How To Stop Squirting During Sex If You Want To

Below is a collection of tips for anyone hoping to squirt less. Along the way, you'll also learn why squirting can actually be a good thing, how to bring it up with a partner, and practical ways to manage the mess if squirting itself doesn't bother you but the cleanup does.

What is Squirting, Anyway?

Squirting – Squirting is a fairly common physical response to sexual stimulation, particularly when stimulating the G-spot. It typically shows up as a gush of fluid released from the urethra. G-spot play often creates a "need to pee" sensation, which can actually be a signal that squirting is on its way.

Learn more: Techniques to make yourself squirt during sex and masturbation.

Female ejaculation – By contrast, female ejaculation involves a smaller amount of whitish fluid — distinct from "squirt" — produced by the Skene's gland, sometimes called the female prostate [1]. It's also triggered by sexual activity and can occur alongside squirting, though research suggests it happens less frequently on its own.

Dive deeper: In-depth female ejaculation guide.

Coital Urinary Incontinence – A third possibility, coital urinary incontinence, can also result in fluid release during sex, generally tied to a weakened bladder or pelvic floor.

Read more: Peeing during sex? What to do.

Squirting Can Be a Natural Part of Healthy and Pleasurable Sexuality

You might wonder whether squirting counts as normal. It absolutely does! Most of the time, it's simply your body responding to pleasure, whether that's solo masturbation or partnered sex. Plenty of people even enjoy mastering the skill and showing it off to a partner.

That said, squirting every single time can get frustrating, especially if it means constantly washing your sheets.

Some women also feel shame or embarrassment around squirting, particularly if it's a first-time experience they don't fully understand. Past partners reacting poorly, or exposure to negative chatter about squirting elsewhere, can leave you feeling self-conscious too. If any of that resonates, wanting to learn how to squirt less makes complete sense.

Of course, if a humiliation or degradation kink is already part of your dynamic, incorporating it consensually — having a partner playfully "shame" you for squirting as roleplay — is a legitimate option too.

Many People Enjoy It When Their Partners Squirt

If you're unsure how your partner feels about squirting, there's genuinely little to worry about. One study found 90% of respondents felt a partner's squirting enriched their sex life [2]! Your own hesitations may be the only real obstacle standing between you and fully embracing it.

Stopping Yourself From Squirting or Squirting Too Much

Here are tips for cutting back on squirting if it's become disruptive, which can happen when it occurs constantly. Keep in mind squirting is largely an involuntary response, so full control over it may genuinely be out of reach.

Identify if You Have Coital Incontinence

Coital incontinence refers to urinary leakage specifically during sex. A systematic literature review found leakage tied to penetration happens more often than leakage tied specifically to orgasm (orgasmic coital incontinence) [1]. It usually stems from a weakened bladder or pelvic floor. Squirting, while a similar release of fluid from the urethra, also contains components that aren't purely urinary.

Telling the two apart can be genuinely tricky, especially if it only happens alongside a G-spot orgasm (orgasm tips) — the sensation and output can feel remarkably similar. But if urinary leakage shows up outside the bedroom too, say when sneezing, coughing, or moving a certain way, coital incontinence is the more likely explanation.

A pelvic floor therapist can recommend Kegels and other treatments tailored to urinary continence.

Figure Out What Causes It

Pinning down your specific trigger comes first. Pay attention to which sexual techniques, toys, positions, or other factors seem to bring it on. Plenty of people squirt specifically from G-spot stimulation, while others notice a particular vibrator (use your vibrator for maximum pleasure) triggers it more reliably than intercourse or fingering. Once identified, you can scale back or avoid those specific activities.

Get more sex position ideas.

Just remember that cutting out certain activities also means losing the pleasure that comes with them. If G-spot stimulation is something you genuinely love but it consistently triggers squirting, avoiding it entirely means giving that pleasure up too.

Pee Before Sex

Emptying your bladder beforehand can lower the odds of squirting.

That said, it's no guarantee you won't squirt anyway.

You can empty your bladder completely and still release a surprising amount of fluid! Still, it's a helpful step if excessive squirting is your main concern.

Pause Sex to Empty Your Bladder

Feel the urge to pee mid-sex? Pausing for a bathroom break is completely reasonable. A quick shower or bidet afterward helps you feel fresh again, especially if oral sex is planned next!

Drink Less Before Sex

Cutting back on fluids beforehand, especially paired with peeing first, can make squirting less likely by reducing overall fluid in your system.

Just avoid tipping into dehydration, which brings its own health risks. Being significantly dehydrated can also make getting wet harder, so keeping lube on hand as a backup is a smart move.

Related: How To Get Wet For Sex FAST

Use Your Pelvic Floor Muscles to Stop Yourself From Squirting

Plenty of people can hold off squirting by engaging their pelvic floor muscles — the same ones used to stop urine flow midstream.

That fluid will still need to come out eventually, and controlling things this way can sometimes cause discomfort. Skip this approach if it starts triggering more frequent UTIs.

Block Your Urethra (Not Recommended)

Some people find that squirting simply doesn't happen if something is blocking the urethra from inside the vagina. That said, deliberately blocking it can cause real pain and discomfort, so we don't recommend this approach at all.

Do Kegels to Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor

Kegel exercises, which target the pelvic floor, offer a range of benefits — more pleasure, stronger orgasms, and a tighter feel for your partner among them. They're also genuinely useful if urinary incontinence is part of the picture.

That said, check with your doctor before starting a Kegel routine.

Overly tight pelvic floor muscles can actually cause urinary incontinence too.

So getting the technique right really does matter here.

Embrace Squirting – and Plan For It!

It's a superpower – While there are moments when squirting isn't convenient, we genuinely encourage embracing this ability — it's essentially physical proof of a great time. Think of it as a kind of superpower, and it's exactly why plenty of people work on learning how to make their partner squirt in the first place!

Minimize the mess – If cleanup is really the core issue, a few steps can help. A waterproof mattress cover placed underneath your regular bedding makes cleanup easier and protects the mattress itself, though it's less practical elsewhere or on odd-sized beds.

Towels & waterproof blankets – For other spots, a towel, waterproof blanket (dedicated sex blankets work great, though pet blankets are often cheaper), or even a pee pad can do the trick. Pick whatever suits your favorite spots for sex best.

The shower – Shower sex sidesteps the cleanup question entirely — everything simply washes down the drain, and you can rinse off before stepping out once you're done.

Related: 12 wild shower sex positions.

Talk to Your Partner

With new partners, mentioning upfront that you squirt lets you gauge their reaction — and steer clear of anyone who isn't comfortable with it, assuming you're otherwise compatible.

With an existing partner, you might explain that you've been holding back out of fear, or because of how someone reacted in the past. Share how it affects you mentally and physically, and that their support matters. From there, you can work through practical ways to handle the mess together.

Our guide to sexual communication can help with that conversation.

Talk to a Professional

Beyond your partner, a professional might be worth consulting too. A doctor can help if coital incontinence turns out to be the underlying issue. But if the real goal is working through the emotional hang-ups around squirting rather than physically reducing it, a certified sex therapist can be genuinely valuable. Not every therapist is sex-positive or well-versed in sexuality topics, which is exactly why we recommend seeking one who specializes in this area.

Now you've got a full picture of how to squirt less — assuming that's genuinely what you want.

May 5, 2025