How To Squirt: A Step-By-Step Guide For Solo Play & Sex

Below, I'll walk you through exactly how to squirt with such intensity — and such ease — that you end up melting into full-body orgasmic bliss.

Every technique in this guide works whether you're exploring solo or with a partner, and it doesn't matter if you've never come close to squirting before.

This guide is split into 8 parts. I'd suggest reading it start to finish, though you're welcome to jump straight to whichever section you need using the links below.

1. What Squirting & Female Ejaculation Actually Are
2. The Anatomy Behind Squirting
3. How To Make Yourself Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques
4. Squirting With Sex Toys – 6 Techniques
5. How To Squirt During Sex – 2 Essential Techniques
6. 5 Sex Positions That Make Squirting Easier
7. Struggling To Squirt? What To Do If It's Not Coming Easily
8. Squirting FAQ

Squirting vs. Female Ejaculation: What's The Difference?

Squirting refers to fluid being involuntarily pushed out of the urethra after the front (anterior) vaginal wall — the side closest to your belly — gets stimulated, usually right around orgasm [1].

Despite what a lot of people assume…

Researchers have dug into both squirting and female ejaculation in real detail, and here's the bottom line:

Squirting genuinely happens.

Female ejaculation genuinely happens too.

And here's the part that surprises most people…

They aren't the same thing at all… "Female ejaculation and squirting/gushing are two different phenomena. The organs and the mechanisms that produce them are bona fide different." [2]

Let's break down each one.

Squirting

Researchers describe squirting as a case where "unknown mechanisms are working during excitation and stimulation of CUV (clitoro-urethro-vaginal) to produce the phenomenon of squirting overdiluted urines" [2].

Put more plainly: when your clitoris and vagina are stimulated, it can trigger the "squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine" [3].

A 2022 study set out to pin down exactly where squirt fluid comes from, and it ended up "confirming the bladder as the source" [1].

That same research team also analyzed the chemical makeup of the fluid and noted that "a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists" [4].

Bottom line: squirt is bladder pee, occasionally mixed with a small amount of "prostatic secretions" [4].

Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation is defined differently — researchers call it "the release of a very scanty, thick, and whitish fluid from the female prostate" [2]. A separate study backs this up, describing it as "a smaller quantity of whitish secretions from the female prostate"[3]

Renowned sex researcher Beverly Whipple describes it as "about a teaspoon (3–5 ml) of fluid expelled through the urethra that looks like watered-down fat-free milk, tastes sweet, and does not smell like urine" [5]. She also notes that "analysis of the fluid demonstrates that it is chemically different from urine" [5].

So while squirting is mostly diluted pee, female ejaculation is a much smaller amount of thicker, whitish fluid produced by the female prostate — better known as the Skene's gland [6].

The Anatomy Behind Squirting

Take a look at the cross-section illustration above — it shows exactly where everything is located.

The Grafenberg Spot (G Spot) – For most people learning to squirt, working the G Spot is non-negotiable. Research backs up just how central it is:

1. Women who experience G Spot orgasms are also more likely to report fluid release at the moment of climax [7].
2. Of women who identified having a G Spot, 82% also reported squirting alongside their orgasms [8].

G Spot stimulation is essentially a prerequisite for squirting — you can see it marked in the diagram above.

It sits inside the vagina, roughly two to three inches up along the front (anterior) wall [9].

Here's how to locate it: rest your hand on your stomach and slide it downward. You'll hit your clitoris first, then a few inches on, the entrance to your vagina. Slip your fingers inside and feel along the front wall about two to three inches in — that's your G Spot, shown in the illustration below (for more on this, see 8 orgasmic fingering techniques).

It has a distinct texture compared to the surrounding tissue.

You'll recognize it by a subtle bumpiness — people describe it as ribbed, rough, textured, or even like a wet raspberry, while others say it feels grooved or ridged [10 p 82-83].

Can't locate it? – Keep in mind that for most women, the G Spot is only detectable once you're genuinely turned on.

That's exactly why "the G Spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable" [11].

So get properly warmed up before you start searching.

More detail: How to find your G Spot.

Also worth reading: If you're having a hard time finding it, check out 11 tips for getting horny and 19 ways to get yourself in the mood for sex.

The Skene's Gland – The swollen, bumpy feeling you notice when you press on your G Spot comes from the Skene's gland pressing up against the vaginal wall.

It sits in the vulval vestibule, right next to the urethra [6].

The gland fills and swells with arousal, and that swelling can contribute to natural lubrication.

Squirting will feel nearly impossible until you've built up enough arousal for the Skene's gland/G Spot area to swell properly.

Worth knowing: Make sure your partner knows how to turn you on and can get you thoroughly aroused before attempting this together.

How To Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques To Try

If squirting is completely new territory for you, start by practicing solo. This mirrors the same advice I give for learning how to orgasm in the first place.

Why?

There's zero performance pressure when you're alone, so you can put all your attention on your own pleasure.

On that note: these 14 super-satisfying masturbation techniques are worth exploring too.

Once you can squirt comfortably by yourself, doing it with a partner during foreplay or sex becomes far easier.

But first, a little prep work…

1. Get Set Up Before You Start

A few things to sort out before you dive in:

Trim & file your nails – A long, broken, or sharp nail can easily scratch or injure you while fingering yourself, so file down anything that could cause harm.

Put a towel down – Squirting is a wet business — obviously. But…

It's easy to get swept up in the moment and forget entirely. To avoid soaking your sheets or facing a huge cleanup afterward, lay a towel down first and let it catch everything — then all you need to wash is the towel.

