Keeping Teeth Out Of The Picture During A Blow Job

Below are 17 straightforward tips to help you keep your teeth out of the equation during blow jobs while maximizing your partner's pleasure at the same time. But before we jump into those 17 tips, there's one thing worth addressing first...

Is Teeth Contact Always A Problem?

Sure, plenty of people will recoil the second they feel teeth graze their shaft, and obviously you don't want to bite or scrape hard enough to actually cut your partner's penis... ouch!

That said...

Some people actually enjoy a light graze, so teeth aren't necessarily something you always need to eliminate entirely during a blow job (tips for biting during sex).

Talk about it – The only real way to know how your partner feels about teeth during oral — or anything else, really — is to have a conversation about it.

Talking about sex can feel awkward sometimes. Being vulnerable isn't always easy. That's why we put together a guide to talking about sex you can lean on when starting these conversations about your preferences.

Don't feel like you need to mask your nervousness. Being open about it can actually smooth the conversation along! It also encourages your partner to open up, even if they've never mentioned anything about teeth during oral.

Some people like it, some don't – Your partner might want teeth completely out of the picture during oral. Or they might not mind a little contact, as long as it stays gentle. Either way, that's good news if you've been stressed about accidentally using your teeth.

Either way, figure out what works for your partner, then run with it.

Tips For Keeping Your Teeth Out Of A Blow Job

Assuming your partner would rather you minimize or eliminate teeth while going down on them, here's advice that can help. If one method doesn't click, don't give up! Work through these tips for sucking dick teeth-free and keep whichever ones work best for you two.

1. Ease Off The Pace

This first tip might sound almost too simple, but sometimes we overthink solutions that don't need to be complicated.

So just slow things down.

Stay aware of where your mouth is and what it's doing. Take deliberate control of your movements rather than running on autopilot. That alone might be enough to keep your teeth clear of your partner's penis.

Side note: We've actually written a full guide to slow sex that covers every angle of taking things slower and more sensually.

2. Don't Go As Deep

If your molars keep grazing your partner's shaft, try not bobbing quite so far down. Wrapping your hand around the base or using a cock ring on your partner can act as a buffer if this is a recurring issue.

3. Lube Generously

The most reliable way to eliminate friction or scraping during fellatio is keeping everything nice and wet. Spit can work, but lube — especially a flavored one — is your best friend here. With enough slickness, any incidental tooth contact is far less likely to hurt or leave a mark.

Related: Why You Should Use Lube.

4. Cover Your Teeth With Your Lips

This is the go-to trick for stopping your teeth from catching on your partner's cock. It's not flawless, though — folding your lips over your teeth does reduce the space available for your partner's penis.

Of course, penis size factors in here too, since this technique might not be workable if your partner is unusually large.

5. Get Your Partner To Stay Still

Sometimes the scraping isn't on you at all — it's your partner's own movement, including thrusting, causing the contact. This often results in scraping from your back molars. So ask your partner to hold still.

Can't manage that? Try using bondage to restrain them.

6. Put Your Tongue To Work

Try extending your tongue slightly to act as a cushion between your partner's shaft and your lower teeth. You can also use your tongue to shift the angle of their penis in your mouth so it steers clear of your top teeth.

You'll lose some ability to swirl or stroke with your tongue doing this, so you may want to use it only part of the time. Still, it's a handy technique to have available.

7. Experiment With Positions

There are two go-to blow job positions:

The kneeling blow job position, where you're on your knees and your partner is standing (or seated). The second, the regular bj position, has your partner lying on their back while you're positioned below them. But there are plenty of other positions that might solve your teeth issue better...

The 69 position changes the angle of your neck entirely while performing oral. Many women find this angle naturally keeps their teeth away from their partner's penis. It's also great if you want your partner going down on you at the same time 😉

Alternatively, try the lie back position for blow jobs, where you lie on a bed or couch with your head tilted back and let your partner control the penetration — though they'll be doing more of the work here. This position also requires extra trust, since you're in a genuinely vulnerable spot.

Further reading: Check out these other blowjob positions for even more ideas.

