How To Squirt Effortlessly During Sex & Solo Play

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I’m going to show you how to squirt so intensely (& effortlessly) that you will collapse into deep orgasmic bliss.

These squirting techniques work while you are masturbating alone or having sex with your partner, even if you’ve never squirted before.

I’ve broken this squirting guide into 8 sections. My advice is to read it from start to finish, but you can also skip to any section by clicking on the links below.

1. What Is Squirting & Female Ejaculation?
2. Squirting Anatomy
3. How To Make Yourself Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques
4. Squirting With Sex Toys – 6 Techniques
5. How To Squirt During Sex – 2 Crucial Techniques
6. 5 Sex Positions For Squirting
7. What To Do If You Struggle To Squirt – Read This If It’s Not Easy For You
8. Squirting FAQ

What Is Squirting & Female Ejaculation?

Squirting is the involuntary expulsion of fluid from the female urethra following stimulation of the anterior [front] vaginal wall before or during orgasm [1].

Contrary to popular belief…

The scientific community has thoroughly investigated squirting and female ejaculation and found that…

Squirting is very real.

And, so is female ejaculation.

In fact…

Squirting and female ejaculation are two completely different things… “Female ejaculation and squirting/gushing are two different phenomena. The organs and the mechanisms that produce them are bona fide different.” [2]

Let’s dive in!

Squirting

According to researchers, squirting is where “unknown mechanisms are working during excitation and stimulation of CUV (clitoro-urethro-vaginal) to produce the phenomenon of squirting overdiluted urines” [2].

In simple terms, squirting happens when your clitoris/vagina is being stimulated, resulting in the “squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine” [3].

A female squirting study was undertaken in 2022, “confirming the bladder as the source” [1].

When they measured the chemical composition of the fluid squirted by women, they found that “a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].

So, squirting is pee, from your bladder. Sometimes it also contains a tiny amount of “prostatic secretions” [4].

Female Ejaculation

According to researchers, female ejaculation is “the release of a very scanty, thick, and whitish fluid from the female prostate” [2]. Another study confirmed that it’s “a smaller quantity of whitish secretions from the female prostate”[3]

Well-known researcher, Beverly Whipple, describes female ejaculate as being “about a teaspoon (3–5 ml) of fluid expelled through the urethra that looks like watered-down fat-free milk, tastes sweet, and does not smell like urine” [5]. In fact, “analysis of the fluid demonstrates that it is chemically different from urine” [5].

So, female ejaculation is a smaller amount of gooey, whiteish fluid from the female prostate. The female prostate is also known as the Skene’s gland [6].

Squirting Anatomy

Above is a cross-section of a vagina.

Grafenberg Spot (G Spot) – Stimulating your G Spot is crucial for many when learning to squirt. The importance of your G Spot is backed by research:

1. Women who reported G Spot orgasms were also more likely to report a spurt of fluid at the moment of orgasm [7].
2. 82% of the women who reported the G Spot also reported squirting with their orgasms [8]. 

To squirt, you need to stimulate your G Spot. You can see it labeled above.

Your G Spot is inside your vagina, located two to three inches along the front wall of your vagina [9]. The front wall of your vagina is also sometimes called the anterior wall.

To find your G Spot, place your hand on your stomach and slide it down toward your vagina. You’ll reach your clitoris first. Go a few inches further, and you’ll reach the entrance to your vagina. As you enter your vagina with your fingers, you’ll find your G Spot two to three inches along the front wall, like in the illustration below (8 orgasmic fingering techniques).

Your G Spot should feel slightly different to the rest of your vagina.

You’ll know that you have found your G Spot because it will feel slightly bumpier than the surrounding area. Some describe it as feeling ribbed or textured or slightly rough or even like a wet raspberry. Others describe it as having gutters/ridges [10 p 82-83].

Trouble finding your G Spot? – One important thing to note is that for most women, you will only be able to find your G Spot when you are thoroughly aroused.

This is actually why “the G Spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable” [11].

So before you go searching for it, make sure you are well and truly aroused first.

Learn: How to find your G Spot.

Related: Read these 11 tips for getting horny and these 19 ways to get yourself in the mood for sex if you are struggling to find your G Spot.

Skene’s Gland – You can feel your G Spot with your fingers inside your vagina. The organ causing your G Spot to feel swollen and push into your vagina is called the Skene’s gland.

Your Skene’s gland is located in the vestibule of the vulva near your urethra [6].

As you get aroused and turned on, your Skene’s gland will start swelling and fill with fluid, which may aid lubrication.

You will find it difficult/impossible to squirt before becoming heavily aroused and letting your Skene’s gland/G Spot area swell.

Learn: Make sure that your partner knows how to turn you on and can get you deeply horny/aroused first.

How To Make Yourself Squirt While Masturbating – 15 Techniques

If you’ve never squirted before, then I strongly recommend that you start with learning how to squirt while masturbating alone. It’s the same approach that I recommend to women when learning how to orgasm.

Why?

You will feel less pressure to perform. You can focus fully on yourself and your own pleasure.

Speaking of masturbating: You may want to try these 14 super-satisfying masturbation techniques.

After you are comfortable squirting while masturbating alone, you’ll find it much easier to squirt with your partner during foreplay and sex.

First, you need to do a little preparation…

1. Preparation Before Attempting To Squirt

Before trying to make yourself squirt, there are a few things to consider:

Trim & file your nails – The last thing you want to happen while fingering yourself is for a long nail, broken nail or sharp nail on your finger to catch and injure your vagina. So, trim and file any nails that may hurt you.

Lay down a towel on your bed – Squirting is wet. Pretty obvious, right? Well…

Many get so caught up in the moment that they forget about the wetness. If you want to prevent stains on your bed or a major clean up operation after you squirt, lay down a towel for you to lie on and catch all your squirting. This way, you’ll only need to wash your towel.

Try it in the shower – If you want to make cleanup even easier, try squirting in the shower. This way, everything will wash away down the drain as you squirt.

Learn: How to masturbate with a shower head.

