How To Try The Slow Dance Sex Position

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The Slow Dance sex position is a fun, intimate pose where you and your man stay standing throughout. Thankfully, it's much easier to pull off than the Ballerina or Dancer positions. If it's still not quite your speed, or a height difference gets in the way, browse other options in our sex positions guide.

To get into the Slow Dance with your man, stand facing each other. If he's taller, he'll need to bend his knees and lower himself so he can enter you. Opening your legs slightly will help him in. From there, wrap your arms around each other and he can thrust up into you.

If there's a big height gap and you're much shorter, the Slow Dance becomes tricky unless you're standing on a step or something similar to close the gap. If you're taller than him, though, you can bend your knees and lower yourself onto him instead.

Her Role In The Slow Dance Position

In the Slow Dance, you can rise and fall in rhythm with your man's thrusts for a steady, synchronized feel. Or, for something more intense, push back against each of his thrusts.

If you want to make things feel more romantic and intimate, try grinding on him instead, keeping him deep inside while you move using both your hips and legs.

His Role In The Slow Dance Position

The Slow Dance is refreshingly simple for your man. He mostly just moves up and down using his legs. Beyond wrapping his arms around your waist, he can slide his hands under your butt to pull you in with each thrust, or grip your shoulders from below your arms for a bit more force behind his penetration.

If you're both into it, he can also try some anal fingering.

Tips For Making The Slow Dance Position Work

The Slow Dance is easy enough that plenty of Love Curi readers have tried it, or a close variation, with their partner. Here's some of what they've shared:

• During slow, sensual sex in the Slow Dance position, holding eye contact can feel incredibly sexy. That said, if you're newly dating or it's an early experience together, it might feel a bit too intense for him.
• A lot of guys love it when you run your hand gently over their head, massaging the scalp with your fingertips. The Slow Dance makes this easy to do.
• Reaching orgasm can be tricky for you in this particular position.

Similar Positions

Piston

If your man is strong enough, he can support some of your weight.

Stand & Carry

This one demands even more strength (and trust!) to pull off.

Blooming Orchid

Try kneeling and facing one another instead.

The other standing positions on Love Curi bring even more variety to your sex life.

Sean's Take On The Slow Dance Sex Position

I think of the Slow Dance as a genuinely intimate position. You can absolutely pick up the pace for something more passionate, but slowing it down and really taking your time often pays off even more. It's the perfect setup for holding each other close, locking eyes, and kissing throughout.

June 15, 2023