Mastering The Piledriver Sex Position

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The Piledriver sex position is a genuinely exotic move that demands serious flexibility. Getting into it with your partner can feel clumsy at first, and once you're there, it's not exactly relaxing for either of you. What makes it worthwhile is that it opens the door to both vaginal and anal sex. Browse more moves to try in our Sex Positions Guide.

To set up the Piledriver, start flat on your back and raise your legs straight up. Your partner then grips your ankles and gradually guides them toward your head. Your lower back will start lifting off the bed as a result. Ideally — and only if it stays comfortable — he keeps guiding your ankles closer to your head until your entire back is off the ground, leaving just your shoulders and the back of your head in contact with the mattress.

This leaves you in a wonderfully exposed position, which plenty of people find genuinely thrilling. Your partner needs to keep at least one hand on your ankles the whole time to hold you steady. To penetrate you, he'll angle his penis downward, which puts real strain on his suspensory ligaments.

Her Role In The Piledriver Position

There's not much required of you here beyond staying steady. Plant your arms on the ground, or hold onto your man's ankles for stability. With long enough arms, masturbating yourself becomes surprisingly easy in this position, which can add a whole extra layer of fun.

His Role In The Piledriver Position

Your partner is doing the heavy lifting here — literally. He needs to keep you balanced while penetrating you at the same time. During vaginal sex, one hand is free to rub your clit; during anal, he can finger you while penetrating from behind.

A Helpful Shortcut

An easier route into this position: sit on a sofa facing backward from how you normally would, so the backrest supports your back and waist while your shoulders and head sit where your butt usually would. Much more comfortable overall.

Tips For The Piledriver Sex Position

Talking with readers turned up some genuinely useful insight for trying the Piledriver with your partner.

• Both partners need solid flexibility.
• Skip this one entirely if you have a weak or injured back.
• A handful of people, both men and women, report that this position just doesn't do much for them.
• If you love the feeling of your man being fully in control, the Piledriver delivers that dominant energy.
• It's a great choice if you enjoy anal stimulation paired with vaginal stimulation via fingers, a vibrator, or a dildo.

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Brute

Brute – Your man faces away from you in a related position.

This is just one of the more exotic sex positions you can try with you man. You can find more positions here.

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Sean's Take On The Piledriver Position

I'm a fan of the Piledriver because it puts me firmly in charge. That said, I usually end up leaning forward a fair amount to keep the strain off my penis, which isn't the most comfortable angle for me. The upside is how easy it makes hands-on stimulation of my partner's clit and vagina.

February 18, 2021