119 Flirty Texts To Keep Him Hooked For Good

Crafting a good flirty text is a genuine skill, and getting it wrong can turn things awkward fast. Worse, everything you send sticks around in cyberspace forever. Still, don't let that scare you off — texting is a fantastic way to build a spark with someone new or reignite things with a long-term partner. Below you'll find 119 steamy examples ready to use.

Before you start firing off flirty texts left and right, remember one golden rule: crawl before you walk. And skip sending nudes — it's rarely a smart move, and it's illegal if you're under 18. Done right, flirty texting is fun for both people and can make your whole day better, so stick to these guidelines and you'll get the hang of it fast! Want even more flirting tips? Read this detailed guide.

Make it Personal

Sometimes the most random, out-of-context phrase can trigger a vivid memory or a rush of warmth. Say you shared a romantic getaway, got a little tipsy on a particular drink, and did things you never thought you'd do — a simple text reading: "Tequila Sunset and Bora Bora memories have me grinning and no one here knows why," instantly pulls your partner right back into that moment.

Grab more tips like this in our post that teaches you how to flirt with a guy over text.

Take it Slow

Don't lead with graphic details about exactly how and where you want things to go. Ease into it instead — flirt without giving away everything at once. Texting isn't phone sex; it takes finesse to tease without oversharing. Try something like: "I just caught your cologne on my shirt from our kiss this morning… now I can't wait to see you tonight." It signals physical attraction without spelling everything out — perfect for building anticipation. Speaking of which, this article on building serious sexual tension with your man is worth a read.

Ask a Question

If texting a guy you're into makes you nervous, break the ice with a question. Share a class or workplace? Ask about that. Or fall back on something like: "Can you please help me fix my slow computer?" — or anything tied to whatever he's good at. It's an old trick, and damsels-in-distress are rare these days, but flattering his expertise still works wonders for kicking off something new. Craving edgier material? Here are more than 40 dirtier questions!

Paint a Picture With Words

Picture this: you're at home waiting on your guy, who's stuck working late. Nudge him along with a text that shows rather than tells. "I'm staring at three things right now: a half-empty bottle of red wine, a pile of my clothes, and a marathon of our favorite show. The only thing missing is you… :)" Instead of griping about his lateness, you've painted exactly what he's missing out on.

Secret Code

Got a safe word, or some phrase that would raise eyebrows in public but sounds completely harmless out of context? A single text using it, or referencing an inside joke, can put a smile — maybe even a blush — on his face while you're apart. Say your safe word is "pineapple" — a text like "I am really in the mood to try some PINEAPPLE tonight…. ;)" looks totally innocent to anyone else, but he'll know exactly what you mean. A flirty text like this is basically whispering directly in his ear, no matter how public the setting.

Humor

You obviously think your partner's hot and want him to know it, but not every flirty text has to drip with sex appeal. Humor builds connection too, and it's a great way to brighten his day while you're apart. A silly joke works just fine. Try mixing funny and suggestive with something like: "How fast can you guess these words?"

1. _ _ _ k
2. _ _ndom
3. d_ck

Once he replies with his guesses, hit him with the real answers:

1. book
2. random
3. duck. Did you get them right? I hope not, because I sure didn't! 😉

Say whatever would genuinely make you laugh — flirting is supposed to be fun, and studies show women often flirt for exactly that reason [1].

Say it Another Way

Know how to say "I love you" in Spanish, French, or German? "Ta amo. Je t'aime. Ich liebe dich." Switching up the language adds variety, and it works for other phrases too, like "you turn me on": "Usted me hace caliente." A little multilingual flirting can teach your guy some culture along the way.

Say What You Are Really Feeling.

You don't always need to be clever or coy. A plain, simple "Thinking of you" gets straight to the point and still feels sweet. Texting is a great way to stay connected throughout the day with someone you've already been intimate with.