Now it’s time to learn the squirting techniques…

2. Squirting Foreplay

Foreplay is vital when trying to make yourself squirt.

Through foreplay and getting aroused, your G Spot will begin to swell, which will make squirting much easier. For some women, this foreplay only needs to last 5-10 minutes. For others, it may take much longer. The length of foreplay you need to squirt is something you must figure out yourself through trial and error.

As for the type of foreplay, this, again, is highly dependent on your personal preferences. Do you have a favorite book, sex story, memory of your best sexual experience, routine or setting that helps you to get in the mood and turned on? What about focusing on a specific erogenous zone?

Our guide on the best foreplay techniques will help with getting yourself turned on.

3. The Magic Hook – The Most Important Squirting Technique

The Magic Hook technique is by far the most effective squirting technique. Here’s how to use it…

Once you have gotten yourself thoroughly aroused and turned on, lie on your back in bed and get comfortable.

Next, place your palm on your stomach and slide it down towards your vagina. As your fingers run over the entrance to your vagina, press them inside. Go about two to three inches deep and hook them backward, like in the illustration above.

Below is another view of how your hand should look

As you press your fingertips inside yourself, pay attention to the texture of the front wall of your vaginal canal. For most, when you are aroused, you should be able to feel an area that is slightly more textured than the rest, about two to three inches deep.

This is your G Spot.

This is the main area that you’ll be stimulating to make yourself squirt. You can press, rub and massage your G Spot while using the Magic Hook squirting technique. In fact…

Here are three techniques you can use to stimulate this area:

4. Push The Button

Like the name suggests, you’ll perform the Push the Button technique by repeatedly pressing your G Spot with your finger like you would press a button.

Up and down.

Experiment and vary how much pressure you apply and the speed at which you do it. Softly and slowly pressing into your G Spot can be enough for some, while others need more intense, vigorous pressure.

This pressing can be pleasurable, but may not be enough to push you over the edge and squirt.

5. Rubbing Your G Spot

Rubbing your G Spot in a circular motion while maintaining pressure on your fingertip is another option.

For some, you may find that this technique is enough to make you squirt. For others, it merely feels nice and is not enough to make you explode.

Thankfully, the next technique will make squirting much easier…

6. Come Hither Motion

Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow your fingertips to repeatedly run over and massage your G Spot, providing you with a lot more stimulation.

As with any technique that I teach…

Make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure you apply and the exact location where you apply the pressure.

Technique pointer – As you curl your fingers, you should apply lots of pressure to your G Spot. Then, release this pressure as you straighten them out. As you begin curling them again, start to apply more pressure.

For many, this is more than enough to make you squirt.

However…

There are two issues that sometimes arise from each of these three techniques:

1. You may notice that your fingers and wrist get tired way too fast before you are even close to squirting.
2. Due to the angle of your arm/hand/fingers, you may find it awkward and difficult to provide enough stimulation to your G Spot.

That’s why you may want to use the Stiff Hook. It’s practically a fail-safe way to make yourself squirt.

7. The Stiff Hook

The Stiff Hook shares much in common with the above three techniques, with one very important difference…

Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm.

First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot, like in the illustration above. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure to your G Spot, which is a lot more pressure than just using your fingers.

Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to put massive amounts of pressure on it. This heavy stimulation of your G Spot will make squirting far more likely.

8. Extra Pressure

If, for some reason, you are still having trouble with squirting despite using all the techniques I’ve just taught you, then you can apply downward pressure to your Mons Pubis with your other hand, like in the illustration above.

Applying pressure like this has the effect of gently squeezing your G Spot further into your vagina, allowing you to provide more pressure and stimulation to it from your fingers inside your vagina.

My one concern in this position is ensuring you don’t apply too much pressure or press down too hard if your bladder is full. Otherwise, you will be putting a lot of pressure on your bladder, which can make you want to pee.

Side note: You can also use this technique during sex with your partner if you need more pressure on your G Spot.

Related: 23 sex tips for women to drive your partner wild.

9. Stimulating Your Clit & G Spot At The Same Time

Why not maximize your pleasure by stimulating both your clitoris and G Spot at the same time?

With one hand, you will be using some of the techniques I described above for stimulating your G Spot. With your other hand, you’ll be massaging your clit.

The only difficult part when doing this technique is comfortably using both your hands…

While many lie on their back when performing this double stimulation technique, some prefer doing it while lying face down on their stomach.

I put together a detailed, illustrated guide of 9 clitoral stimulation techniques you can use to increase your pleasure as you’re trying to make yourself squirt.

10. You May Need To Go Hard, Intense & Fast

One study of 1,216 squirters found that 19.6% of women used “harder/more intense touch” in the build-up to squirting [13]. To release the squirt, 17.1% of all respondents needed a “burst of speed/pressure” [13].

Both of these numbers represent less than 1 in 5 women, but…

If you are struggling to make yourself squirt, then you may want to try:

1. Going a little harder/intense in the build-up to squirting.
2. As you get close to squirting, try stimulating yourself with a burst of speed/pressure.

As always, listen to your body and don’t go overboard, otherwise you may hurt yourself.

11. Consistency

For many women, the most frustrating thing about sex with a partner is when they switch things up right as you are about to orgasm.

Learn: How to come every time during sex and masturbation.

For these women, consistency is vital to climaxing reliably. The same applies to some squirters.

In fact…

14.9% of squirters reported that “Squirting happens after a long period of doing the same movement consistently for a while” [13]. Emphasis added by me.

While consistency of movement isn’t necessary for all women, it’s a tool that may be helpful if you aren’t squirting right now

12. Releasing Tensed Muscles

One study of squirters found that 21.4% of women released tensed muscles in order to squirt [13].

If you find yourself feeling “blocked,” try relaxing and releasing tensed muscles. This technique may unlock your squirting ability.

13. Bearing Down, Tensing & “Pushing It Out”

Interestingly, research has also shown that 12.5% of squirters will bear down, tense and “push out” their squirt [13]. This is completely opposite to releasing your tensed muscles.

