82 Guys Get Real About Why They Love Anal Sex

Ever wondered why guys are so drawn to anal sex? We put that exact question to 82 men (70 straight, 12 gay or bisexual). The answers ran the gamut — power, pleasure, pain, taboo, tightness, and for a good number, genuine intimacy and connection.

Warning 1 – These responses are unedited apart from minor spelling and grammar fixes. That means some answers below get pretty blunt, graphic, or startlingly candid. But it also means you’re getting a genuinely unfiltered look inside men’s heads on why anal appeals to them so much.

Warning 2 – We’ve ordered these from most to least common, but…

…the further you read, the weirder and more unique the reasons get.

Let’s dive in!

“It Feels Tighter”

By a wide margin, the single most common answer we got was about the sensation of tightness during anal sex.

That tightness comes from the sphincter, the ring of muscle around the anus, which explains why anal sex feels so intense for men.

Respondents frequently described real pressure and friction against their penis, even with plenty of lube in play. Some even said they preferred that tightness to vaginal sex specifically because they have a smaller penis (5 positions and 3 techniques for small penis sex).

1. I adore anal sex. It gives me pleasure and orgasms and after I discovered that, I quickly got hooked. My cock in my gf ass it’s just delightfully filling, tight and [enjoyable].

2. It’s a surprising tightness with moisture that applies pressure on your penis that makes you want to bust.

3. I love anal sex because it’s at least double the pleasure for the man receiving it. For the man topping, there’s nothing like a tight hole that can grip and milk your fuckstick.

4. As my penis is only as thick as my thumb, it feels much tighter. [Women] don’t mind as bigger guys would hurt them.

“It’s Taboo”

The second-most common answer centered on anal sex feeling forbidden or wrong. Even though it’s a genuinely common practice, plenty of guys said it still feels like breaking a rule.

Which is exactly what makes it hot!

Several respondents used the word “nasty” as a compliment when describing this taboo quality.

5. It’s forbidden and taboo, and also I like the feeling I experience as I get my cock in. I also love the “Dirty” status about anal sex.

6. [Everyone] I’ve had anal with has an intense orgasm due to the taboo. (How to orgasm).

7. There’s something hot about putting yourself where you’re not meant to go.

8. It’s much kinkier and taboo and feels like we’re not [supposed] to do it. (23 freaky sex ideas).

9. It’s the forbidden fruit.

10. The times I have had anal sex, it makes me feel very naughty. I feel like I am in the forbidden zone.

11. The potential taboo-breaking is delicious.

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“It Makes Me Feel Powerful”

Plenty of men brought up a sense of power tied to anal sex. For some, it was about claiming ownership; for others, it was the awareness that their partner was handing over control entirely. This sometimes tied into power-exchange (D/s) dynamics, though not always.

12. It makes me feel like I own her. (How to be a good domme)

13. When topping, I’m putting my submissive in the place she wants/needs to be. And I help her associate orgasm with anal sex by pleasuring her clit simultaneously.

14. It’s like she’s totally submitting to me, and it physically feels so good. I also love seeing her open up for me.

15. I’m a Dom, and it is a feeling of control over the other.

16. The power I feel when she surrenders her ass to me is overwhelming. Makes me feel aggressive, possessive, and Beastly.

“Anal Offers Real Intimacy and Connection”

This theme came up constantly as a core reason men enjoy anal sex. Plenty mentioned how it deepens intimacy or strengthens the bond with a partner specifically, while others pointed to feelings of love amplifying the experience (and vice versa). Several also spoke to how much their partner’s trust meant to them, given how vulnerable this act can feel.

17. A nice, tight feeling and knowing I’m trusted to play with a vulnerable part of my wife’s body.

18. It’s a different experience, very arousing, and it lets me know she really cares for me.

19. Because it’s different and it’s intimate [and] personal, it’s not something we do all the time, it’s special occasions

20. It’s the edge of intimacy with a woman you love.

21. Feels extremely intimate and like there’s no way to be closer.

22. I like it because it’s the ultimate in lovemaking, feeling my partner giving me what I need and crave for.

23. The intimacy of being let in there is mindblowing.

“She Genuinely Likes It”

A partner’s own enjoyment turned out to be a major driver behind why plenty of men like anal sex. Sometimes that meant more intense or different kinds of pleasure and orgasm for her. Surprisingly, some respondents admitted they personally got little out of it and did it purely for their partner’s sake.

