24 Playful Ways to Drive Your Boyfriend Wild With Teasing

Teasing your man is a fantastic way to have fun, get him worked up, and get yourself turned on in the process. That said, it's possible to overdo it when you're learning how to tease your guy. Balance is everything here. Bring him right up to the edge and hold him there — just don't push things so far that he ends up frustrated or annoyed instead of aroused.

Put these boyfriend-teasing tips into practice and you'll notice the payoff in better sex and stronger orgasms.

12 Steps To Teasing Your Boyfriend…

Feel free to adapt these to fit your own style and personality. Treat this list as a source of inspiration for teasing a man rather than a strict rulebook.

1. Send Him Naughty Texts

Your phone is one of the easiest tools for teasing him, and there's no shortage of techniques worth trying. Fire off a naughty message while you're at the grocery store or while he's stuck at work.

Keep your messages innocent and suggestive, or go fully explicit — your call. Check out our 27 sexting examples for ideas, and pair them with these wild sexting tips.

You could also send a photo or video to get him riled up. He'll be desperate to touch you and won't be able to keep his hands off you the moment he gets home.

Read up on the seven ways to take a sexy selfie before you hit send.

Just make sure nobody else could stumble across those texts when you're teasing him this way.

2. Tease Him Over The Phone (And Maybe Into Phone Sex)

Even when you're not physically together, there's plenty of room for naughty teasing — all you need is a phone. Tell your boyfriend how badly you miss him and wish he were there. Hint at what's going through your mind when you think of him, or describe what you're doing right now. Knowing he can't reach out and touch you is teasing enough on its own, though things might escalate into phone sex before you know it.

Phone sex is also a great way to stay sexually connected if you're in a long-distance relationship. Even without stripping down, some soft moaning (moaning tips) and heavier breathing can get his pulse racing. It's also a low-stakes way to test whether he's into phone sex at all.

If he's game, this in-depth guide to great phone sex is worth a read.

Once you're ready to go all in over the phone, grab a favorite toy or just use your hand and narrate exactly what you're doing. Get as graphic as you like, whether you're describing something happening right now, something you'd like to try, or something you've already done.

Trade off building the story together and let the fact that he can hear every sound push you toward an even stronger finish.

By the way, teasing pairs really well with gentle femdom.

3. "Accidentally" Flash Him

Living with your boyfriend hands you constant opportunities to tease him, including whenever you're getting dressed or undressed. Most of the time this happens quickly, especially when you're running late — but slow down, or at least time it, so he catches a glimpse of skin.

Move a little more deliberately, run your hand down your thigh while adjusting your skirt or stockings, or do something else that pulls his eyes toward you. Eye contact isn't necessary, though it does ramp up the tension if you add it.

It can be just as effective to act like you had no idea he saw anything — it'll feel to him like he caught you off guard.

4. Pull Focus To Your Mouth With A Lollipop

You've seen it in movies — a woman slowly working a lollipop, eating a banana, or sipping through a straw, and every man in the room losing his mind. Give your boyfriend a mental image of what your mouth could do to him, and he won't be able to think about anything else.

Your mouth really is one of your sexiest features. It's exactly why you bother with gloss and lipstick in the first place.

Not into the lollipop bit? No problem — there are other ways to get the same effect.

Bite your lip (a move most guys can't resist), trace your tongue around your lips, or run a finger slowly across your mouth.

5. Get Playful With Language

Dust off your pun game, because sexual wordplay and double entendres are a reliable way to tease your husband. Bonus points if you can slip something suggestive into an ordinary conversation without making it obvious.

You don't have to be a wordsmith to tease with language, but trading witty, sexual banter back and forth can genuinely boost your sexual chemistry.

Mention a few of the freaky things you're planning to do to him later — then make him wait for it.

6. Touch Yourself While He Watches — Hands Off For Him

Master this one and you've officially leveled up at teasing your guy. It works beautifully as foreplay if you're already undressed, and it also fits neatly into domination scenes, especially if he's tied up and physically can't touch you.

Not your thing? Try 10 femdom games to dominate your man instead.

Watching you touch yourself while knowing he can't do the same — and can't touch himself either — is one of the most powerful teasing tactics there is. Rub it in with lines like, "Don't you wish you could do more than just look?"

Naturally, you can "reward" him with some contact eventually — once he's earned it.

7. Bring In Some Ice

Sliding a piece of ice across your skin and letting it melt in little trails is teasing at its finest. It might feel cold, but the mood is anything but.