That’s only 1 in 8 women, so it’s certainly the minority of women. However, it’s something to consider if you are close, but can’t quite squirt yet.

14. Pulling Out Your Fingers (Or Sex Toy Or Partner’s Penis)

Interestingly, research has found that for 10% of women, “[s]quirting happens as fingers/toy or penis come out of my vagina” [13].

In practical terms, this means that for 1 in 10 women:

1. You need to stimulate yourself with either your fingers, sex toy or your partner’s penis during sex.
2. This type of stimulation should be bringing you closer and closer to squirting.
3. Right before you squirt, you need to pull your fingers, sex toy or partner’s penis out of your vagina.
4. The action of your fingers/toy/partner’s penis leaving your vagina helps push you over the edge and squirt.

For 9 out of 10 women, pulling out is not necessary to squirt.

15. Experiment To Find Your Squirting Blueprint

I have given you a lot of different techniques to make yourself squirt. Some of this advice is even conflicting (eg: tensing vs releasing muscles), yet proven to work.

If you are still struggling to squirt by yourself, understand that everyone’s body is slightly different and responds to different types of stimulation. So you now need to start experimenting to find the squirting techniques that work for you and your body.

Squirting With Sex Toys – 6 Techniques

Sex toys can add to and enhance your ability to squirt while masturbating and during sex. While penis-shaped dildos and vibrators are wonderful, you can also find purpose-made G Spot sex toys.

These are often curved, contoured, or hooked in shape to provide intense G Spot stimulation.

Some G Spot sex toys are soft and gentle, while others are heavy and made from rigid steel. Many of them are battery-powered, pulsating and vibrating, while others are not.

The key to finding the right G Spot toy for you is by researching, experimenting and keeping your own preferences in mind. There is no perfect “one size fits all” G Spot toy.

Related: How to use sex toys.

Anyway…

Here are some techniques to experiment with while using vibrators and dildos to stimulate your G Spot and make yourself squirt.

1. Vibrator On Your G Spot

If you have a penis-shaped vibrator, then it can be very helpful if you are struggling to squirt. Start by penetrating yourself with your vibe, using lube if necessary.

The basic technique is positioning the head of your vibrator so that it’s pressing against your G Spot.

But there’s a lot more you can do to increase your pleasure and ability to squirt with your vibrator.

• Try rhythmically pressing the vibrator into your G Spot, alternating the pressure.
• Repeatedly run the head of the vibrator over your G Spot, like you are caressing it.
• Play around with different vibrator settings to find the pulsations and vibrations you like most.

2. Vibrator On Your Clit

Sometimes, you just need some extra stimulation on your clitoris while you work on your G Spot with your fingers.

A vibrator is perfect for this.

3. Milking Your G Spot

A dildo is a great way to mimic your partner’s penis and prepare for squirting while having sex. Here’s some tips:

• Using lube if necessary, press your dildo into your vagina.
• Slide it in and out at an angle, running the tip all along the front wall of your vagina, like in the illustration above.
• Experiment with going fast or slow, going deeper or shallower, and using different-sized dildos until you find something you enjoy.

Read next: How to use a dildo for maximum self pleasure – 12 techniques.

4. Short & Shallow

Rather than focusing on the entire front wall of your vagina with your dildo, you can also focus solely on your G Spot.

To do this, angle the dildo in your vagina so that the head is pressing against your G Spot. Then simply push it in and out of your vagina. Here are some ideas to play around with while doing this:

• Vary the speed at which you penetrate yourself from fast to slow to see what feels better.
• Vary the pressure you apply with your dildo from light to heavy.
• Try keeping the head of the dildo pressed against your G Spot with continuous pressure, not moving it in or out. Optionally, try to flex your Kegel muscles while doing this.

5. Juicing With Your Dildo

Juicing is simply twisting your dildo while it’s inside your vagina instead of pressing it in and out. It requires a lot of lube and a dildo that has no sharp edges.

Without lots of lube, you can hurt yourself from the friction. With a dildo that isn’t completely smooth or one that has sharp edges, you risk hurting yourself.

The juicing technique is simple: press your dildo into your G Spot and slowly start twisting it.

Some women enjoy the sensation, while others don’t. If you feel any pain or discomfort while juicing your G Spot, then avoid it.

6. Double Penetration

A research study found that 19.4% of women squirt from anal stimulation [16]. So why not incorporate anal play with a butt plug when trying to squirt when trying to squirt with a dildo.

Another option is using one dildo vaginally while simultaneously using another anally.

If you don’t have two dildos or a butt plug, you can also try fingering yourself anally.

As I keep repeating, you need to experiment with what feels best for you.

Once you are comfortable with squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to try it with a partner. Here’s how…

How To Squirt During Sex – 2 Crucial Techniques

Squirting during sex requires a caring and understanding partner with whom you have great sexual communication, along with the right techniques.

This makes everything much easier.

Let’s jump straight in, with the basic technique for squirting during sex.

1. Glide The G

The demonstration image above show the basic technique you and your partner need to use during sex to hit your G Spot and make you squirt.

You can see that your partner doesn’t need to penetrate you deeply; they only need to go about 2-3 inches deep, making sure the tip of their penis is focused on your G Spot/Skene’s gland area.

Of course, your partner can change the angle they hit your G Spot like in the illustration below (although some women may find this angle too intense).

2. Hit The G

With each thrust, your partner can press the head of their penis directly into your G Spot, focusing solely on it.

Alternatively…

Your partner can run the head of their penis all along the front wall of your vagina (including your G Spot) with each thrust.

As with all the techniques in this squirting guide, experiment with these two to see which you prefer.

Squirting Podcast

As well as reading this squirting guide, I strongly recommend that you listen to the podcast I recorded on squirting. You’ll learn all the important elements to making squirting easy and super-pleasurable.

Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here.

5 Best Sex Positions For Squirting

Below, you can see demonstrations of the most popular and pleasurable squirting sex positions. Before trying any of these positions, keep in mind that…

Some of these positions may make squirting super easy, while you may find it harder to squirt during sex in other positions.

