100+ Steamy (& Sometimes Wild) Sexting Examples to Get Him Hot & Bothered

Sexting offers a quick, easy way to add some heat to things with your man.

It works especially well once you're already dating someone, particularly if you've reached the stage of talking dirty face to face.

Why do we recommend it? First, it builds genuine sexual tension. Remember, sexual tension ranks among the most crucial ingredients for both wanting sex and having genuinely good sex once it happens. Learn more about sexual tension.

Second, sending and receiving flirty texts might be exactly what kickstarts your own arousal. We polled Love Curi readers about how they get themselves in the mood, and plenty mentioned sexting as their go-to method. Sexting before physical contact even begins effectively primes you, building genuine excitement for when things get physical with your man.

Discover more ways to get horny.

That said, sexting falls flat with someone you barely know (creepy-factor alert). It also won't land if he's genuinely not into dirty talk or texting that way. Use good judgment and stay attuned to his comfort level.

Avoid firing off texts while he's busy or at work, photos especially. Consider discussing the ideal timing directly with him. A surprise flirty text can occasionally spark real excitement, but it can just as easily annoy someone deep in a work project.

Mix up your texting timing to keep things unpredictable for him.

If sexy texts — or texts generally — go unanswered, he might simply not be that into you.

Generally, sticking to these texting guidelines keeps you on solid ground.

Sexy Texts to Send To Your Man

For guys who genuinely enjoy sexting (and most do), here are 100+ examples worth trying. They range from mildly suggestive to genuinely filthy, and some pair especially well with photos.

We've also noted why each one lands and when it fits best. Check out our guide full of sexting tips for even more.

Tell Him What You're Thinking

See where the conversation drifts when you share exactly what's on your mind, especially when he's front and center in those thoughts!

1. You've been on my mind nonstop.

2. I couldn't stop thinking about you in the shower earlier today.

3. Last night I dreamed about you, and neither of us had clothes on.

4. Thinking about you just now got me pretty worked up.

5. I'm texting one-handed right now… you can guess what the other hand's doing.

6. I want you inside me.

7. Just picturing you inside me tonight is already making me wet.

8. I'm struggling to actually say what I'm thinking about right now! Not usually this shy.

9. Work's been such a distraction lately. You're stuck in my head all day!

10. Never sent anyone a naughty photo before… might be time to change that.

11. I need you in my life, and between my legs.

12. Our chemistry together is genuinely unreal. Sometimes just thinking about it gives me chills.

13. I want to give you every inch of me, inside and out.

14. Pretty sure I've got an oral fixation. Can't stop sucking on lollipops lately.

15. Remember that time we [describe a scene]? Still can't stop replaying it!

16. Every time my phone buzzes with your name, I get a little turned on.

17. Exhausted from you running through my head all day 😉

18. Somebody around here needs a spanking.

Make Sexy Plans

Turn your fantasies from purely mental into something real. Sexting can help bridge that gap!

1. Counting down to kissing you tonight. Brush up on your kissing skills.
2. Got a naughty surprise waiting for you next time we meet.
3. Tonight, I'm giving you a massage when I see you…
4. Just grabbed whipped cream at the store, and I've got a fun plan for it.
5. Found some intriguing stuff online. Want to try it out on you.
6. If you were here right now, I'd unzip your pants with my teeth, then do whatever you asked.
7. Tonight, let me handle everything…
8. Send me a pic of the underwear you've got planned for tonight.
9. Next time we're together, I'm pulling out all the stops to please you — and you won't be allowed to make a single sound!
10. I know Netflix and chill is a thing, but I was thinking more along the lines of Mario and smash.
11. Keeping my hands off you at dinner last night/this weekend was genuinely torture. We need to make up for that soon.
12. My birthday's coming up, and honestly, you're the only gift I want.
13. Let's watch something scary tonight — you can hold me when it gets intense.
14. Next time you're naked in front of me, I'm telling you exactly where I want your mouth, and you're listening.
15. Usually I take charge, but tonight, maybe you should boss me around instead.
16. Betting I can make you squeal next time we're together.
17. I'm tracing sexy words on your skin with my tongue tonight — you have to guess what they say.
18. Need you badly. Not want — genuinely need. Not even a choice at this point.
19. Emergency situation! [When he asks "What?"] If I don't finish because of you, I might actually explode.
20. Rest up today, because tonight I'm not going easy on you.
21. Name three things you're dying to try in bed, and I'll promise you at least one of them next time we're together.
22. Let's skip wasting time undressing carefully. Clothes can just hit the floor.
23. Here's a thought: let's film something of our own (or take some photos, if you'd rather).

Tell Him What You're Doing When You Can't Be Together

1. Fresh out of the shower, debating pink boy shorts versus a black lace thong – tips for dressing sexy.
2. It's so hot out today, I ditched all my clothes.
3. Been baking, and now there's chocolate frosting all over me.
4. I've been a little bad today.
5. I've randomly been so turned on lately, no idea why.
6. Loving going commando in this warm weather.
7. You'd be impressed how flexible yoga's made me lately!
8. Always had a pretty strong sex drive honestly. Already got myself off twice today!
9. Jumping in the shower now. You'd better be here when I get out!
10. I promise I'm not nearly as innocent as you think.
11. Browsing for a new toy right now. Thoughts on this one? [send link]
12. Just finished watching something genuinely filthy.
13. Stripped down before crawling into bed, but now I'm cold without you beside me.
14. Hit the gym today, don't worry — saved plenty of energy for our own workout later.
15. Shaving tonight. How do you want it done? – How to shave down there.
16. You've turned me completely insatiable. Can't keep my hands off myself.
17. Been wanting to practice my striptease. Care to help?
18. Send me a photo of yourself in a bubble bath, or hair strategically covering everything.
19. Nearly entered a wet T-shirt contest earlier, but chickened out. Figured that view should be just for you.