Be Enthusiastic

Text about whatever matters to him. If he's into a particular sports team, send a text cheering them on or celebrating a win — it shows you care about his interests as a friend would. "Go Raiders! They Kicked Butt Tonight!" Rooting for a team he loves is also a solid conversation starter with someone new. And don't forget to bring that same energy into the bedroom — speaking of which, my well-known newsletter might be worth checking out if you want a masterclass in sex.

Open the Door for a Date

If you're not quite at sexy-texts-or-foreign-language-love-declarations territory yet, a low-pressure text signaling you're free to hang out works well. Try something breezy like: "I've worked hard all week and want to cut loose tonight — you in?" Or: "A few of us are heading to the movies, but nobody wants to see the one I'm interested in — keep me company?" It's relaxed and casual, showing interest without piling on pressure if he's not feeling it.

Be Observant

Everyday conversation starters practically fall into your lap if you're paying attention. You don't need to track every headline — but if you notice there's a meteor shower happening tonight, that's your opening: "I'm setting up a blanket to watch a once-in-a-lifetime show tonight, and you're invited." Noticing the world around you is a great way to level up your flirty texts.

Challenge Your Lover

You don't need to be a walking encyclopedia, but don't shy away from showing off a little intelligence either. Share something surprising, even if it's a totally useless fun fact, like: "Your body contains enough iron to make a 3-inch nail."

The Old Blank Text Move

Not sure what to send? Send nothing at all. When he asks about the blank text he got, you can take the reply anywhere you're comfortable with — from "Oh, I guess my phone read my mind" to "No idea how that happened, but how are you?" Want something spicier instead? Check out all the dirty text messages in this guide.

Ham It Up

A cheesy pickup line, sent at the right moment, can bring an easy smile to his face. Try a classic: "Do you have a name, or can I call you mine?" Silly lines usually get a grin, and if things are still new and he doesn't react the way you'd hoped, you can always play it off as a joke.

Play it Cool

Don't lay everything out in one text or even a string of them. Save any big emotional reveal for an in-person conversation. If things start feeling too heavy over text, pull back — call him or head over in person instead. Keep texting light and playful when you're apart. If he tries to drop something serious over text, try: "Can we meet tonight and talk face to face?" That way you actually get to see his expression the moment he says what he means. However fun flirty texting gets, that particular moment deserves to happen in person.

Do Not Be Afraid To Use Emoticons, but Don't Over Use Them

Emoticons help convey tone, which matters a lot in texting. "I've had such a long day, let's get drinks ;)" reads as noticeably flirtier purely because of that closing wink.

Emojis work similarly, adding a visual layer to your message, and they're widely used — though it's worth remembering not everyone loves them [2].

Allow the Messages to End Without Replying Immediately

You don't need to have the last word every time. However witty you can be, know when it's time to let the conversation rest until tomorrow. Don't push things into awkward territory — once it starts feeling stale, just let it sit. Sometimes silence says more than another text would.

Flirt as If You Were Face to Face

If you're naturally bold in person, bring that same energy to texting. Send something like "Cut it out!" and when he asks what you mean, follow up with: "You need to stop thinking about me so much!" It's a confident move, but if that's your style, go for it.

Plenty of research shows people tend to feel bolder online than they would face to face [3], so use that to your advantage.

More Flirty Text Messages

Need extra inspiration, or already burned through everything above? Here's more — feel free to tweak any of these to match your situation or your crush.