Why?

As I’ve said repeatedly throughout this squirting guide…

Everyone’s body is different and responds differently to the same positions, tips and techniques.

The key to finding what works to make YOU squirt during sex is experimenting, trying a bunch of different positions and keeping a mental note of which positions help you squirt more easily and enjoyably.

If you find that you need more clitoral stimulation to squirt, then spend more time in positions that stimulate your clitoris. If G Spot spot stimulation is all you need to squirt, then you should be having sex mostly in positions that stimulate you G Spot.

With this in mind, here are my favorite five positions for squirting during sex:

1. Missionary Position With A Pillow

Missionary sex position is a classic because it makes for incredibly intimate sex, and there can be a lot of clitoral stimulation. It’s also great if you like eye contact during sex.

You will be lying down on your back, with your partner on top of you, facing you.

One problem with the Missionary position…

It often doesn’t allow you to have a lot of G Spot stimulation during sex. A quick sex hack that changes this is…

Putting a pillow under your hips/butt to lift them up.

This changes the angle of penetration, so your partner will now be applying more pressure on your G Spot with each stroke.

You can even purchase special sex pillows and wedges specially for this.

Side note: I also put together a list of the 9 best sex positions using a sex wedge/pillow.

2. Jockey Position

The Jockey position is great for those women who prefer to let their partner take over and do most of the work.

To get set up in the Jockey position, first lie down on your stomach on your bed. If you like, you can place your elbows down, like in the illustration above, to support your upper body. Or you can lay down fully on the bed.

Your partner will then get on top of you, on their knees, with their legs outside yours, facing your back.

While on top of you:

• He can thrust in and out (9 intense thrusting techniques), or…
• He can grind forwards and backward on you.

Both will provide different types of stimulation to your G Spot and help you squirt. Give your partner feedback so they know what you prefer.

Additionally, you can place a pillow underneath your hips. This will push your butt up into the air and change the angle of penetration. It can also help if your lower back gets sore in this position.

An alternative to the Jockey position is Rear Entry. It’s very similar to the Jockey, except your partner will put their legs inside of yours and keep them straight.

Try both and see what you prefer.

3. Bent Spoon Position

The Bent Spoon position requires a little bit of balance, and is great if you enjoy the feeling of being exposed while trying to squirt.

To get into the Bent Spoon position, your partner will first lie down on their back. They need to bend their legs slightly and place their feet firmly on the bed/ground.

Next, you need to sit down on your partner’s lap and, with their help, slowly lean back so that you are resting your back on their chest/stomach. Finally, rest your feet on their legs like in the illustration above.

If you’re having trouble with balancing, then just place your feet on the bed/ground and it will be easier.

4. Launch Pad Position

The Launch Pad is one of the best squirting positions, especially for receiving partners who want to control the depth and angle of penetration.

Here’s how to perform the Launch Pad position…

Lie down on your back and bring your knees to your chest. Your partner then needs to kneel down facing you, as in the illustration above. While lying on your back, you then place your feet on your partner’s chest as they penetrate you.

Here’s the best part…

You can then control the depth and angle of penetration by pressing your feet into your partner’s chest.

• You can press your feet into your partner’s chest to push them backward and away from you
• You can relax your legs and allow your partner to come forward and closer to you

Optionally, you can place a pillow underneath your hips/butt to change the angle of penetration. This is also a great option if you have a weak lower back. The Launch Pad position also works great if the penetrating partner is not well-endowed.

5. G Spot Position

The G Spot position is possibly the best squirting position on this list. It even gets it’s name from the fact that it makes G Spot stimulation super easy.

To get into the G Spot position, your penetrating partner will be on their knees, while you’ll be on your back. Your partner then needs to grab your hips/butt and lift it up while your shoulders remain on the bed.

This causes your back to arch and allows your partner to thrust directly against your G Spot, perfect for hitting your Skene’s gland area and making you squirt.

To make the G Spot position easier for your partner:

• I strongly recommend using multiple pillows under your butt to raise them up so your partner doesn’t have to hold your hips/butt the entire time.
• Try “hooking” your heels or ankles on your partner’s shoulder and supporting some of your weight.

Lastly, your kneeling partner can lean backward or forward to change the angle of penetration.

Communicate!

“The secret to squirting during sex is great communication.”

This sounds like such a lame line, but…

It’s insanely important and totally true. Let me explain why…

There are multiple factors that influence your ability to squirt during sex. Some of these include:

• Personal preferences
• Sex positions
• Clitoral V vaginal stimulation V both at the same time
• learning how to squirt alone, where there can be less pressure V trying it during sex
• Differences in body type/anatomy
• Your level of arousal and relaxation
• And more…

If you are unable to communicate these roadblocks to your partner, they won’t be able to help you to overcome them and actually squirt (and have good sex).

So, if you can squirt when masturbating alone, but are struggling to squirt during sex, you need to figure out how to communicate your needs to your partner.

Need help on this? We put together this full guide on improving sexual communication.

What To Do If You Are Struggling To Squirt

For many women, squirting doesn’t just happen naturally and easily. It can require some figuring out or “troubleshooting” to make it effortless…

1. The Key To Making Squirting Effortless

Understanding your own sexuality by knowing what turns you on (the accelerators to your sex drive) and what turns you off (the brakes to your sex drive) is key to squirting with ease.

These accelerators and brakes to your sex drive are known as the Dual Control Model.

Examples of accelerators to your sex drive include:

• Being with a trusted partner
• Being attracted to your partner
• Foreplay
• Being physically healthy
• Participating in a personal fantasy

Examples of brakes to your sex drive include

• Feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, stressed or anxious
• Feeling physically unwell
• Pain
• Negative past sexual experiences
• Negative associations with sexual pleasure
• Being with someone you don’t find attractive
• Even something as minor as a smell can be a brake/turn-off

Here’s how the accelerators and brakes to your sex drive combine:

• No accelerators, only brakes: If you only stimulate the brakes, but not the accelerators, you won’t enjoy sex or be able to squirt. You won’t even be turned on.
• Accelerators & brakes together: If you stimulate your brakes and accelerators, you will still find it hard to enjoy sex and will struggle to squirt. This can happen when you feel somewhat aroused but not relaxed or comfortable enough to fully let go. This can happen when you meet someone new but don’t know them well enough yet. Or when you are about to have sex, but then you smell their bedroom and it stinks.
• Only accelerators, no brakes: If you stimulate all your accelerators and RELEASE your brakes, you will be incredibly turned on, relaxed and will find squirting to be pretty easy.