Trail it down your jaw, along your neck, and between your breasts. It also works traced along your panty line, or slipped inside them, as a lead-up to sex.

Finish by popping it in your mouth. Then, while your mouth is still cool, wrap it around him for a blowjob he'll never forget. Grab a few more great blowjob tips to please your man while you're at it.

8. "Accidentally" Brush Up Against Him

This move flips the previous one on its head. Instead of "hands off," surprise him by grazing against him somewhere public.

Side note: speaking of public, these 48 crazy places to have sex are worth checking out too.

Maybe you brush past him in a packed room, or bend over to grab something at the store. Let your hand, chest, or backside make the briefest contact. Nobody else will catch it, but he absolutely will.

9. Play Footsie

There's a reason footsie has universal appeal — feet are surprisingly sensitive and erotic, which makes this a way to tease him without going overtly sexual. If that idea appeals to you, you might have a foot fetish yourself.

The rules are simple. Run your shoe along his foot. Slip your shoe off under the table and drag your foot along his pant leg. Or work your foot up his shin from beneath his trousers.

Experiment with different footwear — bare feet, socks, and stockings all feel completely different against him.

Feeling bolder? Lift your leg and rub him through his pants with your foot. He'll love it if foot jobs are his thing — more on how to give a good foot job here.

10. Tickle Him

Not every guy enjoys being tickled, so factor in what you already know about him before trying this one. If he's on board, go ahead and tease him physically.

Tickling combines hands-on contact, taking charge, and pulling reactions out of him that he can't control — a solid recipe for teasing.

A feather can achieve the same effect with an even lighter touch.

And if he decides he's had enough, don't be surprised if he grabs your wrists, tosses you onto the bed, and flips the script entirely.

11. Kiss Him Out Of Nowhere

If you usually let him take the lead, switch it up by making the first move and catching him off guard with a kiss.

Wait for a moment when interrupting him won't be a problem — say, while he's watching TV — then plant your lips on his, wrap your arms around him, and kiss him breathless. Check out these 22 kissing tips for extra pointers.

Making out can lead straight into foreplay, or you can pull away and walk off if teasing is really your goal.

12. Give Him A Striptease

The ultimate boyfriend-teasing move has "tease" baked right into its name. Striptease is about seduction and body confidence — slowly shedding clothes while moving in ways that remind him exactly what he's dealing with.

Nerves are completely normal here, so give this guide on how to strip for your man a read to calm those jitters and make sure your striptease lands as sexy, not silly.

13. Shower Together, Keep Things (Mostly) PG

Showering with your man can get plenty steamy, especially with these 12 orgasmic shower sex positions in your back pocket. But you can also just shower to actually get clean — letting him see everything while swatting his hands away from your best parts is a killer way to tease him.

14. Leave Him Hanging

One of the simplest teasing tricks is cutting things off while he still wants more. In person, that might mean making out and then leaving (or having him leave) before it goes further. Ending a call or text early works the same way, as mentioned above. Just make sure he's getting enough attention and satisfaction to stay engaged, not so little that he loses interest entirely.

15. Dress The Part

There's a lot you can do with your outfit choices to tease him, regardless of your body type. Here's what to focus on:

• Highlight the parts you know he's into. Not sure? Breasts and butt are a safe bet, though some guys are all about the stomach, thighs, or somewhere else entirely.
• Let a hint of something show — a bra strap, a peek of lingerie (find out how to pick the right lingerie), or a dress that rides up as you move or sit. It'll hit even harder if you usually dress more practically.
• Skip something. Guys tend to lose it when they realize their partner isn't wearing underwear. Whisper that detail to him somewhere public and watch his reaction, or let him catch a discreet glimpse.
• Play with your makeup. A smoky eye or a bold red lip can be seriously sultry and keep him thinking about you.
• Wear whatever makes you feel powerful and confident, conventional or not. Confidence always shows.

For more, check out this post on dressing sexy for your man.

16. Break Out Strip Poker

There's something inherently fun about strip poker because winning was never really the point — it's about showing off your body and seeing his. If you're too skilled at cards, consider throwing a hand or two to keep the momentum going.

As the clothing piles up, don't be surprised if hands start wandering.

Not a poker fan? Plenty of other games can double as foreplay, and some are even designed for exactly that.

17. Use Your Body As The Tease

Once you're actually together, your body itself becomes a teasing tool. Before clothes even come off, breathe against his skin — an open mouth warms your breath, while pursed lips cool it down. Try it on his chest, neck, or ear while whispering to him.

