Full Body Orgasms: An 8-Step Roadmap

On screen, women always seem to hit toe-curling, scream-worthy orgasms that practically shake the walls. They collapse, breathless and flushed, while their partner wears a satisfied grin. Do you ever wonder if that kind of climax is even real — and whether it's something you could actually have?

Sure, Hollywood exaggerates everything, but some women genuinely do experience full body orgasms — and they're huge fans! Who wouldn't be? Not every woman can reach every kind of orgasm easily, or at all. Still, we've put together some guidance to help you chase down your own full body orgasm.

A full body orgasm — sometimes called a cervical orgasm — can technically stretch on for hours, though you shouldn't expect that on your first attempt. Expect something closer to vibration or tingling that ripples through your body in waves, or however it happens to show up for you.

Keep reading to find out how to reach your own full body orgasm.

1. Build Sexual Tension

A full body orgasm rarely happens if you're squeezing in a quickie. Block out generous time whenever you're aiming for one. This gives you room to build sexual tension first.

Remember, arousal can kick in long before you ever reach the bedroom. Engage both your mind and your partner's to stoke that tension for a far more powerful payoff.

2. Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay

Carving out more time together also means more room for foreplay, which matters enormously here because it ramps up your arousal. Activities like a sensual massage, hands-on touch and oral sex dramatically raise your odds of an orgasm — including the full-body kind.

3. Explore Tantra

Our tantric sex guidance might come in handy here. Tantra centers heavily on exchanging energy — Chi — between you and your partner, and it deliberately shifts focus away from the genitals alone. Makes sense, then, that involving your entire body rather than fixating narrowly on your genitals would make a full body orgasm more achievable.

One especially helpful trick: tune into how your whole body feels. If you've done guided meditation before, you know the drill — focusing on each body part in sequence, paired with deep breathing as you move attention through your head, arms, hands, legs and torso.

You can apply that same technique to sex, full body orgasm or not. As you sense one building, picture the energy gathering inside you. Then mentally guide it away from your genitals and out through your arms, legs, belly and head.

Related: A complete guide to tantric masturbation.

4. Get Comfortable

A huge part of a full body orgasm plays out in your head. Women convinced they can't have one will struggle far more to actually get there. If sex itself — or even talking about it, even with your partner — makes you uneasy, think about what it would take to feel more at home in your own skin. That won't just help with full body orgasms; it'll upgrade your entire sex life.

Love Curi offers advice on managing sexual anxiety and talking about sex with a partner. That said, a trained professional might be worth seeking out if body confidence, self-esteem, or recovery from sexual or emotional trauma is part of the picture.

5. Pick the Right Partner

It matters, obviously, that you're with someone who puts you at ease. Love isn't strictly required, though it certainly doesn't hurt. Someone who values you and makes you feel appreciated will get you closer to a full body orgasm than, say, a one-off hookup or a purely casual arrangement.

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6. Bring Something Extra Into the Mix

Sometimes it's not sex itself but something adjacent that tips you over into a full body orgasm. If you lean submissive and experience sub drop — a shifted mental state similar to a runner's high — you might find a full body orgasm hits after an intense scene involving genital stimulation. On the dominant side, an emotionally charged scene where energy passes between you and your sub, paired with dom drop, might get you there too. Learn how to get started with BDSM here.

BDSM isn't the only path, though. Some women swear by edging. Edging means building yourself up toward climax and then pulling back right at the edge, hence the name. Do this repeatedly and you might land multiple orgasms, or one massive full-body one.

7. Stimulate Your Cervix

Plenty of women describe cervical orgasms as full-body experiences. Your cervix sits at the junction between uterus and vagina, and it shifts throughout your cycle — hardening, softening, rising and dropping. When it's firm and sitting low, as it tends to around your period, contact there can feel uncomfortable and even trigger cramps after sex. When it's soft and positioned higher, though, it may actually welcome firmer stimulation.

Since the cervix sits deeper than the G-spot, you'll likely need to adjust your approach to reach this kind of orgasm. A longer dildo (with generous lube!) or your partner's penis often works better than fingers. That's where deep penetration becomes relevant — certain positions, like Doggy Style, allow for it more easily.

Deep penetration can feel uncomfortable at first, which is exactly why plenty of buildup and foreplay matters — it loosens things up. If your cervix feels overly sensitive early on, start with a smaller, shorter dildo or vibrator instead.

You can also try visualizing your cervix "opening" to become more receptive to stimulation — a nice mirror to the emotional opening happening between you and your partner as you chase this kind of orgasm. A clitoral orgasm or two beforehand can also make a full body orgasm easier to reach. Just know that clitoral sensitivity often follows orgasm, so give yourself a little recovery time before going again. More on clitoral stimulation here.

8. Do Your Kegels

Kegel exercises target the pelvic floor. They're often recommended to new mothers post-childbirth, but they pay off even if you've never had a kid — including reducing urinary incontinence. They also strengthen vaginal muscles, letting you grip your partner more firmly during sex.

On top of that, kegels can heighten vaginal sensitivity and improve muscle control. Worth the effort if you're chasing a full body orgasm. Check out our guide to kegel exercises. Even without a full body orgasm as the outcome, kegels benefit your sex life and overall health regardless.

There's more you can experiment with along the way. For instance, being vocal — moaning, making noise — often leads to bigger, better orgasms. Let yourself be loud; it'll turn your partner on too. A steamy movie or some erotica might also help if that's what gets your engine running. The more sexual energy you build up, the bigger the release when it finally comes.

Keep in mind a full body orgasm won't necessarily clench every muscle the way a clitoral orgasm does. Learn more about the different types of orgasms here. Instead, it spreads that energy through more of your body rather than concentrating it in your genitals. It may also skip the obvious buildup-and-release pattern of a clitoral orgasm.

There's no single blueprint for a full body orgasm, and your experience might differ every single time. Not every woman can achieve one, just as not every woman can squirt or have multiple orgasms. It might only happen sometimes, no matter how carefully you set the stage. Still, practice tends to help, and the process itself can be enjoyable regardless of outcome. Just try not to fixate too hard on the orgasm itself — that fixation can be exactly what keeps it out of reach.

October 10, 2020