In-depth read: Our guide to getting horny and further tips to get in the mood for sex go much deeper on the Dual Control Model of arousal so that you can orgasm and squirt more easily.

However, there could be other issues preventing you from squirting…

2. Don’t Make Squirting The Goal

If you or your partner make squirting your goal, it may backfire

It can add stress and anxiety to your sex life (a brake to your sex drive). A better attitude to have, is:

“I’m going to focus on enjoying myself. If I squirt, great. If not, no big deal.”

World famous sex researcher, Beverly Whipple even wrote about this:

“It is also important for women and their partners to realize that female ejaculation should not be set up as a goal for them or their partners to achieve. When something like female ejaculation is set up as a goal, much of the pleasure of the process of sensual and sexual expression is lost. Women are encouraged to enjoy what they experience and to feel good about the variety of sensual and sexual experiences that they find pleasurable” [5].

3. It’s Normal To Have Anxieties/Worries About Squirting

Don’t worry if you have some anxieties or worries when it comes to squirting. It’s totally normal.

In fact, a study of women who have squirted in the past found that 41.8% of squirters were worried that they were peeing and 28.3% were worried that they would make a mess [13].

Speaking of peeing…

4. Why Do I Feel Like I Have To Pee When Trying To Squirt?

Because it’s mostly pee that comes from your bladder.

As I mentioned earlier in the guide, a female squirting study was undertaken in 2022, “confirming the bladder as the source” [1]. Further research found that squirting happens when your clitoris/vagina is being stimulated, resulting in the “squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine” [3].

5. I Get Very Wet, But There Is No “Ejaculation.” Why?

This is completely normal. Each person’s body is different and responds differently to the same types of stimulation. This means that…

• Some women regularly shoot a stream when they squirt
• Others don’t shoot a stream, but “gush” a small amount of liquid onto the bed
• Some women don’t even gush, but instead get very wet, and that’s as far as they can get.

All three are perfectly normal and healthy and should be celebrated. Putting pressure on yourself to squirt more or with greater force often backfires, preventing you from getting out of your head, which can lead to less enjoyable sex.

A respondent in one squirting study even commented, “You think it will be a massive rush of water, and secondly, that it will include an orgasm. For me it’s none of that. It just gets really wet, but it’s not like a fountain, it seeps out” [15].

In the end, sex shouldn’t be about squirting, it should be about enjoying yourself.

6. The Pressure Keeps Building, But I Never Hit The Peak & Squirt. Help!?

This sounds like you are very close, and it will take just a little bit more time to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.

There’s 3 different approaches you can take here:

1. For some women, you need to let go, be at peace with how you feel and just relax. This is often the case with Type A, outcome-orientated folks. – “The ability to ‘let go’ and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor, as are certain techniques of sexual stimulation” [16].
2. For other women, you need to “push out.” This sounds a little vague, but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your Kegel muscles.
3. Some women need more clitoral and/or G Spot stimulation to push them over the edge.

My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.

7. My Partner Wants Me To Squirt For Them, But I Can’t. What Should I Do?

Your partner needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. They also need to realize that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with them.

So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your partner.

You will find that the more pressure your partner puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so talk to them, and let them know that this is a delicate process and that putting any pressure on you to perform will likely backfire.

It’s almost like your partner needs to view themself as an “assistant”, following your instructions and helping you to squirt. Unfortunately, some partners see themselves as the “conductor” who just needs to move their hand the right way while disregarding your feedback 🙁

The same is true when you’re learning how to make a man cry in bed, you can’t force it.

8. I Want My Partner To Make Me Squirt. What Should I Do?

Step 1 – Learn to squirt by yourself. Once you can reliably squirt by yourself move to Step 2.

Step 2 – Let your partner know that you’ve discovered something new: squirting. Ask your partner if they are interested in exploring it with you. If they are, then talk to your partner and let them know the types of stimulation and positions that will help you to squirt.

Alternatively, you can guide your partner’s hand with yours to show them what they need to do to make you squirt. You can even give a demonstration, showing them exactly what you do to make yourself squirt.

The same is true during sex, guide your partner into positions that hit your best squirting spots.

Additionally, your partner may find reading this very squirting guide helpful, too.

9. Can All Women Squirt?

No, according to the research currently available.

In one study, a systematic literature review found that the prevalence of either a female ejaculation (FE) of a smaller quantity of whitish secretions from the female prostate or a squirting of a larger amount of diluted and changed urine is 10-54% [3].

Another squirting study surveyed US women. From the 2936 responses, they found that “forty (41.4%) percent of U.S. adult women had ever squirted in their lifetime” [13].

You can see the table of responses from these 2936 women below:

Squirting Status

% of women [13]

Ever squirted

41.4

Squirted once or twice

39.6

Squirted 3-5 times

19.5

Squirted 6-10 times

11.7

Squirted 11+ times

28.9

We examine this question in more detail and explain why between 6% and 69.23% of all women can squirt, depending on how squirting is defined.

10. I’ve Never Had An Orgasm, But I Want To Squirt, What Should I Do?

Slow down.

If you can’t orgasm, then everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and climax alone first, before moving on to being able to comfortably orgasm during sex.

Finally, when you can reliably orgasm with your partner, start trying to squirt by yourself and then during sex.

I have put together an incredibly detailed guide on how to reach orgasm that I recommend you check out.

11. Is There One “Magical” Technique That Works Every Time To Make Yourself Squirt?

No.

Instead, you need to experiment with multiple techniques and find the ones that work best for you.

