Learn How To Make Out Like a Pro – 13 Passionate Tips

Making out can feel like second nature once you get the hang of it, and often it really is. But the first few times you lock lips with someone new can feel pretty awkward if you're still building up experience.

And asking for make out advice, even from a close friend, can leave you embarrassed or armed with terrible tips. With that in mind, here are a few pointers to help ease you into your first time, or sharpen the kissing skills you already have.

1. A Little Prep Goes a Long Way

Head into your date with soft lips and fresh breath, even if you're not sure making out is on the agenda.

One trick for soft lips and fresh breath is staying hydrated and brushing your teeth beforehand. You can also use a bit of sugar and coconut oil as a gentle lip scrub with your toothbrush. Lip balm isn't mandatory, but if chapped lips tend to sneak up on you, it's worth tossing a tube in your bag just in case.

2. Build Up to Making Out Naturally

Hold eye contact, brush his hand, and casually lick or bite your lip while you're talking to him. These small moves nudge him toward wanting to kiss you without him consciously noticing what you're doing. Subtlety is the name of the game when it comes to flirting your way into a kiss.

Quick note: eye contact can flip from sexy and intimate to unsettling fast if you don't break it every few seconds.

These are skills that take practice to nail down when you're learning how to make out with a guy, but once they click, your make out sessions will flow far more smoothly.

3. Start Soft

Lips are delicate and sensitive — that's exactly why kissing feels so sensual! So starting gently is essential when you're first figuring out how to make out.

Begin by softly grazing his lips with yours in slow, gentle kisses. From there, you can build intensity by running your hands along his arms, wrapping them around him, and pulling him in closer.

4. Let Your Eyes Close

This doesn't mean squeezing them shut — just let your eyes drift closed naturally as your lips meet and the kissing begins. Opening them occasionally is fine, and a bit of eye contact as you pull back between kisses can actually be really sexy.

Just don't keep your eyes wide open and staring the entire time you're making out.

5. Mix It Up

Here's one warning worth keeping in mind as you learn how to make out with your guy:

Don't repeat the same tongue and lip motion over and over.

Instead, trust your instincts and vary things up. Let him take the lead sometimes, then take charge yourself other times. Small variations go a long way, even in a long-term relationship. Try things like:

• Switching the direction you tilt your head.
• Kissing his bottom lip instead of his top lip, or vice versa.
• Licking his lips instead of kissing them.

I dig deeper into switching things up in this guide on foreplay, which also covers ways to take things further with your man.

6. Put Your Hands to Use

There might be a moment or two where you're unsure what to do with your hands. Don't stress about it 🙂

Rest one hand casually on his shoulder, trail your fingers along his neck, run your hands through his hair, or wrap them around his back or waist. There's no shortage of places on his body where your fingers can feel highly erotic without crossing any lines — plus there are even more sensitive spots worth exploring.

Most guys are especially sensitive around the neck, just below the ears, and along the cheeks. You don't need to go overboard to drive him wild with your kissing.

7. Go Easy on the Tongue

One thing to NEVER do while learning how to make out with your man is shove your tongue deep into his mouth — but don't be afraid to use a bit of tongue either. Finding that balance takes practice.

Think of it more like a dance than a wrestling match. Glide your tongue softly across his lips, and use it to gently massage and play with his. A good way to gauge how much tongue feels good is to pay attention to how he uses his — you'll quickly notice which techniques feel like "too much" and which feel great.

8. Keep the Conversation Going

Another key part of learning how to make out and actually enjoy it is giving your partner feedback. You don't need to stay completely silent — tell him when something he does feels good.

Even a breathless "wow" works. But you can also get specific: "I get so turned on when you bite my bottom lip" or "I love feeling your tongue massage my lips."

9. Bring Confidence

If you're already in the middle of making out with your guy, it's pretty clear he's attracted to you. Kind of obvious, right?

So there's no reason to stress about how you look in the moment. Just enjoy being yourself, and know — really know — that he's into you. Don't fixate on flaws you think you have; chances are your man hasn't even noticed them. Every second spent comparing yourself to someone else, or worrying about whether he cares about some imagined flaw, is a second you're not spending enjoying his company.

10. Have Fun With It

One of the most important things to remember as you learn how to make out with your man is that it should always be enjoyable. If it's not, take a moment to figure out why. For your own sake and his, this should feel fun — and it'll be more enjoyable for him too if you're genuinely into it.

If you're not... maybe he's not the right guy. Sometimes that first long kiss makes it obvious that the chemistry just isn't there. Give him a fair shot, but never force yourself to do anything with your body that doesn't feel right.

By the way, you might enjoy picking up a few techniques from this video and guide.

11. Remember, Everyone Is Different

There's no universal formula for a great make out session. I wish I could hand you one perfect tip that works every single time, but honestly, it doesn't exist.

What drives one person wild might leave someone else completely unmoved.

So try to stay present, be yourself, and follow your partner's cues. Some sessions will feel sweet, some will feel electric, and some will just be so-so. Enjoy each one as it comes, follow his lead, and let him follow yours.

12. Leave Him Wanting More

Don't keep going until your lips are raw and chapped. Arousal is a normal part of making out — arguably the whole point — but it's completely fine to stop before things go further, and you shouldn't let anyone guilt you into continuing just because they're turned on. Leaving him wanting more is perfectly fine (often preferable), and it's okay for you to end a date aroused without taking things any further.

13. One Last Tip: Don't Be That Couple

Location matters when it comes to how intense and how long your make out session should be. You don't want to make everyone around you uncomfortable by going at it heavily with your boyfriend every time you're together. A quick kiss lasting a few seconds is fine around a group of friends. A multi-minute French kiss? That starts to feel awkward for everyone else.

Becoming a great kisser isn't hard if you keep these tips in mind. The key is staying tuned in to your partner's cues, keeping your teeth clean and breath fresh, and putting in genuine effort.

December 17, 2020