The Lotus Sex Position For Intimacy

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The Lotus is a deeply intimate sex position, sometimes referred to as the Lotus Blossom. It calls for a bit of flexibility and strength from both partners, but it's still pretty manageable overall. Find positions suited to every desire and body type in our list of the best sex positions with images.

To settle into the Lotus sex position, your man sits on his butt with legs crossed and drawn in close in front of him, similar to a traditional yoga pose. You then sit onto his lap facing him, wrapping your arms tightly around his back and your legs around him too, pulling him close. He'll hold you firmly in return, arms wrapped around you.

Her Role In The Lotus Position

In the Lotus, in-and-out thrusting isn't really feasible — instead, you'll be grinding and rocking against your man. Think dry humping, minus the clothes! But the Lotus isn't purely about intercourse; it's really about closeness with your man.

With your arms wrapped around his back, you can rub and massage them. This position also makes it easy to kiss your man — his lips, cheeks, neck, and ears are all within reach. You can also slide your arms under his and grip his shoulders, which lets you pull yourself up and down while grinding and rocking against him.

Some women find the Lotus ideal for sensually taking charge of their man during sex.

His Role In The Lotus Position

Your man will find thrusting nearly impossible in this pose. Instead, expect a fluid rocking and grinding rhythm together while he holds you close with his arms around your back.

One key detail for him is leg placement. Since his legs will be crossed near the ankles, make sure you don't sit or lean directly on them — that puts a lot of strain there and can cause pain.

If it's more comfortable, he doesn't have to keep his legs crossed; stretching them out in front or to the side works too, even if that's not technically the "true" Lotus.

He can also reach around for some anal fingering if that interests you. More on anal fingering.

Notes On Trying The Lotus Position

Many Love Curi students have tried the Lotus Blossom, or a variation of it, and shared some genuinely useful feedback:

• This is an intimate pose, not a "hardcore" one — use it when you want closeness with your man. It's a great match for slow sex.
• Don't stress if your man can't cross his legs or finds it uncomfortable; it's just as enjoyable with them extended straight.
• Leaning back slightly may let your man deliver more G-Spot stimulation.

Related Positions

Octopus

Octopus – An exotic pose where your legs rest on his shoulders.

Jellyfish

Jellyfish – Both of you hold your weight with slightly bent legs.

Piston

Piston – Your legs stay wrapped around him while he stands.

More positions like this can be found in our sex positions guide.

Sean's Thoughts On The Lotus Sex Position

The Lotus can feel a little clumsy the first couple of tries. But once you both get the hang of it, with your man finding a comfortable spot for his feet, you'll both come to really enjoy it.

March 1, 2021