Orgasmic Meditation Explained: What It Is & Why It's Worth Trying

One trend you might have come across for women is orgasmic meditation — a practice built to connect you with your feminine and sexual sides in ways regular sex often doesn't. Both single women and those in relationships have picked it up to reap its rewards. But what exactly is it? And could it be right for you?

What Exactly Is Orgasmic Meditation?

You're already partway to understanding orgasmic meditation if you've explored tantric sex or tantric masturbation before. Both approaches step away from rushed, penetration-focused sex in favor of slowing down, getting to know yourself (and possibly your partner), and weaving spirituality into your sex life. Orgasmic meditation pairs guided meditation with a partner stimulating your body, with attention centered on your clitoris so you can reach orgasm.

While tantric sex has enjoyed a comeback thanks to the internet — sites like the Love Curi cover everything you need to know — orgasmic meditation is largely championed by specific organizations, many based in trend-forward California. One notable company, OneTaste, has operated for over a decade and built a reputation in the orgasmic meditation space.

As a woman, orgasmic meditation gives you the chance to relax and tap into your sexual potential. Practitioners point to a number of possible benefits:

• Achieving orgasm, which can be elusive for some women.
• Ending each session feeling noticeably more relaxed.
• A boost in energy across every area of life.
• Increased desire for sex.
• Longer-lasting orgasms.
• Greater sexual confidence. Read more about being on top during sex and enjoying it.
• A stronger connection to your partner.
• The potential to heal old emotional wounds.
• Better ability to recognize your fantasies and communicate more effectively about sex with your partner.

Naturally, the payoff from orgasmic meditation differs from woman to woman, and it may not click as an appealing or effective practice for everyone. Other women find that it delivers stronger, longer orgasms and helps them stop centering their partner's pleasure above their own. Orgasmic meditation puts the spotlight entirely on you!

There are also a handful of practical considerations for anyone thinking about trying orgasmic meditation, solo or as a couple.

• It costs money. Whether you sign up for a local class or an online course, expect to pay a fee.
• It's not a fit for everyone. Orgasmic meditation often happens in group settings. If undressing in front of strangers doesn't appeal to you, look for ways to practice at home, either with your partner or with someone guiding the session.
• It's still uncommon. Outside sex-positive, densely populated areas, orgasmic meditation barely exists. Bringing it up with friends or family might earn you a raised eyebrow or a blank stare. That can make it harder to explore, especially without a partner. Fortunately, technology has made access easier.

What Happens During Orgasmic Meditation

If you live somewhere that offers classes, conferences, or events, go ahead and sign up! At minimum, it's a fresh experience to share with your partner or discuss with your female friends — exactly the kind of thing a bold woman might do.

So what should you actually expect?

OneTaste runs a 7-hour daily class that introduces the basics of orgasmic meditation. Before diving in, you'll cover definitions and mechanics, followed by an optional hands-on lab. Beyond that, you can register for 10-day retreats or commit to a full 30-day program.

Orgasmic meditation isn't purely sex or masturbation, and it isn't purely meditation either. It's a guided blend of clitoral massage and relaxation techniques, and some participants won't reach orgasm at all. That doesn't mean the experience won't still be worthwhile!

You'll be briefed on your role within the session, which can ease any nerves. For men, orgasmic meditation can help replace narrow views of women with a more expansive understanding. Instructors also make sure hands stay correctly positioned. Physical touch triggers feel-good hormones like oxytocin, even without orgasm. That's one reason cuddling does so much for intimacy.

Only the woman removes clothing from the waist down before the session starts. A guided session walks both partners through stroking techniques, beginning with pressure applied to the legs, followed by a limited window of clitoral stroking. Sometimes a demonstrating couple shows the technique to make sure you both get it right. OneTaste instructors specify exact hand positions.

You might get the chance to practice with other participants and coaches present, which could feel exhilarating or nerve-wracking depending on your personality. While many people assume sexuality only belongs within a relationship, these sessions create a space to explore sexuality free of guilt or shame. They form a kind of "container" where you can safely discover new facets of your sexuality.

Let's be honest, though: there's a distinctly new-age vibe to these sessions that won't suit everyone. If guided orgasmic meditation sounds like it's not your style, that instinct alone might mean it's not the right fit for you. Some describe the whole scene as "cultish," and while there's little real risk beyond time and money if it doesn't click for you, that reputation keeps some couples from even giving it a shot.

Trying Orgasmic Meditation At Home

If attending a class isn't in the cards, whether due to logistics or cost, you can absolutely try it yourself at home. You won't have a coach walking you through it step by step, but your partner can begin with light caresses on your legs before moving toward your vulva. He can take time to learn the subtler details of your body that your usual routine might skip over.

Remember, this isn't about guaranteeing orgasm every time, so avoid giving him overly specific directions, which can pull you out of that relaxed headspace. Instead, let him explore while you simply enjoy having your body appreciated. At home, you also get to decide whether to indulge your partner's own arousal, something that's off the table in a public setting.

And even without orgasm, spending a little time on this kind of practice can feel deeply calming. You may find yourself looking forward to it, or discover it works well as foreplay. Orgasmic meditation blends naturally into sensual massage techniques, too.

Orgasmic meditation might turn out to be a passing (and pricey) trend, but there are elements we at the Love Curi think deserve wider adoption. That includes centering a woman's pleasure, having a partner genuinely appreciate your body, and learning your own sense of power. Slowing down and engaging in sexual activities that don't necessarily lead to intercourse are also concepts many couples neglect, particularly in long-term relationships.

At the very least, orgasmic meditation can shake up your sex life and leave you feeling sexier!

January 17, 2021