24. I really only like it because she likes it. Her nerve endings there are so sensitive that she cums almost instantly.

25. The feeling of being able to give my partner enjoyment is also important.

26. The tightness of her asshole and the ability to reach around and stimulate her clitoris to heighten her pleasure. The several women I have had anal sex with each had an orgasm from it.

27. At first, I didn’t like it, but when I am with a woman who likes it, it makes me want to please her even more.

28. She can usually come twice before I do. Anal orgasms drain and satisfy her, and I enjoy giving my wife that level of absolute pleasure. (How to have multiple orgasms).

29. I like hitting her g-spot, and it’s very domineering, which turns me on…. not that I’m into dominating my partner, just that brief time where she can relax and allow herself to be free to experience a different type of pleasure.

30. My wife goes crazy when we do it once in a while.

31. It makes me feel great when I am doing stuff to her and her ass and hearing the great moans and groans of pleasure from her if I am doing things right.

32. I enjoy it if, and only if, the woman is happy.

33. I like it because my wife absolutely loves it. She says it gives her the best orgasms she’s ever had. The fact that I’m able to do that for her makes me feel great. During anal, she talks dirty and all sorts of stuff that she doesn’t do during vaginal sex, so it’s fun because of that as well. (How to talk dirty).

34. Makes my partner flow like a fire hydrant. (How to make a girl squirt).

35. My girl orgasms from it because I hit her G Spot in a different way. And she squirts from Anal.

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“I’m Just a Butt Guy”

Some men simply have a thing for butts, so naturally, anal sex follows suit.

36. [If] like me you have a true love of the female butt, then there’s nothing better than doing a little cave diving 😉

37. Attracted to bottoms.

38. I enjoy ejaculating on her butt when cumming.

“It Connects Me to My Submissive Side”

For certain men, being on the receiving end of anal sex helped them tap into their submissive side (while letting a partner take the dominant role in the bedroom).

39. Mainly receptive in practice thru pegging, feels naughty, submissive, and fantastic. (17 pegging positions).

40. I like feeling my fiancée wear a strap on dildo and make me her bitch up the ass.

“It Causes Pain”

A handful of survey respondents specifically enjoyed causing their partner some pain during anal sex.

41. I love how very tight the anus is. I love the pain that she is in.

42. I also like how it can be a little more painful for her.

43. I enjoy causing her a little bit of pain.

“It’s a Blend of Pain and Pleasure”

While some men enjoy inflicting pain, others are more drawn to the delicate balance of maximizing pleasure while minimizing pain during anal sex.

44. The reaction from her – the squeals of joy & pain at the same time – usually tighter than her pussy – I like going slow – hearing her begging for more or deeper.

45. I don’t need it or ask for it. But when my partner wants it, I love seeing their reaction as my dick goes deeper and deeper. It feels empowering to know you could cause them either intense pain or pleasure.

46. [It’s] a challenge to make her come without hurting her

“I Love the Novelty and Variety”

For plenty of guys, the appeal is purely that anal sex breaks from routine. Some deliberately keep it infrequent or save it for special occasions specifically for this reason.

47. It’s not on our normal sex menu of sexual things, which [makes] it different and naughty.

48. Variety is the spice of life.

49. [It] switches things up. Keeps the love life from getting routine when there are options.

50. Incredibly hot. The feelings were amazing—she felt so tight around my cock—but the best part was the eroticism of going somewhere new, having her be vulnerable with me, bringing her pleasure in this totally new way, and the acceptance of asking me to cum inside her.

“There’s No Pregnancy Risk”

Respondents appreciated that anal sex carries no pregnancy risk, which for some meant it was the only form of penetration they could enjoy without a condom, or the only way they could finish inside their partner.

51. I can creampie her there.

52. Anal sex feels great, especially when using lube. It is extremely tight, warm, and overall pleasurable. I like the ability to cum inside without the consequences of pregnancy.

53. It gives me better penetration, and if I do anal sex, then there is no tension of condom or pregnancy.

“It Stimulates My Prostate”

Some men enjoy being anally penetrated by a partner, typically via strap-on, otherwise known as pegging.

54. I enjoy the sensation of pressure on my prostate. Maybe in another life, I would have been gay.

55. Only bc it’s my wife and she plays with my prostate when I have [an orgasm].

“It Gives Me a Genuine High”

Several respondents described an emotional euphoria tied to anal sex.

56. Emotional ecstasy.

57. Anal sex makes me feel euphoric.

“It Lets Me Try Double Penetration”

Adding anal into the mix lets couples experiment with a toy vaginally at the same time, like using a dildo, for a more intense combined experience.