This is backed up by research on 1,216 squirters. When they were asked about the techniques they used to build up to squirting, there was no one dominant technique:

Techniques used to
build toward squirting

% of women [13]

Harder/more intense touch

19.6

Prep and warm up to squirt

16.9

Other/don’t know or
don’t remember

16.9

Pressure inside vaginal wall

16.5

Clitoral stimulation alone

15.6

Concurrent outside/inside
pressure

12.5

When these same 1,216 squirters were asked about the techniques that would help them release their squirt, again, there was no single dominant technique.

Techniques used to
release a squirt

% of women [13]

No specific pattern

40.2

Releasing tensed/clenched
muscles

21.4

Burst of speed/pressure

17.1

Consistency of movement

14.9

Bearing/tensing down

12.5

Pulling toys/penis/fingers
out of vagina

10.0

Other

5.2

However, 75.6% of respondents stated that they had ever used a specific technique to squirt [13]. So…

What does all this data actually mean for you?

There is probably a squirting technique that works most of the time for you, but you will need to experiment and try out a bunch of different techniques to discover what it is. However, there is no one-size-fits-all, works-every-time squirting technique that works for everyone.

Squirting FAQ

I want to also cover some of the common questions I get from readers about squirting.

1. How Do I Squirt More?

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to this, but there are things that you should explore:

Adequate hydration – This one is obvious. If you are dehydrated, your body will find it harder to squirt. You simply won’t have enough fluid in your body. If you are better hydrated, it will naturally be easier.

Water and isotonic drinks will help to hydrate you. Alcohol won’t.

Longer sex & foreplay – Your body isn’t ready to squirt at any moment. It doesn’t hold a “squirting reserve.” Instead, it begins building when you get turned on, start foreplay, and have sex. If you are having a quickie, your body won’t have enough time to produce a large amount of squirting fluid.

But if you are having a much longer session, then it will.

Stronger Kegels – Studies have shown that pelvic floor muscle training can improve arousal, orgasm and sexual satisfaction for those with a vulva [17, 18].

By regularly performing Kegel and pelvic floor exercises, you will not only improve these things (arousal, orgasm & sexual satisfaction), but you will gain greater control over your squirting ability, allowing you to squirt with more force.

Deeper relaxation – I don’t want to sound like a broken record, but many people forget that one of the important things for reaching orgasm and squirting is:

You need to be able to relax and “let go,” even though many of your muscles are straining at the same time. “The ability to ‘let go’ and experience an orgasm appears to be a very important factor” to squirting [16].

So, if you are stressed, anxious or consumed with thoughts instead of simply enjoying the moment, you will find it harder to squirt as much as you want to.

Edging – Edging is the art of bringing yourself or your partner almost to the point of orgasm before backing off so you don’t. For many, edging a few times during a session can make squirting even more intense when you finally do come.

In-depth guide: What is edging & how to edge yourself or your partner.

Your personal preferences – Everyone has personal sexual preferences, kinks and fetishes that turn you on and intensify sex. Spend some time to explore and get to know your own and start incorporating them into masturbation and sex.

2. Why Do Women Squirt?

To prevent UTI infections.

That’s according to a paper published by Elsevier in their Medical Hypotheses journal that states:

“We hypothesize that female ejaculation has a unique function in producing a secretion into the urethra that provides protection from urinary tract infections (UTIs). We further predict that female ejaculate contains antimicrobial compounds including elements such as zinc” [19].

3. Where Does Squirt Come From?

The fluid that women squirt is produced in two different parts of your body, mostly from your bladder and partially from your Skene’s gland (aka the female prostate). Your Skene’s gland surrounds the urethra and produces a type of prostatic fluid. [6, 12]

Fluids from your bladder and Skene’s gland combine in the urethra and the squirting fluid leaves your body through the urethra. This is what the research tells us:

“The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].

4. What Makes A Woman Squirt?

According to one study, squirting can “occur separately from orgasm for some women” [14], while another survey of 320 women who have squirted found that squirting “usually occurs during orgasm” [16].

Diving in deeper…

When all 320 women were presented with the question, “What kind of stimulation leads to squirting?” they could give multiple answers. These are the things that cause a woman to squirt:

What caused women
who can squirt to squirt

% of women [16]

Masturbation

53.4

Vaginal orgasm

52.5

Clitoral orgasm

53.4

Sexual intercourse

48.1

Anal stimulation

19.4

Spontaneous (without sexual stimulation)

10.4

During sleep

4.1

In this same study, women were also asked what triggered them to squirt for the first time.

• 23.4% of squirters experienced their first time squirting during sexual encounters with a new partner.
• 4.4% of squirters experienced their first time squirting during masturbation.
• 3.1% of squirters experienced their first time squirting when training to squirt

5. Is Squirting Pee?

Short answer – Yes, it’s mostly pee, but it often contains a small amount of prostatic fluid from the Skene’s gland [4].

Long answer – The scientific community conducted a study on this very question. The study findings were published in the well-respected Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2014 and have been cited over 75 times.

In the study, the researchers used ultrasound equipment on seven healthy women so that they could monitor their bladders before, during and after squirting.

• The experiment started with all the women using the bathroom to ensure their bladders were empty. The researchers checked to make sure they were empty using the ultrasound equipment.
• Then came sexual stimulation, and just before the women squirted, their bladders were noticeably filled when measured by ultrasound.
• After the women squirted, their bladders were empty when measured by ultrasound.

So squirting definitely contains urine from your bladder.

The researchers also did a biochemical analysis of urine samples from the seven women before they squirted and again on a second urine sample after they squirted. The researchers also did a biochemical analysis on the fluid that each woman squirted.

• The urine sample from before squirting, the urine sample after squirting and the squirting fluid all contained the same chemicals that indicated it consisted of urine.
• When the researchers looked for “prostatic-specific antigen” in the squirting fluid and urine sample after squirting, they found it for five of the seven women.

They concluded that “that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists” [4].

In other words, squirting is mostly pee. Often, it also contains a little bit of extra fluid that comes from the Skene’s gland.