Or try the shower – For zero cleanup at all, squirt in the shower and let it all rinse straight down the drain.

More on this: How to masturbate with a shower head.

Now, onto the actual techniques…

2. Don't Skip Foreplay

Foreplay isn't optional here — it's essential.

Getting aroused through foreplay is what causes your G Spot to swell in the first place, which is what makes squirting achievable. Some women only need 5-10 minutes of this; others need considerably longer. You'll have to experiment to find your own timeline.

The kind of foreplay that works for you is entirely personal. Maybe it's a favorite sex story, replaying a memory of your best sexual experience, a particular routine, setting, or lingering on a specific erogenous zone.

For more ideas on getting yourself in the mood, check out our guide on the best foreplay techniques.

3. The Magic Hook — Your Go-To Technique

Of all the techniques in this guide, the Magic Hook works best for most people. Here's the how-to…

Once you're properly aroused, lie back on the bed and settle into a comfortable position.

Rest your palm on your stomach and slide it down toward your vagina. When your fingers reach the entrance, press them inside about two to three inches, then curl them backward into a hook shape, as shown in the illustration above.

Here's a second angle showing the correct hand position:

As your fingertips press inward, notice the texture along the front wall of your vaginal canal. When aroused, most people can feel a patch that's noticeably different in texture around two to three inches deep.

This is your G Spot.

That's the spot you'll be working the whole time. With your fingers hooked into place, you can press, rub, or massage it directly. In fact…

Here are three ways to stimulate it once you're hooked in:

4. Press & Release

This one is exactly what it sounds like — repeatedly press your G Spot with your fingertip, the same motion as pushing a button.

Up and down.

Play with both the pressure and the tempo. A soft, slow press works for some people, while others need something firmer and more vigorous.

It feels good on its own, but it might not be quite enough by itself to tip you over into squirting.

5. Circular Rubbing

Try applying steady pressure with your fingertip while moving in small circles over your G Spot.

This alone is enough to make some people squirt, while for others it just feels good without quite finishing the job.

The next technique tends to close that gap…

6. The Come-Hither Curl

Curling your middle and ring fingers in a "come hither" or beckoning motion lets your fingertips repeatedly stroke and massage the G Spot, delivering a lot more stimulation than a static press.

Same rule as always…

Test out different amounts of pressure and slightly different spots to find what feels best.

Tip – Apply firm pressure as you curl your fingers in, ease off as you straighten them back out, then build pressure again as you curl back in — repeat that rhythm.

For a lot of people, this technique alone does the trick.

However…

That said, these three finger techniques come with two common snags:

1. Your fingers and wrist can tire out long before you're anywhere close to squirting.
2. The angle of your arm and hand can make it genuinely awkward to deliver enough consistent stimulation to your G Spot.

That's exactly the problem the Stiff Hook solves — it's about as close to foolproof as this gets.

7. The Stiff-Arm Hook

This builds on the same finger position as the last three techniques, but with one key change…

Instead of relying on your fingers and wrist for the movement, you'll drive it from your whole arm.

Keep your fingertips locked firmly against your G Spot, as shown above, then use your entire arm to generate the pressure — far more force than your fingers alone could manage.

Keep your arm fairly rigid and raise and lower it quickly. With your fingertips staying pressed against your G Spot the whole time, this delivers a much heavier level of stimulation, which significantly raises your odds of squirting.

8. Add Outside Pressure

If you're still not getting there even after trying everything above, use your free hand to apply downward pressure to your mons pubis, as shown in the illustration above.

This gently pushes your G Spot further into your vaginal canal, which lets your internal fingers apply even more pressure and stimulation to it.

Just be careful not to press too hard, especially with a full bladder — too much pressure there can just leave you feeling like you need to pee rather than aroused.

Side note: This works during partnered sex too if you need extra pressure on your G Spot.

Related read: 23 sex tips for women to drive your partner wild.

9. Combine Clitoral & G Spot Stimulation

For maximum pleasure, why not work your clitoris and G Spot together?

Use one hand for any of the G Spot techniques already covered, and use the other to massage your clit.

The tricky part is just getting both hands into a comfortable position at once…

Most people do this lying on their back, though some prefer lying face-down on their stomach instead.

For more ideas, I've written a full illustrated guide to 9 clitoral stimulation techniques that pair well with your squirting attempts.

10. Try Going Harder & Faster

In a study of 1,216 squirters, 19.6% said they used "harder/more intense touch" while building up to squirting [13], and 17.1% of all respondents needed a "burst of speed/pressure" to actually release it [13].

Neither figure represents even a fifth of respondents, but…

If you're stuck, it might be worth trying:

1. Increasing the intensity somewhat as you build toward squirting.
2. Adding a sudden burst of speed or pressure right as you feel close.

As always, pay attention to what your body is telling you and don't push past your comfort — you can hurt yourself if you overdo it.

11. Stay Consistent

One of the biggest frustrations in partnered sex is a partner changing technique right when you're about to climax.

More on this: How to come every time during sex and masturbation.

For those women, sticking with one steady rhythm is what makes orgasm reliable — and the same holds true for squirting for some people.

In fact…

14.9% of squirters reported that "Squirting happens after a long period of doing the same movement consistently for a while" [13] (bold emphasis is mine).

Staying consistent isn't a requirement for everyone, but it's worth trying if nothing else is working yet.

