How To Do The Italian Chandelier Position

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The Italian Chandelier delivers strong G-Spot contact while giving you a nice 'exposed,' somewhat submissive feeling. Transitioning into it from standard Missionary is remarkably simple — you just stay on your back. There's also a whole library of other sex positions worth trying!

While in ordinary Missionary sex, your man rises onto his knees and shifts them close in toward you, which naturally spreads your legs apart. Once he's kneeling, he slides his hands beneath your butt and hips and lifts them upward. To assist him, bend your knees and plant your feet on the bed, which lets you push your hips and waist into the air.

Her Role In The Italian Chandelier Position

While in this pose, do your part to keep your waist elevated, or your man's arms will tire out fast. This usually isn't difficult, but if you start feeling fatigued or weak from holding your waist up, slide a few pillows or cushions beneath your back for support.

If you want your man's contact with your vagina's upper wall (the G-Spot) to increase during this position, try arching your back slightly while pushing back into him.

Since your clit won't get direct contact from your man in this pose, feel free to add manual stimulation yourself, whether with your hand or a vibrator.

His Role In The Italian Chandelier Position

Your man handles most of the effort here, thrusting in and out while his hands stay on (or under) your waist to keep it lifted. He has considerable command over his entry angle: leaning back adds pressure and G-Spot stimulation, while leaning forward over you deepens penetration.

For more forceful penetration, he can grip your hands or arms and draw you toward him with each thrust.

A strong enough man can slide his arms beneath your waist and lift you so your back and head come entirely off the bed. This variation can leave you feeling exposed and free, with your man nearly fully in charge.

Notes On Trying The Italian Chandelier Sex Position

My students have raised a few worthwhile points about this position:

• Pillows and cushions are essential allies — there's no reason for both of you to wear yourselves out keeping your waist raised. Slip a few under your lower back instead.
• Some degree of flexibility is needed.
• Remember to keep your knees bent and your feet planted on the bed to help support your raised waist.
• Pressing your hands against the headboard or wall behind you and pushing back with each thrust can add depth and power to the penetration.

Related Positions

Hang Loose

The bed offers extra back support here, though you're still arching backward.

Exposed Eagle

How far back can you bend while kneeling? A fascinating pose to explore.

Down Stroke

Sex takes on a whole new character when you're upside down.

Bridge

Rather than just leaning back, you and your man both bend your legs to form a human bridge.

Here you'll find several more back-lying positions.

Sean's Thoughts On The Italian Chandelier Position

The Italian Chandelier is a solid choice that's fairly simple to pull off and transition into, and it puts your man in a fairly dominant role. It might not click for you right away — if that happens, keep experimenting with how much you arch your back and lift your hips until you land on a spot that feels amazing.

March 11, 2021