Attempting The Standing 69 Position

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The standing 69 is a genuinely exotic sex position, not really meant for most couples given how difficult and exhausting it is to pull off. But if you and your man can manage it, expect a great time. Before even attempting the standing 69, confirm that you're both strong enough to handle it — otherwise, stick with some other ideas from our sex positions guide, which offers over 100 options!

Your man will be supporting your entire weight while you're upside down. He generally needs solid muscle to pull this off, and you'll want to be relatively petite, or else his back and neck will take a serious strain.

To begin, have your man lie on his back on the bed with his feet hanging off the edge, touching the floor. Then climb into the standard 69 position on top of him. Once there, keep your legs fairly close together so they're nearly squeezing his head.

Before he tries standing, test things out with him simply sitting upright on the bed. He'll need one hand to push himself up and the other to steady himself, while you keep your legs wrapped around his neck and your arms around his waist to stay in place and avoid sliding down.

Her Role In The Standing 69 Position

In the standing 69, a lot of your effort goes into simply staying in position. For most women, that's the primary focus.

I always suggest starting the standing 69 from a seated position first, testing it out for a minute or two before your man stands up. Once upside down, it takes a bit of time to adjust. Rather than taking his penis fully into your mouth right away for a blowjob (see great blow job tips), try licking and kissing it, taking only the tip into your mouth at first — since your arms won't be free to control depth.

Once you're comfortable trying the standing 69 seated, it's time to attempt it with your man standing.

His Role In The Standing 69 Position

Your man's top priority is keeping you steady and staying balanced himself so neither of you gets hurt. As mentioned, try it seated first, then move to standing. He needs to watch closely so you don't slip too far down, which he can manage by reaching down and holding your shoulders.

Once in the standing 69, he simply needs to lick you slowly with his tongue — broad, gentle strokes work best. He doesn't need anything fancy here; his focus should stay on maintaining a firm grip. This definitely counts as a form of sexercise.

Notes On Trying The Standing 69

Only a handful of people I know have actually attempted the standing 69. Here's what they told me:

• It's exhausting, so most couples can only manage a minute or two of it.
• Both partners need to understand what they're doing beforehand to avoid accidents, and both need to be reasonably fit.
• Use your hands around his waist to carry most of your own weight, or you'll put serious strain on the back of his neck with your legs.
• Simultaneous oral sex can be tough to pull off here — it may be easier to alternate. Try one minute of giving your man a blowjob, followed by a minute of him going down on you, and so on.

Similar Positions

Golden Gate

Golden Gate – You rely entirely on your own strength to hold yourself above your man.

Bridge

Bridge – A comparable position for regular intercourse.

Italian Chandelier

Italian Chandelier – Similar to the above, but your man supports less of your weight.

Check out more 69 sex positions as well.

Sean's Thoughts On The Standing 69 Sex Position

I personally view the standing 69 as more of a novelty position, similar to these crazy positions, rather than one built for serious enjoyment. That said, if things are feeling stale for you and your man, the standing 69 is a fantastic way to shake it up again. Many couples don't get huge pleasure out of it, but it's different, exotic, and offbeat enough to feel genuinely refreshing.

February 18, 2021