1. Honestly, I couldn't wait for you to make the first move, so here I am doing it myself!
2. Turns out the good-looking guy I spotted at the store wasn't you after all. Darn.
3. Your name popping up on my screen always makes me smile — hope this does the same for you.
4. That recent selfie of yours? Stunning.
5. Isn't it the worst when you want dinner or drinks and nobody will join you?
6. You won't believe what happened in a dream I had about us last night!
7. Turns out there's just enough room on my loveseat for a cuddle buddy.
8. Should we keep this friendly, flirty, or full-on sexy?
9. I glanced at the clock and thought — it's really about time you made a move on me.
10. I'm loving this texting, but I think our lips should do the talking from here, not our thumbs.
11. Pretty sure my pet misses you almost as much as I do!
12. I want to sharpen my flirting skills. Mind if I practice on you?
13. I'm hoping for a reply to this text, but honestly, a dinner invite would be even better.
14. In case I haven't made it obvious: yes, I definitely have feelings for you.
15. I can't stand it when I text someone cute and they take forever to reply. Please don't be that guy.
16. Flirting with you over text is honestly one of my favorite things.
17. Your mirror has the best job — getting to see you every morning.
18. Are you this amazing in person, or only in my dreams?
19. Sweet dreams. Wonder if I'll see you in mine again tonight.
20. Funny how you're the first thing on my mind when I wake up.
21. Adding you to my to-do list.
22. Bet you looked incredible today. Shame I missed it!
23. So glad your parents crossed paths and made you.
24. My contacts list has a folder of 10s — you're the only name in it.
25. Feels like winning the timing lottery, getting to know you now.
26. Fancy a round of naughty Simon Says?
27. My next boyfriend is going to look a lot like you, I bet.
28. Not sure why I even bother showering when my thoughts about you afterward are this filthy.
29. Can't seem to shake you from my mind — maybe it's because I'm stuck in yours too.
30. Ask me a question I literally can't say no to.
31. When should I expect you over?
32. My birthday/Christmas is coming up, and there's exactly one thing on my list: you.
33. Dinner at 7 — let's make it happen.
34. Not sure how you manage it, but you must miss me constantly.
35. So little time, so many thoughts running through my head about you.
36. Nights like this practically demand cuddling — care to warm me up?
37. Word is you're taking me out tonight!
38. [send a selfie] Guess what's on my mind right now? [after reply] You.
39. Can't wait for the day I get to show you off to my friends.
40. Bet you'll never guess my secret.
41. Sleep's been hard lately — you're stuck in my head.
42. [send a song link] This one's basically us.
43. [send a photo of pizza/Chinese/etc] Way too much food for just me. Help me out?
44. You're a serious distraction when I've got things to do.
45. How'd you end up this cute?
46. Honestly, this conversation deserves to happen in person instead.
47. I have a feeling being with you would be unforgettable.
48. Want to know my favorite flower? [After "Yes"] Tulips — now you know what to bring on our date!
49. I'll bake cookies/cook dinner if you can crack this riddle.
50. That shirt you had on today? Great taste.
51. You'd better show up to [party or event]!
52. Kind of unbelievable we don't spend more time together.
53. Think you could come cure my boredom?
54. [after hanging out] Boredom seems impossible around you.
55. [send a picture of two outfit choices] Which one for our date?
56. I can't stop replaying [date/sex/time spent together] in my head.
57. I can show up with takeout in 30 minutes — you down?
58. [With a picture of whipped cream or drizzle] Bet we could find a use for this.
59. Was eyeing this bra/panties/lingerie earlier. [send a picture] Thoughts?
60. Wondering what you look like right now — care to send a picture?
61. Just checking my calendar and figuring out how much time to clear for you.
62. Did you know yoga makes you super flexible? I'd love to demonstrate.
63. Guess what I'm wearing correctly, and I'll send proof.
64. Couldn't help getting a little naughty thinking about you earlier.
65. Guess what I picked up today? [Reply with sex toy/lingerie/etc]
66. Been thinking about scheduling an adult game night — just the two of us.
67. Up for reenacting your favorite sexy movie scene?
68. Never had sex in a car/the kitchen/etc — maybe it's time we fixed that.
69. We should start trading sexual favors.
70. I love cooking for/massaging/etc my boyfriend — you'd find out firsthand if we were official.
71. Haven't thought about/dreamed of/touched myself thinking of anyone else since we met.
72. Has the world always looked this good, or is that just you?
73. You're so easy to talk to — and impossible to stop talking to.
74. Why sleep alone when my bed's got plenty of room for you?
75. Ever tried [sex position]? [If "No"]: We need to. [If "Yes"]: Show me how it's done.
76. Compliment battle — I challenge you. Go!
77. Pretty sure my hand was made to fit yours.
78. Congrats — you've won a date with me. When can I expect you?
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80. Bet you can't guess the thing I find most attractive about you.
81. Meeting you felt like winning the lottery.
82. My heart skipping like that when I first saw you can't be good for me.
83. Your smile might be the only thing more charming than your personality.
84. They say a picture's worth a thousand words, but that selfie only left me with one: Damn.
85. It's wild how just the thought of you speeds up my pulse.
86. Tell me something sexy.
87. If I were there right now, where would you want my hands? My mouth?
88. [Draw an X on a body part, send a picture] X marks the spot for kisses.
89. You clearly can't resist showing off that incredible body of yours.
90. Hope you've got the energy left after work/school for what I've got planned tonight.
91. You're too perfect to be real — are you secretly a unicorn?
92. Today was great — the only upgrade would've been having you there.
93. Ever want something so badly it makes zero sense? That's exactly how I feel about you.
94. Teach me your flirting secrets?
95. New game: guess what you're wearing correctly, and it comes off. Deal? (Try these games over text too).
96. What's your favorite flirty text you've ever gotten? [After reply, send that same one back]
97. I really don't want to go to [event] tonight — talk me out of it!
98. Your wit is as sharp as your looks.
99. Who's cuter — me or [pet]? [send picture of you and pet]

