4 Powerful Tactics To Arouse A Man Tonight

Figuring out how to arouse a man really isn't complicated — it's much simpler than most people assume. Here are the key moves and considerations if you want to get your man in the mood.

1. Touch

Touch is arguably the strongest tool for turning your man on, and the beauty of it is how subtle you can be. There's no need to grab anything dramatic. Small, understated gestures work just as well. Start with light, almost incidental contact while you're chatting, then gradually escalate the physical closeness. This also sets up great foreplay before easing into slow sex together.

Getting Started

Early on, keep your touch light. That might mean gently squeezing his arm mid-conversation, or brushing his hand to grab his attention. The trick is staying gentle and not lingering too long, so it doesn't come across as obvious.

This approach also works well as a lead-up to giving him a blow job.

Ramping It Up

From there, start increasing the intensity. Once he seems at ease with your touch, do it more often and hold contact a little longer. Branch out beyond his arm or hand to his legs, chest and shoulders.

For maximum impact, pair the physical contact with steady eye contact.

Going Further

Once he's clearly comfortable with extended touch, it's time to really turn up the heat. Shift your attention to the more sensitive areas of his body — his inner thighs, neck, face and back. Instead of just resting your hand there, stroke and rub these spots. He'll love it, and it's a surefire way to get him going.

The overall approach to arousing him through touch: start slow and relaxed, then gradually build up the intensity, all while checking that he's enjoying it and staying comfortable throughout.

2. What You Say

Your words — and how you deliver them — play a huge role in arousing your man. There's a whole section dedicated to dirty talk, but here's the short version of what actually works:

Skip the Boring Stuff

This might seem obvious, but plenty of Love Curi readers still default to dull, forgettable small talk. That'll do the opposite of turning him on — it'll bore him. The best subject to focus on instead? Him.

Simply asking about his life gives you a natural opening to compliment him and hint at what you find attractive about him. Prep a handful of interesting questions — three to seven — about himself ahead of time so you're ready when you're together.

These dirty questions offer plenty of hot ideas for what to ask.

Bring Out the Heavy Artillery

Once he's relaxed talking about himself and you've dropped a few compliments, it's time to escalate. Rather than repeat it all here, check out these dirty talking phrases and explicit examples of dirty talk. Just remember to ease in slowly and gauge whether he's into it.

3. How You Look

I'm not going to sugarcoat it — looks matter to guys. Fortunately, you have plenty of say over how you present yourself when it comes to dressing sexy. You can build muscle at the gym, choose clothes that flatter your best features, switch up your hairstyle, or use makeup to look hotter for your man.

To be clear, I'm not suggesting you need to be stick-thin or dress provocatively to spark his interest — unless that's your thing and you want to learn how to embrace being a slut. What I am saying is that even small tweaks to your appearance can become one of those things that turn your man on.

4. Take the Lead...Occasionally

Another solid way to arouse your man is to seize control and learn how to be more dominant in bed. Not constantly — just sometimes.

Taking the lead doesn't have to mean tying him up and cracking a whip, unless bondage is your scene — it can simply mean steering the interaction. That might be deciding the plan for the evening or picking where to go.

Or it could mean pushing things forward physically once you're alone — running your hand along his leg while watching TV, going in for the kiss first, or trying something new in bed. You might feel a bit nervous taking initiative at first, but for a lot of guys, a woman taking charge is incredibly arousing.

As you can see, plenty of factors come into play when arousing a guy. Different things work on different men, so don't lean on just one tactic — try them all and figure out what clicks best for you two.

Psst, if you're a guy looking to arouse your female partner, we've got you covered too.

February 2, 2022