How To Bring Role Playing Into The Bedroom With Your Man

Ever fantasized about sleeping with a fireman, a cop, or a movie star? Everyone carries fantasies ranging from the mild, like being with a guy you're genuinely attracted to, all the way up to naughty and kinky sex.

We've even collected 31 true sex stories from women who managed to live out their sexual fantasies.

Here's the good part: fantasizing and getting turned on by them is completely normal.

So why keep these fantasies locked away in your head?

Why not act on them, explore them, and enjoy them together with your man?

I want to show you exactly how to explore, experiment with, and enjoy your fantasies with him, without either of you feeling weird, awkward, or guilty about it.

But how, exactly?

….It's simpler than you'd think…

Try role playing.

Bringing Up Role Playing With Your Man

You probably already have a sense of what role playing means. It's pretending to inhabit a role. Think back to childhood, pretending to be a ringmaster in a circus while your dog played the elephant performing tricks for the audience (mom and dad).

This time around, your role playing will obviously skew a bit more…"adult"!

Side note: We put together a list explaining 43 of the hottest, sexiest role play ideas worth trying.

So the first step is introducing the concept of role playing to your man. Whenever you introduce something new to him, I always suggest doing it in a way that flows naturally and is hard for him to shoot down.

Announcing directly that you want to try something is NOT the approach I recommend. It can work, sure. But if it flops, he's unlikely to ever want to give it a shot with you. In other words, your idea could get rejected outright if it comes out of nowhere.

A smarter approach is doing something genuinely thoughtful for him first, something he really enjoys, so he's already in a great mood. Then, while he's feeling good, introduce the idea gently and positively.

Here's an example…

Wait for a night when the two of you have the house or apartment to yourselves. Tell him you'd like to do something special for him. Then slip into something sexy (10 tips for choosing sexy lingerie) and whip up a quick, tasty snack while he's watching TV or working on his computer.

Afterward, saunter over to him and give him a slow, sensual blow job.

Once you've helped him orgasm, cuddle up next to him and tell him how much you enjoyed doing that. Then mention that sometimes it feels really sexy to play his personal maid, and that one night you might dress in a short, sexy maid's outfit and serve him dinner.

He won't object!

From there, share other things that turn you on. With any luck, he'll open up about what turns him on, too.

Start with the tamer ideas first. Then gradually work your way up to the wilder fantasies you have in mind.

You could mention…

• That you find it really hot when he takes control. (He can learn how to be dominant in the bedroom)
• That you'd love for HIM to cook for YOU sometime.
• That the idea of having sex somewhere unusual, like a beach, a 5-star hotel, or a yacht, really turns you on. (Check out the 15 best places to have sex).
• That it would be hot to boss him around the bedroom and tell HIM exactly how to please YOU. (He can learn how to make a girl orgasm in the Bad Boys Bible section).
• That you'd love the idea of him playing your boss while you play his secretary.
• That you'd like to try a threesome with him (girl/girl/boy or boy/boy/girl).
• That trying some BDSM together sounds appealing.
• Use these 35 BDSM role play ideas to keep the momentum going.
• Keep going as long as you're both comfortable.

In most cases, once you start opening up while he's in a great mood, he'll begin sharing his own fantasies and kinks with you, too!

Related: All 239 kinks and fetishes.

That said, you might find he stays fairly quiet while you do most of the talking. If he's not opening up on his own, try suggesting a few ideas yourself and gauge how he reacts.

Once you both know each other's fantasies and kinks, it's time to turn them into actual role play…

Role Playing Games To Try With Your Man

Now that you're both learning about each other's kinks, fantasies, and fetishes, it's time to actually start acting out some role play scenarios together.

Jail Warden & Prisoner

In this scenario, your man plays the jail warden, deciding what you can and can't do. Maybe he restricts a certain room, or won't let you have a drink without his say-so.

You can play the "bad" prisoner who needs punishing from the warden. Or you can offer to do certain "things" for him in exchange for privileges.

Related: These BDSM punishments can help the scene feel more authentic.

Cop & Criminal

Cop & Criminal plays out similarly to Jail Warden & Prisoner. Your man becomes the crooked cop who catches you breaking the law. He might punish, arrest, and tie you up… or you could offer him a "favor" to avoid getting arrested.

Related: You may want to learn about bondage if tying you up is part of the plan.

The Boss & Secretary

Here, your man plays the powerful boss while you're his sexy secretary, keeping him happy and making sure you're always dressed in something that meets his approval.

Headmaster/Head Mistress & Naughty School Girl/Boy

You play the sexy headmistress of a prestigious boarding school, and your man is the school's most disruptive student who needs disciplining. Does he deserve a caning? If not, how else can he show he's sorry? Kissing your shoes? Performing oral sex on you (he can use these 85 oral sex techniques to pleasure you)?

Learn: How to spank your husband

Plumber/Carpenter/Electrician & Bored Housewife

You play the bored housewife whose man is always at work or out with friends, never around to meet your needs. But once you hire a carpenter to fix your kitchen cabinets, you find yourself irresistibly drawn to him and end up having the best sex of your life.

Discover: 14 powerful sex tips to satisfy your man

Nurse & Sick Patient

Your man plays an injured, ailing patient, and you're the sultry nurse determined to do "whatever it takes" to nurse him back to health. Maybe you need to "suck" the life back into him (29 tips for sucking his cock)? Or perhaps a massage will do the trick (learn how to give a sensual massage)?

Stripper & Client

You're a hot, exotic stripper with all the right moves, and your man is a wealthy client who wants to watch you dance just for him. He's willing to pay for it, and you get to decide what extra requests cost him more.

More: How to perform a striptease for your man

Escort & Client

Similar to Stripper & Client, but instead of stripping, you're having sex with him for money. The fun part is that you get to set the prices — maybe a hand job is cheap, while a blow job costs a lot more.

Model & Photographer

You're a sexy model on a big photo shoot, and your man is a top fashion photographer aiming to capture your beauty and allure. It starts out like a normal shoot, until he suggests you remove more and more clothing…and things naturally escalate from there.

These are just a handful of role play scenarios worth trying with your man, though there are countless more we haven't touched on here. Let your imagination run with it.

• Don't forget to swap roles for double the fun!
• Dressing the part can help you both get into the right headspace for these games.

WARNING: Make sure to agree on a safe word before trying any of these role play games with your man, just in case either of you wants to stop.

February 10, 2022