The Butterfly Sex Position

Anvil Sex PositionSandwich Sex Position

The Butterfly works great whether you're in bed or on a table. A few key details make all the difference in getting the most out of this position, so pay attention to those. Also check out these easy sex positions for better orgasms.

The Butterfly is a breeze for the woman involved. As mentioned, you can do it on a table or in bed — whatever suits you. The man can either stand or kneel on the bed, depending on the setup. You won't need to do much heavy lifting here, since your man handles most of the effort. Just lie back while he lifts your hips up. Rest your thighs against his chest with your ankles over his shoulders, or simply wrap your legs around either side of his waist. Go with whatever feels most comfortable to you.

What The Man Does In The Butterfly Position

This is a great pick when you're feeling worn out, since your man carries most of the workload while you get to relax and enjoy it! He'll typically slide his hands under your hips to lift them, though gripping your thighs instead gives him more leverage for firmer, deeper thrusts.

He'll also have more range of motion moving forward and back while standing compared to kneeling.

What The Girl Does In The Butterfly Position

For the Butterfly, just lie back and either wrap your legs around your man's waist or rest them against his chest and over his shoulders.

You can stay totally passive and let him do all the work, or you might find more pleasure by controlling how high your hips are lifted yourself — easiest when your legs rest on his chest and shoulders. With your hips raised this way, his penis presses directly against the upper wall of your vagina, hitting your G-Spot for some incredible orgasms. Your abs can also help hold your hips up, though they'll tire out fast.

Feel free to rub your clit or your breasts, talk dirty, or bring a vibrator into the mix. Kegels during sex can amp up the pleasure for both of you, too!

Things To Consider When Performing The Butterfly Sex Position

Here's some feedback my students and I have gathered from trying the Butterfly with partners:

• Slide a pillow or cushion under your hips and waist — it saves your man from tiring out holding your legs, and saves you from straining to keep them raised.
• If he's kneeling, a pillow under his knees can prevent soreness.
• For maximum pleasure and easier G-Spot access, keep your hips positioned a bit higher than his.
• Experiment with different hip heights until you land on the perfect angle — it's worth the effort!

Variations of The Butterfly & Similar Positions

Legs On ShoulderThe Playing Of The Cello Sex Position

Keep your legs beside his neck for this one, similar to cradling a cello. Click here to learn more about the legs on shoulder position.

Right AngleRight Angle Sex Position

Bend your body into a right angle at the waist — great if geometry's your thing. You can learn more about the Right Angle sex position here.

Praying MantisPirates Bounty Sex Position

He kneels while you bend one leg. Learn more about the Praying Mantis position here.

Deep ImpactDeep Impact Sex Position

With your hips raised, this position is ideal for G-spot stimulation. Click here to learn more about the Deep Impact position.

Discover even more related positions here.

Sean's Thoughts On The Butterfly Position

As a guy, I really enjoy the Butterfly, though I'd rather stand than kneel while doing it. Honestly, it can wear me out fast when I'm doing all the lifting to keep my partner's hips raised. So if your partner starts looking tired mid-Butterfly, it might be time to switch to something like the Anvil or another position — or just grab a pillow to prop under her hips and give your arms a break.

February 29, 2012