8. Focus Only On The Tip

If nothing else in this guide is working, try focusing solely on the tip — which is often narrower than the shaft — using just your lips and tongue tip.

You can...

• Swirl your tongue around the head, also known as the glans
• Flick your tongue against it
• Suck gently on the head
• Wet the head, then blow across it for a cooling sensation
• Stroke the shaft with your hand
• Twist your hand as you stroke the shaft
• Use an open-ended stroker on the shaft
• Flick your tongue against the frenulum (on the underside of the penis)

9. Try A Condom

This won't completely eliminate the teeth issue, but it can soften any discomfort it causes your partner.

With a condom on, any snagging happens against the material instead of skin. Not everyone loves the feel of latex in their mouth, granted. But if you can handle it, you also get bonus STI protection — something oral sex absolutely can transmit!

Learn: When and why you should use condoms.

10. Rehearse With A Dildo

Practice makes perfect, but how do you practice without a penis on hand (or without risking hurting your actual partner while you're still learning)? Grab a dildo!

This lets you build skill without worrying about hurting anyone, and you can start small and size up gradually. Just skip cheap, low-quality dildos that might smell or taste off — silicone sidesteps that problem entirely.

There's also a whole list of other things you can use in place of a dildo.

11. Cover Your Teeth

Some novelty brands sell candy teeth covers made specifically to wear during oral sex, keeping things smoother — and sweeter!

Get more blow job tips.

12. Bring Your Partner To The Edge

Some people genuinely enjoy pain during sex (known as masochists), which means teeth might not need hiding at all with the right partner. Instead, it's about balancing pleasure against pain carefully. The more turned on someone gets, the more discomfort they can handle.

Edging — bringing your partner right up to orgasm without letting them finish — is one way to build that arousal. It's a great way to work someone into a frenzy where they might not even register a bit of grazing!

Read More: How to Use Edging For Stronger Orgasms

13. Consider A Gag

Certain gags are built to hold your mouth open (and double as a fun addition if kink is your thing). O-ring gags in particular can help with teeth issues since they force your mouth to stay wider open.

14. Offer A Slippery Hand Job Instead

If your partner enjoys the wetness of a blow job but teeth are a struggle, try a well-lubed hand job instead. Silicone-based lube stays slick without turning sticky. A stimulating lubricant can also add some extra fun — experiment with different thicknesses too.

Related: 23 Intense Hand Job Tips

15. Bring In A Toy

Sometimes you just can't comfortably go down on your partner without your teeth getting involved, and that's completely fine — everyone's different. You can still deliver incredible pleasure using a sex toy instead!

There's no shortage of options — vibrating and rotating toys, strokers, pocket-style sleeves, and thrusting toys. You'll find single-use and reusable versions in every texture and color imaginable. Whatever you choose, pair it with a compatible lube to keep things gliding smoothly.

Related: How to Use Every Type of Sex Toy

16. Switch To Other Activities

Oral sex feels great, but it's far from the only option in your toolkit! If teeth remain a persistent issue, there are plenty of other ways to bring your partner pleasure.

• Stimulate their prostate with a toy or your fingers — doable even while giving head
• Explore BDSM
• Spank your partner
• Try anal sex (just be sure to prep properly first!)
• Peg your partner
• Bring out a blindfold
• Try taking the dominant role or flip it and go submissive
• Play around with temperature
• Try some roleplay
• Explore nipple play if either of you is into it
• Explore other kinky sex ideas

17. Accept That Some Pairings Just Don't Mesh

Some mouths and penises simply aren't a great physical match.

It's unfortunate, but...

It happens.

An overbite, underbite, or crooked tooth can genuinely get in the way during oral, and there's not always a fix for it. Some people also just have smaller mouths or jaws, and no amount of stretching is going to change that — it'll just cause discomfort without solving the teeth issue.

If you've worked through every tip here and teeth are still an issue, talk it out with your partner. Communication might be the single most valuable tool for improving your sex life overall! And...

As this list shows, there's no shortage of other ways to keep things exciting in bed!

March 29, 2023