and down and feel them thrust beneath you.

Bonus dominance points for leaning forward to pin their hands, or playfully slapping them if they enjoy being punished during sex.

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7. 69 Woman On Top

This spin on the 69 position resembles the reverse face-sitting position above. Your partner lies back while you settle onto their face so they can eat your pussy.

Then lean forward and start pleasuring them orally (check out these blow job tips for a male partner or 85 cunnilingus tips & techniques for a female one).

Bonus points for trying bondage together and tying their arms to the bed corners for extra submission.

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8. Face Off 69

The Face Off 69 position is more approachable than positions like the Golden Gate 69 position.

Have your partner sit on the floor, back against a wall. Facing the same direction, plant your feet roughly on either side of their hips so your backside sits in front of their face, then lean forward so they can start giving oral or eating your ass.

• If you're flexible, bend forward and use some of these 55 blow job techniques on him.
• If flexibility isn't your strong suit, stretch your arms to the floor for balance.
• If that's still tricky, rest your arms on a chair or table in front of you.

If height is an issue, have your partner tuck a pillow under their hips, or slip on some heels yourself.

9. Mastery

The Mastery sex position is ideal for couch lovers who want a female-led position. Have your partner sit down and climb on top. Simple as that.

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• Bonus points for tilting their chin up with your hand to pull them into a kiss.
• Mastery is also great for leaning in and murmuring something dominant in your partner's ear.

Double bonus points for grabbing their head or hair and pulling it toward you so they can kiss and suck on your breasts.

10. Betty Rocker

The Betty Rocker is a fantastic choice for anyone with a foot fetish.

Your partner lies on their back while you lie on top of them, facing the opposite direction.

From there, stay on your knees or extend your legs so your feet land right by your partner's mouth. They can also reposition their legs so their feet reach your mouth.

• Bonus points for nibbling, licking, and sucking your partner's toes and feet mid-sex.
• Double bonus points for having your partner return the favor on your feet at the same time.

11. Man Missionary

Picture the Man Missionary position as classic Missionary flipped, with you on top and your partner on their back. Place your hands on the bed near their shoulders, or grip their shoulders directly for leverage as you thrust from above. Your partner can also thrust upward beneath you.

• Alternatively, wrap your arms around his head to pull him close and kiss him.
• Bonus points for guiding his mouth to your breasts with a hand on the back of his head.

12. Lotus

The Lotus position leans sensual rather than fierce as far as female-dominant positions go. It's deeply intimate and frequently used for tantric sex. Your partner sits cross-legged on a cushion, and you settle into their lap facing them.

Grind together, or bounce gently on your man in this position.

Dominant idea – Grip the hair at the base of their skull, pull down to expose their neck, then kiss, lick, and suck it.

Levels Of Female Domination

The instant female domination comes up, plenty of people picture a leather-clad dominatrix cracking a whip over a submissive bound to the bed.

That's rarely the reality. Domination and submission actually live on a spectrum.

For instance, you might bring loving, sensual control into the mix by having Cowgirl sex while kissing your partner, or…

You might dial up the dominance by tying your partner down and sitting on their face, tossing in a blindfold, or…

You could go further and bring humiliation and sadomasochism into your sessions.

You can even take charge while your partner is on top or going down on you. Truthfully, the position matters far less than your attitude — your confidence, your ability to set the scene, and the care you show your partner, whether you're giving instructions, pinching his nipples, or flogging him.

Domination can also extend past intercourse into pegging, where you're fully in control while wearing a strapon. Explore great pegging positions, which double nicely as dominant positions.

Or skip the genitals entirely and spank your partner — that alone can be plenty dominant!

The key is figuring out what suits you and your partner. Talk it over together to land on what you both want, and don't skip safety details like safe words.

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Once you've found the femdom positions that match your particular flavor of control, enjoy running the show — whether that's full-time or just when the mood strikes!

Illustration : Antonin Guillot

June 20, 2023