Some Tips & Warnings

Treat these as jumping-off points, not scripts. Adapt them to match your own voice — reciting them verbatim can come across stiff or forced.

Also keep in mind that flirty texts can be misread, so ease into things gradually. Have fun with the process along the way. Stay witty, playful, and genuinely yourself, without overanalyzing every message. Save the truly explicit photos for much later, if ever — and never post them online. Flirty texts can absolutely be sexy, but actual sex is usually hotter saved for the bedroom.

Resources

This post on LoveToKnow lists books you can read if you really need help with your flirting skills.

Art of Charm has detailed some helpful dos and don'ts when it comes to flirting over text.

Alpha M created a video with guidelines for flirting over text.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ #1 – Is there a best time to send a flirty text?

Sort of. Avoid texting him during work or school hours, since that could land him in hot water. If his notifications are audible, a late-night text might wake him up — though on the flip side, he'll wake up to your message waiting for him.

Flirty texts can be a great conversation-starter. But if several messages go unanswered, it's probably time to take the hint.

Read this if you're wondering whether to text him.

Keep in mind that a late-night text often reads as a booty call.

FAQ #2 – Is it okay to send a sexy text?

Most guys won't object to a sexy text, but it's smart to be a little cautious. It's generally safe territory if he's already sent flirty messages himself (learn how to tell if he's flirting with you), you've already slept together, or you've openly discussed your mutual attraction. Otherwise, lean toward something a bit more ambiguous — plenty of the options above fit that bill.

Looking for something bolder? Check out this list of sexy texts.

FAQ #3 – Do I have to send a picture?

Not at all — that's entirely your call. If you do, you can keep a flirty selfie fairly modest, or frame sexier shots so your face stays out of view. And if anyone ever pressures you into sending pictures you're not comfortable with, that's a red flag worth taking seriously.

Keep in mind that guys sometimes share those photos with their friends.

FAQ #4 – What service should I use to flirt over text?

It largely comes down to personal comfort or whatever app you both already use (KIK, Skype, WhatsApp, Facebook, Tinder, etc.). Snapchat isn't just for photos — its auto-delete feature adds a layer of privacy too. The Burn Note app similarly wipes messages after a set time [5].

A third-party texting app with a private folder or vault mode is another option if you want to keep your flirting away from prying eyes.

Learn: Tips for sexting your man

April 11, 2021