Having Sex at Work: What to Do and What to Avoid

Sex during work hours can be a genuine thrill! Maybe it's the risk of being caught. Maybe it's the novelty of taking a break from your job while still technically on the clock. And honestly, what better way to liven up a dull day than a little kinky sex? Plus, there's no need to wake up early or lose sleep at night since you've already gotten it done!

Some people will even tell you the office ranks among the best places to have sex.

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There's a way to make office sex both exciting and manageable, so here are some dos and don'ts to help you make the most of your workplace rendezvous.

Do Stay Discreet

Discretion is what allows you to have great sex at work more than just once. The thrill of possibly getting caught might be part of the appeal for you (list of 239 kinks), but actually getting caught usually isn't. That means shutting doors, dimming lights, staying quiet, and slipping away from your desk toward your meeting spot without drawing attention. Coworkers will absolutely notice public displays of affection, so save the kissing and making out for later. Afterward, fix your hair, makeup, and clothes, and tidy up wherever you were.

You're fortunate if either of you has a private office with a lock. Otherwise, a supply closet, filing room, or any lockable space you can use briefly without drawing attention to the fact that it's locked will do the trick. An elevator might work for a quick grope or kiss, but don't count on finishing there without someone interrupting.

Coming in early, staying late, or timing things during everyone else's break can help. Scope out the office ahead of time so you know the ideal time and place. Lunch and break periods work especially well since you're not expected at your desk and no one will think twice if you're briefly missing. If possible, sync your lunch schedules so you can slip away together.

Lastly, steer clear of cameras. Your office, parking garage, and stairwells likely have security cameras meant to deter crime and improve safety — but they're no friend to your plans. If either of you has access to the security feed, figure out where the blind spots are, or you may already know some cameras are just for show, giving you more room to work with.

Don't Break the Law

There are worse outcomes than getting fired for satisfying an urge at work, and getting arrested is one of them. Obviously, avoid breaking any laws in the process. Don't do it on a customer's food or in someone else's home or vehicle. Don't do it if you work around children or in a school, since the fallout could get you branded a sex offender. And remember that public nudity can lead to arrest and fines for indecency.

Do Keep Things Quick and Simple

People will notice if you vanish for hours at a time. Sex at work is the ideal moment for a quickie without dragging in sex toys or extended foreplay. Steer clear of anything like bondage, too — it usually takes setup time and can be a hassle to escape quickly if someone walks in or the fire alarm goes off.

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Think about what you're wearing and how much access it gives with minimal effort. Dressing with sex in mind will make you feel sexy and also saves precious time. A skirt or dress that lifts easily, crotchless underwear, or skipping underwear altogether are all worth considering. There's no need to fully remove shoes, pants, or shapewear when time is tight — and it usually is when it comes to office sex. A little sexy lingerie underneath your work clothes can make the whole thing even more fun.

Don't Tell Anyone

As tempting as it might be to brag about your risky office encounter, keep it to yourself, especially if it's an affair. This kind of gossip is exactly the sort people can't help but spread. Word will travel to other departments faster than you'd expect, and if it reaches your boss, you could lose a great job in an instant.

If you truly must tell someone, choose a person outside of work who has no connection to your coworkers, minimizing the chance of it getting back to anyone. Just as important: whoever you're sleeping with needs to be equally trustworthy about staying quiet. That attractive guy from another department isn't a smart choice if he can't resist bragging and gets you both fired.

Do Reconsider Sleeping With Your Boss

Sure, sleeping with your boss sounds thrilling. Maybe there's been sexual chemistry between you two since day one, but is that alone worth the risk? There's a reason nearly every company bans relationships between managers and the people they supervise.

Plenty could go wrong here. You might feel pressured to sleep with your boss simply because of his authority. That dynamic can make for a hot bedroom role-play scenario, but real-world consequences are a different story.

You may find it hard to end things once they start, or he could threaten your job if you try. Eventually, you might feel like quitting is your only option.

There's also the risk that your boss could shift blame entirely onto you if things come to light — or you could both end up jobless if someone above him finds out.

Don't Sleep With Your Subordinate

Power dynamics are undeniably enticing — it's part of why being dominant in bed is so appealing, especially if you enjoy embracing your inner femdom. But things get complicated fast when you're someone's supervisor and sleeping with him. Beyond violating company policy, you could face a harassment claim if your employee feels pressured because of your position.

Do Enjoy Yourself

Despite the risks that come with workplace sex, it can genuinely be a lot of fun. You and your partner can even lean into the constraints to make it hotter. Turn it into your own private sex game. Plot how to dodge the nosy receptionist, sneak away for a few minutes, and pull it off successfully. Explore the office together in search of new spots for a little fun.

Related: 40 kinky things to try with your partner.

Given how risky actual sex at work can be, you might prefer lower-stakes options like sexting or sending him a few flirty photos on your break (tips for taking hot nudes). Our guide to sexy selfies also has helpful tips if you'd rather keep things more subtle.

And if the appeal is the thrill rather than a specific coworker, try some other sex tips to spice things up. It's not identical, but you can still experiment with dominance and submission dynamics without any professional or legal risk.

Still, for some people, that risk is exactly what makes it worthwhile. Plenty of sex stories feature steamy office encounters, and maybe you've secretly wished you had the nerve to try it yourself. Why not give it a shot, armed with a little of our advice?

July 11, 2025