12. Let Go Of Muscle Tension

According to one study, 21.4% of squirters found that releasing tense muscles was what got them there [13].

If you feel like something's holding you back or "blocked," try consciously relaxing and letting go of any tension you're holding — it can be the key that unlocks squirting.

13. Bear Down & Push

Interestingly, the opposite approach also works for some people — 12.5% of squirters actively bear down, tense up, and "push out" their squirt [13], which is the exact reverse of the relaxation approach above.

That's roughly 1 in 8, so it's a minority approach, but worth trying if you're right on the edge and can't quite tip over.

14. Pull Out At The Right Moment

For roughly 10% of women, research shows that "[s]quirting happens as fingers/toy or penis come out of my vagina" [13].

Practically, that means for about 1 in 10 women, the sequence looks like:

1. Stimulate yourself with fingers, a toy, or your partner's penis as normal.
2. Let that stimulation build you steadily closer to squirting.
3. Just before you actually squirt, withdraw whatever's inside you.
4. That withdrawal itself is what tips you over the edge.

For the other 9 out of 10 women, this step simply isn't necessary.

15. Experiment Until You Find What Works For You

That's a lot of techniques, and some of them directly contradict each other (tensing versus releasing muscles, for instance) — yet both are backed by real results.

If squirting still isn't happening for you, remember that every body responds to stimulation a little differently. From here, it's about experimenting until you find the specific combination that clicks for you.

Using Sex Toys To Squirt – 6 Techniques

Toys can make squirting considerably easier, whether solo or with a partner. Standard penis-shaped dildos and vibrators work well, but there are also toys designed specifically for G Spot stimulation.

They're usually curved, contoured, or hook-shaped to deliver focused pressure right where you need it.

Some are soft and flexible, others are firm, heavy, and made from rigid steel. Plenty are battery-powered with vibration or pulsing functions, while others are purely manual.

There's no single perfect G Spot toy — finding the right one is a matter of research, trial, and knowing your own preferences.

Related: How to use sex toys.

Anyway…

Here are a few techniques worth trying with vibrators and dildos to work your G Spot toward squirting.

1. Vibrating Directly On Your G Spot

A penis-shaped vibrator can be a real help if you're struggling. Start by penetrating yourself with it, using lube as needed.

The core move is simple: angle the tip so it presses right against your G Spot.

From there, there's plenty you can layer on to boost both pleasure and your odds of squirting.

• Press the vibrator rhythmically into your G Spot, alternating how much pressure you use.
• Glide the tip repeatedly back and forth over your G Spot, almost like you're stroking it.
• Cycle through different vibration settings until you land on the pulsation pattern you like best.

2. Vibrating On Your Clit

Sometimes what you really need is extra clitoral stimulation while your fingers handle your G Spot.

A vibrator is ideal for exactly that.

3. Milking The G Spot

A dildo does a great job standing in for a partner's penis, making it useful practice for squirting while having sex. A few tips:

• Add lube if needed, then press the dildo into your vagina.
• Move it in and out at an angle so the tip runs along the whole front wall, as pictured above.
• Vary the speed, the depth, and even try different dildo sizes until you find a combination you love.

Read next: How to use a dildo for maximum self pleasure – 12 techniques.

4. Short, Shallow Strokes

Instead of covering the whole front wall, you can narrow your focus to just the G Spot itself.

Angle the dildo so its head presses directly against your G Spot, then move it gently in and out. A few variations to try:

• Shift your pace between fast and slow to see which feels better.
• Adjust the pressure from light to firm.
• Hold the dildo's head steady against your G Spot with constant pressure rather than moving it — you can also flex your Kegel muscles while doing this.

5. The Twisting/"Juicing" Technique

This technique involves twisting the dildo while it's inside you, rather than the usual in-and-out motion. It calls for generous lube and a dildo with completely smooth edges.

Skimping on lube risks friction injury, and a dildo with any rough or sharp edges carries the same risk.

The move itself is simple — press the dildo against your G Spot and slowly rotate it.

This works well for some and not at all for others. Stop immediately if you feel any pain or discomfort.

6. Double Penetration

One study found that 19.4% of women squirt from anal stimulation alone [16], so it can be worth adding anal play with a butt plug into the mix while using a dildo.

You could also use two dildos at once — one vaginally, one anally.

No spare toys on hand? Fingering yourself anally works too.

As always, experimentation is the only way to know what actually works for you.

Once solo squirting feels comfortable and reliable, you might be ready to bring a partner into it. Here's how…

How To Squirt During Partnered Sex – 2 Essential Techniques

Squirting with a partner depends on having someone attentive and understanding, solid communication between you, and — of course — the right technique.

Get those pieces right and everything else falls into place much more easily.

Let's start with the fundamental move.

1. Glide The G

The image above demonstrates the core technique you and your partner need for hitting your G Spot during sex.

Notice your partner doesn't need to go particularly deep — just 2-3 inches, with the tip focused squarely on your G Spot/Skene's gland area.

They can also adjust the angle, as shown in the illustration below, though some women find this particular angle a bit too much.

2. Direct Hits On The G Spot

On every thrust, your partner can aim the head of their penis directly at your G Spot and stay focused there.

Alternatively…

Or, they can sweep the head along the entire front wall with each thrust, covering the G Spot as part of a broader path.

As with everything else in this guide, try both and see which one you like more.

5 Sex Positions That Help You Squirt

Below are demonstrations of the most popular and pleasurable positions for squirting. Before trying any of them, keep in mind…

Some will make squirting come easily, while others might make it noticeably harder.