Play A Game

Mix things up with a flirty little game together.

1. Finish this story: You walk in to find me in bed, lost in masturbation, too distracted to notice you've arrived. You ____
2. Guess which body part I'm touching right now, and I'll send a photo as a reward (get tips for taking a sexy selfie)
3. Tell me two spots on my body you love touching most, then I'll return the favor.
4. Prove exactly how badly you need me, and maybe I'll give you what you're asking for.
5. Guess the color of my underwear correctly, and I'll take it off before our date.
6. Let's play Simon Says. You start — break a rule, and you owe me an orgasm.

Pay Him Compliments

Compliments work wonders while flirting (and texted flirting is no exception). Praise his skill in bed, his looks, his parenting, or his qualities as a partner to really turn up the charm through sexting. Make him feel strong, capable, and powerful, and he'll be eager to ravish you in return!

1. Last time we had sex, my legs were literally shaking afterward.
2. I love every angle of you, especially your face between my legs.
3. Hope it's okay that I love watching your expressions while going down on you.
4. I get so attracted to you when [he does something like being a great dad or fixing something]. You're not trying to be sexy in that moment, but you genuinely are!
5. Just caught myself thinking about how good you look in those new jeans.
6. Kissing me everywhere turns me on so much.
7. Hearing you moan my name is my favorite sound, and I can't wait to hear it again (how to moan)!
8. Your tongue skills are seriously impressive. Lucky girl right here.
9. Could barely keep composure with your hand on me under the table at dinner.
10. I practically need to tie my own hands down to stop myself from touching you. Or maybe you should tie me down instead!
11. I completely melt when you whisper in my ear and trace your tongue along it.
12. Genuinely can't decide if you're a good boy or a bad one. You're just so good at being bad.
13. Seriously, how did you get this sexy?
14. Pushing me against the wall like that was so hot. Didn't even know that was a thing for me.
15. You genuinely take my breath away.

Ask Him Questions

Ask something that basically guarantees he'll text back!

1. Making out and ordering takeout tonight?
2. Already counting down to our date tonight… and everything after?
3. Would it be weird if I told you [list something that turns you on but is a little unconventional] genuinely turns me on?
4. If I were your sex slave for one night, what would you have me do?
5. Let's recreate a steamy movie scene. Which one's your favorite?
6. Name something sexy you want from me next time we're together.
7. Can't decide between dinner or just treating myself to you. Thoughts?
8. Which of these toys should I use while thinking about you [attach photo of your toys]?
9. Date night plans are set — but what happens after?
10. Is it bad that I can't stop replaying what we did the other night?
11. Ever get genuinely overwhelmed by how hot certain movie scenes get? Wow.
12. Ugh, so bored right now. Ideas for curing that?
13. If I were with you right now, where would you want your hands on me?
14. Guess what's on my mind right now?
15. What are you wearing right now? Describe your sexy lingerie if you've got some on.
16. Are you by yourself right now?
17. What's your ultimate sexual fantasy? Learn more about fantasies.
18. What would you do if I showed up at your door right now in a short dress and nothing underneath?
19. If I needed punishing, what would that look like coming from you?
20. What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done? Feel like topping it?

The genuine power of sexting shows through in all these examples. Just remember timing matters, and knowing when to hold off matters just as much. Jumping into sexting too early risks framing the relationship as purely sex-focused, which might not match what you're actually after. Check out the rest of our advice about sexting.

You're also never obligated to send anything you're uncomfortable with, photos included. How explicit you go, and how often, is entirely your call. But every so often, a flirty text can be genuinely fun!

Resources

Curious for more? Here's an infographic about how Americans sext on the Psychology of Sex.

The Cut offers tips for getting into the sexting mindset.

Sexting is likely more widespread than you'd guess — roughly 1 in 3 college students has sent nude photos of themselves [1].

BuzzFeed has a video with advice for sexting.

This article on NBC News even argues sexting can genuinely strengthen a marriage.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ#1 – Do I have to send pictures?

Not at all. Totally fine if you're comfortable doing so, though. If preferred, stick to photos that skip your face, or ones where you're clothed rather than fully nude.

FAQ#2 – How do I know if sexting is okay?

Good sign if he initiates it first. Discussing it directly beforehand works too. Not comfortable with that? Start mild and gauge his reaction. With someone you don't know well, confirming he's single first is a smart move before sending anything flirty.

FAQ#3 – Is it normal to feel weird about sexting?

Absolutely. Feeling vulnerable or a little awkward is normal, and sexting can even feel cheesy at first. It might take some getting used to, similar to dirty talk (this post about dirty talk can help). Comfort grows over time, letting you work up to steamier messages.

FAQ#4 – When's the best time to send a sexy text?

Depends on the situation. Wanting an immediate reply or an ongoing exchange means both of you should genuinely be free to engage. Skip sending during work hours or other obligations. Give him room to respond, and don't push if a reply doesn't come right away.

FAQ#4 – Why doesn't my partner respond to my sexy messages?

Could be genuinely busy, or sexting simply isn't his thing. Ask him directly if you want clarity.

April 11, 2021