58. Because I can be in her ass and she can have a toy in her vagina.

59. I like the idea of double penetrating her, but don’t really like the idea of having another man fuck her as well. So anal sex with a dildo is the perfect solution to this, just not as easy to do as it sounds. But the feel of her asshole clinching on my shaft is a nice feel.

“I Wanted to Be Her First”

Others liked the idea of being the first to try anal sex with a partner, sharing something new that belonged only to the two of them (29 new things to try in the bedroom).

60. More virgin territory for many females.

61. I’ve never had it. But would love to have it with my wife cause no other man has fucked her ass.

A Grab Bag of Other Reasons Guys Love Anal

A handful of reasons only came up once or twice among respondents.

62. So you can have sex when she has her period – Anal sex is good when she is on her period. Or just to change things up a bit.

63. Feeling desired – It’s the most intimate part of a woman, and I feel completely desired when I get to be near or in her ass.

64. Feeling like a conqueror – it is usually the last hole I get to feel so I feel like now I have fully conquered my woman.

65. Selfishness – Because it’s entirely for my pleasure, and an asshole is always tighter and has more friction than a vagina. Pure bliss.

66. Enthralled by the process – I enjoy the foreplay, lubing and fingering her ass before slowly pushing my penis – which is quite thick – into what is usually a very tight hole. It feels really good to explore her ass. Once we are both content, I can then bang it until I come.

67. It’s Primal – It feels like raw animal fucking. (He might be into primal kink).

68. Penetrating deep into her body – I like anal sex more than vaginal sex. I love putting my erection deep up a woman’s ass. I like how her intestine stretches around my erection. I like the idea of putting my semen inside her intestine.

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“Honestly, I Just Love Sex in General”

Several respondents said anal sex wasn’t particularly special to them — they simply enjoy sex broadly and are happy to use any hole available, anal included.

69. I just like sex; anal is not an exception.

70. I like to fuck all holes.

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Some of our respondents have sex with men, offering insight into why guys enjoy both giving and receiving anal sex. There’s substantial overlap with the reasons already covered above, making clear that the appeal of anal isn’t necessarily tied to a partner’s gender.

Common threads included pleasing a partner, surrendering or taking control, being used by someone, connecting with femininity or a feminine side, prostate stimulation, and specific sexual fantasies or kinks.

71. I like it when a man hits the G Spot on my prostate. It makes me feel wanted and loved.

72. It honestly hurts sooo good. I get to have a hot guy on top of me, enjoying my hole and making him blow his seed deep inside me.

73. Anal sex makes me feel great. I love fucking men in the ass and thrusting against them. I love the sound of skin hitting against skin. I love making other people feel good and pleasured sexually.

74. The general feeling of being in touch with my more feminine side as well as being a man with a man.

75. I like being used like a toy for guys to get pleasure.

76. I like receiving anal penetration as part of a threesome or foursome, etc. I like the experience of handling multiple partners.

Related: How to have a red-hot threesome with zero jealousy.

77. I like the feeling of giving my partner pleasure by allowing him to penetrate me. I do, of course, enjoy being stimulated and getting my prostate “massaged”. And as a bottom, it’s also the mental satisfaction of “giving” my partner what he needs in bed.

78. Because nothing feels better than having a huge dick splitting you open and a man being in control of you and the situation until you eventually end up dripping wet and fully “pregnant.”

79. I get to experience sex from the female’s perspective. I also find the humiliation of my penis being superfluous [to sex] exciting.

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80. Receiving is exciting because it stimulates my prostate, and I love how full I feel, and I almost always cum when I’m fucked. I also like the feeling of the cum running out of my ass. I also like to give, especially if I get to rim my partner first.

81. If I’m [receiving], then I love the sensation of the head of his dick and shaft gliding against my prostate. I love the different type of orgasm that anal sex gives. The orgasm [I] have from anal is more intense than that of a blow job. (How to give a perfect blow job).

82. I love to receive it. I love the feel of that plump and soft head rubbing & teasing before entry. It’s so sensitive there. Then, feeling his head slide in, popping through the muscle, knowing his excited, hard cock is in me and has control over me. I’m enjoying that motion of him with each stroke. Then that climax of draining his hot cum gushing deep inside me. I love it when he pulls out and then slides it back in. It feels so slick and soft.

So if you’ve ever wondered, “why do men want anal sex?” — you now have real insight into what draws them in, whether giving or receiving. From the raw physical pleasure of tightness to emotional connection to the thrill of taboo, there’s no shortage of reasons men genuinely love anal sex.

What’s your take? Love it, hate it, somewhere in between? Share your own experience in the comments.

February 23, 2026