Why?

As I've mentioned throughout this guide…

The same position, tip, or technique lands differently depending on the body.

The way to find what works for you specifically is to try a range of positions and keep track mentally of which ones make squirting come more easily and feel more enjoyable.

If clitoral stimulation is what gets you there, lean into positions that emphasize it. If G Spot stimulation alone does the job, prioritize positions built around that instead.

With that in mind, here are my top five picks for squirting during sex:

1. Propped-Up Missionary

Missionary is a classic for good reason — it's naturally intimate, offers plenty of clitoral stimulation, and works well if you enjoy eye contact during sex.

You lie on your back with your partner on top, facing you directly.

There is one downside to standard Missionary…

It doesn't naturally offer much G Spot contact. Luckily, there's a quick fix…

Slide a pillow under your hips or butt to prop them up.

That tilts the angle of penetration enough that your partner starts hitting your G Spot with every stroke.

Purpose-made sex pillows and wedges exist specifically for this purpose too.

Side note: I've also compiled a list of the 9 best sex positions using a sex wedge/pillow.

2. Jockey

The Jockey position suits women who'd rather let their partner take the lead and do most of the work.

Start by lying face-down on the bed. You can prop yourself up on your elbows, as shown above, or lie completely flat.

Your partner kneels on top of you with their legs straddling yours, facing your back.

From that position, they can:

• Thrust in and out (see 9 intense thrusting techniques), or…
• Grind forward and backward against you instead.

Each motion hits your G Spot a bit differently, so let your partner know which one is working for you.

A pillow under your hips helps here too — it lifts your butt up, changes the penetration angle, and can ease lower-back strain.

A close variation is Rear Entry, where your partner's legs go inside yours instead of outside, kept straight rather than bent.

Try both and see what you prefer.

3. Bent Spoon

Bent Spoon takes a bit of balance, and it's a great pick if you like feeling exposed while working toward squirting.

Your partner starts by lying on their back, knees slightly bent, feet planted firmly on the bed or floor.

Sit on your partner's lap, then lean back slowly with their help until your back rests against their chest or stomach. Finish by resting your feet on their legs, as shown above.

Struggling with balance? Simply plant your feet on the bed or floor instead — it makes the position far more stable.

4. Launch Pad

Launch Pad is one of the strongest options for squirting, particularly if you want direct control over depth and angle.

Here's the setup…

Lie on your back and pull your knees toward your chest. Your partner kneels facing you, as pictured above, while you rest your feet against their chest as they penetrate you.

Here's the best part…

From there, your feet give you direct control over both depth and angle.

• Push with your feet to send your partner backward, further away.
• Relax your legs to let them come closer in.

A pillow under your hips can further adjust the angle, and it's a solid choice if your lower back tends to get sore. This position also works well when the penetrating partner is on the smaller side.

5. The G Spot Position

The G Spot position might be the single best option on this list — it's literally named for how effectively it targets the G Spot.

Your partner kneels while you lie on your back. They then lift your hips and butt off the bed while your shoulders stay planted.

This naturally arches your back and lines your partner up to thrust directly onto your G Spot, ideal for targeting the Skene's gland area.

A couple of adjustments that help your partner sustain it:

• Stack a few pillows under your butt so your partner isn't stuck holding you up the whole time.
• Hook your heels or ankles over your partner's shoulders to help support some of your own weight.

Your partner can also lean forward or back to fine-tune the angle further.

Talk To Each Other

"Great communication is the real secret to squirting during sex."

I know that sounds like a cliché, but…

It happens to be both essential and completely accurate. Here's why…

A lot of variables affect whether you'll squirt during sex, including:

• What you personally respond to
• The sex position you're using
• Clitoral stimulation versus vaginal stimulation versus both together
• The lower-pressure environment of learning solo versus trying it during sex
• Differences in anatomy and body type
• How aroused and relaxed you are
• And plenty more…

If you can't share these roadblocks with your partner, they simply won't have the information they need to help you past them, get you squirting, or have good sex with you generally.

So if solo squirting comes easily but doing it with a partner doesn't, the missing piece is usually learning to communicate what you need.

Need a hand with that? Check out our full guide on improving sexual communication.

Troubleshooting: What If You're Struggling To Squirt?

For plenty of women, squirting doesn't come naturally right away — it takes some troubleshooting before it starts feeling effortless…

1. What Actually Makes Squirting Effortless

Squirting with ease starts with genuinely knowing your own sexuality — what turns you on (the accelerators of your sex drive) and what shuts you down (the brakes).

Sex researchers call this framework the Dual Control Model.

Common accelerators include:

• Being with a partner you trust
• Genuine attraction to your partner
• Foreplay
• Good physical health
• Leaning into a personal fantasy

Common brakes include:

• Feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, stressed, or anxious
• Physically feeling unwell
• Pain
• Past negative sexual experiences
• Negative associations tied to sexual pleasure
• Not being attracted to your partner
• Something as small as an unpleasant smell

Here's how these two forces interact:

• Only brakes engaged: Hit the brakes without the accelerators and sex won't be enjoyable, squirting won't happen, and you may not even get aroused in the first place.
• Both engaged at once: Trigger both simultaneously and you'll still struggle — you might feel somewhat turned on but not relaxed enough to fully let go. This is common with a new partner you don't know well yet, or when you're ready for sex but something (like an unpleasant smell in the room) throws you off.
• Accelerators on, brakes off: Engage the accelerators while releasing the brakes entirely, and you'll end up thoroughly turned on, relaxed, and squirting will come much more easily.

