7 Fantastic Sex Positions for Bigger Women + BBW Sex Tips

Most of the "sexy" women you see in mainstream media tend to be thin, but that certainly doesn't mean plus size women miss out on great sex. Far from it! Bigger women enjoy fantastic sex all the time. That said, body size can occasionally make certain positions less comfortable. Here's a breakdown of the best positions for larger bodies, along with ways to tweak other positions so they work beautifully if you're a BBW (big beautiful woman).

Sex Positions for Bigger Women

Try any — or all — of these plus size sex positions and see what clicks for you.

1. Doggy

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Doggy style suits BBWs well since there's no belly getting in the way — your partner simply enters from behind. That said, rear-entry positions can get trickier if you're also working with a larger backside.

Pillows, ideally memory foam, can help support your weight in this position. Doggy style also happens to be excellent for G-spot stimulation. Tips for finding your G-spot here.

2. Cowgirl

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The next position for fat people is one plenty of larger women shy away from — we'll explain why that hesitation is misplaced shortly. This dominant female sex position works great because your partner simply lies back while you take the lead on top.

Tuck a couple of pillows beneath his hips to raise them for a better angle.

3. Spooning

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This is another solid choice as long as your partner's penis is long enough to reach you from behind. He can angle his body rather than lying perfectly parallel, leaning his upper half back and possibly tucking his legs between yours so his feet extend forward.

Alternatively, you can lift one leg — bent at the knee or extended toward the ceiling — giving him something to grip for leverage and bringing you closer together for penetration. This sets up nicely for the next position on our list.

4. Leg Glider

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In the Leg Glider position, you lean slightly to one side (though twisting your spine can let you lie flatter on your back). Lift your top leg toward the ceiling while he straddles the leg still resting on the bed. He'll need to scoot in close enough to penetrate, gripping your raised leg or resting it against his body wherever it naturally lands based on your heights.

This position also lends itself nicely to nuzzling, a leg massage, or some foot play if either of you enjoys a foot fetish. Learn more about foot fetishes here.

5. Thigh Tide

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Thigh Tide is essentially Reverse Cowgirl with one key tweak: he bends one knee (learn the full Thigh Tide sex position here). Wrap your arms around his raised leg and grind your clit against his thigh as you ride him — a move that noticeably boosts your odds of orgasm.

Related: How to Orgasm Every Time

6. Butterfly

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The last position on our list for bigger women works especially well when your partner is the right height to penetrate you standing while you lie back on the bed. For Butterfly, scoot yourself to the edge of the mattress so he can enter you with your legs resting against his chest. Keep your legs straight rather than pressed back toward your stomach and chest, which can feel uncomfortable otherwise.

Get tips for the Butterfly position.

You can easily adapt this by wrapping your legs around his waist instead, or having him simply hold your thighs while your legs stretch out behind him. Flip onto your stomach for this same setup, and you've got the Superwoman position instead. Learn the best way to enjoy the Superwoman sex position.

7. Deep Impact

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This position lands somewhere between legs-on-shoulders and classic Missionary. Rather than lying on top of you, your partner kneels and lifts your hips so your backside rests on his thighs, bringing your vagina closer to him and making penetration considerably easier.

As the name suggests, it's ideal for deep penetration. Read more on deep penetration here.

You can rest your feet against his chest or shoulders, wrap your legs around him as in the Drill position, or bend your knees with feet flat on the bed if your legs are long enough.

Get inspired by the Deep Impact position.

These are just a starting point among plus size sex positions worth trying — don't be afraid to experiment and make them your own!

What If Your Partner Is the Bigger One?

Maybe you're not particularly large yourself, but sex feels complicated because your partner is bigger. The fix? Get on top!

When he's on top, his penis can end up somewhat hidden. Once he's on his back, though, his weight redistributes in a way that gives you much better access — you might even discover he's more well-endowed than you realized.

Reverse Cowgirl (more on the Reverse Cowgirl position) also works well here, though you'll want to steer clear of face-to-face positions in this scenario.

Check out this full list of sex positions where the woman takes the top.

Yes, You Can Ride Him

Maybe you've been searching for sex positions for bigger women because you assume riding your partner just isn't in the cards for you. Good news: it absolutely is!

