36 Women Share Their Secrets For Amazing Road Head

Road head is risky business, and that's exactly the point — today you'll learn how to give it so well that your man practically loses his grip on the wheel (figuratively, hopefully).

You're welcome to jump straight to the 36 reader tips for great road head, but I'd suggest reading this guide start to finish first.

If you're on the fence about whether road head is even something you want to try, it's completely fine to pass. Plenty of ways exist to get hot and heavy in a car without adding the danger of sex while someone's driving. Besides, nobody wants a reluctant partner.

Odds are, your man would rather you feel confident and genuinely into it than just going through the motions with something that doesn't excite you.

That said, the risk factor — the thrill of possibly being spotted or even getting caught — can trigger a real adrenaline spike that sends blood rushing exactly where you'd want it.

Despite the risks involved with road head — or maybe partly because of them — plenty of people still try it at least once.

We also polled our readers to find out exactly how common this actually is…

Just How Common Is Road Head?

We asked hundreds of readers whether they'd ever given oral sex in a moving car. 82.5% of straight women said yes, despite the legal and physical risks involved.

What about men? Unsurprisingly, fewer straight men reported having given oral to a partner in a car — though 62.5% still had, a clear majority even with our smaller sample size.

Note: We also surveyed non-heterosexual respondents about road head, but received too few responses to include meaningfully.

While our survey focused on oral sex in a car regardless of whether it was moving, a separate 2014 study on sex while driving surveyed 195 male and 511 female college students.

It found 32.8% of men and 9.3% of women had engaged in some form of sex while actively driving, while 9% of men and 29% of women had done so as a passenger. Oral sex was the most commonly reported activity while driving, at 70.3% [1].

Getting Set Up For Road Head

Before diving in, it helps to set up the car properly to maximize your chances of a good experience. Finding the ideal setup usually takes some trial and error.

Automatic transmission wins – A car with an automatic shifter mounted on the steering column beats leaning over a console-mounted shifter.

Skip the armrest – Armrests get in the way, so raise them or pick a vehicle without one. More space between the front seats makes kneeling easier, and bench seats in a truck can work well too.

Sedans and SUVs beat small cars – Small cars and bucket seats aren't ideal here. A roomier sedan or SUV works better. Foldable or removable back seats help too, especially if he can recline. That said, an overly wide vehicle can make it hard to reach him from your seat — shorter people may find road head just doesn't work great in some cars.

Push his seat back – Given the tight quarters, he should slide his seat back to give you more room to work. He'll still need to reach the wheel and pedals if he's driving, so reclining the seat back can help too, either instead of or along with sliding it.

Lift the wheel if you can – Raise the steering wheel unless you want an accidental collision with your head.

He could also try sitting on the console while receiving, though that's better suited to a parked car. If you want some pleasure of your own, lean over him so his right hand can reach across to finger your vagina or anus. Wearing a skirt or dress makes access easier for him — just know he'll have one hand off the wheel while doing it.

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Road Head In 5 Easy Steps

Timing matters a lot here. Avoid starting while he's mid-maneuver or already frustrated. A red light or a traffic jam is a great window to start teasing him.

Plenty of people say spontaneity is part of what makes road head exciting. Surprise him without warning, and he'll likely appreciate it.

1. Start With Teasing

Reach over and run your hand slowly up and down his thigh. This step is about signaling your intentions before you actually get going. You might even expose a bit of yourself to get his mind in the right place. One reader suggested "sucking his thumb as if it was his cock" before heading south.

This gives him a moment to get in the mood — or to signal it's not the right time. If he's clearly into it, feel free to move quickly to the next step. Many readers recommend only teasing while driving, then pulling over before going further.

2. Rub Him & Undo His Pants

As arousal builds, you'll notice a bulge forming, which you can start rubbing. In an American car, your left hand is naturally closer, though most people favor their right hand — you can twist your body to compensate, but it may feel a bit awkward.

Once you feel him straining against the fabric, undo the button and zipper and carefully free his penis — zippers can be unforgiving in tight spaces, so take your time. Loose pants without a zipper fly, like sweatpants, make this a lot simpler.