Go deeper: Our guide to getting horny covers the Dual Control Model in much more depth, which will help with both orgasm and squirting.

That said, other factors could still be getting in your way…

2. Stop Treating Squirting As The Goal

Turning squirting into the target — for either you or your partner — tends to backfire.

It introduces stress and anxiety into your sex life, which is exactly the kind of brake mentioned above. A healthier mindset looks more like:

"My focus is on enjoying this moment. If squirting happens, wonderful — if it doesn't, that's completely fine too."

Renowned sex researcher Beverly Whipple addressed exactly this point:

"It is also important for women and their partners to realize that female ejaculation should not be set up as a goal for them or their partners to achieve. When something like female ejaculation is set up as a goal, much of the pleasure of the process of sensual and sexual expression is lost. Women are encouraged to enjoy what they experience and to feel good about the variety of sensual and sexual experiences that they find pleasurable" [5].

3. Feeling Anxious About It Is Completely Normal

It's fine — and common — to have some worry or anxiety around squirting.

One study of women who'd squirted before found that 41.8% worried they were actually peeing, and 28.3% worried about making a mess [13].

Speaking of peeing…

4. Why Does It Feel Like You Need To Pee?

Because that's essentially what's happening — the fluid is mostly bladder urine.

As covered earlier, a 2022 study on squirting ended up "confirming the bladder as the source" [1], and further research confirmed that clitoral/vaginal stimulation results in "squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine" [3].

5. What If I Get Very Wet But Nothing Actually Comes Out?

That's entirely normal too. Bodies vary, and the same stimulation produces different results in different people, which means…

• Some women regularly release an actual stream
• Others don't stream at all, but "gush" a small amount onto the bed
• Some women never gush either — they simply get very wet, and that's the extent of it

Every one of these is normal, healthy, and worth celebrating as-is. Pressuring yourself to squirt more or harder usually backfires — it keeps you stuck in your head instead of present, which makes sex less enjoyable overall.

A respondent in one squirting study even commented, "You think it will be a massive rush of water, and secondly, that it will include an orgasm. For me it's none of that. It just gets really wet, but it's not like a fountain, it seeps out" [15].

At the end of the day, squirting shouldn't be the point of sex — your enjoyment is.

6. What If The Pressure Builds But You Never Tip Over?

That's usually a sign you're genuinely close — it just needs a bit more time to actually push you over into gushing bliss. What gets you the rest of the way varies from person to person.

There are three main approaches worth trying:

1. Some women need to simply let go, accept how they feel, and relax fully — this is especially common for Type A, outcome-focused people. As research puts it, "The ability to 'let go' and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor, as are certain techniques of sexual stimulation" [16].
2. Others need to actively "push out," meaning consciously bearing down with your Kegel muscles.
3. Some simply need more clitoral and/or G Spot stimulation to get there.

Try all three and see which one gets results for you.

7. My Partner Wants Me To Squirt, But It's Not Happening

Your partner needs to understand that squirting is a skill that takes time and patience to develop. If you've never managed it solo, it's even less realistic to expect it to happen with them first.

Carve out some solo time to learn to squirt by yourself first. Once that's easy and reliable, doing it with your partner gets much easier.

The more pressure your partner applies, the less likely squirting actually is, so tell them directly that this is a sensitive process and that any pressure to perform will probably work against them.

Ideally, your partner acts more like an "assistant" — following your lead and helping where needed — rather than a "conductor" who assumes they just need to move their hand the right way regardless of your feedback.

It's the same principle that applies when you're exploring how to make a man cry in bed — it can't be forced.

8. How Do I Get My Partner Involved In Making Me Squirt?

Step 1 – Master squirting solo first. Once you can do it reliably on your own, move on to step two.

Step 2 – Tell your partner about this new discovery and ask whether they'd like to explore it together. If they're on board, walk them through the kinds of stimulation and positions that help get you there.

You can also physically guide their hand with yours, or even give them a live demonstration of exactly what you do when squirting solo.

The same guidance applies during sex — steer your partner into the positions that best hit your G Spot.

It might also help to have your partner read through this guide themselves.

9. Can Every Woman Squirt?

Based on the research available so far, no.

One systematic literature review found that the combined prevalence of female ejaculation (a small amount of whitish prostatic fluid) or squirting (a larger amount of diluted, altered urine) ranges from 10-54% [3].

Another survey of US women, drawing on 2,936 responses, found that "forty (41.4%) percent of U.S. adult women had ever squirted in their lifetime" [13].

The full breakdown from those 2,936 respondents is below:

Squirting Frequency

% of women [13]

Ever squirted

41.4

Squirted once or twice

39.6

Squirted 3-5 times

19.5

Squirted 6-10 times

11.7

Squirted 11+ times

28.9

We dig into this further and explain why estimates range anywhere between 6% and 69.23% of all women can squirt, depending entirely on how you define squirting.

10. I've Never Orgasmed — Can I Still Learn To Squirt?

Slow down.

If orgasm itself is the sticking point, everything gets much easier once you first learn to climax through solo masturbation, before working toward comfortable orgasms during partnered sex.

Once orgasm is reliable with a partner, then start working toward squirting — solo first, then during sex.

I'd recommend checking out my in-depth guide on how to reach orgasm as a starting point.

11. Is There One Technique That Always Works?

No.

You'll need to experiment across multiple techniques to find your own best fit.