6. What Does Squirting Feel Like?

Scientists and researchers have repeatedly investigated this question, “What does squirting feel like?”

Here are their answers from these studies…

In one study, 85.8% of women found squirting at least a little pleasurable [13].

Another study of 28 women found that their experience of squirting covered a wide range:

• Positive – “Amazement, pride, and a feeling of assessing a sexual superpower” [15]. I think the respondent meant “accessing”
• Neutral – “Feelings of indifference or disconnection from an orgasmic feeling” [15]
• Negative – “Sensations of discomfort or shame” [15]

Another study found:

• Shame & wonder – “Their responses to initial ejaculation experiences varied but can be grouped into two general categories: feelings of humiliation and shame or feelings of exploration and wonder” [14].
• A feeling of release – “Several women reported feeling a sense of release upon ejaculation and congestion when ejaculation did not occur, even though they did orgasm”[14].
• Embarrassment changed to feeling sexy over time – The study found that some women changed their views on squirting over time from negative to positive, “It used to make me feel embarrassed, and I used to try to stop it from happening. Then, I would feel frustrated because my sexual experiences were not fulfilling. But now that I am in a caring relationship and I am older, I enjoy it very much. It makes me feel good that it makes my partner feel good – it is an obvious sign to him that he has pleased me. It makes me feel unique, sexy, and irreplaceable” [14].

A large, comprehensive study of 1,211 women who had squirted found these results:

Pleasurableness of squirting
among women who have
ever squirted

% of women [13]

Very pleasurable

33.9

Somewhat pleasurable

25.0

A little pleasurable

26.9

Not pleasurable

14.1

We also surveyed readers of the Bad Girls Bible and 119 women explained what squirting feels like. Their responses were very similar to the research studies I mentioned above, ranging from incredibly positive to negative.

Here are some of their responses:

“It was during sex. Very much a high in addition to the orgasm itself. My body felt light, airy and mentally I felt as though I were on a drug. Yes, I enjoyed it and would recommend it. Not something one can turn on or off!”

“This was with my husband (now separated). I orgasm first, then squirt. It feels ok but sometimes frustrating”

“It felt like a release. It felt good, sometimes with an orgasm, sometimes without. Yes, I enjoyed it very much. Mentally, I guess it feels good because you know that your body is reacting to you mentally and physically. The first time it happened, I went, “What is this?” Now, when it happens with men, they absolutely love it, can’t get enough of it.”

“Mentally – I love how it makes me feel AND it also gives my man (and past men) a little ego boost when it happens. It’s sexy seeing how proud they are of themselves for making their woman do that. However, expectations should be set for both parties that it isn’t going to happen every single time, AND THAT IS OKAY. It shouldn’t be the goal or the end result but a fun thing that happens when it does.”

“It felt different, and I felt ashamed. I want to stop squirting during sex.”

“More recently with a guy I was dating and he, I think, enjoyed making me squirt with his fingers, more for an ego thing for himself.”

“It has happened during clit stimulation and sex. I squirt most when i feel safe and comfortable with the person i am with. I was worried he wouldn’t like it, because it feels like a lighter liquid then [sic] cum. But he absolutely loves it.”

“Using a really good vibrator, I’ve never felt that good before. It felt like I had to pee. Squirting is amazing.”

“It was part of the release of orgasms during masturbation. I don’t particularly enjoy it, as it’s messy. I’m not sure I’d recommend it to other women.”

“I used my brand new toy for the very first time. I came so hard it felt like I was urinating, but it was not, lol. I became a whole monsoon, I have never experienced that by myself before or with another person in all honesty.”

“I have squirted during sex but not with masturbation. I felt like I was going to pee and then it just popped and gushed everywhere. I would recommend it to other women, and other couples but my current partner fully believes that it’s only pee and has made me feel less than sexy for it”

“I can and have had squirting orgasms both during sex and while masturbating. The feeling is intense and amazing! I feel so good afterward, tears come to my eyes, and I cannot stop smiling. My body feels relaxed, but I also get a burst of energy, and mentally, I feel accomplished and capable! Fierce”

Note: I corrected the spelling and grammar on these responses.

7. Is Squirting An Orgasm?

Short answer – No. Squirting and orgasm are two separate things. But, they often occur together.

Long answer – There’s a lot of research on this.

According to famous sex researcher Beverly Whipple, “Some women have reported experiencing ejaculation with orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and some women have reported experiencing ejaculation without orgasm.” She also states that “in some women G spot stimulation, orgasm, and female ejaculation are related, while in others they are not” [5].

One research study found that “the two do share similarities in terms of occurring in response to various stimulation (e.g., penile-vaginal, manual genital, sex toy), timing (e.g., often at the end of a sexual episode), occasional concurrence with orgasm, and the possibility of providing women a sense of sexual satisfaction and/or sexual pleasure” [13].

Another research paper examining women’s experiences of squirting showed “that ejaculation and orgasm are not simultaneous for some women. Ejaculation occurs at different times in the arousal cycle for different women [14].

In other words:

• Squirting and reaching orgasm are sometimes confused as being the same thing because they both require the same types of stimulation to happen (masturbation/G Spot stimulation/sex) and often happen together.
• Some women squirt without having an orgasm
• Some women orgasm without squirting

Speaking of squirting without orgasm…

In a large, comprehensive study of 1,204 women who had squirted, they found that only 19.8% of women always squirt and orgasm at the same time. :

Concurrency of squirting & orgasm
for women who have ever squirted

% of women [13]

Always

19.8

Often

28.1

Sometimes

34.8

Never

17.2

8. How Do I Know If I Squirted?

Are the sheets of your bed in any way wet, even a little bit wet?

If yes, you squirted.

For many women, squirting does NOT result in a stream of fluid getting shot out of your urethra/vulva. Instead, you simply gush a little extra fluid.