Unless your partner's penis is on the smaller side in a way that makes Cowgirl awkward (and even then, stacking a pillow or two under his hips usually solves it), there's really nothing standing in your way.

Read: 4 Tips to Ride Your Man with Confidence

Even with a significant size difference between you, you won't hurt him or cause any lasting harm. But if you're too hesitant to climb on top, you could be shortchanging both your sex life and your relationship.

A big reason women — BBWs especially — avoid getting on top is worrying about how they'll look up there. Sure, things might jiggle a bit more or hang differently as you move. But your partner already knows what you look like and chose to be with you anyway. If he's inviting you on top, he genuinely wants you there!

In fact, he might love your curves specifically. We're big advocates of keeping the lights on at least some of the time — confidence itself is incredibly sexy!

So go for it, and if you can, reach your hands down toward his body so your arms frame your chest and create some flattering cleavage. Lingerie might also help you feel more at ease up there. Get tips for picking the best lingerie.

More than anything, try to focus on how sex feels rather than how it looks. Even the most conventionally attractive people wind up in unflattering-looking positions sometimes — because it feels good, not because it looks good on camera. Fixating on your appearance or the noises you make tends to keep you tense, which makes it much harder to relax into pleasure — and that can get in the way of orgasm too!

You might also worry about not knowing what to do. Riding your partner can look like it demands serious flexibility or strength, especially in porn, but that's not really the case. You don't have to rest on your feet and bounce dramatically. Plenty of women actually prefer kneeling and grinding in a slow back-and-forth motion, which also happens to provide great clitoral stimulation.

Ready to leave sexual anxiety behind for good? Check out this advice on overcoming sexual anxiety.

Modification Makes All the Difference

None of these plus size sex positions are invented from scratch — they're all pulled from our broader list of sex positions. But you might have attempted a few of them before without much success. Why?

Certain positions need small adjustments to accommodate a rounder backside, a bigger belly, or simply more body to work with. If you're on the larger side and your partner is smaller, your thicker thighs might feel like they're getting in the way. A little tweaking, though, goes a long way.

Read: How to Make Small Penis Sex Work

That might mean things like:

• Kneeling instead of sitting or lying flat
• Moving to the floor instead of a soft mattress
• Positioning pillows strategically under whoever's on the bottom
• Leaning over a sturdy piece of furniture
• Scooting to the edge of the bed
• Lifting one leg

It's tempting to assume sex should just come naturally and effortlessly. But sometimes figuring out how your bodies fit together takes a little trial and error, and that's perfectly fine!

Things Worth Keeping in Mind

Being a bigger woman won't hold back your sex life if you don't let it — but there are a few practical considerations. For instance, skip any position requiring your partner to lift or carry you if that's not something he can comfortably manage (and honestly, those acrobatic positions only work for a small fraction of couples to begin with).

Also pay attention to weight limits on sex furniture or swings (10 sex swing positions). Some products are built specifically for larger bodies and can hold over 200 pounds, but anything supporting both of you needs to handle your combined weight. You don't want a collapse that leaves you injured, or a door frame that needs replacing, or a ceiling that needs patching!

With that in mind, avoid grabbing anything not designed to bear weight — faucets and shower fixtures are common culprits people reach for while trying to stay steady under running water. These usually aren't load-bearing and can snap off easily.

Related: How to Have Incredible Sex in the Shower

The internet is full of cautionary tales about broken fixtures, snapped faucets, or even torn-out shower walls from overly enthusiastic attempts at shower sex!

Lastly, while some bigger women who practice yoga or similar activities have great flexibility, not everyone shares the same range of motion. Never force your body into a position that genuinely doesn't work for you!

Ultimately, that means speaking up if something feels off or uncomfortable. Your partner can't read your mind — if you stay quiet, how would he know? We get it, talking about sex isn't always easy, which is exactly why we put together a guide to sexual communication.

Now that you've got a solid lineup of plus size sex positions to try, it's time to put them to use. Being a bigger woman and having an incredible sex life aren't mutually exclusive — people prove it every day! Your partner will absolutely appreciate your enthusiasm.

December 28, 2017