Research on 1,216 squirters backs this up — when asked what techniques they used to build toward squirting, no single answer dominated:

Techniques used to build up to squirting

% of women [13]

Harder/more intense touch

19.6

Prep and warm up to squirt

16.9

Other/don't know or
don't remember

16.9

Pressure inside vaginal wall

16.5

Clitoral stimulation alone

15.6

Concurrent outside/inside
pressure

12.5

The same group was also asked what technique helped them actually release the squirt, and again, nothing stood out as dominant.

Techniques used to release a squirt

% of women [13]

No specific pattern

40.2

Releasing tensed/clenched
muscles

21.4

Burst of speed/pressure

17.1

Consistency of movement

14.9

Bearing/tensing down

12.5

Pulling toys/penis/fingers
out of vagina

10.0

Other

5.2

That said, 75.6% of respondents said they had used some specific technique to squirt at some point [13]. So…

What does all this data actually mean for you?

There's very likely a technique that works reliably for you specifically — you just have to experiment across several to find it. What doesn't exist is a single universal technique that works every time for everyone.

Frequently Asked Questions About Squirting

Here are answers to some of the questions I get asked most often about squirting.

1. How Can I Squirt More?

There's no single formula, but a few things are worth exploring:

Stay hydrated – Fairly obvious, but dehydration makes squirting harder simply because your body doesn't have enough fluid to work with. Better hydration makes it easier.

Water and isotonic drinks help here; alcohol works against you.

Extend sex & foreplay – Your body doesn't keep a standing "reserve" ready to squirt at any moment — it builds up as you get aroused, through foreplay and sex itself. A quick session simply doesn't leave enough time to build a large volume.

A longer session gives your body the time it needs.

Strengthen your Kegels – Research shows pelvic floor muscle training can improve arousal, orgasm, and sexual satisfaction for people with a vulva [17, 18].

Regular Kegel and pelvic floor work doesn't just improve those areas — it also gives you more control over squirting, including the ability to release with more force.

Relax more deeply – At the risk of repeating myself, one thing people consistently underestimate for both orgasm and squirting is:

The ability to relax and "let go," even while plenty of muscles are actively straining. As research notes, "The ability to 'let go' and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor" to squirting [16].

So if your mind is racing with stress, anxiety, or intrusive thoughts instead of staying present, squirting as much as you'd like will be an uphill battle.

Try edging – Edging means bringing yourself (or your partner) right to the edge of orgasm, then backing off before you get there. Doing this a few times in one session can make the eventual squirt noticeably more intense.

Full guide: What is edging & how to edge yourself or your partner.

Lean into your preferences – Everyone has their own set of turn-ons, kinks and fetishes that intensify sex. Spend time discovering yours and weaving them into masturbation and sex.

2. Why Do Women Squirt At All?

To prevent UTI infections.

That's the theory put forward in a paper published in Elsevier's Medical Hypotheses journal, which states:

"We hypothesize that female ejaculation has a unique function in producing a secretion into the urethra that provides protection from urinary tract infections (UTIs). We further predict that female ejaculate contains antimicrobial compounds including elements such as zinc" [19].

3. Where Does The Fluid Actually Come From?

Squirted fluid comes from two sources in the body: primarily the bladder, with a smaller contribution from the Skene's gland (the female prostate), which surrounds the urethra and produces its own prostatic fluid [6, 12].

These two fluids mix together in the urethra before exiting the body. Here's what the research says directly:

"The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists" [4].

4. What Actually Causes Squirting To Happen?

One study found squirting can "occur separately from orgasm for some women" [14], while another survey of 320 women who've squirted found it "usually occurs during orgasm" [16].

Digging further…

Those same 320 women were asked what kind of stimulation led to their squirting, with multiple answers allowed. Here's what they reported:

What triggered squirting

% of women [16]

Masturbation

53.4

Vaginal orgasm

52.5

Clitoral orgasm

53.4

Sexual intercourse

48.1

Anal stimulation

19.4

Spontaneous (without sexual stimulation)

10.4

During sleep

4.1

The same study also asked what triggered their very first time squirting.

• 23.4% first squirted during sex with a new partner.
• 4.4% first squirted while masturbating.
• 3.1% first squirted while actively training/practicing to squirt.

5. Is Squirt Just Pee?

Quick answer – Mostly, yes — with a small amount of prostatic fluid from the Skene's gland mixed in [4].

Full answer – This exact question has been formally studied — the results were published in the respected Journal of Sexual Medicine back in 2014 and have since been cited more than 75 times.

Researchers used ultrasound to monitor the bladders of seven healthy women before, during, and after squirting.

• The study began with each participant emptying her bladder, verified by ultrasound.
• After sexual stimulation, ultrasound showed their bladders had visibly filled again right before they squirted.
• Once they squirted, ultrasound showed the bladder had emptied again.

That alone confirms bladder urine is part of the fluid.

The team then ran biochemical analysis on urine samples taken before and after squirting, plus on the squirted fluid itself.

• All three samples — pre-squirt urine, post-squirt urine, and the squirted fluid — shared the same chemical markers of urine.
• When they tested for "prostatic-specific antigen" in the squirted fluid and post-squirt urine, five of the seven women tested positive.

They concluded that "that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists" [4].

So to sum up: squirt is predominantly urine, usually with a small extra contribution from the Skene's gland.

6. What Does Squirting Actually Feel Like?

This question has come up again and again in research.

Here's what the studies found…

In one study, 85.8% of women rated squirting as at least somewhat pleasurable [13].