One study even drew attention to the fact that many squirters simply got wetter than normal, “It just gets really wet, but it’s not like a fountain, it seeps out. I think that’s why I questioned, at the beginning, whether it was a real [squirt].” [15]

9. What Does Squirt Look Like?

A study of 320 women who have squirted were asked what their squirted fluid looks like (*they could give multiple answers):

Color of squirted fluid

% of women [16]

Clear as water

83.1

White/milky

23.1

Yellow

1.3

10. Why Do I Squirt So Much?

It is likely down to both controllable and uncontrollable circumstances.

Controllable

• If you are very hydrated and have a full bladder before trying to squirt, then it makes sense that you will squirt more.
• Equally, if you are severely dehydrated and have peed right before trying to squirt, it will be harder to squirt as much.

Uncontrollable

Everyone’s body is different. As a result, some women can squirt huge volumes while others struggle to squirt more than a few drops.

11. Does Squirting Make Sex Better/More Pleasurable?

Short answer – The vast majority of women who can squirt say it makes sex better [13, 16]. However, between 10.9-14.1% of squirters have negative views on it [13, 16]. 90% of the partners of squirters view it as a positive thing [16].

Long answer – The scientific community has gone in-depth answering this question…

One large, comprehensive study of 1,211 women who had squirted found that 85.8% of women found squirting at least a little pleasurable, and a third of squirters found it “very pleasurable” [13]:

Pleasurableness of squirting
among women who have
ever squirted

% of women [13]

Very pleasurable

33.9

Somewhat pleasurable

25.0

A little pleasurable

26.9

Not pleasurable

14.1

Another study of 320 squirters found that 78.8% of them view it as enriching their sex life [16] :

Impact of squirting on
participant’s sex life

% of women [16]

Enrichment

78.8

Don’t care

10.3

Sometimes I wished
I would not ejaculate

7.2

I’d rather not ejaculate

3.1

seen as pathological

0.6

In the study of 320 women who have squirted, they were also asked about their partner’s attitude towards squirting. 90% of their partners view squirting as a positive thing [16]:

Partner’s attitude towards squirting

% of women [16]

Positive

90

Does not know about it

4.4

Indifferent

6

Negative

0.6

12. How Often Do Women Squirt During Sex?

It depends.

One research paper found that 19.0% of squirters reported squirting during 91–100% of their sexual activities, while 14.2% reported squirting during only 1–10% of their sexual activities [16].

In the same paper, researchers asked the respondents how often they squirt. Interestingly, about 20% of squirters do so every day:

How often do women squirt
(who have the ability to squirt)

% of women [16]

A few times during a week

31.6

A few times during a month

28.4

Daily

19.4

Once a month

8.8

Less than monthly

7.5

Less frequently

4.4

Scientific/statistical answer – For women who can squirt, the median frequency of squirting during sexual activity was 57% (SD +/- 33%) [16].

As the standard deviation is on the high side, this makes it hard to reliably give an exact figure on how often women squirt during sex that applies to every woman who can squirt. In other words…

It depends on the individual.

13. How Much Do Women Squirt?

We found a study of 320 squirters that asked this very question. The results on how much fluid women squirt:

Squirt Volume/Amount (ml)

% of women [16]

0.3

12.2

15

18.1

60

29.1

15

15.3

>150

25.3

Note: In the question that asked participants on how much they squirt, there were a number of visual options to choose from – such as tablespoons (15 ml) or a few drops’ (0.3ml), etc

14. Is Female Ejaculation Normal?

Yes. It’s normal and healthy.

Famous researcher Beverly Whipple is clear on this: “It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses” [5].

15. Is Squirting A New Thing? How Long Have We Known About Squirting And Female Ejaculation?

Squirting has been known about for over 2,000 years.

300 B.C. – According to a paper published in the prestigous Journal of Sexual Medicine it was first “depicted about 300 B.C. by Aristotle and in the 2nd century by Galen”[20].

Aristotle – “Aristotle was probably the first to write about female ejaculation” [5].

The Romans & ancient Indians – “The Romans called these fluids liquor vitae, and in ancient India this female erotic fluid was known as a amrita (nectar of the gods)” [5].

4th century China – “In ancient Asia female ejaculation was very well known and mentioned in several Chinese Taoist texts starting in the 4th century” [20].

7th century India – “First mentioned in a 7th century poem, female ejaculation and the Gräfenberg spot (G Spot) are described in detail in most works of the Kāmaśāstra”[20].

16th century Europe – Additionally, “Reinjier De Graaf in the 16th century provided the first scientific description of female ejaculation and was the first to refer to the periurethral glands as the female prostate” [20].

16. I Can Squirt, But I Find It Unenjoyable/Embarrassing. What’s Up With That?

Nothing is wrong. It’s ok to not enjoy some things. In fact, studies on squirting have shown that between 10.9-14.1% of squirters have negative views on it [13, 16].

However, only a tiny amount of people (0.6% or 1 in 167 partners) have a negative view on their partner squirting [16]. In fact, 90% or 9 out of every 10 people view their partner’s ability to squirt as something positive.

It’s also worth keeping in mind what the experts have to say about squirting:

“It is important for women and their male and female partners to know that the phenomenon of female ejaculation is normal and an often attractive part of healthy sexuality. It is also important for healthcare providers to be aware of this phenomenon and to help their patients realize that this is a normal, healthy part of female sexual responses” [5].

17. Is Coital Incontinence The Same As Squirting & Female Ejaculation?

Nope.

What is coital incontinence? – Coital incontinence is the leaking of urine that can occur during sexual intercourse [21]. It can happen to both women and men, and is common among men who have had a prostatectomy [21].

Why do some women have coital incontinence? – Among women, coital incontinence is usually caused by stress urinary incontinence [3]. In fact, 89.4% of women with stress urinary incontinence experience coital incontinence [3].

Additionally, 33.3% of women with detrusor overactivity experience coital incontinence [3]. Other issues like cervico-urethral hypermobility, sphincter incompetence and urethral instability could also cause coital incontinence [21].

During sex, factors that can contribute to coital incontinence include increased intraabdominal pressure, penile insertion, deep penetration, high arousal, orgasm, and clitoral stimulation [3].

December 16, 2024