3. Stroke Him

Keep stroking as you lean over his lap. If he's driving, it might be easier to kneel in front of your own seat and lean toward him. If you're the one driving, he can take the wheel — sometimes called reverse road head. Grip his shaft and move the skin up and down as you stroke (trickier if he's circumcised).

Spit works fine as makeshift lubricant if you have nothing else handy, but a bit of personal lube will make it feel even better for him. Run your thumb over the head of his penis. Check out this guide for giving an expert hand job for more!

4. Take Him Into Your Mouth

Explore him with your tongue and lips first. Breathe warm air against his skin, or purse your lips and blow cool air, before wrapping your mouth around him and moving your head to take in the full shaft. More tips on giving head here.

5. Keep Your Mouth And Head Moving

With your mouth around his shaft, start moving up and down. Stay low to avoid catching anyone's attention while he drives. Since he's seated, reaching his balls simultaneously might be tricky.

Undoing his pants fully can make that more possible. As you work his penis, use your tongue around the head and shaft to lick, suck, and caress him. Keeping one hand steady around his shaft also helps anchor both your bodies against unwanted jostling.

If you sense he's approaching orgasm, ease off or pause briefly. Him finishing — or even getting too close — risks him losing control of the car.

Deep Throating While Driving

If you're up for a challenge, you might consider deep throating during road head. Plenty of people already find deep throating difficult on its own, whether due to mouth size or a well-endowed partner. We really don't recommend attempting deep throating for the first time while giving road head.

Make sure you're already comfortable with it before trying it in a moving car.

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Honestly, you might want to skip deep throating in a moving vehicle entirely. With a penis that deep in your throat, hitting a bump raises the risk of biting down. Bumps can also push him deeper unexpectedly, triggering your gag reflex.

Throwing up on your partner — or yourself — is nobody's idea of a good time, and you likely won't have anything on hand to clean up with. Plus, unpleasant smells can be surprisingly stubborn to get out of a car's interior.

Leveling Up Your Road Head Skills

These road head techniques and tips will help you move past the basics.

A word on enthusiasm – One of the best pieces of reader-submitted advice was this:

Make them think you love it more than they do

This obviously applies to giving head anywhere, not just in a moving car!

69 in the car – One reader described trying 69 in the car — her partner's seat reclined all the way while she lay on top of him.

Find out more about 69ing your partner.

Ice cubes – Several readers mentioned keeping a to-go drink with ice nearby. Popping an ice cube in your mouth beforehand adds an extra sensation.

Let him feel and see your breasts – Add a racy touch by unbuttoning your top partway or removing it entirely. He'll feel the weight of your breasts against his lap.

Here's a tip you might not think of: tying long hair into a ponytail keeps it out of the way during road head and away from any mess when he finishes. It also gives him something to grab onto if he's into it. One reader told us she "personally love[s] when he pulls my hair up while I suck him!"

Make eye contact if you can – Another popular reader tip for great road head?

Look up into his eyes.. Smile with your eyes like you share a secret with him.

Realistically, eye contact is nearly impossible with him in the driver's seat and you in the passenger seat — it's really only doable if you're kneeling down in the footwell near the pedals.

Give him a show – Whether in a car or not, eye contact during oral sex is an incredibly hot move! Just make sure he isn't looking down for too long while driving. One reader offered this suggestion:

Have him position the visor mirror so he can watch

If you're not sure when to try it, consider saving road head for a road trip. A long, flat, empty stretch of highway is the perfect setting to get a little naughty — cruise control makes it even easier for him.

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What To Do When He Finishes

When people weigh whether to spit or swallow, swallowing usually wins out simply for being quicker and easier — especially true in a car. One reader put it bluntly:

Always go to completion and let him cum in your mouth, swallowing every drop

If swallowing isn't your thing, keep a tasty drink within reach to wash the taste away.

If you're really not into swallowing at all, there are other options — bring along a towel or tissue for him to finish on. Handy too if his aim isn't perfectly precise.

36 More Road Head Tips From Readers

"It's such a thrill, especially on a long road trip. Keep it interesting and use some ice from your drink. It will definitely heighten the senses."

"It was more than once lol – it was really hot in a Goodberrys parking lot after eating some ?. If you get on your knees while in the passenger seat- your knees on the seat with your butt in the air towards the window (good tint and/or empty parking lot secluded area, he can play with you while you're giving him a blow job. Or you can just lean over and give him a nice blow job (after ?) ?"