A separate study of 28 women found a wide spread of reported experiences:

• Positive reactions – "Amazement, pride, and a feeling of assessing a sexual superpower" [15] (the respondent likely meant "accessing").
• Neutral reactions – "Feelings of indifference or disconnection from an orgasmic feeling" [15]
• Negative reactions – "Sensations of discomfort or shame" [15]

Yet another study identified these patterns:

• Shame and wonder – "Their responses to initial ejaculation experiences varied but can be grouped into two general categories: feelings of humiliation and shame or feelings of exploration and wonder" [14].
• A sense of release – "Several women reported feeling a sense of release upon ejaculation and congestion when ejaculation did not occur, even though they did orgasm"[14].
• Embarrassment shifting to confidence over time – Some women's feelings evolved from negative to positive: "It used to make me feel embarrassed, and I used to try to stop it from happening. Then, I would feel frustrated because my sexual experiences were not fulfilling. But now that I am in a caring relationship and I am older, I enjoy it very much. It makes me feel good that it makes my partner feel good – it is an obvious sign to him that he has pleased me. It makes me feel unique, sexy, and irreplaceable" [14].

A large-scale study covering 1,211 women who had squirted produced these numbers:

How pleasurable squirting felt
among women who have
ever squirted

% of women [13]

Very pleasurable

33.9

Somewhat pleasurable

25.0

A little pleasurable

26.9

Not pleasurable

14.1

We ran our own survey of Love Curi readers too, and 119 women explained what squirting feels like in their own words. Their answers tracked closely with the research above, spanning everything from glowing to negative.

A sample of what they told us:

"It was during sex. Very much a high in addition to the orgasm itself. My body felt light, airy and mentally I felt as though I were on a drug. Yes, I enjoyed it and would recommend it. Not something one can turn on or off!"

"This was with my husband (now separated). I orgasm first, then squirt. It feels ok but sometimes frustrating"

"It felt like a release. It felt good, sometimes with an orgasm, sometimes without. Yes, I enjoyed it very much. Mentally, I guess it feels good because you know that your body is reacting to you mentally and physically. The first time it happened, I went, "What is this?" Now, when it happens with men, they absolutely love it, can't get enough of it."

"Mentally – I love how it makes me feel AND it also gives my man (and past men) a little ego boost when it happens. It's sexy seeing how proud they are of themselves for making their woman do that. However, expectations should be set for both parties that it isn't going to happen every single time, AND THAT IS OKAY. It shouldn't be the goal or the end result but a fun thing that happens when it does."

"It felt different, and I felt ashamed. I want to stop squirting during sex."

"More recently with a guy I was dating and he, I think, enjoyed making me squirt with his fingers, more for an ego thing for himself."

"It has happened during clit stimulation and sex. I squirt most when i feel safe and comfortable with the person i am with. I was worried he wouldn't like it, because it feels like a lighter liquid then [sic] cum. But he absolutely loves it."

"Using a really good vibrator, I've never felt that good before. It felt like I had to pee. Squirting is amazing."

"It was part of the release of orgasms during masturbation. I don't particularly enjoy it, as it's messy. I'm not sure I'd recommend it to other women."

"I used my brand new toy for the very first time. I came so hard it felt like I was urinating, but it was not, lol. I became a whole monsoon, I have never experienced that by myself before or with another person in all honesty."

"I have squirted during sex but not with masturbation. I felt like I was going to pee and then it just popped and gushed everywhere. I would recommend it to other women, and other couples but my current partner fully believes that it's only pee and has made me feel less than sexy for it"

"I can and have had squirting orgasms both during sex and while masturbating. The feeling is intense and amazing! I feel so good afterward, tears come to my eyes, and I cannot stop smiling. My body feels relaxed, but I also get a burst of energy, and mentally, I feel accomplished and capable! Fierce"

Note: minor spelling and grammar were cleaned up in these quotes.

7. Is Squirting The Same As Orgasm?

Quick answer – No, they're distinct phenomena, though they frequently happen at the same time.

Full answer – There's substantial research on this exact question.

Sex researcher Beverly Whipple explains, "Some women have reported experiencing ejaculation with orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and some women have reported experiencing ejaculation without orgasm." She adds that "in some women G spot stimulation, orgasm, and female ejaculation are related, while in others they are not" [5].

One study points out that "the two do share similarities in terms of occurring in response to various stimulation (e.g., penile-vaginal, manual genital, sex toy), timing (e.g., often at the end of a sexual episode), occasional concurrence with orgasm, and the possibility of providing women a sense of sexual satisfaction and/or sexual pleasure" [13].

A different paper looking at women's experiences found "that ejaculation and orgasm are not simultaneous for some women. Ejaculation occurs at different times in the arousal cycle for different women [14].

In other words:

• People often conflate the two because they're triggered by the same stimulation (masturbation, G Spot stimulation, sex) and frequently occur together.
• Some women squirt with no orgasm at all.
• Some women orgasm without ever squirting.

Speaking of squirting without orgasm…

In a large study of 1,204 women who'd squirted before, only 19.8% said squirting and orgasm always happen together for them:

How often squirting and orgasm coincide
for women who have ever squirted

% of women [13]

Always

19.8

Often

28.1

Sometimes

34.8

Never

17.2

8. How Can I Tell If I Actually Squirted?

Check your sheets — are they wet, even just slightly?

If so, you squirted.

Squirting doesn't have to look like a dramatic stream shooting out — for many women, it's just a small extra gush of fluid.

