8 Powerful Fingering Techniques For Incredible Solo Orgasms

This guide walks through some genuinely powerful techniques for fingering yourself toward incredible orgasms. (Guys will pick up plenty here too about pleasing women, though there's a whole separate post with advice for guys fingering women.)

Getting Aroused, Turned On, And In The Mood

Let's get straight to the most important steps for getting in the mood. Don't skip this part. Skip proper arousal, and your orgasms simply won't hit as hard, and intense orgasms are presumably the whole point of learning to finger yourself well.

Relaxed & Stress-Free – Staying relaxed and as stress-free as possible matters enormously. Ever notice how stress and exhaustion make it genuinely hard to feel turned on or sexy? Research backs this up [1].

Privacy – Find somewhere quiet where you won't be interrupted. Your bedroom usually works, though if you share space with someone else, the bathroom or shower might become your go-to private spot for these techniques.

Atmosphere – Arousal has both a psychological and physical side. That might sound clinical, but it's true, your brain needs to get turned on right alongside your body. Physically, that means touching and caressing yourself, especially your erogenous zones. Even a vibrator can help here.

To engage the psychological side, try:

• Burning incense
• Lighting candles
• Watching porn
• Playing music
• Reading romance or erotica

Your Trigger – The last, and arguably most important, piece is what I like to call your "trigger" — the one thing that reliably gets you worked up. Maybe it's a favorite piece of erotica, thinking about a specific person, fantasizing about a particular scenario, or something else entirely.

The goal is finding it, then leaning on it to build arousal.

Once you're genuinely turned on, it's time to begin.

1. Basic Technique

Quick note: trim and file your nails beforehand to avoid any accidents.

Start by moving your hand down from your breasts, over your stomach, until you reach your clitoris, located just outside and above the vaginal opening [2], as shown in the diagram below.

Just below the clit, you'll feel fleshy folds of skin flanking your vaginal opening with a single finger. These are your labia.

More precisely, the outer fold is called the labia majora [3] and is noticeably larger, while the inner fold, the labia minora, is thinner. Start by lightly trailing one or two fingers over them. Most women naturally get wetter here if they're already aroused, and that wetness becomes your natural lubricant.

Once your finger's coated in that natural lube, slowly press the tip in and out of your vagina to test how it feels. With each pass, more lubrication builds up, letting your finger slide deeper. Run the tip slowly along the vaginal walls, noting what feels best.

There's no single "correct" way to finger yourself. What feels best to you will differ from what works for someone else, so focus on whatever movement feels genuinely satisfying rather than chasing some imagined "right" technique.

Plenty of people default to a straightforward in-and-out motion since it mirrors intercourse, but that can end up more irritating than pleasurable.

And depth for its own sake isn't the goal. Fingering yourself is about maximizing pleasure, not going as deep as physically possible. If this is new territory for you, experiment to find your preferred depth.

Now let's get into some genuinely fun techniques.

Quick note: if natural lubrication is sparse for you, a good lubricant like coconut oil can help.

2. Fingering Your G-Spot

As you move your finger in and out, you'll notice certain spots inside feel especially good. With your hand already positioned, try curling your finger(s) back to press against the upper vaginal wall, as shown in the diagram below. That's where your G-Spot lives [4].

You'll recognize it by touch, it feels like the roof of your mouth, or as some describe it, a wet raspberry: soft with tiny ridges. Focusing here can lead to seriously intense orgasms.

Several G Spot massage techniques specifically for squirting are covered in the squirting article. Before moving to more advanced techniques, two quick but essential points:

1. The G Spot is nearly impossible to find without arousal first. Struggling to locate it? Learn how to find your G Spot.

2. As the diagram shows, the G-Spot sits right beside the bladder, which often triggers a "need to pee" sensation during stimulation. Totally normal, nothing to worry about. Peeing right before masturbating is a simple way to minimize that feeling.

Quick note: this same "need to pee" sensation can show up during sex too if your partner applies real pressure to your G Spot, and it's commonly mentioned when women describe what squirting feels like.

With the basics covered, here are 4 specific techniques for reaching orgasm and having some real fun along the way.

3. Pressure Pressing Technique

This technique works especially well if vaginal or G Spot orgasms have been elusive. The common problem: not enough pressure reaching the G Spot during fingering or sex. The fix is straightforward, squeeze it from the opposite side.

The illustration above shows a penis inside the vagina rather than a hand, since this technique also works during partnered sex if orgasm has been hard to reach.

Finger your G Spot as usual, then place your other hand on your mons pubis, just above the pubic bone [5], as shown above. Push down gently so the G Spot protrudes further into the vaginal canal than usual, delivering noticeably stronger stimulation.

4. Fingering From Behind

Another approach: reach around from behind, tracing your hand down your lower back, past your anus, and into your vagina. Curling your finger backward from this angle stimulates the opposite (posterior) wall from your G Spot.

The sensation here is different, though most women find it less satisfying overall than G Spot or A Spot stimulation.

5. Double Your Fun

This last technique works best for anyone who typically struggles to orgasm while masturbating. It uses both hands.

One hand fingers your G Spot as described earlier, while the other rubs, massages, and caresses your clit simultaneously. Simple, and it makes orgasm nearly inevitable. Find even more clitoral techniques in the masturbation techniques chapter and this chapter on clitoral stimulation.

6. Anal Fingering

If anal sex appeals to you, or you're curious about anal stimulation in general, anal fingering is worth trying. The dense concentration of nerve endings there makes it genuinely pleasurable [6] [7].

A little prep is needed: trim and file your nails to avoid any nicks, and lubricate your finger(s). Store-bought lube or saliva both work, but use something, since the anal canal doesn't self-lubricate [8].

With your finger lubricated, reach behind you and slowly begin inserting it. Go slowly at first, since the sphincter muscle needs time to relax enough for comfortable penetration. Once inside, you can leave it still or thrust gently, try both to see what you prefer.

For extra pleasure, add clitoral stimulation (great clit techniques here) or vaginal fingering at the same time, as shown above. It's a bit awkward to coordinate, but lying on your side tends to make combining anal and clitoral stimulation easiest.

Where The Real Magic Happens: Your Fingertips

The five techniques above focused on hand and finger placement. But maximizing pleasure also depends on exactly what your fingertips are doing. There are three specific fingertip movements worth mastering, each producing a different sensation. Experiment to find your favorite.

Stroke, Stroke, Stroke

Stroking along the vaginal wall is simple: start at one point, drag your finger in a stroking motion, return to the start, and repeat. Vary speed, stroke length, and pressure to dial in maximum satisfaction.

Hit The Magic Spot

Pressing and holding steady pressure on a specific point can feel amazing, especially over your G Spot and A Spot (location shown in the first diagram), though pressing elsewhere might do nothing at all. Once you find a spot that responds well, try holding pressure there for several seconds at a stretch, or press it repeatedly like tapping a button.

Give It A Rub

Similar to stroking, but here you move your finger back and forth or in circles while maintaining firm pressure over the area. Again, the G Spot and A Spot are prime targets, but as always, experimentation is what actually reveals what works best for you.

Final Thoughts

As this guide shows, fingering yourself is genuinely simple once you know the basics. For many women, it also doubles as a great way to ease persistent sexual arousal. These eight techniques have gotten great feedback, but I'd still encourage exploring and finding your own personal favorites, since everyone's wired a little differently and responds to these methods in their own way. Have fun, and enjoy the orgasms.

February 16, 2018