"Make sure he can still concentrate when driving."

"The excitement of being caught or seen by someone makes it more intense."

"It's easier in a car that doesn't have an armrest or console in the front. It's exciting to start this while in traffic or light teasing, but make sure the person isn't driving when it is time to climax."

"First practice bj's sitting in the car without moving so he knows what to expect, can keep his eyes OPEN & still focused on the road because we almost crashed the first time!!
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"Make them pull over and not drive while getting it because lack of concentration on the road can be dangerous and also well driving they cannot fully concentrate on what you're doing and get the full pleasure of what you are giving them although it's kind of nice to start while they're driving and then make them pull over if they want more and also always have something to drink before and after"

"Make sure there's privacy and get as much space as possible. If you plan ahead, have a cloth or something to clean up after."

"We have found if he slides his seat back just a bit I can lay my head in his lap and have great access to him and adding a different angle which slides him a bit deeper into my throat. He absolutely loves it…"

"Make sure there is no gear shift in the middle between the two of you."

"Make sure if he's driving, he's able to keep his mind on the road. No accidents, please"

"It's no different than oral sex anywhere else. I did have a previous partner that I gave oral sex while he was driving. I made him keep both hands on the wheel and watch the road."

"Have him push the seat back as far as he safely can, especially if he's actively driving. Put your hair up in a bun or ponytail. Swallow."

"No console is best, but if there is one, get on your knees. Don't be shy to show your ass to passer-bys."

"The back seat is better so you can position yourself better."

"Make sure you are in a comfy position and your partner has cruise control set. Bring a vibe along so your partner can please you at the same time you're giving oral."

"Make sure your not on a main road if you're performing an unexpected fellation while he's driving."

"Lots of build-up before even starting..scrunchies come in handy…"

"Give oral sex while he is driving but I don't let him cum until we stop somewhere. We love it if trucks pass by and can see me giving a bj."

"Watch out for bumps in the road."

"Slowly working up to it and surprising him. But remember safety…no one wants to explain the car accident to the police!"

"Don't get arrested lol."

"Build up the anticipation while driving by grazing his thigh or even sucking on his thumb as if it was his cock."

"Do it somewhere risky – makes it even more exciting."

"Get in a comfortable position so your neck and back will have less stress."

"Park somewhere secluded but with a slight risk of being caught by a walker etc."

"I personally love when he pulls my hair up while I suck him."

"Just position yourself so your partner can rub your ass or finger you if he so desires"

"If he's driving, tell him to keep his eyes open. It hurts when you bang the side of your head on the steering wheel because he closed his eyes and hit an embankment."

"Have your partner sit in the passenger seat, push the seat back as far as it can go, and you kneel in the footwell between their legs."

"Start with kissing then slide your hand down his or her leg. It's the build-up that makes it the most intense. That at least works for me and my boyfriend."

"If they are driving watch out for the steering wheel, railroad tracks and bumpy/dirt roads. Lots of licking and light sucking… finish w your hand."

"Be nasty..be sloppy…gag on his cock it turns him on. Look him in the eyes if possible… He will go crazy!!"

"Make sure you're not around a gross and nasty environment."

But not everyone is a fan:

"No, as a female, I dislike car sex snd think it's cheap and degrading. There's no pleasure for a woman."

"It was awful"

Road Head For Her

Most guides on this topic focus on women giving head to men in the driver's seat, and that's mostly just logistics — reaching a clitoris is a lot harder than reaching a penis when someone's seated. If you're hoping to receive, parking first is really your best bet.

To Drive Or Not To Drive

Some would argue oral sex while parked doesn't technically count as road head, but it's definitely the safer route. Parking also makes things easier — you can adjust seats and ditch your seatbelt freely. Browse this guide to the best places to have sex for parking spot ideas. You can even practice giving oral in a parked car first to get a feel for it before trying it on the road.

Of course, one great option is a drive with some dirty talk and light stroking, then parking somewhere secluded to finish him off with oral and whatever else follows.

You can lean over the front seat while he reclines or slides his seat back for more room. Some seats recline nearly flat, giving you plenty of space to work.