One study specifically highlighted that many squirters simply get wetter than usual: "It just gets really wet, but it's not like a fountain, it seeps out. I think that's why I questioned, at the beginning, whether it was a real [squirt]." [15]

9. What Color Or Texture Is Squirt?

A study surveying 320 women who'd squirted asked them to describe how the fluid looked (multiple answers were allowed):

Color of squirted fluid

% of women [16]

Clear as water

83.1

White/milky

23.1

Yellow

1.3

10. Why Do I Squirt So Much (Or So Little)?

It usually comes down to a mix of controllable and uncontrollable factors.

Controllable

• Being well hydrated with a fuller bladder before you start naturally means more volume when you squirt.
• Conversely, being dehydrated or having just used the bathroom will make it harder to produce much.

Uncontrollable

Bodies simply vary — some women naturally produce large volumes, while others manage only a few drops no matter what.

11. Does Squirting Actually Make Sex Better?

Quick answer – Most women who squirt report that it enhances sex [13, 16], though 10.9-14.1% of squirters hold negative views of it [13, 16]. Among partners, 90% view a partner's squirting positively [16].

Full answer – Research has dug into this from several angles…

A large study of 1,211 women who had squirted found that 85.8% rated it at least a little pleasurable, with about a third calling it "very pleasurable" [13]:

How pleasurable squirting felt
among women who have
ever squirted

% of women [13]

Very pleasurable

33.9

Somewhat pleasurable

25.0

A little pleasurable

26.9

Not pleasurable

14.1

Another study of 320 squirters found that 78.8% considered it an enrichment to their sex life [16]:

How squirting affects sex life

% of women [16]

Enrichment

78.8

Don't care

10.3

Sometimes I wished
I would not ejaculate

7.2

I'd rather not ejaculate

3.1

seen as pathological

0.6

The same 320 women were also asked how their partners felt about it. 90% described their partner's attitude as positive [16]:

Partner's attitude towards squirting

% of women [16]

Positive

90

Does not know about it

4.4

Indifferent

6

Negative

0.6

12. How Frequently Do Women Squirt During Sex?

It depends.

One paper found 19.0% of squirters squirt during 91–100% of their sexual encounters, while 14.2% squirt during only 1–10% of them [16].

The same researchers also asked how often participants squirt overall. Interestingly, roughly a fifth do so daily:

How often do women squirt
(who have the ability to squirt)

% of women [16]

A few times during a week

31.6

A few times during a month

28.4

Daily

19.4

Once a month

8.8

Less than monthly

7.5

Less frequently

4.4

In statistical terms – Among women who can squirt, the median frequency during sexual activity sits at 57% (SD +/- 33%) [16].

That standard deviation is fairly wide, which makes a single universal figure unreliable. In other words…

It depends on the individual.

13. How Much Fluid Do Women Actually Squirt?

One study of 320 squirters tackled this exact question directly. Here's what they found regarding volume:

Squirt Volume/Amount (ml)

% of women [16]

0.3

12.2

15

18.1

60

29.1

15

15.3

>150

25.3

Note: Participants were shown visual reference options to choose from, such as tablespoons (15 ml) or "a few drops" (0.3 ml), etc.

14. Is Female Ejaculation Considered Normal?

Yes. It's normal and healthy.

Beverly Whipple states this plainly: "It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses" [5].

15. Is Squirting A Modern Discovery, Or Has It Always Been Known?

Records of squirting go back more than 2,000 years.

300 B.C. – A paper in the Journal of Sexual Medicine notes it was first "depicted about 300 B.C. by Aristotle and in the 2nd century by Galen"[20].

Aristotle – "Aristotle was probably the first to write about female ejaculation" [5].

Rome & ancient India – "The Romans called these fluids liquor vitae, and in ancient India this female erotic fluid was known as a amrita (nectar of the gods)" [5].

4th-century China – "In ancient Asia female ejaculation was very well known and mentioned in several Chinese Taoist texts starting in the 4th century" [20].

7th-century India – "First mentioned in a 7th century poem, female ejaculation and the Gräfenberg spot (G Spot) are described in detail in most works of the Kāmaśāstra"[20].

16th-century Europe – "Reinjier De Graaf in the 16th century provided the first scientific description of female ejaculation and was the first to refer to the periurethral glands as the female prostate" [20].

16. I Can Squirt But Don't Enjoy It — Is Something Wrong?

Nothing at all — it's fine not to enjoy every part of sex. Studies show that 10.9-14.1% of squirters do hold negative views of it [13, 16].

On the partner side, very few (0.6%, roughly 1 in 167) view their partner's squirting negatively [16], while 90% — 9 out of 10 — see it as a positive thing.

Worth keeping in mind, too, is what the experts have said on this:

"It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses" [5].

17. Is Coital Incontinence The Same Thing As Squirting?

Nope.

What coital incontinence actually is – This refers to urine leakage that can happen during intercourse [21]. It affects both men and women, and it's especially common in men who've had a prostatectomy [21].

Why it happens in women – In women, it's usually linked to stress urinary incontinence [3] — in fact, 89.4% of women with stress urinary incontinence also experience coital incontinence [3].

Another 33.3% of women with detrusor overactivity also experience it [3], and conditions like cervico-urethral hypermobility, sphincter incompetence, and urethral instability can contribute as well [21].

During sex, contributing factors can include increased intra-abdominal pressure, penile insertion, deep penetration, high arousal, orgasm, and clitoral stimulation [3].

December 16, 2024