The Golden Gate 69 Position

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The Golden Gate is a 69 variation designed for simultaneous oral. It's genuinely tough to execute, and few students report it as especially pleasurable, so treat it more like a novelty than a go-to move. Our illustrated sex positions guide is packed with plenty of more satisfying options.

To get into Golden Gate, your man lies flat on his back, knees bent with his feet planted on the bed for stability. Kneel directly over his mouth with your back facing his body so he can begin performing cunnilingus. From there, lean backward, similar to how you would in Acrobat.

As you lean back, keep your knees planted and arch your back, lowering your head down toward his crotch to begin giving him oral. Extend your arms and brace your hands on the bed for balance.

If this sounds like a lot, that's because it is. That's exactly why I'd call it more novelty than practical sex position. Plenty of other ways to spice up your sex life exist that you might enjoy a lot more.

Her Role In The Golden Gate Position

Your job in Golden Gate is simply holding this awkward, arched pose while giving him oral as he goes down on you. It's genuinely demanding, and you'll also need to manage depth carefully to avoid accidentally choking on him.

His Role In The Golden Gate Position

He has very little to actually do here besides going down on you. He might feel tempted to thrust into your mouth, but he really shouldn't — better to stay still and let you control the pace so nobody gets hurt or choked by accident.

Is your man nervous about going down on you? Point him toward our in-depth guide to eating pussy.

He can wrap his arms around your legs to help with balance. Beyond that, though, he's not doing much.

Notes On Trying The Golden Gate Position

I've spoken with a few students who tried Golden Gate with a partner, though not many stuck with it for long. Here's some feedback they gave:

• It's genuinely hard to pull off. Just getting into position takes real effort for some couples.
• You may feel like you have almost no control, worried one wrong shift could push him too far into your throat.
• If you're working through every position Love Curi covers, save Golden Gate for near the end. Most couples decide it's not worth the effort, even if it looks impressively exotic. Love wild positions? This post has plenty more.

Similar Positions

Lie Back

Much more relaxed since you're on your back the whole time.

Face Off

He sits up while you stand and bend at the waist for simultaneous oral.

69 Standing

A far more demanding position requiring trust from you and real strength from him.

Check out more 69 sex positions here.

Sean's Thoughts On The Golden Gate Sex Position

Golden Gate isn't for me. It's just too much effort, and I think sex should feel easy and fun. If great sex is what you're after, there are plenty of other positions in the Love Curi library worth trying instead.

April 17, 2021