For extra comfort – Alternatively, stand or kneel outside the car if he turns in his seat (this also works if he wants to go down on you), or he can stand outside leaning against the car with the window down while you stay inside. If he's standing outside the vehicle, you can kneel on the seat with the door open.

Back seat – The back seat opens up more options for oral or penetrative sex. He can lie down while you kneel in the footwell to go down on him.

Don't overlook a truck bed, the back of a van, or a car's hatch, where he can sit or lean against the bumper while you stand or kneel behind the vehicle.

Finally, you could even try giving him oral in the back seat while someone else drives.

Any of these setups can easily transition into penetrative sex or him reciprocating.

And if you've got roommates, parents, or kids at home, this might genuinely be your only option some nights. Check out our guide to car sex for tips on steaming up the windows properly.

Alternatives To Road Head

Even if fully taking him into your mouth while driving isn't safe or comfortable, other options exist. Rubbing him through his jeans can get him plenty worked up and ready for later.

A hand job is generally much easier to maneuver in a car, and you're less likely to get noticed since your head won't be bobbing visibly to other drivers or police.

If you want pleasure of your own, fingering yourself usually works better than asking your partner to lick your clit from the driver's seat.

Is Road Head Dangerous And Uncomfortable?

There's obviously an element of danger involved, which is exactly why so many people find it appealing! But you could hit a curb, clip a sign, or worse — end up in a collision.

You can't properly wear a seatbelt while giving road head, leaving you unprotected in a crash or even hard braking. People tend to focus on the excitement and forget that a single pothole, railroad crossing, or speed bump can cause a genuinely painful injury. Teeth scraping or a jaw slamming shut from an unexpected bump happens more easily than you'd think.

These tips on avoiding your teeth while giving head should help.

Whoever's driving needs to stay focused on the road to avoid an accident — especially true while receiving oral. Driver distraction is considered one of the leading causes of motor vehicle accidents [2].

At minimum, you should be able to tell when either of you is close to finishing so you can pull over or save it for later. Turn it into a game if you like — don't let him finish until you've stopped the car!

Even if you avoid any physical danger to yourselves or others, there's still the legal issue — this activity is illegal in a lot of places. Getting spotted by law enforcement, or the driver getting distracted enough to speed, opens you up to penalties for reckless driving and indecent exposure.

If you try it and decide it's not for you, you're far from alone. Plenty of men and women report road head being more uncomfortable than enjoyable, more often than not.

For a lot of people, it's a one-time experiment — something to check off a sexual bucket list rather than a regular activity.

Still, the thrill of being a little naughty in public is exactly what pushes most people to try it at least once. You might catch stares from drivers passing by, and some people even enjoy the occasional catcall or honk from someone who notices what's going on!

Of course, think twice before trying it if it's outright illegal where you live.

Is Road Head Legal?

Generally speaking, no. At least 13 U.S. states have specific bans on road head (listed below). Fines in most of these states run between $500 and $2,000, though North Carolina and Mississippi allow penalties of up to 10 years behind bars!

• Alabama
• Florida
• Idaho
• Kansas
• Louisiana
• Michigan
• Mississippi
• North Carolina
• Oklahoma Penalty
• South Carolina
• Texas
• Utah
• Virginia

Laws vary by location, and a prosecutor might dig up any applicable statute, however outdated or tangential, to pursue a charge. Beyond laws specifically targeting road head, you also risk penalties tied to indecent exposure, causing accidents, or reckless driving. A sexual offense conviction can follow you permanently.

Keeping your head low as soon as you lean over reduces the odds of being spotted. Otherwise, visibility goes up considerably.

Once you've got the hang of giving road head, you might find yourself surprising your partner with it on random drives. Or maybe you'll switch to receiving, enjoying him going down on you or manual stimulation while he's behind the wheel.

Just proceed carefully if this particular flavor of risky sex appeals to you! Know the dangers and the laws in your area before making it a habit.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ #1 – Should I still try road head if it's illegal where I live?

We never recommend deliberately engaging in illegal activity.

FAQ #2 – My partner wants road head, but I'm not interested. What should I do?

If road head isn't for you — whether due to legality, safety, or just personal preference — that's entirely your call. Consider alternatives like a hand job or oral sex while parked instead.

But if your partner refuses to compromise or tries to pressure you into it, they don't deserve you.

November 17, 2020