The Sybian Sex Position Explained

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The Sybian sex position takes its name from the Sybian machine, a powerful vibrating device you straddle much like you would in Cowgirl, with a knee planted on either side of it on the bed. It's not a favorite for everyone, but there's plenty else to explore in our list of the best sex positions.

The mechanics of the Sybian position resemble that setup, but with a few differences. First, your man will be lying back on a cushioned surface, either a pile of cushions or a soft-cushioned seat or stool, resting on his back or butt.

You'll still be straddling him the way you would in Cowgirl position, but instead of kneeling on either side of him, you'll plant your feet on the ground or keep them lifted while seated in his lap, facing him. Rest your hands on him or on either side of his body to keep your balance steady.

Her Role In The Sybian Position

While in the Sybian position with your partner, you'll use your legs to raise and lower yourself onto him. You can also grind slowly while he stays inside you, moving forward and back or in circles.

This position also gives you a great opportunity to put on a show for him if that appeals to you — rubbing your clit or your breasts feels good for you and adds visual pleasure for him too. You'll be doing much of the physical work in the Sybian position, but you also hold most of the control, so you can lean well forward or slightly back to adjust the angle of penetration.

Some women feel nervous taking the top position, but we've got solid advice for boosting your confidence when on top of your man, plus more tips for riding your man here.

You can rest your hands on his stomach, or stimulate your clit using one of these clitoral stimulation techniques.

His Role In The Sybian Position

Your man stays largely still throughout the Sybian, which makes it a great position for women who want to dominate their man during sex. He can gently thrust upward if he wants to add movement, but otherwise, his main contributions are stroking your legs and waist and holding your gaze.

Notes On Trying The Sybian Position

The Sybian position is essentially a spin on Cowgirl, and it hasn't caught on quite as widely. Still, some Love Curi readers have given it a shot with their partners and shared feedback:

• Tracking down a soft footstool or seat without armrests tends to be the trickiest part, though a stack of cushions works fine too.
• A fitness ball can also do the job. You can reuse one of these exercise balls for the Speed Bump position as well.
• The Sybian has a sexy reputation partly because so few people have actually tried it — don't expect it to outshine other positions in terms of pleasure.

Comparable Positions

Cowgirl

The go-to girl-on-top classic.

High Chair

Another position worth trying with a chair or stool.

Corner Cowgirl

This variation skips the chair entirely.

Face to Face

A kitchen counter makes this one great for a quickie.

The Sybian belongs to our broader collection of sitting sex positions.

Sean's Take On The Sybian Sex Position

I included the Sybian mainly for completeness. Being featured in Love Curi doesn't automatically make a position a winner — you might end up spending more energy setting it up than actually enjoying it.

April 3, 2021