Once you're both undressed but before intercourse, grind your vulva against his penis. It'll likely feel great for you too, and with the right clitoral contact, you might even finish this way.

Finally, pull back right as he's about to enter you, or gently push away from him. Use the pause to return to kissing, switch activities, or simply take him in visually.

18. Skip The Kiss

Next time, lean in for a kiss and then stop right before it happens. Rest a finger between your lips, or press your mouth lightly against his without actually kissing him. For extra effect, let out a soft, satisfied sound — almost a moan — to really drive the tease home.

19. Put Your Hands On Him

It's well known that touching a guy — often on the arm — is a sign you're into him. That same touch can keep teasing him well past the flirting stage. Try a soft (or firm) swat to his backside if he's being "naughty," or grab and cup his butt as you walk past. A quick grope of a favorite spot can be seriously arousing for him.

Worth reading: 17 signs that you're turning your guy on.

20. Steer Clear Of The Main Event

We've already recommended sensual massage as a way to unwind and build the mood while connecting with your partner — it doesn't need to lead anywhere. But if teasing is the goal, give him a massage that gets close to his penis without ever quite reaching it. Glancing at it, if he can see you doing so, sends the same message even before your hands get there.

Don't be shocked if he eventually redirects your hands himself or pulls you on top of him.

And if avoiding certain spots proves too tricky, you could always try ruining his orgasm rather than letting him finish.

21. Let Your Eyes Do The Talking

Not every teasing tactic involves touch. Your eyes alone can do plenty of work. Hold prolonged eye contact to signal interest — go sultry, smile, or arch an eyebrow to send whatever message you're after.

Once you've got his attention, guide his gaze by tracing a finger from your neck down toward your cleavage, or draw his eyes to your mouth using the earlier tricks. He might break eye contact when you do this, but that's fine — it's all part of the art of teasing.

22. Change Up Your Voice

You know how sexy it sounds when your man's voice drops a register in bed, even from something as simple as being tired? It's worth finding your own version of that voice. Try lowering your pitch or speaking in hushed tones. Use that voice consistently in the bedroom and you may eventually be able to turn him on outside of it too, simply by using it (a form of conditioning).

For maximum tease, break out that voice when he has no way to act on it.

23. Actually Talk The Tease

Verbal teasing is another great way to get him going sexually. It signals interest while reminding him he doesn't hold all the cards, and shows off your confidence and playfulness. Keep it light and joking — teasing should never cross into actually putting him down.

24. Stay Feather-Light

Another approach is stimulating him just enough that he can't reach orgasm from it. A featherlight touch while stroking him or giving him a blowjob does the trick perfectly. Skip speed and pressure — caress instead. Once he's practically begging for more, you'll know your teasing hit the mark.

A Few Things To Remember While Teasing Your Man

By now, some of these points about teasing your boyfriend might feel obvious, but they're worth repeating so you steer clear of real sexual frustration:

• Teasing is meant to be fun. Movies tend to make it look serious and dramatic, but real life rarely plays out that way. Laugh, smile, and don't stress over doing it "correctly." Just enjoy it.
• Like any intimate interaction, teasing can get a little awkward sometimes. That's fine — laugh it off together.
• Fun as it is, don't lean on teasing too much. Constant teasing with no payoff can leave your guy bored or irritated, which is part of why being known purely as a tease has a bad reputation. Which brings us to the next point.
• Teasing moves in a rhythm of two steps forward, one step back — closing the distance, then pulling away, or the reverse.
• Keeping him guessing is the whole point of sexual teasing. Uncertainty about what happens next makes everything more exciting. And don't assume that once you've slept together, he's suddenly immune to being teased again.
• Use whatever obstacles come up to your advantage. Separated by work, school, or other commitments? Turn that distance into part of the tease. You can even fold those barriers into your dirty talk — something like, "I'd love to fuck you if only I didn't have to work right now."
• Timing matters. Sometimes other things take priority — responsibilities, an off day, even a stomachache. If teasing doesn't land the way you hoped once, that's not a reason to give up on it.

Armed with this general guidance plus the specific tactics above, you've got plenty of material to start teasing your man. Knowing how to turn him on and keep him wanting you builds real confidence, so keep experimenting until you land on what works best for the two of you. Remember that teasing should feel good for you too, and it often leads to fantastic sex — which is exactly why it works so well as foreplay when you're in the mood to be naughty.

December 17, 2020